December 2015 #2

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As the 1st trimester sets in, its all sick-bags, ginger tea and laxatives! All aboard!

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I really want to get to the "movie" part of the pregnancy. You know, the part where you're glowing, doing yoga like it's going out of fashion and you don't look pregnant at all from behind. It's totally going to happen, right?

ThreeBean that's the spirit. Channel the power of the hormones :)

Welcome to the newbies

I've got my booking in tomorrow! Is it weird that I'm really excited? I will hopefully start to feel pregnant once I've seen a midwife, the symptoms aren't enough lol!

Hello to all the newbies and congratulations!

Ive got my scan a week saturday, I am still feeling nervous as I just have a bad feeling and no symptoms yet really.

I'll post more when it's real.

Oh FX for you terry, I know that nervous feeling - hope it all goes well!

Hi newbies!

Blue - you can switch whenever you want. I started my antenatal care in a different city to home (uni), changed to my local hospital at 20 weeks and then changed to another hospital I was happier with at 30 weeks in my last pregnancy.

I have my booking in on May 18th, I'll be 9+4 and it's the day after my private scan which works out quite well. The days are dragging though. Iv had zero energy today and just feel so sick poor DS has had me laid on the floor while he potters around me. I'm away the week I'm 12 weeks but hoping that a scan at 9 weeks will mean I don't mind waiting until 13 weeks.

chandlers thanks for the info, would be interested to know any details. Think NIFTY is the same thing. I am actually flying straight to Phuket, I think you can have blood taken anywhere and sent to Bangkok. I need to do more research! But I will hopefully be 10 weeks when I am there. Been in Qatar a loooong time, currently 40C and climbing!

florixora my company want to terminate me even though I have had a stellar year. I am cynical as year-end is 30th April and I am due a massive bonus. Waiting to hear what they offer me. Fortunately I am very well-versed in labour laws here and they are required to pay bonus if they dismiss. Really hope I don't have a big fight on my hands... So far nothing in writing.

36 hours til my scan. So nervous.

Argh my mum is having a shit time (deaths, accidents, suicide and illness all around) and I am dying to tell her my good news, but I really want to have my scan first. - tantrum over -

Haribo - I think everyone here hears you about those interminable days...

I walked two bus stops further than needed this evening, that's my small victory. (I also didn't puke all over Liverpool Street Station). What an overachiever I am

Jebel Sorry didn't see your post. I'm glad you can defend your interests. Do you want to stay in the company? Or is there bad blood? Get a massive severance pay if you can. Keep us posted! Very exciting/nerve-racking re scan. Wish you all the best.

florl, I know what you mean about wanting to tell your mom to bring some joy. I feel the same, but will wait til we go home. It will be so exciting to see their faces in person! And congrats for walking! We will be second trimester yoginis before we know it

flora I know how you feel. My mum lost her dad a few weeks ago, is really ill and work is rubbish. I am desperate to tell her, but want to have my scan to check all ok first. I feel like I am lying every time italk to her.

jebel good luck!

Flora I told mum as soon as I found out as she is going through a serious medical problem at the moment-it really lifted her and I would need her support should anything go wrong.

I had my booking in today as I think as I am very low risk second birth it was all very straightforward with lots of form filling. I did have a good chat about the possibility of home birth though

Shiny I feel like that too. With all the people I care about, I don't want to see my friends, because I just can't "lie" to them like that. Pregnancy doesn't always get on with Reason, eh?

afloat I look forward to it :P

Now, when do I tell my BFF about my BFP when she's been waiting for hers for 3 yrs? She'll be about to embark on IVF no. 2 by the time I'll be 17 wks. I thought I should tell her soon, so she has time to "hate" me (I got my BFP at first try) and grieve and not see me, and then she should be less shocked, less sad and be more able to concentrate on her when her time comes. What do you ladies think?

Tricky Fior.

I would say ASAP as 17 weeks it's going to be hard to hide. She might also feel bad that you felt you couldn't say.

abi enjoy your booking in! I'd be excited too. jebel good luck with your scan!

flor and shiny if you want to tell your mums I would. Mine had a similarly tough time just after I told her and I know she really was glad to have something positive in the midst of it all.

flor I would just tell your friend too. It will be really tough for her but if you don't tell her she'll feel pitied and left out if others know. It's not easy but i would get it together over with then leave it up to her to bring it up again or not.

Thanks Haribo, good to know that you changed several times with no probs. DH and I might be moving flat, so might need to move hospital. Watch this space!

flor I agree you should tell your friend as soon as possible to get it over with. It's going to be hard for her no matter when/how you do it, but unfortunately there's not much you can do about that. Just be sensitive and accept that she might feel angry or sad about the situation, but it sounds like you're already expecting this.

ThreeBean There is no doubt in my mind that she must be the very first friend to know. She is the person I can tell really gross things too. :) But I also feel desperately sad and angry for her (even before I was TTCing) that awful unfairness.

What's the consensus on method of sharing the news to her? I read on here that messages may be better so the receiver of the news can assimilate the news in their own private manner. It feels a bit cold sending a message.

flor does she know you were planning on ttc or will it come as a complete surprise?

Um... I never expected to have to do this but I have just POAS and there are two lines. So, looks like I may need to join you.

I have no idea what happens now. Bit of a surprise.

Congrats Magik! Is this your first? Welcome

Flor - I was TTC with fertility problems for over 18 months. My best friend conceived in that time (first cycle!) and in fact gave birth last week. They told us face to face on Skype and I went into 'happiness overdrive shock' which I think was just the emotional jolt it gave me - lol - but luckily it came across like unreserved joy. Once we logged off I went and cried on my bed! Not because I wasn't happy but because it just seemed so unfair. I'm now in a similar situation because I have a very good friend here who is having a lot of trouble, and they want to meet up soon. With my own experience I had decided to tell them by message first so that they can arrive prepared. I don't want my news to provoke a horrible shock and tears if they can't hold it together at that particular moment.

Well done for thinking about it though, you're clearly a very considerate friend!

Jebel don't worry, Phuket will still be good!! I was there this time last year. You get them the odd cloudy day and a few storms but I love watching them... they are so dramatic. You should look up Bangkok Hospital Phuket - I believe from other expats that's the best one. I think there are three international ones on the island, to cash in on/cater for 'holiday surgery tourism'...

I have to admit being pregnant in this humidity is a bit rank in those moments when you're feeling sick - not the weather for beach huts with no air con! Although to be honest if there's not really many of those left on Phuket... Sure you've got something swanky lined up with air con!

I have so much more energy today than yesterday! It feels so good not to want to go back to bed instead of working (slowly).

About telling a friend, I have a similar problem. My very good friend miscarried pretty late last year. Telling her by message is not a bad idea, though it might be a bit cold.

Morning! I'm 7 weeks today and feel sick! Hope everyone is ok today. Had cramps in the night but think I just had trapped wind which is so painful isn't it? Clinging on to my early scan next week.x

Welcome newbies

I'm in a similar position with a close family member, they lost theirs at 10 weeks!!