August 2015 Part 4

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New thread for all of us August ladies!

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Morning dozy. I'm much better today thanks. Managed to sleep 12-7. Didn't even have to wee. I was probably a bit dehydrated after being sick yesterday, but I've drank loads this morning so will be fine.
I'm off to work now. I finish next Thursday, but have this Friday booked off, so only 7 more days. I'll be 35 weeks on fri.
The scan picture is lovely. What a cute little face. I've also put my order in for a baby no bigger than 8lbs!!

I hope everyone is ok today. Sorry so many are suffering with hip pain, poor sleep, low iron etc. not long to go now!

Morning girlies and bumps! I'm having a real chilled day today, I plan on watching A LOT of TV whilst ironing all of bumpette's clothes. I want to give the kitchen a good scrub too, especially the floors. Perhaps nesting instinct is half kicking in lol? Our pram and ISO fix should be delivered today, any time from 2-9pm – what a delivery slot time ey?!
Our last NCT class was really good last night. We all stayed on at the pub too for a couple of drinks which was really nice. I feel so lucky that the group is all so lovely. We've put the date in the diary for our reunion with the teacher in October – crazy that we'll all have babies by then! Esshk!

Dozygirl: The HV that popped in to see me basically was there to check on my wellbeing, I.e any case of domestic violence (there's not!!!), I could tell straight away that's what they were there for and to see whether they can pick up any signs of pre/post natal depression. God knows how they would have asked the questions had DH taken time off work – I wonder if they'd sent him out of the room lol?!
Ahh I love that pic, I know i've already seen it on FB but it's amazing!! So happy for you!

sianihedgehog: I would be fucking livid! Definitely don't let them in prior to baby. Mine was a complete waste of time anyway, like you spent the whole day before cleaning and she didn't even look round!!

Lilydreams: Oh Lily!! Seriously FB has a lot to answer for sometimes!! I bet you looked amazing and it was just one bad photo!! As you said you felt good and got loads of compliments so please try and ignore it!

Joskar: Oooh no! Hope the jab worked and you've had no more fainting episodes!!

Oooh and Frolic - glad you slept, jealous of your non-wee trips lol. Finally watched Love at First Sight, loved it - can't wait to see who (if either!!) stay together!!

Quickly popping back in! We dont get seen by the HV in my area before the birth, sounds like I'm not missing anything!

Fanby, that's great you had a wonderful NCT group, I feel the same about mine :)

Lily try not to worry although I know it's hard-I just keep telling myself that the weight will all come off after the birth!

Feel like I must watch this Love at first sight show now you have mentioned it! Last few days feel like I've gone downhill a bit-baby must be quite high as sore ribs and been getting a bit breathless and dizzy. Was awake every 2 hours last night, just have to remind myself that it's practice for when the baby arrives!!

Hope you're all having a relaxing evening-think I'm going to have a nice bath now :)

lily I had a moment like you today! Been out forlunch with some work friends for another girls mini babyshower and someone took a picture and it was unflattering of me. I was stood at the end and I just looked humongous whereas the other pregnant girl who is due next week looked amazing. Then someone kindly pointed out how giant my ankles and feet were from the swelling so that just nearly tipped me over the edge. I nearly cried there and then but I held it together. I think it's just the hormones and emotions meaning we're extra sensitive at the moment. I just can't wait to have my ankles back as ridiculous as that sounds!

I did however manage to go for a swim today! I figured the walking idea was causing too much pain afterwards so perhaps swimming wouldn't be so bad. I'm not sure it's much better though to be honest. Although at the time it was fine, I'm still aching today in the lower part of me. I really don't know how I'm gonna have the energy to give birth if I can't even do simple exercise lol.

Ruby sorry you've had some pain. I always think the same thing now I'm back to getting up for a wee in the night and thinking we'll soon be doing this but for different reasons. Hope the pain subsides though.

Rang hv this morning about changing appointment and they've not even bothered to get back to me. Good sign of things to come from them!

