April 2015 - thread 17. The babies are still coming thick and fast, waving Pom poms a plenty in support!

[PenguinPoser]

Felt we might need a new thread to get through the night feeds and labours!

Thanks - I had a swab just over a week ago which only showed thrush. Got some treatment for that. Perhaps I should wait and see I'd that helps first? I don't feel unwell. Any sign of temps or anything though and I'll get straight to the Dr. Lochia is gross, end of

Daholster I echo what smog says RE infection. I've got some antibiotics to avoid infection as wound slightly open. Midwife checked again today n asked again if I knew what the signs of infection are which is smelling and/or fluey symptoms. They are checking again for me on Thursday to keep on top of it so it doesn't get to the infection stage. Do get it checked if you can even if it just makes you feel better, it could just be a slightly different smell but better to get some antibiotics earlier on if you need them.

Just refreshed page and saw that you've replied so yes see what thrush treatment does as I suppose that wouldn't help the smell.

Wine (or anyone else too!) what does the HV do in first postnatal visit? I met her before DS was born and it was just general health questions and all of that. Midwife comes out regularly every few days, mainly because of my stitches, but have checked him each time because of jaundice (which has now gone thankfully), and his umbilical cord infection which has now gone/going too. He's also had heel prick test, and as we stayed in hospital extra few days, he had a paediatrician come round and do checks in there.
So what else could the HV possibly do that hasn't already been done/checked? She is coming next week.

Anyone else not finding the time to eat? Obviously DS is only a week old so still a whirlwind of nappies, feeds, sleep/no sleep, so I didn't have anything to eat until 12pm today, and haven't been having lunch during the day either. I just don't feel like there's time?

RL I totally know what you mean but you must eat! If you don't you'll have even less energy to deal with the tiredness. Even if you leave baby to cry for 5 min while you make a sandwich, take bouncy chair into the kitchen with you. I've learnt to eat over dd while feeding her and drink through a straw!
I think at the initial visit hv checks baby over again and weighs again, and she talked about safe sleeping again...! It was quite a bit of repetition to be honest but I think thru always like to see baby in the first couple of weeks. They'll check how you're coping too once midwife discharges you.

And get your DP to make you food when he's in!

Did you manage to find a quiet corner BrixtonBunny? Dh and I had a coffee and cake as its my last day off and had to feed Sam but we were in a nice quiet seat

RL20 paediatrician in hospital is standard before you leave hospital, I had to go back the next day with ds2 as we wanted to go home that night and sleep at home. My hv took lots of bits out of the red book to keep a record of, would have weighed baby had midwife not done it that morning. She talked about feeding, sleeping, registering ds with Dr, vaccinations, toddler groups in and out of the children's centre and the clinic that runs out of there to weigh baby and talk to a hv about any concerns. She also asked about any birth marks to make a note of to save any problems later if they get noticed, which I don't remember with my other two. Also mentioned coping with crying which she said she wouldn't need to talk to me about as I had two already. She also booked at 6 week appintment with me which I remember they did a pnd questionnaire at with ds1&2. You will find that any problems you have with your ds (not General illness) you will need to go through the hv not your gp. When I wanted to get a referral for ds1's speech Dr said they don't deal with under 5's so go to the hv's so they keep a record of development of your child as well as doing checks at 9months and 2 years here. Mine was actually quite helpful talking about hospital with me as she used to be a paediatric nurse in a hospital.

And I agree RL20, make sure you eat! A few mins to make a sandwich or heat a tin of soup will make you feel much better

Hi all! Been away for so long!
Seems like u are all getting on pretty well. Nice t know your not on your own in the early hours!
Just t let u know I gave birth t Seth Nicholas John mundy 9lbs on the 19th with gas and air. Unfortunately as he was so big I did quite a bit of damage with a fourth degree tear so two days in hospital epidural for extensive stitching.
Seth has a bad tongue tie so I'm now formula feeding. Been back a week and trying t get t grips with everything.. I gave sobbed on more than one occasion when he won't settle..so hard sometimes!x

Congratulations chiliplant!

I think she might be going to sleep... 10 hours of cluster feeding with only 10-20 mins in between since 10am! I'm sooooo tired!!!!

Cinnamon, hope your first day back at work is ok.

Congratulations Chilliplant. Hope you are recovering well and enjoying your little one.

Was sick earlier today and DH took me out for dinner but still didn't feel well,so he ended up eating my dinner instead. My back is really sore tonight. Sitting with hot water bottle but really tempted to take some co-codamol otherwise they'll be no way I'll sleep. Got hospital tomorrow but feeling a bit scared about leaving the house cause I feel so uncomfortable.

Hope you feel better soon kismac or things get moving!

I spoke too soon. screaming and feeding just in time for my dinner to go cold!

Congratulations chilliplant! Sorry to hear about your nasty tear though - wishing you a smooth recovery.

Oh gosh littlegreycat that's a mammoth feed hope it means you're in for a good night!

