October baby bus take 4! 20wk scans and big pram buying plans!

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Welcome all to the new Fred. FB group runs along side this pm me for details.

Oh gingerbread you brave brave lass. I've thought about you all day. Get lots of photos of your beautiful boy.

the hospital have taken some lovely pics and are doing us a memory box, they have been amazing. couldnt have asked for a better midwife.

thanks so much xx

Thoughts and hugs go to you gingerbreadman xxx

Thinking of you ginger, well done for staying so brave xxx

You are amazing Ginger, so very brave. I'm really pleased for you that the hospital was excellent too, I'm sure that memory box will be lovely and also really help you. X

Ginger, you are so brave, you have been in my thoughts constantly. How wonderful that you had amazing midwives to help you through this traumatic experience. Sending you hugs.

thank you so much everyone. i know we were very lucky, not as keen as the one that has come on this morning!

just waiting to have Lucas blessed then going home to rest. thanks again everyone xx

ginger What a lovely name you have chosen for your handsome little man. I hope the blessing goes well and I am glad that the hospital staff were good and have helped you through this sad time, shame about this mornings midwife.
I admire your bravery. You and your DH have been through a lot and little Lucas was a very much loved little boy throughout.

Glad everything went as smoothly as possible. Beautiful name for your handsome little man

Ginger, you are so incredibly brave. Glad it went as well as could be expected and sending all thoughts and hugs to you today and in the weeks to come x

Well done ginger you are truly amazing as I said before when you were dealing so well with everything - but now even more so, I don't think I could be so strong. I am so glad that you have been taken care of by the midwife and hospital, I hope that you have some beautiful memories of your gorgeous Lucas, thinking of you today and wishing you all the best for the healing process, just wish there was something better I could say to make even a tiny bit of difference xxx

thank you everyone. all your kind words help and make a big difference i can reassure you.

thank you ever so much xx

Are you home now ginger?

yeah gaggia got home yesterday about dinner-timish, thanks for asking.

were doing ok well as good as can be the heart break is overwhelming and its hard missing something so much that you never even really knew. i do tho.

and im in pain because although ive lost my son my poor dp has lost his mam too and he has years of memories with her i guess i hadnt really appreciated how horrible its been for him until now. poor poor dp. hes being great though. i am so lucky and lucas is lucky that he has the best daddy in the whole world!

That must be incredibly difficult. Hope you are being well looked after at home.

Oh my god Ginger Im lost for words, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. I must say you are one of the bravest and positive people I have come across, even though we have never met. You are such a brave lady and Lucas so lucky to have a mum like you and also your partner sounds as brave. I'm glad you had good care at the hospital and that they have collected good memories for your angel.

Lucas was a little fighter and he seems the battle was too much for him and he is now resting in peace.

Please stay as brave as you are. My condolences to your DP too. I'm wishing you both all the best for the future, you deserve it!

thank you xx

Your amazing ginger, such a tough time for you all I hope in the next few days and weeks you can be kind to yourself.

I love the name you have chosen for your little boy, I know he will have the send off he deserves, such a brave little angel.

Will be thinking of you

thank you it means a lot xx

Ginger I'm so sorry. Words fail me. You're an amazing woman and your dp and beautiful son are lucky to have you as a partner and mother. Love to you all x

Does anybody else get sharp pains if they turn over too quickly in bed or get up too quickly?

super yes I do - it is round ligament pains apparently! Not getting it so much now but a few weeks ago I was, it made me cry out once in the middle of the night as I felt like I'd been stabbed! Also used to get them when walking, felt like really bad stitch.

Thanks batfish, I thought it might have been round ligament pain but it seemed too high up (near the top of the bump). I was worried that by moving too quickly I was squishing baby up against my organs and hurting him (because it certainly hurts me) but I suppose baby is protected by lots of fluid. As long as it is normal I will try not to worry.

If you are worried then def mention to your midwife though - am sure it's fine but would never want to say don't look into it if you're worried - always best to look into something if it doesn't feel right!

Hard to believe the baby in there isn't getting totally squished and knocked around - I worry I'm going to snap off a limb!

Yes, that's the worry - that I am going to break something off him. Even though I am aware that I sound totally irrational. It's not even my first baby so you would think that I would know what to expect but it is over a decade since my last baby and it all feels unfamiliar.
I saw the midwife last week and told her that I was worried that my bump was too large and that I wouldn't make it to 40 weeks, that I was having a lot of braxton hicks and that I had a lot of thigh pain and she looked at me like and assured me I was being very silly and that it was all very normal.
She is a nice midwife though.