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November 2015 ladies! Time to feel the glow!

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Focusfocus · 20/05/2015 19:57

Are you expecting a babe in November this year? If so, get ready to get glowing. Breaking out in spots, or tears, or both is part of the so called glow. Feeling sick, contemplating births and having the odd good day of eating well is also all glow.

Come on then. Wee in the corner to mark your spot. Have some Brew or Cake or Wine. Then glow.

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Dixiebell · 04/06/2015 15:21

Biscuit Brew and Cake for everyone feeling rotten today.

I had my 16-week appointment today and got to hear the heartbeat, so was v.happy with that. I was a teensy bit worried as I'd been so sure I was feeling movements weeks ago, but the last week or two really not so much. But maybe it wasn't actually movements before, or maybe my placenta's grown in the way, or maybe I'm just not noticing them as much...and actually now I'm sitting here I think I am kind of feeling them...

Anyway it's only 16 weeks, and I heard the heartbeat so woohoo!

2 more weeks of work after today, and then two weeks off on hols, and then my 20 week scan, so all things to look forward to. Just gotta finish writing this darn report today, where has the day gone, need to pick up the boys from nursery soon, it's gonna be a rush!

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 04/06/2015 16:02

I'm exhausted too DS has been hard work lately, nothing major but just tiring. Then I feel guilty because it's not his fault I've got no energy, although would help if he'd go back to sleeping like he used to!
Also getting nervous about anomaly scan next week. If that's all clear I can tell a few more people. If I've got placenta issues again we'll deal with it. Obviously hoping everything else is ok too. It is the scary scan isn't it? I was terrified last time too. And I didn't get to hear heartbeat at 16 weeks so no idea what's been going on in there since 12 weeks

annatha · 04/06/2015 16:32

Hugs to everyone feeling rubbish lately. I've got a stonking cold and am spending the day in bed with an equally snotty dd after spending the last few days entertaining dh's very unbaby friendly guests. Bleh. Anyway for those who are worrying about getting compared to others, I know its easier said than done but you'll know your baby better than anybody. Every baby is different and will do things at different stages. I try not to compare dd to others at baby groups but its hard when some mums harp on about how their little darling has been sitting up for months and is on three meals a day etc.

Just catching up on the thread properly now, did someone ask about buying bottles and breastfeeding? I'd buy a sterilizer and a couple of bottles anyway. I breastfed for thee months but had to top up dd with expressed milk in the beginning so it was handy having everything in. If bf works then you've got stuff ready if you want to express and if it doesn't all you need to buy is a tin of formula and more bottles (once you've checked that baby likes the bottles you've bought, they can be fussy little things!)

Guybrush expressing for that long is amazing! When bf went to shit for us I tried exclusively expressing for a week but couldn't find enough hours in the day.

thatduck · 04/06/2015 17:04

I'm finallyback, all moved house and Internet sorted.
We had our 1st scan and met new midwife, she is super lovely but apparently I'm high risk as I'm underweight :(
Please can I join the having a crap day club? I'm just feeling so lonely and isolated not knowing anyone in the new area and I hate my new job!

PooSweats84 · 04/06/2015 17:09

My day has been pretty rubbish, flaky friend cried off half an hour AFTER we were due to meet for lunch, so ran round town like a mad woman trying to get everything done beforehand for nothing! Then DS comes home with detention for failing to hand in homework AGAIN so huge argument with her about her lazy attitude, and now I'm panicking I've harmed the baby with my stressing!

SnozzberryPie · 04/06/2015 17:17

I had to pump last time as dd was fed by a ng tube, so I had to pump to get my milk to come in. Later on I carried on so that I could leave dd with dp for a few hours with a bottle.

I'm not sure if I'll bother next time tbh - I could never express much and if I need to leave the baby the odd bottle of formula won't be the end of the world...I just can't imagine sitting for hours trying to express a few oz of milk when I also have a toddler to look after.

PinkaColada · 04/06/2015 17:29

I love this thread. It's rubbish that so many of us have family stress, weird moods and unhappiness over weight gain, but so good to feel like I'm not alone in feeling fat and moody! I had a full on row with DH about dinner yesterday! He was being bloody selfish, but the anger it provoked was Quite something. Then this morning was the worst of my fat days to date. No real bump at all, just like what guy said! Just feel really fat and frumpy. I'm not a perfectionist in the looks department, but nice clothes, decent hair and basic make up used to make me feel good. Hair is greasy and wild, body gone to pot and clothes don't fit!

All was made a lot better by getting to leave work at 2 for MW appt. Got to hear the heartbeat which was amazing and am now enjoying the sun by sitting in the garden eating a mini twister. Healthy regime starts Monday! Honest!

cryingbabymess · 04/06/2015 17:49

Thatduck is it you that moved to Scotland?