I need reassurance oh wise people... Me and dh just are some chicken breasts that were slightly undercooked in the middle - well his was definitely not sure about mine. Paranoid now that we are going to get food poisoning and main worry is feeding and looking after dd! Surely it's not inevitable though? I'm going to worry for the next 3 days

Kismac sorry you're still feeling so rubbish. At least as you said earlier the end is definitely in sight. You're a star for the way you're coping with the sickness and everything.

Sounds like things may be happening kismac? Sorry you couldn't eat your meal out hanks for the well wishes, at least dh is still home the rest of this week and next week is only a 4 day week

Congratulations chiliplant and sorry to hear about your tear really hope it heals well. Think we've all had a good sob once or twice since giving birth!

Just told him I don't feel like I can't get emotional in front of him because of what he said the other night (the postnatal depression thing) and ended up getting emotional anyway. 1 day I want to be left completely alone and the other I just want help with things. I appreciate he has to be up at 5am and doesn't get back until 7/8pm but it's just hard

And PenguinPoser, wouldn't worry about the chicken. It's certainly not inevitable and you won't need to worry for 3 days, if it's food poisoning you'll know by the time morning comes!

Don't think my first post worked. Just basically said please tell me it gets better - feel so emotional and fed up with oh. My emotions are worse now than they were when pg

It's hard all round RL20! You're coping with your body recovering, you hormones all over the place, the responsibility of a little person all the time and lack of sleep and he's coping with not being sure what to do/say for the best, tiredness, and hopefully the same/similar feeling of responsibility. I hope that you manage to communicate your feelings to him and he's a bit more sensitive with his response!

Thanks cinnamon. Fingers crossed we are ok! I don't think the chicken was defrosted properly

RL I promise it does get better. Not every day is better. But the general trend is. Doesn't seem like your OH has had much time off? It's harder being by yourself. Is your mum around much to help? I remember you saying she's quite close by. You're doing great are there any baby groups or anything close by that you could go to to get out of the house a little bit? Hope your OH is looking after you though. I know he's at work but being at home with baby is like a 24:7 job.

Oh RL it does get better but I think it'll only get easier if you get the support from your OH that you need and making sure you have food etc. The crying does ease off I think, but I still cry from time to time and DS is 17 days old today.

Hope work is okay cinnamon. Glad your OH is still off to support you.

DS is on a crazy feed.... not liking forward to him realising his tummy hurts and is overfull!

Still not asleep every time I put him down he either wakes instantly or 5 mins after I've got into bed. Dh is snoring and in just want to hit him right now!! Not his fault but 1.5hrs of trying to settle a baby who was fast asleep on me downstairs is making me slightly irrational!

Still not asleep here either cinnamon dd is cluster feeding and won't be put down. I'm tired and my back aches hope you get to sleep soon or DH stops snoring.

I'm up already for feeding,,, don't know what happened to my baby that slept 5,5 hours a few nights ago..
Sorry others are still up too. Cinnamon hope things go well with work. Do you mind me asking - does having another DC of your own affect how many mindees you can have? Also I know there are rules about how many of what age etc, do CM's generally charge more for younger babies as it means they can have less older children? I'm contemplating childcare options for when I go back to work.
I understand what you mean about wanting to hit dh just because he dares to sleep!

Wine make sure you've got enough pillows and cushions to prop baby up and save your back!

Finally managed to catch up I think.
RL yes I'm struggling to find time to eat or I'm just not that hungry in the day. Today I didn't eat till 12 either as DH had taken DD and I slept till 11. It was bliss but confused the rest of my day. I just don't appear to be snacking very much anymore.

Just done first night feed and she is asleep on my chest. DH is snoring and DD1 has just snuck in wanting a drink but has yet to go back. 4 in a bed is a bit of a squish. Need to try and settle this one in her basket so I can get back to sleep myself. Here's hoping I can get her settled.

Still up... Did not settle into basket but I'm now alone in bed. DH went to put DD1 back and has nodded off in her bed with her again. Lucky sod. Potentially only 2 more feeds till I can hand her over then it's sleepy time for me all morning again.

I turned off the tumble drier which is under his room, in case it was disturbing him and one more feed got him off. Just up now after four hours. Hoping I manage another couple of hours after this feed!

Yes it does affect your numbers PenguinPoser but if you already have the maximum and have a baby you can keep them all under continuity of care rules so those children can stay with you and the same rules apply if one of your mindees has a sibling cone along, you can go over the stated number to accommodate them, or an existential my child changes hours. The ratios are a total of 6 children under 8 (ds1 just turned 8 Monday so I still have 2 children of my own who take up spaces. Of those 6, 3 can be in the early years (0-5years and not at school) and of those 3 only one can be under 1. So because i have ds2 I can have two other 0-5 year old mindees at any time, now Sam is here will actually have 4 some days but if current ones left I couldn't replace them if that makes sense. Ds2 starts school in September so will be back to one of my own taking a 0-5 space then. Yes some minders charge more for under 1's as you can only have one (again you can have two of it's twins for continuity of care for parents) but I dont. I'm in quite a poor area so can't charge a lot, in the town where our hospital is childminders charge £2+ an hour more than I do as there's a lot more money and potential customers!!