Fang-tastic fannies, Baywatch Blowjobs and good old british summer (arse) rain). It's JSing Grads 30!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 30th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 48th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

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Right, I need some advice viroids.

DP and I are seriously considering bringing our wedding forward to around September / October this year. Our original date was end of May 2016, but I'll hopefully have a 4 month old DC at that point, and a couple of people who I have told have pointed out to me that I could very well find it tough to have a wedding with a baby that small.

How do you go about planning a spontaneous wedding? (Ind hoping for your input here!!). We orignally had 86 people on our day invite list, but we would cut it down to 20 and do a party afterwards (maybe the weekend after) and invite all those who didn't get invited to the day. We probably wouldn't have bridesmaids etc. and just go to a resturant for the meal afterwards.

Does anyone have any ideas on how we can make it work?

Yes, indigo all you lot were! I missed you!

Find a nice place for the ceremony and go for it! My aunt had a lovely registry office do (in rural Herts, very naice) then hired the back room of a pub. One drink on arrival, ordered off a limited menu. It was small and lovely. Was a nice pub so bar a few flowers and balloons, not much else was needed.

Hello Honey! Congratulations.
Gouda, hope the news is better than you anticipated.
Now 40+2, nothing happening at the mo. Booked for another sweep on friday, then induction on next tuesday.
DH has an important meeting this afternoon, with no guarantee that he can get out if I need him. (He isnt an important factor for making decisions, just a dogsbody that happens to understand the IT aspect of things)

Honey honey honey! Great to see you here, I'm soooo pleased for you. Will have all my gx for you!

Jelly we did exactly that - 6 weeks to prep, 22 of us in total, in was such a lovely day and so stress free. When it's that small no one gets stroppy about not getting an invite, and all our guests said it was one of the nicest weddings they'd been to (they probably say that to all brides and grooms), because it was informal and they all felt like they got to know each other. We had registry office then booked out a beautiful gastropub for the evening - we're foodies and it meant we could have great restaurant quality food for the meal instead of mass-catered. Yum.

Congratulations Honey!

Yay honey totally awesome news, congrats!!

Yay honey! welcome!! So great to see you here officially!

Sounds lovely jelly much easier to do than a big wedding I'd expect. Go for it!

So after a 13 hour shift yesterday that involved lots of vomiting, headaches, exhaustion and crying (though I did make it through the shift) I decided not to repeat that with another 13 hour shift today and have phoned in sick. Feels good to be able to sleep!

Yay honey congrats!

Jelly, we had a very relaxed wedding. The same 75 people day and night, no gifts, casual clothes (no hats or ties) no speeches. Lots of food plenty of drink. We got married in a chappel, then we went to the local hall, with the park attached so the children had a safe place to play. DHs friends were the band, and DHs band played.
We had fun.

cym sounds similar to us, 75 people, small church then to my uncle's house for if roast and loads of wine/beer that we bought ourselves and my bil's band to dancr to. Weddings don't have to be over the top or stressful and our day was made all the more special because it was made by the people we love! Mum and I decorated the marquee (necessary in n. Wales if you don't want guests to drown! ) and did the church flowers. My sister was my only bridesmaid in a dress from monsoon.
Look on rock my wedding for inspiration jelly I got a bit hooked on that site!

I sent an email out to all my contacts this morning to remind people that I am going on mat leave on Friday.

Big mistake. Huge. Now have loads more work to do.

Do not do it viroids. Sneak out stealthily.

Flour I've made a note not to do that

Jelly. I googled small wedding venues in the county I wanted. I found a hotel that did an all inclusive deal for up to 50 people Sunday to Thursday. It was reception, evening reception, room to get married in, photographer, cake and flowers.
Then my shy introverted DH decided he wanted to invite more and we ended up with a Saturday full blown wedding with nothing included!

Oops Fleur not flour!

Waves to Honey - Congratulations :)

Just saying a quick hello viroids. DS2 is now a little over a week old. Going ok - he's having a sleepy day which means I've come over all Pamela Anderson and I keep having to wake him to get him to feed. But I had a shower and got dressed unlike on Thursday when all I wore all day was a milky dressing gown and a pair of DH's boxers .

Anyone on the verge of buying nursing bras, make sure they are seam free. You'll thank me later :)

Sorry you're still waiting Cym good luck.

Weddings: ours was bigger ~75 people but we had it in a town half way between our families. Which meant all planning in three days a month in advance or two days before. It can be done and beats waiting 18 months to have it hanging over you sort it out.

thanks for the wedding tips. I was looking forward to our wedding next year, but I think with a 4 month old baby, it's going to be tough.

