November 2015 ladies! Time to feel the glow!

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Are you expecting a babe in November this year? If so, get ready to get glowing. Breaking out in spots, or tears, or both is part of the so called glow. Feeling sick, contemplating births and having the odd good day of eating well is also all glow.

Come on then. Wee in the corner to mark your spot. Have some or or . Then glow.

Abbey not sure if I've missed something or not but why does you family keep changing the subject?

Lovely scan news Lady, congrats! Glad you're feeling better crying and that he's sorry without you needing to kick his arse, hope you have a better Sunday. Sorry to hear about the family Abbey, is it a lack of enthusiasm or something a bit more?

Lovely and sunny here, spent the day in the garden doing some much needed stuff, ready to fire up the BBQ soon - doesn't sunshine make a massive difference

Ugh crying and abbey - hope your days got Better!
Am about to rant. So ignore my
Post just need to vent as I am seriously crying over nothing am sure .
Am having my first hormonal Aibu day. Am so upset but can't say it aloud as seems so selfish. Ugh ugh ugh. One of my mates in the group of girls I am friends with is 2 weeks ahead of me with the first group baby and as she isn't married( she doesn't want to etc but has been with her dp 8 years / has a mortgage etc) the girls decided without me that she ought to have a massive hen style baby shower when she is 35 weeks. So she is rested and able to have fun etc as she never has a hen so will have proper invites and a proper big party.

I was then informed that mine btw will be small and not many can make it and when I am 38 weeks cos of diaries. Like an hour long in the pub. Ok? I feel like a spoilt brat that just cos I happen to be married that I am being an afterthought and clearly not as valued. It's not my fault she doesn't want to! Dh is telling me to grow up and I would be telling myself that too but I feel so second best and left out- I did say thank you etc so kind to even have one etc to the friend in charge but my head was like/ sorry but given I was a month early and Dh was 3 weeks ... Don't bother as it's clear who is the special baby/ mother here and I just feel bitter . Even in the group whastapp it's xxxx how are you ... Xxx such a stunning best bump... And how is she doing wow so pretty so size 6 etc etc ... And not one asks about me:( God typing this I am now just as irritated at myself!

I certainly know who is bloody acting like a toddler that is me!! Rant over. Putting big girl pants on. But feeling hurt is still lingering.

Ugh. Sorry. Will crawl into bed and hope to wake up less bitter.

You have a right to feel shitty about the situation! The bitches!!!
I personally would rise above it who needs a fucking baby shower anyway! I never had a hen do either but Ive never been overly bothered about friends anyway I'm more for my family. Book a holiday when it's her baby shower. I actually would hate this kind of thing far too fussy!! Each to thier own I suppose!

i just had a word with myself and calmed down..its not like me to be that petty or sselfish... to be fair my vision if were to have one was a pub lunch locally for the mix of mates (boys and girls ) we have .... so it was more the 'she gets a big one and you don't thing that hurt. Over it now. DH dashed out bought a massive galaxy bar, and poured a bath... amazing how soothing that is.

Oh a good note.. anyone feel their hair is looking nice this week? Sun making it shiny, pregnancy and nice light help?

Baby due 27th Novrmber - 1st child very nervous?? x

With my family, I'm not entirely sure as no one will talk about it, but I think it's either:

• that they're worried after last time (I nearly died and DS was prem).
• they don't approve of the small age gap
• second babies are boring
• something else

But if they won't talk about it at all it's kind of impossible to reassure them or guess what the problem is. I might get DH's parents (who are excited) to give them a call maybe. Running out of ideas!

toots that's rubbish. Friends can be weird sometimes

Right, I've finally sorted it. They didn't know I was pregnant!
Even though we've had several attempted conversations about it and I showed them the scan picture. Old people!! That's a relief anyway, but they don't bloody listen!

Abbey that's kind of hilarious, though probably wasn't much fun for you for a while

Parents, eh, you try and still - oh well, are they properly excited now?

It is funny now, phew! I'm always telling my Dad he doesn't listen - now it's official. He thought I was showing him someone else's scan picture? The mind boggles.

Abbey, that is so strange! What did they say when you showed them the scan picture?! Imagine if you didn't work it out and they'd be v surprised in November..!

Abbey that's very strange indeed! So are they all really happy now?!

