Due May 2007 - Thread for w/c 06.11.06

[Juicylucythe2nd]

Here you go.

He works in The City. He's at a conference all day today (so i had to sort out rental/ removals etc), then going to a jazz club in town where they've hired Curtis Steiger, of all people (remember him?) to sing for them while they get very drunk. I was invited to the latter part, but now that I'm (a) injured and (b) exhausted with stress and (c) not able to drink; I decided to pass.

Nevertheless, think cooking a couple of chicken fillets last night shouldn't really have been a problem. He said "I would have got a takeaway if I'd known you wanted me to cook." Great. Confiscate my Kinder bars, but fill me with MSG from the chinese takeaway.

So funny TYG, my exp used to be like that. If id known u wanted me to cook id have got a takeaway. This yum new Dh of mine is a great cook, he made me steak and garliky spinach last night so delicious. Shame he is only home for half the year, or just as well or i might be the sze of a house

Just measured myself and am 8 sheets at 14+5. Think thats the same as last week, nust eat more, poor baby fading away in there......

Ditto on the gas front. Have always been a farter, but these days it's open all the windows. DH has to hold his breath when he comes in the bedroom at night

DH is more like MKG's. Has been bringing out surprise puddings / cakes after tea. Bless him. He does all the cooking anyway when he's home, as he loves it and is so much better at it than me.

He's cut down the alc in the week but at the moment is making up for it at w/e's. Hoping he will ease off gradually as I get more pg

The sad, sad thing is that he's actually a very good cook when he can be arsed. Oh GOD I am such a moany cow today.

I have to go to a stupid mandatory Compliance training bllx thing now for an hour. So unfair to tag it on the end of the working day. Booo hooo.

I PROMISE to be in a better mood tomorrow and if I'm not, I shall stay away from MN and not subject you to my self pity.

Hello All, thanks for the very kind messages of support,HELLO to the newbie lady Cinnamontam.Ive called the exs bluff and told him im witholding access till i hear from his solicitor, asim totally fed up with pandering to his whims and getting things sorted for him to change his mind again, this time i want things sorted once and for all!!!havent done the loo roll yet but ive only put on 2lbs so far. xx

you ladies are so funny.
yesterday i was driving home from a cafe with munch and i actually picked up the phone to call mumsnet. for some reason my brain got some wires crossed and i thought i could talk to the thread on my phone. my pregnant brain is getting crazier and crazier.
also, my very first thought this morning was whether or not any of you have gas as bad as mine. i think that statement should be repeated. my very first thought this morning was about your farts. what is going on in my brain? actually, what is going on in my ass? it is like poison air. so stinky but i can get away with it because dh is away until saturday. even when he is here he can't be mad or make fun of me because he has the stinkiest ass of all. always has. i, on the other hand, am one of those people who hardly ever farts but when i do you had better watch out. do you think you know enough about my gas history now? wow, talk about tmi.
mummymel, so sorry you have to deal with such a horrid situation right now. surely if things go to court you will be the victor taking his past behavior into consideration. what a wank.
moomimin, i haven't been round to your pregnancy thread yet but it sounds like you should try not to worry about the measurements. i know you will worry a little no matter what. that is just the way this pregnancy things works. much love being sent your way.
soh, your brother shouldn't have used the word urgent. i guess in his little male brain his situation warranted the use of such a word, but the rest of us know better. men. there seems to be a theme of men being jerks going on here.
cinnamontam, hi and welcome! where is australia will you be? it will be a lovely time of year to visit. my mama lives in perth and i am moving there in february.
tyg, "nads" is one of my favorite words. and i think you should kick him in the nads if he doesn't help out tonight.
pebblemum, your story about the sticky note on your dh's card sounds very familiar to me, and hilarious. my dh and i do stuff like that to each other all the time. i must say that my dh definitely keeps me on my toes.
sorry if i left anyone out. i can't believe munch has allowed me to be on the computer as long as he has.
one more thing moomimin, i know france is a very big country, but do you know anything about the town crolles? that is where dh is at the moment. i sew and am wondering if you know of any good places for dh to get me some fabulous french fabric. thanks.

um, cinnamontam, i meant to ask 'where in australia' not 'where is australia'.

