April 2015 - thread 17. The babies are still coming thick and fast, waving Pom poms a plenty in support!

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Felt we might need a new thread to get through the night feeds and labours!

X-posts kismac sorry to hear your body isn't gearing up after all but each contraction is doing something, it's probably softening or thinning the cervix rather than dilating it.

Oh Kismac! It's rubbish isn't it lots! Lots of people have irregular contractions or start off with frequent ones that aren't especially strong, then build up. They will get stronger and stuff will happen. Sounds like you are on your way, just need a little longer.

Have you got Netflix or any good DVDs to while away the time?

Nothing happening here. I'm going to clean this pigsty of a house, go for a brisk walk, then have an afternoon nap, then cook something nice for dinner.

I've put on Facebook that it's my due date today. FFS Cowbiscuits. Why on earth did I do that?

Have had to ring for the mw, someone has gone yellow luckily when I rang up my horrible mw was on a home birth and not on rotation today so I'll get someone else just got to wait till they ring me or turn up.

DH is driving me crazy! Place is a tip and he is just sat playing in his PS4. Meanwhile I've been pottering around trying to sort washing. I said something to him before and he said in a minute. I keep asking for drinks as I'm super thirsty and I just get in a minute and it never appears. He has just announced he needs the loo then will Hoover up, then I'll get my drink. Might as well go stick the kettle on myself.

Morning! Sorry to jump in and ask for advice, but... since giving birth I've had a few episodes of blurry vision / shiny lights in my eyes. Is this normal? Clearly am massively freaking out that I might have a stroke or some other nasty brewing, but I'm sure I've heard of pregnancy / post-partum vision changes? Otherwise feeling fine. Has anyone else experienced this?

Happy due date Cowbiscuits. Uh oh, never announce your due date. Cue lots of irritating messages.

Oh no Lauren. Hope your little one is ok.

Going to go and be grumpy in the garden. Hmmm.

Me too Kismac let's hope she thinks it's not bad enough for blood tests.

lauren ds went yellow, yellow eyes, they kept a close eye on wet and dirty nappies and alertness. He had one day where he was drowsy and I had to keep waking and reminding him for feeds but the nappies were still OK and we stayed at home. I got told to just feed feed feed and put him in the window/outside. Hopefully it will be the same for you.

kismac poor you, how frustrating!

Just back from Dr, thinks maybe ds has thrush in nappy rash. We've tried canesten for 3 days already with metanium to no avail. He has open bleeding sores on his bottom Dr is not agreeing with me that he has thrush in his mouth though. Everyone keeps telling me its a milk tongue. Yes it's at the back but it has cursy bits on it and every day it's thicker and whiter. Today my nipples have started tingling and burning constantly, are link in the middle, and since last night latching is painful all over again Dr still non committal. I told her I am going to start miconazole on my boobs and daktarin oral gel in his mouth anyway, I'm not leaving it. She suggested canesten with hydrocortisone in for his bottom and if its not better by Monday then we have a swab to do and send off to check for other infection.

What infuriates me is dd's thrush started out looking like this. I wasn't aware enough last time. We had horrendous problems with feeding because of it and it was awful. But people don't listen. If he had thrush in his nappy rash its possibly coming from his poo right? Which comes from the food which goes through his mouth from my boobs, let's blooming well treat it all!!! I'm so irritated, my poor little boy has such a poorly sore bottom and cries with the saddest face. And now my boobs and feeding are getting sore all over again

RL don't over think it. He is TEENY. He's not used to be being alone. All babies are different. Dd happily settled in her crib. D wants lots more cuddles. We'll keep working on it but right now we will do what he needs. They've been cosied in our tummies for ages and then suddenly they get left all by themselves, tiny and vulnerable, they must feel very vulnerable on their own. So for now, cuddles are just fine and we will keep trying to put him down until he works out that's OK too. And put up with the lack of sleep!!!

Curdy bits on his tongue. And nipple middle a are pink. Honestly.

We are off to the chilly beach as a family of 4! hoping my boobs can manage to try the sling...

Hope baby is okay Lauren and Brixton, that isn't normal and sounds like what the midwife asks about. Worth getting checked out as can be a sign of eclampsia.

Hope you have a nice day at the beach daholster and the park Penguin

Lauren my comm mw seemed unconcerned about DS's jaundice, said it was v common and told me that provided nappies normal (clear urine, orangey yellow poos) and he could stay alert for periods of time I didn't need to worry.

Has anyone has different advice? Am sensing that there might be different opinions on jaundice and having a bit of a panic! DD didn't have it. DS does sleep a lot of the time but so did DD for first two weeks, both section babies so tend to take a bit longer to 'wake up' having not had to battle their way out down the birth canal.