I'm super happy and smiling tonight because my best mate came round to keep me company and we put the world to rights over SIL, DP and anything else we could think of but she also wanted me to attempt to find Monkey's heartbeat! I found it within a second and it was super strong and loud! Loudest I've heard it yet! Soooo happy but a bit for DP as he hasn't heard it like that before.

They thought it was SIL's scan picture, even though we said we were having a baby - this was last month. I kept trying to bring it up saying 'the same thing won't happen again' to reassure them each time we've spoken, as thought perhaps they were worried after last time, but they thought I was talking in general about the future. It's like a giant sitcom really! They thought the weight was from DS, so I'm not too worried about hiding it from work now if my own family aren't sure it's a bump
I told them my test results for Down's etc - they must've thought I was obsessed with SIL's baby, phoning to tell them that as they assumed it was her results.
Such a relief, I really couldn't work out why they were being so weird about it. At least they've found out by the halfway point!

Abbey your family sound bonkers...

Abbey glad that it wasn't them just being dismissive of your pregnancy! It does sound like a sitcom. Hope they are pleased for you now they actually know!

Has anyone been getting painful hip joints? One of mine locked yesterday :-(

Gosh that's so bizarre abbey Im glad it's all cleared up now though!

Abbey that's so funny and toots I would be pissed off too (and baby showers are my own personal worst nightmare).

I feel a bit flat today, all preg symptoms gone, and still over a fortnight until the scan. It just seems like ages to wait. If I wasn't so skint id definately would have had a private scan by now.

They are bonkers, it's official now
I've been thinking of all the conversations I've tried to have with them. It takes not listening to a whole new level!

Baby showers - I was going to have an afternoon cake thing last time rather than a shower (was trying to think of ways to avoid a full on shower as it's not my type of thing being centre of attention) but I had DS the weekend it was supposed to be. I got an arsey text about not coming off one friend, who is a mum herself. I'd texted the birth announcement in the morning but she somehow thought I'd be along in the afternoon anyway
I'm beginning to think everyone I know is a bit odd!

Just read back and abbey that is bizarre! How funny and strange? Parents eh?!

my bump has well and truly popped out at 17+5. I can no longer hide it. We're off on holidays next week, bit worried the airline might question how far along I am as I'm convinced I look bigger than I should!

Took me a while to catch up!

Abbey, your story made me laugh, sorry. Can't even imagine their reaction had they not realised by november, and the frustration for you.... Glad it's all sorted now though.

New maternity jeans just arrived this morning and they are heavenly!!! Honestly struggling to look half decent as my clothes are stretched to the limit yet the maternity stuff still looks too big on me... Everyone noticed my belly over the weekend so definitely no hiding it anymore. Although i'm not too sure what to tell people as in how far along i am as i don't want to tell anyone (yet?) that it's twins but i'm quite big for 17+4! Been blaming it on the fact that i'm quite slim and petite and that it's a second pregnancy...

On a bright note, been feeling a lot of movement inside and for the first time DH felt a kick last night! The smile on his face and tears in his eyes was priceless... Even though he felt it all in the previous pregnancy but he gets really excited about this stuff. I guess it's the only way for our OHs to feel a part of the whole thing...

And i had my first melt down last week! Guess it was bound to happen sooner or later... The joys of prgnancy!

Haha, your parents sound hilarious (and infuriating!) Abbey! Are they suitably pleased now?

I swear people think I'm making my pregnancy up as I'm 19wks now and still no visible bump! I feel the occasional wriggle so I'm not too worried, it's more sort of funny!

toots, I'd totally be pissed off at that too! It's the sort of situation where you can't say anything though, frustrating! Is there a best mate you can rant to about it? The idea of a baby shower fills me with horror so I won't be having one at all!!

Yeah they are very excited, which is the reaction I was expecting in the first place. It'll be a funny story for the future at least

Abbey that's so funny! At least you are all sorted now!

I've just got back from midwife appointment 16 week one, I heard the heartbeat! Cute and have found out now that I'm consultant led because baby number 2 weighed 6.10 and baby number 3 weighed 7lbs so by my height and weight they were to small! Bit silly really but on the plus side I get more scans! Funny really I dreamt last night that I had a 17.5 lbs boy! Gross!