Christmas and new years babies thread!

[CuppaSarah]

Just got my bfp positive today and am thinking we need a thread for all the babies that will be born around new years and Christmas. I'm due new years eve and just know I'll be sick of the comments real quick! So we can vent and plan low stress xmases together.

I know we have the December thread and will have the January one, but why the hell not there's room for everyone!

I'm reading expecting better. I still haven't touched any coffee though, I just don't feel like it. I'm using up the pregnacare conception before I get the pregnancy one.

I haven't been so good at the not telling people, I'm rubbish with secrets. I wish we hadn't bothered telling MIL though as her lack of enthusiasm upset me.

Why was she so unenthusiastic? That seems so harsh!

We told people after the 1st scan last time (except boss as I was so poorly), but would prob tell a bit sooner this time. I'm so sorry to read that you're suffering from anxiety Cuppa - it sounds awful at your work (at least all the extra stuff and no breaks when expected) and I hope things get easier for you v soon. When do you think you'll tell them at work?

I just spent hours and hours in ikea on a bank holiday. It was SO busy, dd frantic and I felt nauseous. Morning sickness here I come...

Queazy they've known as long as I have! I couldn't avoid it. But they're still being awkward! You are brave facing IKEA today! I struggled with tesco

It's weird people not knowing, we told everyone asap last time. Sorry about your mil NoArmarni, some people are just a bit rubbish. Was everyone else happy?

Joey I'm on superdrugs own brand pregnancy supplements and I'm reading my everyday pregnancy book. It's nice to have a little snippet to read each day, but not so exciting second time round!

I've done nothing today! I'm still in my dressing gown. Ikea is very brave on a bank holiday.

The first thing MIL said was that the health visitor will judge our kitchen (it's dated, needs replacing but we can't afford it) then she told me I shouldn't stop work as early as 36 weeks! My own mum is so excited, I thought she'd be the same, especially as this will be MILs first grandchild and my mum's third.

Sorry your work is being so crap Sarah, it's stressful enough being pregnant without the extra stress

Pfft, health visitors judging dated kitchens! if that was the case our 90s lounge and hordendous 80s inspired hallway would have dd in foster care. No excuse for her crapness, some people love being miserable. You never know she may surprise you when baby comes along.

Cheers about work, I'm just at breaking point. Im sure once I get.my head straight it'll be fine again.

Cuppa have you had a risk assessment? Push for one if you've not had one and if you have push for them to stick to it. Also start addressing your concerns in writing - your health is more important at the moment.

Wow second that, if the HV saw my 80's conservatory we'd never see dd again I do think that was unkind and pretty rude of your MIL. One of the first people I told with dd asked if it was planned. Married, mid-30's etc, so hardly a big shocker. I always find that a weird comment.

Hello again everyone! Been offline a while and slowly catching up on all the talk here. I'm 5+4 today and don't feel pregnant at all. I did a test this morning to check I'm still pregnant and I am! No sickness or other symptoms yet, which makes me worry a bit!

JoeyBun thanks for the advice! Vowel is just going to be a total diva throughout this process I think, but have managed to get the old girl into action every now and then so not as panicked now!!

Cuppa - you are protected by UK employment law once you become pregnant, and it doesn't sound like your company are either aware of this let alone sticking to it! Please read the health and safety section here:
www.gov.uk/working-when-pregnant-your-rights
If they can't take away the risks from your job then they are legally obliged to suspend you on full pay. If they do not stick to this then you have grounds for legal action against them. That might be scary but you need to prioritise yourself and your baby, not their feelings!!

I love that Expecting Better book by the way - it's the only book I've bought and read on pregnancy and it's brilliant. Really puts all the random advice into perspective. And also means I can happily keep eating sushi... Boom

*BOWEL not vowel! Although vowel sounds much nicer. Hahahahaha.

In other news I'm 7+3 today (symptoms are ludicrous tits, nausea that has become so par-for-the-course I barely notice it anymore, and exhaustion!) and have my early dating scan tomorrow - am starting to get a bit anxious! Am preparing myself for bad news for no reason other than my own sanity! Had a lot of fertility investigations last year so I have seen my empty uterus on a screen many, many times before and never come out of one of those appointments with good news. So am fully anticipating breaking down into a total teary mess either way! lol!!!

Hope everyone else is getting on OK... Any other early scans coming up? X x

Eeek I'm so excited about your scan Chandlers! I forget there's a time difference with you, so we'll have to wait a little longer to hear how it goes!

Apparently a risk assessment has been done, but it culminates in that I must use my judgement and risk assess at the start of each job. I've has to kick back a lot of work because it's entirely unsuitable (like up a ladder behind the front door or a busy building site). I also have to call someone up to help me with stock pick ups. Yet no one is ever available so I just have to do it. Also kicking back jobs makes more work for everyone and there's a lot of quiet pressure to just suck it up and do it. The lunch and toilet thing they'll try and put on me. But considering the pressure the schedulers put on me to take too much on, I don't get a chance to stop. One second I have to help someone who is stuck on a job and hasn't had lunch. Then after driving half an hour to help I get a call that I have to go off a do another job, which will take me past my work hours. I do more work than any other apprentice and as I'm 'so capable' they just keep putting more on. Even when I tell them its too much and I don't have time to eat. They had the nerve to be 'worried about me' after I took a day off from the stress they were causing.