Mw has been just asked me if she was waking up to feed and as my milk has only just come in said keep feeding her and leave her in the window. Which she is already. She has bumped my Monday visit to Sunday afternoon though so that's good.

Hope your baby is ok Lauren. We had full on jaundice (spotted in the hospital, kept in, very drowsy and wouldn't breast feed as BF requires energy which she didn't have) but I know from friends a lot of babies have a milder version whereby it's dealt with by feeding loads and sunlight. Hope it's just that.

I've timed my posting just right as it seems to be topic of conversation. I posted in reply to Lauren last night about jaundice as OH's grandma had commented that he might have a touch of it.
Midwife has been today and asked if the dad was mixed race and wen I replied no but he is olivey skinned, she held him and stood by the natural light in the window and said that he does seem to have a touch of jaundice .

Smogs my midwife today also said similar things, as long as he's alert, feeding regularly around every 3 to 4 hours if it's around 30ml a feed (I'm bottle feeding), and that he's doing regular wees and poos. I cleared a small poo up during the night but had nothing since other than a very wet nappy, so will be waiting for the next poo.

She said he also has a slight infection on his umbilical cord . Apparently signs to look out for is a smell, which I hadn't smelt because obviously I wouldn't know to, so cue crying to her but she did say it's nothing I have done it can happen, and more so with boys as their wee can go on to it.
So waiting for the doctors to ring me back before 2 because she wants them to prescribe a cream for it, as she doesn't come from that doctors. Haven't registered his birth yet so obviously haven't even registered him at the doctors yet, so I had to send my mum to the doctors to register him there but apparently it's difficult because he hasn't got a name yet (he's only 3 days old and you get 6 weeks to register the birth!). So waiting for them to ring me. Really need that cream today!

She checked my stitches, no infection but some bruising on the right side where I have been getting the pain. So will be taking some painkillers when I'm out the bath as paracetamol has done nothing.
Aching all over and struggling to walk properly and get up from the settee/bed.
Also told me to take the iron tablets that I've been given because my iron levels are 8.5 or something, so in pregnancy it would be classed as having anaemia. I can take them alongside some laxative stuff (one of you mentioned it last night to me but I can't remember who or what it's called, sorry!).
Omg have just bought and felt like a boulder was coming out of down below ouch .

Have still had no sleep, absolutely shattered, seem to be running on some sort of adrenaline or something. My mum is here but it's the first time since being in hospital that she's seen baby so we've been chatting a little bit, she bought round some stuff etc, then we gave him his first bath. She is doing some washing for me now whilst I have a bath. Don't feel like I'll be able to sleep though unless I can get half an hour in whilst she's here, because of waiting for the doctor to ring! 10 minutes to go now if they remember!

OH's daughter is coming to stay this weekend as it's her weekend to stay. Really don't feel up to it, he knows I won't be entertaining her like normal etc, and she has told her mum that she's excited to see her little brother again (she met him in hospital the other day). I just hope that OH will make her understand that he isn't to be prodded and stroked all the time, it sounds awful but I just don't want anyone near him especially a 6 year old. I know I sound awful and she is his sister but I feel so emotionally drained I just want it to be us 3 this weekend as we've only had one night the 3 of us together at home (last night) and it was OH's first day back at work today.
I'm just shattered.....
And my milk has came in. My boobs are so huge, hard and sore ohhhh

And sorry Lauren I started talking about u but forgot to add an actual question! I've read back now and glad to hear they're bumping your appointment for Sunday.
I've asked the midwife to come and check my stitches again and she can do Sunday, but if busy will be Monday. And I'm glad because then she can check baby again.

Oh and to add to my list of today's woes, I still haven't washed my hair - haven't got the energy, and have just realised that I have only eaten half of a belvita bar and a few skittles today. Oh and a bit of caterpillar chocolate cake. Where is the time going....

RL after your bath let your mum cuddle your little boy and try and get some rest/sleep you sound shattered.

Daholster I hope you get the thrush sorted, his bottom sounds really sore.

Im annoyed sat in waiting for health visitor since 11am and just had a phone call to rearrange for Tuesday as she is running behind. I could have had a nap or gone for a walk if I had known earlier. Midwife due at 3pm to weigh Eleanor so might have a snooze on the sofa until she gets here.

Ds1 had jaundice Lauren82000 and I wasn't told to feed lots as other we're just to it him by the window and in the garden. Midwives weren't too worried so I guess its quite common and if she's coming Sunday she will obviously be keeping an eye on your dd. a give your dh a kick up the bum from me, I'd be tempted to hide the ps4

Sorry they're not listening to you daholster, it took my midwife and hv pushing at the gp to be treated for thrush and gp even had to look up what to prescribe so I guess some are less familiar with it than other things. Also heard of many gp's only treating baby and not mum. Thrush doesn't necessarily have to be from the mouth to be on his bum though. If your boobs can't cope with the sling you will have to get dh wear it

I would say a 6 year old should be ok with prodding and poking RL20, ds1 is much gentler than ds2! Make sure dp does his fair share with his dd and try to embrace your time as an extended family, I know it's tough at times.