Fanby so glad your nct group are bonding so well. You'll all need that support when the babies come along :) hope you're pram etc has been delivered by now. glad nesting has half set in. Mine really needs to start setting in! Going away for 3 nights with dp family on Saturday and I'm thinking I should be prepared and take all baby stuff and hospital bag just in case something happens while we're away as well be about 3 hours away. Plus need to take just normal going away stuff so I really should stop going out for lunch and meeting up with people and try start getting organised. It's a bit like when u have a weeks annual leave when you're not going away and u think you'll have all the time in the world to rest and recover but the days soon get jam.packed with other things like meeting up with people.

Frolic hope the next 6 days at work fly by for you. I'm sure they will. Exciting that the end is in sight for u. It's so hard at the end to be working. I'm glad I took annual leave from 34 weeks. Not sure I could have coped any longer.

Good evening!

fanby, i think first sight is going to be really interesting. I love those kinds of shows, including don't tell the bride.
I hope you didn't overdo the cleaning today. Did your pram arrive? I think mine is due this week - can't wait to have a play.

Well done for not breaking down in public dozy. I doubt I would have the same restraint. I'm avoiding cameras at all costs.
Good on you for swimming as well. I feel so unfit at the moment. All I'm managing is a very slow waddle with the dog. I might try the pool when I finish work.

Today at work was ok, thanks. It's amazing what a good nights sleep can do. And I'm feeling a bit more on top of what I need to do before finishing after today, so a bit more relaxed in general. I can't wait to be off now.

I hope everyone's had a good day and has a good nights sleep tonight.

I had to go to a wedding on my due date last time and my abiding memory is of my ankles just sort of flowing out of my shoes. Hideous. Hideous.

I was at a party a couple of weeks ago and one of my very good friends was organising a photo and said to put the "wee dumpy one at the front". I cried on the way home. The photo was beyond horrible too. Instant delete. I'd thought I looked ok when I left the house too. Pregnancy is very cruel.

Does anyone have good baby shower games? A friend is organising one and needs ideas.

I found some ideas on Internet from a blog for different baby shower games. Bought plasticine and everyone had to make a baby out of it and do it how they think it'll look and i got to choose the best one. Had their name on a piece of paper but hidden so I couldn't see. Everyone seemed to like that one. Also how many smarties in a baby bottle and closest to win keeps the bottle and the smarties. I had a few quizzes too coz i love quizzes but I never got chance to do them as I was too busy trying to make sure I chatted to everyone. One was a word scrambler of baby related words. My friend who did it thought it would be too easy but it actually wasn't.
I didn't want any sniff the nappy type games or guessing baby food coz that's just grim lol. Some people get wool and u cut it to the size u think the baby bump is and closest wins. That's quite a good one too.

My feeeeeeet! Waaaaaah! They are ridiculous. Getting my trainers on now is a mission, I'm pretty much relegated to flip flops and ballet pumps - crikey could you imagine if this was winter!!! But then maybe my feet wouldn't be so huge in cooler weather...

Meeting up with my friend yesterday was so positive. I feel a bit more geared up for the whole labour thing now, just need to remember I can do this, my body was designed for this and I'm going to nail it! Haha! We'll see how much of that I believe in midst of pushing We can smash this ladies!!! I may need to download the rocky theme tune to my iphone!!!

For some reason I had a feeling that early labour type stuff would start happening today but so far - diddly squat! I have a MW appt this afternoon but I think that's just BP and wee test.

Ok, I'm done now thanks. I am 34 weeks this week, which is still much further behind than most of you, but I really am shattered right now. Work's still manic with people being on annual leave and things, I have some sort of virus thing so my throat really hurts today, I'm not sleeping well, my pubic bone bloody hurts every time I move/turn in bed, and I think my feet are starting to swell. Oh not to mention my bump is getting tight/itchy/sore the past two days.

2 more weeks at work seems like a lifetime right now, as someone else is off for those two weeks which means my workload will actually increase! I just want to go home and sleep.

