February 2016 - Will the chundering ever cease?!

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No awkward silences here. You are a warrior.

Haquoi so sorry for your loss

haquoi You're some woman for one woman, as we say around here.

I was relatively lucky with both of mine, however they were both long, especially DD (31 hours from first pains) and they were both back to back babies which leads to the long labour and erratic progression.

Chances are I'll have another b2b as my mum and sister both had them for all babies too. So I'm prepared for that.

Montague, my dd was b2b too- never known pain like it! She only flipped b2b once I was in labour, no idea why. But as you say there's a good chance our next ones could be too - at least I'll be prepared this time!

So the sensitivity to smells seems to have hit me this morning - nearly everything made me feel sick in the kitchen this morning (especially going near the bin!)

Thanks everyone xx

raviolig, I winced something terrible hearing about your tear! Your poor clit!

haquoi your attitude and openness are an inspiration. Never feel as though you can't share things here.

I had a b2b baby too, which for me meant contractions went from zero to 5 in 10 mins straight away, with no build-up. It basically felt like one long contraction. Fortunately my midwife recognised what was happening and called straight for the anaesthetist, as there was no way I was going to be able to cope with the pain - I got an epidural at 3cm which I always said I would never have, but it was absolute bliss. It was a 'walking' epidural which meant I could still feel everything but the agony was taken away. In the end, after 3 hours of pushing, I ended up with an emcs. The op itself wasn't as scary as I'd imagined, and actually felt exciting as I knew I'd meet my baby really soon. Sadly there were serious complications afterwards (surgical error), but that's a story for another day! Important thing is we're both fine now.

haquoi you're such a brave lady

another back to back one here and longish labour, forceps etc. had late epidural though, I think on account of being back to back and from then, was floating.

I think hypnobirthing really helps some people and I agree its not about being pain free but keeping calm. Was told at NCT (which I found great by the way and luckily the teacher became my breastfeeding counsellor and got me through a tricky few weeks on feeding front) that fear can actually make things harder and hurt more because of the hormones it releases, so anything to stop the fear is a good thing. Child birth is painful but we are women and we can do anything (ROAR).

I didn't however, really commit enough to hypnobirthing, I had a CD which it was lovely to listen to in the months leading up to the birth but I think it wasn't enough for me and I forgot it all when labour started. I definitely did use the breathing exercises from NCT classes though, but sure hospital classes would have had the same stuff.

At home today, cannot really move for the nausea and frankly bloody miserable. OH said last night I couldn't give into it this early (sickness lasted all way through last time) so I got bit stroppy and said 'I've felt sick for a week and this will last another 8 months, I think I'm allowed to be upset!'. Poor bloke though he is basically doing EVERYTHING at home and keeping us all going. Wish me luck for getting better meds from the doc today......

Mumof1 second birth is definitely easier! 1hr 20mins labour, 4or5 pushes (which I had no control over, my body just did them) despite dd2 being over 10lbs. Felt a million times better after the birth too, could walk properly, much less bruised etc. Bf was much easier too :)

Haquoi so sorry for your loss. Xxxx

Yeah, me too rally - with DD I had an epidural quite late but with DS they strongly recommended it and couldn't get it into me quick enough, which was great tbh.

Boy was I glad of it when the back pain rose above the threshold of the epidural. I had super-intense pain and discomfort in my upper back so I dread to think what it would have been like lower down.

mumof1 that's bad luck that the baby flipped at the last minute. DS was breech for ages and then turned at about 35 weeks but stayed back to back after that.

Hope everyone's good today, I'm 8 weeks today which feels like a good milestone, though not quite half way through the 8ww as my scan's not till 12 + 4.

I've lost half a stone since I got my BFP, I'm really not bothered by food at the moment so off to the shops to try and find healthy stuff that's going to tempt me to eat

Hardly any sleep 2nd night in a row. I can't sleep when I'm nauseous. Was up at 1am eating tortilla chips in the hope it would take the nausea away like it had earlier in the evening, it didn't work!

Struggling to pull my PJ bottoms up and down that is how much weight I've put on my arse in a few weeks!!! 2 months down only 7 more to go. Really hoping that the nausea magically disappears soon after 12 wks and I'm not like my BF who vomited every day of her pregnancy from 10 weeks including the morning of her ELCS, but the day after it was gone. She didn't know she was pregnant and didn't have a single symptom until the 1st day she was sick!

