Due May 2007 - Thread for w/c 06.11.06

[Juicylucythe2nd]

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Jellybeans I think it is a common phenomena known as morethan2itis. There is an assumption that one is too few, two is a balance and three+ is just plain greedy. I think pebblemum is right though and in your case your Mum is probably also worried for you. I hope she can think of something more positive to say next time you chat otherwise I would practice just nodding vacantly at her and let it go over your head.

DH is one of 4, his aunts all have 4 dc, his Mum is 1 of 4, his Grandma is 1 of 6 etc. I think we have the opposite problem, they expect us to have at least 4 (fine by me, DH not so keen though!). Nobody on my side has more than 2, so we'll see what the future brings...

Thanks I will practice the vacant smile
My mum was one of 5 but she only had 2 (maybe it was so chaotic?) and they were skint so they prob just worried. All my relatives have 1 or 2 kids, only one had 5 and my parents slated her-doing it for benefits etc they said She was actually catholic. But I am not on benefits (nothing against them though at all) and we have managed OK, all our kids are at school now. GRRRRRR. But thanks for your helpful words x

Good morning, ladies - it's Friday. Yippee!

Welcome, Lupins! You'll find us to be a very friendly and supportive bunch so feel free to join in!

Congrats on the excellent sounding scans Cinnamontan and Pebblemum - am really pleased for you!

Jellybean - I think this 'fear of the third child' syndrome is quite common. I'm also expecting my third and my mother-in-law's reaction to the news was to stop speaking to us! My husband told her the news and then she stopped visiting or phoning or having anything to do with us. She's the practice manager at my GP's surgery too, so going for my appointments was really awkward! To this day, she hasn't congratulated me. Having said all that, she is now starting to come around. Sometimes, you just have to give them time and let the news sink in. I asked her round for dinner on my birthday and naturally, the subject of the baby cropped up. She didn't say anything but she did listen. What also helped was my other two children visiting her and talking about how excited they are about the baby (they really can't wait - especially my son!). Then, when I had my strange experience the other day, I phoned her up to ask for her advice. She drove straight round and sat with me and reassured me. We talked more openly about the baby then - I told her about the scan and the morning sickness and the nuchal fold scan we have coming up etc - that seemed to break the ice and she started talking about the baby in a positive way. So, you know, sometimes they just need a bit of time to come around to it.

I haven't had any food cravings at all yet (with my daughter it was licorice allsorts and with my son, melons!) and am still finding it hard to keep food down. I'm also finding that at around 3.30/4.00pm every day, I get a surge of MS and feeling absolutely knackered. I thought it might be to do with blood sugar levels but eating doesn't seem to ease or prevent it. Oh well. Roll on second trimester!

GOODMORNING! And what a good morning it is!
Havent had a chance to catch up on everything thats been going on, but welcome to Cinamontat and HIYA (in my best alex curran voice) to everyone else, I hope everyone is well and happy.. So Ive been SHITTING myself for the last couple of weeks becuase, in my humble (expert) opinion, my sypmtoms have practically disappeard overnight, boobs gone, sickness gone, tummy gone soft, etc etc. Went for what I was expecting and pinning all my hopes on, to be a scan, but alas it was just a consultation and booking in appointment with the m/f @ Brent Birthing Centre (strange place) so told the lovely m/f my worries and how shit my gp had been and she tried to get me a scan there and then, but ultrasound was thouroughly booked up - so bless her, she got out her stethascope with a little speaker on it, and giving me all the warnings about the fact I was only 13 weeks and I most probably wouldnt hear anything and not to worry, she popped it on and YES! IT WAS LIKE A STEAM TRAIN!!! amazing. So sooo pleased. Rest of visit just flew by with me with stupid grin, so prob didnt pay enough attention.
Now will someone please give me some adive about pulling partners head out of sand? He was in his own words 'waiting for the scan to make it all feel real' but stil hasnt picked up a leaflet or a book or asked me a question or put his hand on my tummy. Dont get me wrong, he has done all the shopping and cleaning and washing and making breakfast in bed since I found out, but with regards to the bean, he has his head firmly planted in the desert. It was a surprise, and he has just turned 30 last week, and has told me that as much as he loves kids and wants them, now wasnt when he was planning and he cant pretend to be happy. He has promised me he is trying, but he hasnt told a soul about it and I just feel hes hoping it will go away. Luckily I have the most amazing friends and family and have felt rather charitable (until now) towards him. But its starting to hurt and drive me mad and make me feel like kicking him out to teach him a lesson. Obv Im not going to as I know Im just mental at the moment.. oh god. Help xx

redkennedy

Don't worry about your dh. Mine has never touched my tummy (mainly because ds almost never moved, which is funny because he still doesn't walk that lazy bones), dh has never read a book or gone to an appointment.