Apologies for the self indulgent moany post! Just really not feeling today at all! :(

It's not self indulgent pinkie its pregnancy! You are so allowed to have a whinge. Our bodies are actually doing so much it's crazy!

At 35 weeks though I did get an energy boost, hopefully you'll have one too for next week. If not, cake is your friend

Just sharing the news from FB that another baby has been born! LAM1 gave birth to Isla Grace this morning! Mum and baby are both doing well.
Pram has arrived! It's still in it's box(es) as DH didn't get home from work until late and sounds a bit silly but I want us to go through it all together. We're both out tonight so I doubt i'll get a play until the weekend booooo!

ruby242 – hello!! I think my baby is high up too, feeling breathless and dizzy like you! Not too pleasant, but as you say all good practise for sleepless nights lol!

Dozygirl – what a lovely friend to point out the swelling :S! Honestly, just wait our non pregnant friends, we shall get our revenge lol! Well done you for holding it together, not sure I would have managed...
Well done on the swim, I wish I had your get up go attitude with the exercise, I really need to do more. Our local pool is soooo cold, basically if it's not bath temperature i'm not interested :D.
Your baby shower games sound great!! Love the smarties in a bottle!
Also I'd take your notes etc and hospital bag just in case – better to be safe than sorry!

Joskar – At my baby shower everyone bought a photo of themselves as a baby and they hung them up and we all had to guess who was who. Really enjoyed that one!
Another 'game' we did was a number was written on a piece of paper (the amount of numbers correlated to the number of people there), everyone picked one and then designed a birthday card for that age for the bump – they had organised stickers, blank cards, pens/pencils etc. I thought that was really sweet (until I got 14yrs old and realised i'd be 45 haha).
They also bought cards similar to these www.amazon.co.uk/Baby-Shower-Game-Prediction-Weight/dp/B00T9J1FQ6 which was really good! I can't wait to see who's right!!

pinkie87: you're not too far behind me! I'm only 35+4! I'm totally done with being preggers now too, but i'm not even working, you're not being self indulgent at all, I think you need a medal! Sorry to hear that you're so uncomfortable and feeling poorly, I really hope the next two weeks fly by for you!

mzzzf: Can I share your swollen feet (and your fighting spirit!!)? Even my slip on's are now tight! My joints and fingers has gone too – can't get my rings off, having a bit of a nightmare and it made me cry on Sunday :S! Good luck at the mw – hope all goes well!

Yay for your pram arriving Fanby. I hope you live it when you can eventually get it out and put together.

pinkie, that's not self indulgent. I really respect people who are still working, especially in this warm weather.

Joskar, I can't believe how insensitive people can be with their comments. I hope you feel better now.

I saw the midwife this morning. Everything was fine and baby appears to be head down. It's great that everything is okay, but I feel really grotty. DH is away this week and DS is playing up something chronic/ refusing to nap etc. I did, however, get a quick cuddle with my friend's 10 week old. I always forget how small and squigey little babies are.

Thanks for the shower games. I've passed them on. Sounds like it'll be a nice do. Another friend from my last antenatal thread had a blessingway instead of a shower. All very affirming and positive and loving. Anyone here doing one? A bit less light hearted I think.

Dd slept really badly last night and ended up in bed with us for the first time in six weeks. Really hoping she sttn tonight and she's not broken because I am sooooo grumpy from dealing with it last night. Need my sleep!

i was going to get dd a present from the baby. Any thoughts? She's 2 in September so there's 23 months between them. What have other folk in this position done?

How many weeks are you now mzzf? I'm loving your positive attitude about impending birth. The rocky theme tune is an excellent idea. I hope all was ok at your midwife appt.

Sorry you are feeling crappy pinkie . I'm a week ahead of you and have found the last week really tough. I'm much better this week - just knowing I'm on the last few days at work has really helped. dont force yourself to go in if you're feeling rough. Having Monday off when I felt so crappy had really helped me.

What pram did you go for in the end fanby? Have you had a play yet? I'm amazed you didn't get it out straight away.
Thanks for keeping us posted about new arrivals. And congratulations LAM if you read this. What a beautiful name.