Morning Jess. Thanks, I'm absoulutly, not, am never going to panick any more. lol, tell I watch too much Charlie and Lola with ds.

I've just looked up Crolles on the map, and you are right France is a very big country. Crolles is in the Charetreuse Region. It is about 6hrs drive East from us. I also have to say that Fabric is not really one of my fortay's but I wonder if he could speak to a local that may help him. Sorry I can't be of more help. Lovely area he is in and he is only about an hour from the Alps!! Are you sure he's not getting some crafty sessions on the slopes. He's quite close to Chambery, does he fly into there or into Grenoble?

Hello ladies. Can I ask for your advice on something? It may be a little bit TMI, I'm afraid...

Basically, I had some bleeding earlier on in this pregnancy. It seemed to have calmed down but now, whenever I have a bowel movement, I pass blood stained cervical fluid (and sometimes, a little while later, brown cervical fluid). I mentioned it to my GP last week and he said that, as infection has already been ruled out, all he could do was send me for an early scan but, as I was going for a scan a couple of days later, he suggested waiting until then. As you know, the scan was fine and baby seemed fine (we saw the heartbeat and the baby was moving).

Anyway. Today, I went to the loo, had a bowel movement, and when I cleaned myself, found something scary on the tissue - there was the usual cervical fluid but there was also a lump of something blood stained there. It's hard to describe - it was like a lump of hardened cervical mucus, almost like a smaller version of 'a show'.

I got a bit upset and ended up ringing my MIl for advice - she is the practice manager at my GP's surgery and would have been able to squeeze me in to see the GP, which the receptionist probably wouldn't have. She immediately came around to see me. I showed her what was on the tissue. She asked if I had any abdominal pain or more bleeding, which I haven't. She said that it would be best to just put my feet up and try not to worry and to see if anything else happens. If nothing else does happen, to mention it to my GP at my next ante natal check next Monday.

This seems a sensible way to deal with it but I'm still feeling worried and a little scared. Is something like this going to happen every time I have a bowel movement? Is it going to get worse? Am I doing some damage in there? What the hell can be causing this?

Sorry to go on such a mega-whinge. My husband isn't back from work yet and I've been worrying about this since midday. If anyone has experienced similar or might be able to suggest what's going on, it would be good to hear from you!

Just measured and am 8sheets now at 14+5.

Yup stinky city here as well. Dh keeps moaning at me. Not really much i can do about that though. Do try and blame it on the cat or ds, but dh knows better!

Feeling very crappy today. Cant seem to shift the sick feeling no matter how much i eat. I guess it could be stress of the impending move - this time next week i will be in my new house.

Just ordered some lovely maternity pj's from Next. They are very comfy

Just measured and am 8sheets now at 14+5.

Yup stinky city here as well. Dh keeps moaning at me. Not really much i can do about that though. Do try and blame it on the cat or ds, but dh knows better!

Feeling very crappy today. Cant seem to shift the sick feeling no matter how much i eat. I guess it could be stress of the impending move - this time next week i will be in my new house.

Just ordered some lovely maternity pj's from Next. They are very comfy

Creena - perhaps you could call your hospitals EPU and see what they suggest. Even if it means going there tonight for a reassurance check up/scan.

creena, i haven't had anything like that happen before. it is probably just another one of those things that sometimes happens and is completely harmless, but it wouldn't hurt to call your hospital's epu to see what they think. sorry i can't be of more help.

Creena,
Sorry no advice, but all you can do is relax and wait. Ihope things are good.

One thing a nurse told a friend of mine when she went for her first gyno appointment, I'll never forget it. "After you have sex your body is never the same, and all kinds of thing happen down there and some you can't explain."
Creena your bodies probably doing something weird. Try not to worry too much.

Creena, It's really hard not to worry, I know but it probably is as MKG says, just your body doing "weird" things. I don't think a call to the EPU clinic could do any harm, but they may not be very helpful, waiting unfortunately seems to be the most highly reccomended thing with pg'cy as annoying as it is. The fact that your scan not long ago showed all was well, can only be a good sign.

largeginandtonic - thanks for the message on May postnatal! Glad you're all getting into the much better 2nd trimester (although I dont even remember my second trimester well as that was when I was in hospital having blood transfussions and had pneumonia - never doing pregnancy again! - good job DS is so wonderful and worth it!!) Feel free to email me at [email protected] its just a junk email address so not a problem. Thanks again

D'oh silly computer changed my underscores
address is maple underscore leafs underscore fan at hotmail dot co dot uk. hope that makes sense!