Blueblink · 04/06/2015 18:32

Hey ladies, sorry everyone is having rubbish days :-( I also had my 16wk MW appointment and my bloods came back as Rhesus negative. Is anyone else? My DP has to go in for a blood test to see if he is a negative too (he's freaking out as he hates needles) so is anyone else Rhesus negative? What are your real life experiences?

feathergirl1 · 04/06/2015 18:41

Can I join the Shit Day club too please? My current class are 'challenging' to put it nicely. 3 autistic children, hearing impaired pupils, speech and language difficulties, behavioural probs... And they were all on form today. Felt all crampy and guilty that all the stress I was feeling was affecting the baby. Going out for tea tonight and I would love a cold half a lager Hmm

Topsy34 · 04/06/2015 18:51

I had my 16 week appointment yesterday, a bit anxious about it as had seen a consultant who thought the bast thing to do was book in a c section there and then

I explained i wasnt happy seeing the consultant again and am having a hb, the mw was so supportive and said she would absolutely back me on the hb and that i should consider changing hospitals as the one im under has a very high intervention rate and i dont trust them

Heard the hb for the first time!! Amazing, feeling like im actually pregnant now and told work my intention to start maternity leave at the end of sept

roughtyping · 04/06/2015 18:54

So sorry everyone's feeling rubbish! I'm also feeling very fat and grumpy. But I'm finished work for the week, not long out of a bath and have yoga soon Smile

Used my Angelsound monitor thing this morning and felt baby properly push back HARD against it Smile which was a nice way to start the day!

Frescoed · 04/06/2015 19:02

Yay for everyone who's got to hear the heartbeat, I had no idea I'd feel so excited about it Smile

Alittlebitofeverything · 04/06/2015 19:12

Blueblink I am rhesus negative. I'm actually AB negative which according to the midwife is pretty much the rarest I could be. Was it explained to you about getting the anti d injection if you get a knock to the stomach?

Blueblink · 04/06/2015 19:49

Hi alittlebit yep MW was very informative and said about any knocks and accidents (I am sooo accident prone it's unreal!!) and getting anti d injections so I think I'm just looking for someone else to go "yeah that's fine!"

Lauramum23 · 04/06/2015 19:58

Sorry to hear so many having a shitty day Hmm

I've had a good day today, Been at work which I'm thoroughly enjoying being back hairdressing, quite hard being on feet all day tho!
I dreamt baby was born early and I was back at school ( one of my nightmares like a prison to me!) and they took baby off me and I didn't find out he was a boy for ages till I went and found him on a hospital bed and looked myself- totes weirdGrin

Anyway gals it's almost the weekend so maybe tomorrow will be a better day!

Alittlebitofeverything · 04/06/2015 20:07

Blueblink a lady I knew was rhesus negative and she was absolutely fine, she did have to go to get anti d injection once as she worked in a car home and banged her bump on the corner of the bed. Other than that she had no issues. I had thought that you had to go to get anti d for any knock but the mw was saying it has to be quite hard, something you think could cause internal bleeding like a car crash or punch. I think I would go and get any knock checked out but that made me feel a bit better that it's not too serious. She also said its not really an issue and won't cause problems in first pregnancy (not sure if yours is first) it would only cause an issue if untreated in subsequent pregnancies. Can I ask why your parter is having a blood test? They didn't suggest that with me and I had my husband with me?

Also on a bit of a tangent but does anyone else suffer with hayfever and if so what do you do? I'm struggling at the moment but don't know of anything I can do or use to make it better.

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 04/06/2015 20:13

If both mum and dad are negative then the baby will be negative so it won't be a problem and no need for injections. Most hospitals won't believe you though about who the dad is!

Alittlebitofeverything · 04/06/2015 20:18

Oh that's nice of them.. My husband knows his blood type from his time in the army and he's O positive so presume we would have the issue if a knock happens. I'm still using the method of hoping for the best with everything.

This thread has really made me feel so much more positive that I might actually be able to manage this and know what I need. Even to the point of making a list of essential buys so thank you to everyone Smile

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 04/06/2015 20:25

The blood test is because if your partner is also negative type, there wouldn't be a problem.
The problem is because if the father is positive, the baby will be too and if you exchange blood with the baby, it could be problematic.
I have a friend who had potential complications due to this. The reason was because her first pregnancy ended in miscarriage so she had crossed blood with that pregnancy and her body had produced antibodies. No problems with her second pregnancy but she had a bleed with her third which meant they could have crossed blood. She had a difficult wait for the 20 week scan to see if there were any problems but everything was absolutely fine.
So basically it just had to be managed! Follow all the advice and all will be fine.

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 04/06/2015 20:26

I too love these threads and the people on them. Wish I'd found this kind of thing when pregnant with DS

TakesTwoToTango · 04/06/2015 20:32

Hi all big hugs and chocolate brownies all round to those having a crappy day. I had one of those earlier in the week (was alarmingly depressive and despondent actually) but thankfully the cloud lifted after only one day so hopefully it will be similar for you.

Blueblink · 04/06/2015 20:39

I think it's all quiet fascinating really! The mw asked for DP to get tested to check his blood type as guybush says if he a negative too then our baby will be negative too! She did say that even if dp is negative they'll still give me the jab (u know incase Im lying and DP isn't the father!) lol!

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 04/06/2015 20:51

I do love how hospitals trust no one. My new hospital repeated all the tests my old one did. I don't mind but some of those things aren't going to change. I know I've never had chicken pox, but now they've checked. Twice. Grin The funny thing is that I told them, and then all they do when the results come back is tell me. Er, yeah I know, I told you first

thatduck · 04/06/2015 20:54

It is me moved to Scotland, I do like it its just so far from all the people I would normally run too when I'm having a hard time. Dp is trying but he works rediculous hours.
I'm also now paranoid about living in an area which still has snow now about getting to the hospital and hour and half away in the snow when I go onto labour!