Very jealous of your newborn snuggles equimum. It won't be long for any of us now. Sorry you are feeling grotty. Good that the midwife appt was all ok.

I don't have any others jockstar, but pretty much everyone I know with more than one has done the present from the new baby thing. I would imagine it will go down very well. Is there something she's really into at the moment? Maybe a teddy that she can cuddle in her bed if she wakes? I'm sure those with more experience than me will be along now with more helpful ideas.

I hope everyone has had a good day. I'm not complaining for once! We've had lovely and not too hot weather, Work was ok and I slept reasonably well last night. I've a busy day tomorrow, but then I'm off Friday and already looking forward to resting up?/ lazing about!

Totally forgot to mention - I've been reading this book over the past few days
www.amazon.co.uk/Birth-Skills-Proven-pain-management-techniques/dp/0091922143
I'm really enjoying it so far. Lots of practical stuff about birth, what happens and how to deal with pain. A few of my friends recommended it and I would too so far.

Much better than the 'gentle birth method' that just made me cry about everything I've done wrong in my pregnancy so far!

Frolic - today I'm 38-3. She's in the right position ready to go, I am literally playing the waiting game. Although I'm not sure how much bigger my swollen feet can get!!! I've also started getting the dreaded texts and phone calls of 'any news yet?' ARRRGGHH!!!!
MW was ok, I'm measuring at 42ws now with the old tape measure so it's got to be soon hasn't it?! I've got a sweep booked in for 2 days before my due date and she said if that doesn't work then I'll probably get offered an induction straight away. Either way she shouldn't be too long coming!

Fanny - So good to hear other babies are successfully popping out on the FB group. Lovely name too!

Ahhh I'm sitting here on the sofa, dreading going up to bed for another round of hip/back/fanny pain whilst I try and do a great impression of someone sleeping. And I so desperately want to snooze too.... Wish me luck!

Oh oh oh also did you see that a new series of One Born is starting next Wednesday night in channel 4?!
Talk about reality hitting home!!!

Bluerrgh, another hot, sweaty, sleepless night here. My bump was all kinds of crazy shapes last night, goodness knows what she's doing in there. I was expecting DH to come in mega late/early this morning as he'd be up in town on a work thing but instead he got in just after 11pm. Think he was slightly tipsy has he must have repeated 4 times how I need to pack my hospital bag...I really should!
I've got a haematology appointment this morning about my platelets at the hospital and then a midwife appointment this afternoon at the doctors. I swear I haven't seen a midwife now for about a month – head better have stayed down!!

mzzzf: Esshk! Can't believe the texts have started!!!!! Have you been replying to them? The plan is really in place now!!!!! This is so exciting!!!! I finally saw my first ever 10 minutes of an old One Born Every Minute a couple of days ago, I was in floods of tears, not sure whether i'm hardcore to watch the new series.

Frolicacid We went for the Uppababy Cruz with a maxi cozi car seat! Not that I can drive but I swear it's probably about as stressful as picking a car lol!
You sound like you're in a good place atm, long may it stay that way, especially with the sleep – we might have to kick you out of the shit sleep club ;)

Equimum: Lovely new born cuddles!! We're going to visit our friend who had their baby last week, next week, can't wait – get that oxytocin going lol! Hope you feel better soon!

I'm really struggling to keep up with thread posts lately! Sorry guys!

Dozy and Joksar- sorry you've had the horrid photo experience too- wish we were pregnant in the days before technology it would be so much kinder!!

Congrats to LAM1 another baby eeeek it's exciting!!

Mzzf things are sounding close for you how exciting! Yay for OBEM series- I've been watching the old ones on TV lately- DH told me I was sadistic but I find it quite reassuring- I either think 'yes I want to be like her' or 'im definately not losing my head like her' (haha will probably eat my words!).