Rufus with dd I was sick from week 6 exactly until I had given birth, including throwing up with each contraction!! With ds second time around I was nauseous from week 6 but not sick as often. With dd I lost 3 stone from week 6 - 12 then didn't gain anything throughout the whole pregnancy. Nausea started week 6 this time but not been sick yet. Struggling to keep it down though! SPD is what I am worried about this time. I had it from 17 weeks with dd then 9 weeks with ds so should be anytime soon. It is meant to get earlier and worse with each pregnancy, plus I am hyper mobile which makes it worse. Though the physio was very impressed when I could still touch my toes the week before I gave birth! I told myself throughout both pregnancies and every day with this one so far, it is all worth it. I was lucky my SPd disappeared both times as soon as I gave birth. No early scan for me so I cling to the nausea and sore boobs as a daily reminder.

Harquoi you are a very brave and strong woman. Don't ever feel like you can't talk about your loss on here. I have suffered bereavement myself (although not in the same circumstances as yours) and the worst thing was not being able to talk about it. People are often afraid of saying the wrong thing and so end up saying nothing, which hurts.

Raviolig OUCH!! That's all.

Dd's birth wasn't a good experience. Has anybody gone through the 'birth reflections' process? I'm considering looking into it as I need to come to terms with what happened before doing it all again. I would also like some answers as, imo, there were some wrong decisions made by the medical staff.

Booking in appointment this afternoon! Although no scan date through yet . I'm 8 + 2 so it wants to hurry up really.

I wasn't really having much nausea at all and thought I had escaped, but then on Saturday morning(6+4) it hit me with a vengeance! I was at my parents house and my mum had made me a lovely cooked breakfast and the nausea struck. I managed to force myself to eat it but it was a serious struggle!! Since then I have been having really bad nausea in the mornings and the only thing that helps seems to be toast with Marmite as soon as I wake up.

I can't do up my skirt today and I admit I'm bothered by the black and blue bruises all over my tummy from the bastard needles. I bled this morning when I did it - that'll be a monster bruise today

I can't wait to get into maternity clothes. I am SO uncomfortable and I'm. 9 weeks on Wednesday.

I've got terrible stomach muscles so nothing is being held in. I'm facing facts - I'm going to be a whale , a black and blue whale at the that.

But hey if everything is ok then I'm grateful to have the opportunity to be a whale

Just realised I'm 9+2, not 8+2! baby brain?!

Banana I had a FEB yesterday and didn't eat the bacon This has NEVER happened before! I don't feel strong nausea, just don't really want to eat

Step what's really weird is that I'm feeling really hungry, pretty much ALL the time (I never normally get hungry, unless I skip a meal accidentally or something) but now I am hungry every couple of hours. I never thought I could be that hungry and that nauseous at the same time!!

brummie that sounds really unpleasant! Do the needles have to go in your tummy?

May I had a sort of 'birth reflections' process. I got my notes from the hospital and then had a debrief meeting with a consultant and the lead midwife. To be honest, I found it a little disappointing. The whole thing seemed geared around trying to persuade me not to sue them (which I was never going to do - just wanted to understand why I was nearly disabled for life).

In hindsight, perhaps I did it too soon (dd was 4 months). I think I'd feel more knowledgeable and equipped to ask the difficult questions and not be fobbed off now. I think doing it when you're thinking ahead to your next baby would be more helpful.

Haquoi yep every single day - for the rest of my pregnancy

I have to grab a bit of fat on my tummy (not a difficult thing) and inject straight into the fat. I alternate each side every day. And it's a proper needle, not an epipen - and I still flinch when I'm about to do it

I have a sharps box that I discard the used syringe in to

banana sometimes the best cure for nausea is eatting - little and often's the key. I think my body's decided that the best way of ensuring I have enough energy is by making sure I sleep a lot. I'm constantly sleepy at the mo!

Thanks Rally. I might ask the midwife about it at my appointment this afternoon. What I'm really worried about is that they may have changed my notes to suit them. Without going into great detail, the midwife made a mistake and things went a bit wrong from there. I had put it out of my mind but have been thinking a lot about it again recently, for obvious reasons!