He thoroughly pissed me off the this morning. He's a line cook in a restaurant, and he wears those funny looking pants that chefs wear. Anyway he has two pairs that are perfectly fine and almost brand new because he never uses them because he doesn't like the designs. Well he was upset that the others weren't clean. After a fight he said, "I don't know what you are going to do with two kids, the house, and the dog. You're not going to handle it"

Needless to say he's not my favorite person right now.

thanks MKG I appreciate it, everyone seems so happy here and no one seems to have had a prob with their other half. Your dh seems like he needs a slap upside his head today. Bloody men. Honestly. I know we're not perfect either but still. Jazus. Chin up mkg. xx
And LGT oh darling, just read your post, my god you brave brave woman. You are amazing, I have no idea how you cope. I fall to pieces if dp is a couple of hours late home from work or football. Im sure we could all learn alot from you. Big love and hugs from me xx

Afternoon ev1

Glad to here some good scans going on

MGK the things say sometimes, mine practically says the same to me sometimes, does make me angry - if they helped more might make it wasier grrrr

Redkennedy, when I used to cuddle up with dp he would say get that lump of me its kicking and its horrid - dont you just love em!!

Dont want to speak to early but I have managed to feel human all day so far, and stayed up till 11pm last night

No cravings as of yet, although I am eating alot of sweets, I have sweet tooth anyway, with ds it was lemon merangue pie lol

Hope you all feeling ok today, Lisa x

Oh Pebble such massive, huge CONGRATULATIONS on your scan am so pleased for you! Obviously would have been more pleased for you if it had been twins....

RedKennedy your Dh sounds a bit like my exp, i could never get any enthusiastic response out of him with any prg, or his family. Heres hoping when he sees the scan it changes his mind, it usually does

MKG your Dh is not being very nice either, i say go away for 24 and see how he copes with everything

Jellybeans i was too afraid to tell anyone i was prg with #6 as i got such a crappy reaction with #5. Those that were mean before were a little better this time so maybe they had been briefed by nicer friends!

Showofhands the e card was so lovely, it made me lol, and now i want some crispy creme donuts...can only get the in bloody harrods here though

Am not quite so blubbery now, i went shopping Got a very nice denim skirt from Noppies a maternity brand. It wont make the tea but will mwke me feel better while i make the tea

lg&t--is that 24 hours or 24 years?

thanks gals. now i am off to krispy kreme. there is a huge factory style one about four miles from my house. a bit too close for comfort. i will eat one for each of you.

Well, I went through the peanut butter phase, and the bacon phase, I wonder what next month will bring.

With ds I could have eaten Wendy's Big Bacon Classics forever.

Hi All,

I realise that i haven't been on here for an eternity, i've just been v. busy with work, in the US for the whole of last week and very very tired. Enough of my lame excuses. Sorry sorry sorry....

My good news for the day is that I had my official 12 week scan this morning and my little butterbean is nicely cooking in there. I am so delighted. Early pgy is so stressful.

Is anyone else, especially the 2nd/3rd timers finding that they already look enormous!! I am already looking about 5 months prgt. I look at myself in a suit, when I'm off to visit a customer and it may as well be stamped on my forehead!!!

I'm not even going to attempt to catch up, but i do really hope that all of you are well and your little bumps are also doing the business!!!!

Hi All,

I realise that i haven't been on here for an eternity, i've just been v. busy with work, in the US for the whole of last week and very very tired. Enough of my lame excuses. Sorry sorry sorry....

My good news for the day is that I had my official 12 week scan this morning and my little butterbean is nicely cooking in there. I am so delighted. Early pgy is so stressful.

Is anyone else, especially the 2nd/3rd timers finding that they already look enormous!! I am already looking about 5 months prgt. I look at myself in a suit, when I'm off to visit a customer and it may as well be stamped on my forehead!!!

I'm not even going to attempt to catch up, but i do really hope that all of you are well and your little bumps are also doing the business!!!!

