Due February 07 - New Thread!!

[Tommy]

there we go...... that wasn't painful at all

Hi all
Sugglebum I'm so sorry you are feeling stressed at the moment Christmas is hard without the health serice being awkward and your DS finding everything so hard to cope with. I have had quite alot of experience with pupils with ASD and I have got some christmas symbols I can send you (a little late for this year I know but maybe for the future)
I would suggest you try to stick as close as you can to your usual routines, which I know is really hard, and for new or different things things use the first, then method of explaining ie first breakfast then car (if off to family etc.)
One child I know finds the wrapping paper really noisy and upsetting and her parents just put her stuff in a santa sack and she simply pulled them out.
If you want to email me about ASD stuff you are most welcome gmpschool at yahoo dot co dot uk.
lots of hugs

Hi snugglebum. This one has just turned a week ago at 33 weeks...didn't feel any dramatic turning movement, just happened in it's own time.
There are the good, the bad and the ugly at every unit . Don't worry, you'll hit lucky...ok, worse case scenario you'll end up with another section, but it's got to come out one way or another. If it turns cephalic I reckon you've a fab chance of normal delivery..If you've worked in a unit before you must be well aware of the enormous pile of bureaucracy, policy and threats of legal action the administrators sit behind which occasionally makes them forget they are dealing with people not potential court cases and you know how gossipy a mainly female workplace can be..sod them all..you're an intelligent grown up lady who is more than able to make her own decisions and more than able to change her mind if it becomes necessary. Trust me..my first birth is still talked about 7 years later...I even had the GP put in a complaint about me!!!!!! However it all came out in the wash and everyone was ok in the end and I even managed to laugh about it (once...when I was very drunk!).

So sorry sbn, hope it gets sorted soon .
My Dd had her last day at school today, we're officially HE'ing!

Lots of sympthy SBN. It seems to be the time for feeling low and somewhat unsupported by your medical care.

I had a run in with the (male) doctor at my medical practice. I have developed persistent abcesses in my armpits which are being controlled but cured by lots of antibiotics. He virtually told me ther was nothign wrong with me, that he couldn't find the lumps (as I winced when he poked them)and wrote a grudging prescription telling me it probably wasn't going to work anyway. Then when I mentioned SPD pain, PGP pain and months of sleeplessness due to restless leg which were all making going to work very onerous, he merely said "well you chose to have this baby" and hussled me out of the office. What a horrible man.

So I'm feeling pretty crap myself this eve.. (or is that morning ?)DP's been away a couple of days and I found it hard to cope on my own, esp with our house a bombsite and feeling really unprepared for 8 for Christmas. I am used to just diving in and getting things sorted out myself, but I am sore and shattered and it's driving me nuts to have to wait on other people to do things for me.

This pregnancy lark just isn't as easy as it looks..

So sorry you are having a tough time ladies. I've felt a bit like public NHS property at times, but you both seem to be suffering at the thin end of the wedge. I've seen a different midwife every time at the surgery, though at least they are nice people. Hospital wise, they all seem hacked off, jaded and can't even hold a conversation - I guess they are stressed and under resourced. Having said that, my own (female) GP and Nurse Practitioner have been superb. I've been signed off work with stress since October and they have been so kind. My next certificate takes me to mid Jan and they have already said they'd support me up to the start of my maternity leave in early feb. Is there another person you could go back and see, Suis? SBN, definately change unit if it helps - it must be horrendous being in or having been in the industry - too close for comfort.

On mundane matters, Weston, I need the same advice on cot mattresses.....We're looking at a John Lewis Winnipeg Cot (£60) and Changing Unit (50) and have to choose the mattress, which range from £40 to £100+. We don't want to spend too much as budget is tight but we know safety is paramount. Advice please ladies!

Also those many of you with SPD, can you advise? I have been suffering with hip and back pain. Midwife said sciatica (sp?) and showed me how to bend and lift. However, after an hour in tesco last night, I nearly gave up the will to live and even sat on an empty toilet roll pallet, like a nutter. I was up half the night in pain. It's most in both hips and I feel like I've been beaten up, or fallen off a horse! Sitting and lying hurt. Is this still sciatica or could it be SPD?