Not going into work today- dog had his snip yesterday so was taking it off to make sure he doesn't lick stitches etc but he's been fine so far- wasn't even particularly groggy from anaesthetic or anything and all went really smoothly which is good because if he'd looked sad/ in pain when we got him back it would have made a crappy day even crappier- 36 week MW appointment did not go well and I've been frantically googling things since!

It was 'my' supposed MW but apart from booking I've only seen her one other time. Since 28 weeks every midwife I've seen has told me baby is head down and 2 weeks ago lovely MW spent ages palpating and said head down, and quite far into pelvis- I always get a bit that he pushes out near top of bump and asked what it was- she said bum and we had a laugh about him being a cheeky boy! This also confirmed what other MW's have said- including the head MW who covered for 'my' MW at 31 weeks as she had sent her on a training course. So yesterday 'my' MW decides she can't be sure which way round he is- after touching my belly for approx 10 seconds! Suggests he might be breech but might not- says she'll see me again next week and if she still can't tell will send me for a scan on the Friday- when I questioned her as MW 2 weeks earlier had been so sure, I've not felt any significant moving and all the same kicks and bum poking out have been the same she said 'well I'm not sure I might be wrong'. She then proceeded to write in my notes 'breech' and 'free'- but if she's saying not sure why write that!! She then said 'shall I explain it so you don't google it'- well yes that may be an idea her 'explanation' was 'if I can't tell next week I'll send you for a scan- if this confirms breech then it will be a c section' WTF that's not an explanation and where are my options!!!!! ECV/ vaginal breech birth etc!! I'm so angry and upset I've hardly slept been googling like crazy and I'm not sure I can wait a whole week to see her again and let's face it her tell me the same as if she's only going to touch me for a few seconds she's still not going to know the position!! Just want a scan now to know! She also said when first touching my belly 'oh your all baby aren't you' so you'd think she'd be able to tell- bump really is all baby- no squishy fat over him just hard parts! Oh as well she measured that bump has grown 5cm in 2 weeks- if I follow these measurements across to the weight side of the graph (not sure if that's how it works) then she's suggesting he's grown 2.9 lbs in 2 weeks which also seems ridiculous!!

Sorry for the long rant but her inconsistent information/ opinion and while attitude has really upset and annoyed me and I don't know what to do- it's a good job I'm not at work till Monday as I keep crying on and off about the idea of a c section etc when all this worry might be over nothing except her incompetence!! What do you think? Surely I'd have felt baby turn round? There's not much room in there- bump is tight and hard! Does it sound like she's just useless?

Fanby- sorry you've had a rubbish sleep hope you manage a nap today at some point and hope your MW appointment goes better than mine- fingers crossed baby is in good position!

Thanks for the kind words ladies, helps to feel like I'm not the only one having a rubbish time at the mo! I do actually love being pregnant, just perhaps not everything that goes along with it!

Feel a little better today as I slept the whole night without getting up to pee! The first time in actual weeks that that's happened, and woke up naturally 15 minutes before my half 6 alarm. Also got tomorrow off, so a three day weekend ahead. :)

mzzzf yes I saw that OBEM is back next week! It seemed fine watching it in early pregnancy but now it's all a bit too close to home! I will defo still be watching though, I'm a sucker for punishment of course. Can't believe how close you are, surely you will be the next one. So exciting that your little one could be here any day!

lily oh god that midwife sounds like a right tool! How can she say that and just leave you with all that uncertainty?! If you haven't felt anything significant in regards to movements changing, then i'm sure it's unlikely baby has turned! Anyway, keeping everything crossed for you that baby is still head down and ready to roll!

fanby sorry you had a rubbish night, but really hope your appointments go well today! I always worry too in between appointments that he might have flipped the wrong way round, fingers crossed the babies are too big to be thinking about that now!

frolic glad you're feeling better lately, and that you enjoy your Friday off, I know I will! Have all the best intentions of cleaning car etc but know it won't happen as have plans with friends for lunch.

equimum sorry you're not having the best week either. :( times like that make me remember just how long i've been pregnant for, sometimes feels like bloody forever! Glad you got some lovely cuddles though, I'm jealous! Although tomorrow I will be meeting my friend's 6 week old for the first time. :)

I got the dreaded letter from the health visitor yesterday. Wants to see me next week (even though letter says best to wait until 36+ weeks and next Tuesday I'm only 34+3). Sorry love but I'm still at work until the 31st! So will now have to chase to rearrange.