Sorry about all the work rants, I am just so bloody stressed with it. These things never bothered me before, I liked the uncertainty. Works not pleasant for anyone right now either, so I feel terrible just moaning away, there's way harder jobs to do while pregnant.

Well called my boss to tell him I'm not coping and won't be in for a couple days. Surprisingly he was amazing, told me not to worry, pregnancy was one of those things it messes with you. He's calling occupational health who will contact me today to discuss options. I'm going to be taken off gas work with instant effect. I'm so relieved I could melt into a big puddle. They finally listened to me!

Hope it goes well today chandler, mine is on Thursday!

Glad to hear they were nice and you feel better cuppa

Ah cuppa I'm so glad you finally got through to them. The trouble is with struggling on through is that people only see you coping so just assume you can carry on.

chandlers good luck with your scan. I'm holding out for 12 weeks (well might have a private one at 11 as we're going to visit DP's far-flung family when I am 12 weeks so would good to be able to tell them). I'm also still convinced this pregnancy isn't going to stick, so I'm not telling anyone (maybe my boss, she's likely to guess - she has some weird 6th sense about these things).

In off-topic house-move news we managed to get stuff mostly in order for our guests on Mon but the kitchen drains are still blocked and I can't do any washing and still doing the dishes in the bath. Fingers crossed the landlord gets back to us today! I was shattered after all day on my feet running round hostessing yesterday and scarily got a little SPD-like ache just before bed. I had it last time, not badly but just of an annoying level to make getting anywhere under my own steam painful, but from 4 months - at just over 5 weeks it's far too early for that, isn't it???

Hi all, just poking head in after a brief absence!

Cuppa Glad your work have seen sense & are trying to make some changes, that must be a relief. It did sound so unreasonable given they knew about your pregnancy already!

Miffy, I'm 5+4 today too & not feeling pg. I peed on my last CB Digi yesterday & it had moved up to 3+ so things must still be cooking.

Good luck with scan Chandlers & JoeyBun. I'll try & get one booked for 7+ weeks too this week.

Hope everyone has a good day, it is a particularly blustery rainy day here today! X

Great big car bill unexpectedly this morning . Just what we needed with DH worrying about costs of no. 3 and needing to move house. I don't think I can go another 5 weeks without telling my family though so I'm going to tell DH that this weekend when we hit 6 weeks well tell them , although I know my Dad will then start going on about moving!

Have to get through DH's Grandads funeral this afternoon, which when mighty hormonal is going to be challenging!

Cuppa am SO PLEASED for you! What a relief!!

Am feeling for you all with house woes, funeral and job shit to deal with. Really not the time for it is it!! Good luck. xx

I've realised my job is making me feel worse! I work in a very lonely way out here, as all my team is based in the UK so I sit on my own on my laptop all day. This weekend I was away with my friend and we were busy chatting and doing things.... I didn't feel great and had to chill quite a bit but being back in the office today has been horrendous! I just don't have enough distractions and people to talk to so I just focus on how I feel and that is usually pretty gross. This is a pretty easy problem to have compared to some of you guys but the quietness and being stuck at that desk in silence driving me a bit mad psychologically!

Got a few hours off tomorrow for my scan so that will be a nice distraction, thanks all for the well wishes! It's at 15:30 which is 09:30 UK time. Eek.

I was just musing on the odds of multiples and wondered if it'd be statistically likely that someone on this thread would be welcoming more than one bundle of joy...does anyone know the odds?

Sweep I'm.sorry about your DHs grandad. The unexpected car bill sounds like the last thing you need.

Hoping SPD isn't crawling its ways back in Tango, hopefully you just overdid it.

Chandlers in my last pregnancy after getting hit with a football I was moved from the school I worked at to an office, with no work for 20 weeks. I went slowly mad, its tough at a desk on your own.

OhHolyFuck, I think it's pretty likely for us to have at least one set of multiples between us. Dibs not me!

I thinks DH really would go mad if we had multiples!

Oh baggsie me. I want 3 kids and DP only wants 2 (he's already 41 & doesn't want to be any older). I know it would be a logistical nightmare but I harbour secret not so secret now I've written it down wishes for twins.

Fingers crossed our twins mummy is you Tango!! I think it would only be tough till they could speak, then it would hopefully get easier.

infertility.about.com/library/odds-of-twins/bl-chance-of-having-twins-quiz.htm

Bit of fun, but it gives us an idea of who might be likely to get twins! I have a slightly higher chance of twins apparently, but low enough to not worry.

Hi, I'm due on 16th December, but as it's my first, am guessing that (so long as we get that far) I'll probably be late, and therefore hitting Christmas time!

I know that the idea is really exciting for some, but whilst I'm delighted I'm pregnant, and wouldn't change that for the world, I'd have picked any other time of the year if I could have done! Am I alone in thinking like this?!

Also, thinking way way too far ahead, both my mum and my in-laws live over 2 hours away and have previously all stayed with us for Christmas. My thoughts are that they can't possibly stay this year, but DH doesn't see why not!! Anyone else have thoughts on this type of thing yet?