Finally, one more moan. Has anyone experienced the kindness to a pg lady thing? I definately haven't. People swing their trollies into me, I stop to let other people past, whilst furiously holding onto my bump. I don't get buses so haven't experienced the seat being given up. I feel like I'M the one in the way of others. ARGHHHHHH!!!

Had my scan last week and am about 3 weeks ahead. Glucose test came back normal so isn't to do with that. Feel like I'm carrying a two year old toddler!

Plumpbump - I've been told that it's only sciatica if the pain goes down your leg past the knee, otherwise it's pelvic girdle pain (which I have had since about wk 20 and is across my back and particularly left buttock !)

SPD (which I have developed last couple of weeks) seems to be a feeling of being stabbed or kicked right in the middle of your pubic bone... right where it would be embarrasing to rub it better in front of people.. and generally happens when walking about or moving in bed. The MW is referring me to the physio to get a brace to help this. (The nasty doctor suggested nothing at all other than "put up with it")

Also had a similar "having to sit on a display" episode in Primark, where a security guard told me to get off it, and I told him it would be much worse if I just collapsed in his shop and eventually he left me to it !

Being nice to pg ladies seems to be either non-existent ( I was nearly run over in the car park the other day for being slow moving ) or really cloying ( I got a row from a male colleage for moving a box of jiffy bags ! )

PS - glad you are still signed off. As I remember your work was being particularly unsympathetic. You are def doing the right thing in staying away and putting yourself and your wee one first, as it should be.

morning everyone!

I think my baby has turned now as well as it seems a lot lower and down wards facing rather than across IYSWIM!

Sorry to hear all about the aches and pains and stresses lots of us are feeling - I'm lucky in that piles, varicosities and back ache are not too bad at the moment (touch wood). Stresses of life just the same as eveyone else though and I am looking forward to having a sit down on Xmas Day (going to MILs)

Weston - all cot mattresses have to adhere to safety regs now so IME, any one from a reputable shop would be fine.

Hope you all have a good Christmas if I don't get back before then - we'll have tp start a new and final thread after the holidays

Hi everyone. Hugs to all who are having a crappy time in the lead up to Christmas. I hope everyone will get a chance to put their feet up - milk that pg for all it's worth, I say.

I had my 34wk check with the GP today. He thought that bubba was head down, so that's good, and everything else looks fine too. As it's my last day at work today (hooray!!) I'll actually be able to see the mw in the new year - they're only in the surgery 2-3:30 on Tuesdays which is pretty rubbish for a working mum with a commute to/from work.

on mattresses, agree with Tommy that they all have to be safe before they can be sold. Only issue beyond that might be whether you have or worry about asthma and other allergies - some mattresses make great claims about non-allergenic content. We've used john lewis ones which I would always trust to have been made to the proper standard and aren't too pricey.

Well, that's it for now - and it from babydriver (as opposed to babydrivertoo) as I won't be logging in from work for another year . As we're away from tomorrow am, you prob won't hear from me till the new year so have a fab holiday everyone and get everybody else peeling the sprouts and stuff so you can have a rest.

We're all falling to bits eh? I'm really struggling with pulled tummy muscles burning everytime I try to lift DS for anything. And getting to sleep at 4am due to sore back/tummy, being sick acid, cat being annoying and DS wakening every 20 mins (who knows why!) hasn'#t done me any favours today. I'm finding it really hard to ignore the nesting instinct too - but don't have the energy to do anything. So all the filthy things in my house are really niggling at me! If only I could get like this when not pregnant lol.

Not getting much of the kindness to a pregnant lady thing. Maybe it's the time of year with everyone being really harrassed? I recall it with DS - ASDA insisting that people carried my bags etc. Mind you, I was very near my due date then and having lots of painful BHs that stopped me in my tracks. perhaps they thought I was in labour . This time, an ASDA employee barged past me to put some reduced items in the fridge and elbowed me in the bump. I said 'ow' and she looked round and didn't so much as give an apologetic smile. Still, I guess we have to remember (as I keep being told by a well meaning relative) that "pregnancy is not an illness... and in our day you just got on with it"

Also looking forward to a sit down on Christmas day at my MILs.