That sucks wineandchoccy!!!!!!

Been shopping with ds3 in the sling for ds1's birthday. Tomorrow is cake making day and I'm actually feeling quite capable today

Ooh cinnamon, impressed you have the energy to cook.

Hope you're feeling better RL.

Thanks for everyone's comments on jaundice. You start to see symptoms that probably aren't there if you look hard enough.

RL get some sleep or you won't be able to manage. It's the single most important thing when it comes to coping with a newborn I'd say.

Lauren I second what cinnamon said about the computer games FFS. I can only assume you give a v good impression of being uber capable, making him think it's ok not to pull his weight a bit more.

We have been discharged from the midwife today. Eleanor has put on weight she is still not back to birth weight but the midwife is happy that she is gaining.

Hi guys hope everyone's well.

Cinnamon- cake making? Iv said it before u r a legend!

My OH today announced he's formatted the memory card on our camera- thus losing loads of first week baby picks! Luckily I have taken loads on my phone or I would b devastated!

You are so right smogs about starting to see things that aren't there.

When should the colouring start to fade? He isn't hugely yellow otherwise midwife would have said he needs treatment etc. But it just makes me nervous .

Managed to get an hours sleep in on the settee whilst little one is asleep in Moses basket next to me. He has had 2 quite big feeds close together so that might be why!
Going to try and get in a routine with him, although obviously he is only 3 days old so I won't hold out too much hope! .

Thanks FiRaffe, the nap had made me feel about 1% more sane so it's a start!

Ivegotacavetroll glad you have some newborn pictures saved! I must get mine printed off or saved to something else as there is just my phone! Of course the ones that I have put on my Facebook too.

How is everyone?
Day 3 has been so emotionally exhausting so far!

Glad you feel a bit better RL and the emotions are exhausting.

I'm struggling with stabbing pains in my right boob, but no signs of anything. It doesn't hurt all the time and sometimes it's even more comfortable when he's feeding than on left boob after he's chomped for let down. I will have to see how it feels on Monday when I can go to the doctors

Hurrah wine

I find it funny that my GP rang today to say my vagonal swab the midwife took shows I have thrush!!! Lol!!! Blooming well overrun!!!

Maybe not from his poo cinnamon you are right, I know it lives on skin. But excessive poos, white mouth, poorly bum, poorly nipples. I just think it's not rocket science and it pisses me off that I am ending up self treating. Hope we have got it early enough not to need tablets.

Dh is pissing me off. Beach was OK but chilly. Nan and grandad (his parents) ended up not being able to come last minute because they found out their MOT had lapsed We thought we might nip in on the way home instead since they sounded disappointed and dd had been en on about seeing them. Dd wouldn't get off the beach so dh said "come on do you want to go and see nan and grandad?" So she ran back to the car. When we got home she said "oh, not nan and grandad's" - dh had decided we were all a bit tired (I fell asleep in the car". We were all awake when we got home, and he said he'd speak with them. When grandad rang he invited us over (its only 10 mins in the car). And dh told grandad we were all a bit tired to come. When I challenged him that we were all awake he said he had been driving and needed a sleep. He had a sleep but when I asked if we were going out then, he said no. So I told him not to tell dd things if we weren't going to do them because she will stop trusting that we will do what we say. She won't listen and why should she? He said OK, but I'm still annoyed and pretty sad for dd.

Then I had to stop playing with dd to feed ds. Ds had been having no nappy time. He got annoyed when I asked him to put a nappy on just while I fed him (I'm not going to try to balance the towel and feed too!!!) So dh played playdoh with dd while I fed (and still am) but left her after 5 mins to play alone while he went to tidy the kitchen. I looked over and felt so sad for her talking to us with no response and playing by herself. I know she'll be OK but it made me sad and I voiced it, dh jumped down my throat and said it wasn't helpful, we aren't there any more.

So I'm left here feeding feeling furious with him for letting dd down and still struggling with the change in the family dynamic myself, and he's just cross the house is a mess (he's been working hard to sort it).

Well whatever. I just hope he doesn't notice the tears rolling down my face because I can't be arsef to justify myself.

Well I think I must be putting on a good show. I also made lunch and no doubt I'll be reheating the chicken curry my mum made for us later. I also brewed up when my mum came round as DH was picking DD up from nursery. My mum said I'm like the little Chinese woman in the paddy field. Pop a baby out and carry on working... I'm tired but not that exhausted like I was first time round. Think the quick labour contributed to it.

And now I'm worried about her stump she caught it with her foot when I was changing her and now it looks like a bit of it has come away on one side.