Creena, sorry if this is a stupid question. If it's after a bowel movement, is the blood rectal? Perhaps it's piles, which are bleeding occasionally. Happens to me a lot. Old piles from last pregnancy which are acting up again. They can be internal so you don't know they're there, necessarily. I sometimes get a lump of blood, sometimes jelly-like in the toilet bowel (gross, I know, I know), but it's actually rectal and nothing to worry about.

Thanks everyone for your reassuring words - you've made me feel a lot less worried!

TYG - it's definitely from my front, as I did think whether it might be piles or something as I was a little constipated a while back and so checked for that.

Nothing else has happened since yesterday lunchtime, so I think I'll try not to get all anxious about it, wait and see what happens and mention it at my antenatal appt on Monday.

Thanks again, everyone - I really appreciate your advice.

Oh and I've just done my TPT measurement! I've gone down half a sheet to 8.5 sheets at 11 weeks. I can imagine that it will get more and more difficult to measure myself as time goes on - I wonder how many sheets I'll get to by the end? 30? 40??

Morning all, wow, its very quiet on here this morning This will probably sound like a silly question, especially from someone who's had 2 children previously as I have but how do you know when your next antenatal appointment is? Its probably a bit different for me because at the hospital I will be seen by the medical clinic rather than normal antenatal clinic but since my booking in visit at the hospital I've not been told when I next see someone. Thanks

Morning all - its definitely very quiet on here today!

Peacemaker - I had a booking in visit with midwife at 8 weeks then scan at 12 weeks and was told to make another appointment to see midwife at 16 weeks (for routine checks and extra blood tests). I think after that it is every four weeks until I am 30 weeks then every 2 weeks until 36 weeks then every week after that although I am not sure, I will check notes nearer the time.

I have been struggling to keep up with the chat for the last few say so sorry I'm not ignoring anyone or any questions - I just can't remember who said what etc!! Pregnancy hormones to blame!

How many weeks are you, Peacemaker?

I think that, unless your pregnancy is high risk and you need additional monitoring, there's a set pattern for ante natal appointments. For example, I had my booking in appt with my midwife at 8 weeks. As ante natal care is shared between my community midwife and GP, my next appt is with my GP at 12 weeks and the one after that is with my midwife at 16 weeks. It is very much up to me to make the appointments, though. The midwife or GP will tell me when my next appt is due and who it should be with and I then have to go and make the appointment. As your pregnancy progresses, the appointments will become more frequent - the standard seems to be every 4 weeks until you get to 28 weeks, then every three weeks until you get to 34 weeks and then every fortnight until you get to 40 weeks. If you go past 40 weeks, the appointments are weekly.

When you have your booking in visit - not sure if you have had yours yet - you should be given a set of pregnancy notes; there'll be a section in there detailing appointments and their frequency. Who ever books you in should fill this out with whatever detail is relevant to how things are done where you live.

Hope this helps - it's how things are done where I live but I appreciate that there may be variations across the country.

Hi Creena, I'm 12 weeks. I had my booking in visit at about 8 weeks too, then had an appointment with the medical clinic consultant because this is a high risk pregnancy, had all my bloods taken, have an appointment this Friday with a haematologist and my nuchal scan in the afternoon and then nothing after that. My notes don't say when I see anyone.

Hi there Peacemaker - normally, I'd suggest that your next appointment is probably due at around 16 weeks but as your pregnancy is high risk, this may not be the case. If I were you, I'd get hold of a number for your community midwife (your GP's surgery should be able to give this to you) and give her a ring. If you get no joy here, I'd ring your GP's surgery and ask there too. It might be reassuring to see your midwife anyway (am I right in thinking that you haven't seen her yet?) to talk about your pregnancy and to go through how your ante natal appointments will be structured. I always think that it helps to get to see your midwife early on and get to know her a bit, as well as making her aware of the detail of your pregnancy.

Just a suggestion - sorry if I sound a bit bossy!