DS has an IKEA cot and I bought the most expensive mattress they do which was a whopping £25 . I would't worry too much about thickness etc as babies really are very light and don't need an awful lot for comfort. The only thing I would consider is that some of them have waterproof type covers and things which aren't ideal if your little one has eczema or in the summer. We bought a hippychick mattress protector for the lower half of the hammock (after leakages) but found that even though it isn't plasticy, it would still make DS sticky in the summer.

Hi all sorry people aren't feeling to good I've had a terrible cold the last few days either from DH or pupils at school- I knew It would hit me in the holidays.
I've also been loking at the mattresses in John Lewis and in Babies R us and agree with what everyone else is saying. As we are going for a cotbed I'm inclinded to go for a sprung one - the mid priced one
here as I think it might last longer than a foam one. My parents are buying the cotbed and have said we can have £200 I quite like the Rachel cotbed which fits in with our price range. Babies R us have a similar styled one and similarly priced matress(I think the CB is called Brittany.

hey everyone my last day at work 2day for 9 months cant belive it

Hi sorry to hear all the aches and pains stories. And I'm afraid that I haven't had a nice to pg lady experience either. I saw my midwife yesterday and she had some really interesting advice re spd which might be relevant to other joint pain too. She siad that I must be careful not to become dehydrated (which I think I probably am more or less everyday going by the amount of urine I pass in the am); drink no caffeine whatsoever; take at least two dessrtspoons full of olive oil in my diet every day whilst symptomatic, dropping to one when feeling better and have at least two portions of oily fish per week. All sound dietary advice that I have heard before but not in relation to spd and joints. Anyway it might be worth a go since I'm exhausted and in pain just going out for an hour at a time now and I still have 3 weeks at work after Xmas. I'll let you know if its making a difference.

Just to wish everyone a 'Merry Christmas' and hope we all manage the festive season!

I am now into my 3rd day of taking insulin - not quite got the dose right but managing to get the levels down to almost acceptable levels! it will be hard over christmas with all the festive stuff - but i have found that if I don;t eat too many carbs then the levels are better! I also need to eat proper meals rather than snack type meals - not the best for xmas day and Boxing day! never mind - only 6 to 9 weeks to go!!!!!

Merry Christmas everyone
We are at home alone so I may be around tomorrow.
I had my first nice to PG lady experience on Tuesday, on the tube, a lady offered me her seat We were only going one stop so I declined but said how kind she was. One of my friends said the other day that my coat does really cover my bump up.
Recently I've stood in several toilet queues in theatres etc and no one has offered to let me go first, and I haven't yet been desperate enough to do the 'Im PG let me through' line.
Someone did this to me a while ago when I was patiently in the queue and when she came out she lookked at me and sheepishly said 'oh you too'

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!!!!

Am just putting new CDs onto the MP3 for the journey down to the ILs. We're only going for the day, but am taking a bag of provisions (pillow, paracetamol, remegel, germoline wipes . Oh the glamour of it all. Bit nervous about the day ahead as things are often a bit tense with family politics...

Hope you all have fab days! Congrats to all of you who are officially finished!!!!

xxx

Merry Christmas! Hope everyone had a good day yesterday. We're back home from the ILs and just about to head out to my parents for DS to get EVEN MORE presents! I wonder if our Christmas money will be enough for a new house to store all these toys in...

Well I survuved christmas - mum made a sugar free pud for me, which was nice if not too tasty!! Better than nothing tho! Managing ok on my insulin, but had my first hypo (almost) on xmasday - sugars were low and felt realy rough - left too long a gap between meals, but wanted to enjoy my main xmas dinner! Had chat to diabetic nurse today and got some good advice off him - seem to get info if ask - reckon it is to prevent overload of info as you can only remember so much! Anyway - no other symptoms apart from fatigue today - entertaining a nearly 5 year old with active imagination is hard!