Hello tis me!!!
Sorry to hear some of you are having dh troubles Grrrrrrr don't they know just to do as they are told, especially whilst we are pg.

redkennedy, my dh is not very into the whole pg'cy thing. He dotes on them once they arrive but I think he finds it hard to react to a bump. It's not really the same for them I suppose, they cant feel anything IYKWIM, it's not happening to them.

SMF,

I find it hard to react to a bump too though. With ds I didn't read any of the books until after he was born. I wasn't interested enough when I was pregnant. I never really touched my bump, probably because ds was a phantom baby that almost never moved, so the whole pregnancy thing wasn't too real until I was in labor.

Hello All. Congratulations to all the people who have had successful scans and hello to the newbies.

Just a flying visit. Been really busy the last couple of days as I have to take next Mon-Wed off for moving house. GGGAAAGGGGH. I hate it.

DH is going to flip when he finds out it's like, £500 more expensive than I thoguht it would be. Too bad now as we have to be out of our flat. We don't exactly have time to shop around! Anyway, weekend will be spent tidying up and sorting things and then packing our clothes and stuff. Movers come Tuesday to pack everything else and they move us on Weds. We're trying to take VERY little to our temporary accomm so that when the proper move happens, we just have to get them to return our crates.

As for the drinking... My friend is over tonight from Dublin and we're having dinner in Asia de Cuba in St Martin's Lane hotel. I love it there. A few people dismiss it as "old hat", but it's my favourite restaurant. And the desserts are HUGE. I digress, what I meant to say is that I FULLY intend to have a cocktail and glass of wine or maybe two! I'm 13 weeks tomorrow, so very little chance of congenital defects now and it's hardly going to get foetal alcohol syndrome from one Caipiroska. I cannot wait. I am actually drooling and I already know what I'm ordering.

And even though I expected to be miserable about the upcoming move, I actually don't care becuase I think

Hi all, just back from my nuchal scan and the news wasn't so good. We havea 1:21 chance of having a baby with downs syndrome. Alot of that is down to my age - I'm an ancient 40 years old, apart from that everything looked good on the scan and they've put me forward by 4 days so I'm 13 weeks tomorrow with an EDD of 19 May. Because of DVT I've got I've also been put on baby aspirin, calcium and folic acid. Next appointment in 4 weeks at the hospital.

peacemakerukuk,

So sorry for your news. At least you have a happy bean in there. Are they going to do any other testing? Also check out the special needs threads, they can give you great advice and support for the downs.

peacemaker, so sorry for your news but stay positive dont think of it in the negative think of it as a 21:1 chance of having a healthy baby. We are all here to support you and listen to any worries you have.

My dh doesnt seem that interested in this baby either. With ds2 he was quite excited but he hasnt even looked at the scan photos yet. I know it wasnt exactly planned (well it was but he changed his mind) and came as a bit of a shock but i thought he had come around to the idea. To be honest though i dont care what he thinks, im the one who has to carry it, go through the pain of labour, will be up all night with it etc so as long as im happy it doesnt bother me what he thinks.

Ds1 looked at my scan pics just now and is so sure it looks like a girl that he has bet me a £1. I think it just looks like an alien

Hi MKG, no, no further tests. We had already decided we weren't going to have any of the invasive tests, what will be will be and we'll deal with things as they occur.

That's a good attitude to take. Just remember that the universe doesn't give us anything we can't handle.

peacemakerukuk, I hope you can stay positve after your news today. Will you have an amnio?

So Sorry peacemakerukuk cross posted with you. Hoping that all turns out as you wish it to. xxx

Peacemakeruk, I have been on MN a loooong time and seen many women have similar or higher risks predicted. Not once have I seen any of them actually have a baby with Downs, or any condition. You have a 95% chance of having a healthy baby with those odds. Will you have any further tests when they're offered? I really will be sending out some positive thoughts for you and your little person.

Hi everybody else, sorry to be quick, got a jacket potato and mackerel going cold in the kitchen...

Happy weekend all!

Peacemaker, stay positive im sure you and your baby will be fine no matter what.

I had an auntie who had a 'surprise' prg at 45 and went on to have Shaunnah, she is gorgeous, crazy, happy and has downs syndrome. They chose not to have any invasive tests either and just said what will be already is and we cant change it. Shaunnah is 11 now and her brothers dote on her as does everyone.

Not sure if you wanted to hear that or if it makes you feel any better but i hope so. At the end of the day there is still a massive chance that your baby is not downs. I hope you still enjoy your prg, whatever happens you still end up with a gorgeous baby downs or not