Pinkie- yay for the good nights sleep I'm very jealous!! I've not had anything from HV yet- the next block in my notes on the flowchart of appointments is for HV but not heard anything- hopefully I won't as I move house in 2 weeks so would be a bit pointless then snooping at my house when I won't be here with baby! Thanks for the kind words, she really is a tool in hoping she won't be there next week and a diff one is- if not I'm going to say something more definately- she caught me off guard yesterday so I didn't say enough which is also annoying me! I'm tempted to ring her and tell her how much in stressing out in the hope of being seen sooner/ by someone else ideally but I don't know if that will wind me up more!

Oh Lily that's so crap. Try not to let your brain run away with you though, as even if you do need a CS it isn't the end of the world. Saying that though, MW thought my bump was breech for ages and they couldn't make their minds up. They can't send you for a scan too early, as up until 37 weeks baby can still swivel round the other way, so they hold off as long as they can for the scan to try and be more accurate.
Heads and bums feel very similar and the only difference being how much you can 'wobble' the head. In all likelihood though if you've not felt a giant movement/swivel and you feel she is still head down then she most likely is.

Pinkie & Frolic - you guys are so getting kicked out of the shit sleep club! I couldn't be more jealous. I am actually wistful as the idea of sleeping on my back - I can't wait!!!!!

Fanby - hope the haematology results are ok. Fingers crossed for uber platelets!

Joskar - I remember my mum giving me a present from my little sister, there are 8yrs between us, I can't remember what it was but I do remember thinking how cool it was that I got a pressie. Maybe just get her something she's really into so it's a total distraction!

Come on ladies, we have all got to watch OBEM and squeal!!! Double dare you all!!!

However, if she isn't then yes there are options to have an ECV. That's not something I would personally do but each to their own. And remember if you do have a planned CS it's a lot safer and calmer with better recovery then an emergency one. It will be ok, either way! But until you have that late scan to actually show where the little monkey is you can't truly know. Just hang on in there and don't let weirdo MWs get to you.

I have got the HV coming today and I cannot be arsed to clean an inch of the house. I mean it's not a hovel but we're half disorganised due to the impending move and my lack of energy to ump and dump boxes around. Oh well, she'll have to be ok with it as I'm not suddenly going to Magic the house into a show home in a couple of hours - especially when there are biscuits to eat and TV to watch!!!

Today is meant to be a scorcher down south, hope everyone keeps as cool as they can!

Thanks mzzf- I'm hoping you and pinkie are right and that he is still head down as I've not noticed any massive flips! I wouldn't be clearing up for a HV either especially with your move!

Thing with c section for me is I'm terribly anxious in medical environments- I'd have planned a home birth if it wasn't for the house move here too- as it is I moved hospitals to be able to use MLU (hopefully) and the idea of spending a single night in hospital with DH allowed is scary enough never mind a couple of days alone after major surgery! Everything I've planned for and prepared for is natural no pain relief centred and it sounds silly but I'll be so disappointed if I don't get to take on the 'challenge' of labour!

Ultimately I obviously will do whatever is best for baby- if that means a panic attack in theatre for me then so be it!! I just wish she hadn't mentioned c section as if it was the only option in fact I wish she hadn't mentioned breech and the possible outcomes at all if she wasn't sure- she could have just said 'I'm really struggling to tell so I'll see you again next week' rather than half telling me he was breech whilst saying she didn't know but writing it in my notes like it was fact! It's going to be one hell of a long week I can feel it! I really need to stop poking baby myself too to try and figure it out myself as I'm sure he must be getting fed up! Lol! Just had a nice long bath, I'm going to get some lunch, so some relaxation with my hypno cd and have yoga tonight so hopefully I will chill out and forget the stupid MW!!