DP keeps changing his mind so waiting for him to decide what we are doing.........

Hi Before! Thank you!

I had a healthy lunch then ate some chocolate. Oh well, once the nausea starts I'm sure I won't want it! I hope

Congratulations Honey!

Jelly my bro had a very small wedding - guests paid for their own dinner in a favourite restaurant of theirs that they'd booked out in lieu of presents (they had lived together for a few years and had two children - they really didn't need wedding presents) and an evening do at their local with a buffet put together by friends. It worked out great!

Hey all, we've just got back from the hospital.

We can afford to be cautiously optimistic. I had an internal and external scan done, and mini gouda was alive and kicking, with a fast sounding heartbeat, measuring at 10+4 (which puts me 2 days ahead of what I thought). That is the amazing fantastic news.

The not so great news is that I have a "hématome" (which apparently is like a puddle of blood? It translates as "bruise" but I can't find an english equivalent that I understand) in between the foetus and the exit.

The doctor said that this isn't normal, but it's not hugely rare either. If the puddle dries up, then it's not a problem. If the blood doesn't get any bigger and comes out without any pain then it shouldn't be a problem. The problem is that there is the potential that the puddle gets bigger, and then drags out the foetus along with it causing a miscarriage.

I had a blood test to check to see if my body has already created the D antibodies (or whatever), and a prescription for an injection if it hasn't.

I am relieved, but trying to stay cautious for the time being. We have to have another scan in a week to see if the puddle has started getting bigger. In the meantime I'm not allowed sex or intense exercise.

Also just a quick note to say that the french healthcare system is incredible and puts the NHS to utter shame. In five hours, we have: spoken to our gp and been advised to go straight to hospital, gone to an emergency maternity ward, had an internal and external scan, had a detailed explanation as to what was happening, had measurements taken, our questions answered, had a blood test (with the results in a few hours), got prescriptions for the antibody injection and advice where to get it done, reserved the drug in a nearby chemist, and come home and eaten lunch.

jelly - on the wedding, it depends so much on what kind of wedding you want. Would having the wedding at four months post partum mean that you could drink?

In all honesty I think there are pro's and con's in both directions. You may feel more body confident getting married when pregnant and not 4 months after giving birth, but if you're quite far along, you might also feel very uncomfortable and sore and generally unwilling to stand/dance for long periods (or you might be the last one on the dance floor - who knows!!)

Then again, it might be nice to be able to focus 100% on your family and friends, rather than stressing about the baby, and feeling like you're in a fog of sleep deprivation.

Could you just move the entire wedding forwards to this year, or would you need the extra time to allow for the finances to work out? What about a country fete sort of wedding? Hiring a marquee won't be too extortionate, especially if you're saving on corkage costs. Massive BBQ or hog roast, and ask anyone local to bring a dish to leave out.....Basically for a wedding all you really need to keep people happy are:

Access to loos
Fuck ton of alcohol
Sufficient food of any description
Good music
roof option in case of rain

Great news gouda

Re wedding, I probably shouldn't comment - I went totally bridezilla and our small wedding turned into a 100 guest black tie affair

Good news Gouda. The French medical system is amazing, I'm jealous.

But then the taxes are high too!

Fantastic news gouda I'm guessing the English translation would be hematoma, which is basically a blood clot or collection of blood. I think they usually form in the uterus due to old blood pooling in the uterine folds disclaimer I am not a gynaecologist! usually they are re absorbed by the body, and if they keep a close eye on it both you and little one should be just fine :) they are pretty common and it's rare they end in miscarriage if monitored xx

gouda I read your post with a smile! So glad mini Gouda is ok. Obviously I'm no expert but my friend who is currently 16 ish weeks pregnant had/has a hematoma, she also had episodes of bleeding. I'm not sure on the position of hers, but I'm fairly certain it wasn't a cause for concern at all. Obviously they have told you different so it may well depend on the position, or it may be that the French doctors are more pessimistic than ours in general. Look after yourself for now

I've been extremely unimpressed with the NHS since being pregnant, the treatment I've had has been rubbish to be honest. I would rather pay more taxes and have a better service when it comes to something as delicate and sensitive as pregnancy.

Mmm minigouda, a bit like babybel. Or minicheddars. Mmmm.

I have done f all work today. On holiday next week, can't wait. I might spend the entire week asleep but I can't think of anything I'd rather do right now.