Got MW appt tomorrow with community midwife - not sure uf I stil should see her but thought it would do no harm to update her - she will be looking after me when I get home after having buba - 5 to 8 weeks to go!!!!!! OMG!!

Hi all
Glad you managed to have a bit of a nosh up this christmas Andyrobo.
Well I can proudly say that I now own a biggish piece of baby equipment - Finally! I have a moses basket, bought in John Lewis today (traditional braving of the bluewater sales) they had some good bits on offer towel snuggle wraps 3 for £10, sleeping bags 30% off and cot/ basket sheets seconds- (I'm not proud seconds will do me fine)
I have finally decided on the buggy, silver cross 3D in jet sport but still need to measure my boot to make sure it will fit (I'm pretty sure it will) but after the matching ventura car seat didn't fit, I want to be sure.
I'll check in tomorrow after my measuring! if it doesn't fit I will just give up and buy a maclaren!!!!!

i had the same problem peachy, we went out today and brought the ventura car seat after i umed and arghed about a pram, finally decided on the silvercross 3d and the seat didn't fit in our car! so went to mamas and papas and brought the pilko pramette with car seat and base for half price!!!. the lady checked it fitted in our car and just had a good play with the pram, though got to pop it back to the shop as the harness on it doesn't seem right.

Hi titchy interetsting you found the same thing with the car seat. the lady in mothercare said it was one of the largest infant car seats on the market!!
We are going for a britax rock a tot, as this was a really good fit and relatively cheap. when we buy the next car seat up we will spend more money and will get an isofix one so I'm happy to save money now. Dh measured the boot and it seems the pushchair would fit but I might just pop to mothercare world at some point to check it out.
Has anyone started carrying their notes about with them yet? I can't remember when the midwife said I should do this. I have taken them with me when we have gone further afield - into london etc.
Also I'm having some terrible nights. Again I was wide awake at 4am I fell asleep on the sofa and went back to bed til 12 which is OK now but I have to go back to work in a week!!

Hi all - glad to be back. We've had a pretty crappy Christmas - DH found out on Weds that he has no job to go back to after Christmas (somehting that had been suggested for a little while so wasn't a great shock), the boiler broke on friday evening at bath time and then DS1 woke up at midnight on Xmas Eve complaining of feeling poorly and cried until 5am (while in bed with me)

So....all really tired, didn't get our Xmas dinner as DS1 too poorly to travel to MILs

But.... we found a nice plumber today who came and fixed the boiler and DH is fairly optimistic about the job market. We're still all tired though as the DSs went to bed too late last night and still woke up at 6.30. Baby has been moving around a lot which I know is a good sign but it's still quite painful.

Here's to a happy new year

Tommy what a shame, but good news about your boiler. Fingers crossed for your DH.

Sorry that christmas wasn't great for all. Ours was going fine at PIL until 7:30 boxing day when SIL (who was at her home) called to say hubby had told her the previous night he was bored with his life, had met another woman etc etc... So emotions running high as we all try to figure out how best to help her and her 2 small kids.

Feeling fine in myself though, apart from waking in the small hours and not being able to get back to sleep very well. Very conscious that it's only five weeks till my due date, so basically, cd happen any time. Must go and pack that hospital bag...

Hi All. Tommy, sorry to hear that Christmas wasn't so cheerful, I too will keep my fingers crossed re jobs for DH.

RE car seats, notes etc I wonder if we're all having the same thoughts that now Christmas is over, it's all seeming a bit soon. We went into town today and bought an overnight bag - now just need to work out what to put in it. Our list from the hospital doesn't make much sense to me but perhaps I need to have another read.

Can I ask how many babygros and vests people are taking with them to the hospital. I think our midwife said you should take about 6-8!!

House still looks like a bomb has gone off, boxes everywhere and nowhere to store the masses of really useful things that we really must keep. We don't have loft space here! Any tips on artistically draping throws over boxes of junk, gratefully received.

Happy New Year to you all - here's to an exciting but very scary 2007!