The angry pubes of bumsnet grad bus!

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Come put your feet up in the Zen den and let the dh's wait on us hand and foot whilst we nurture the fruit of their loins in our bellies :-)

Marysprayer, Congratulations on your bfp, such lovely news.

Oyster, Congratulations again to you incase you didn't notice me sneak in this morning!

Obviously I'm not pregnant, I'm just hanging around keeping an eye on things

mummy it must have been awful to see your little been like that but I think the tree will be a lovely way to say good bye and also a way to remember and find comfort.

Thanks Spinning

Oh mummy, sending lots of love your way xx

Thanks everyone xx

mummy I'm so sorry. I've responded to you on the Jan 2016 AN thread but have read your latest update here and really feel heartbroken for you - I went through something similar with my mc and I know how traumatic it is. The tree is a lovely idea, I wish we had done something like that but I was just too sad at the time. I'm glad you're getting support in RL.

Yesterday for lunch I had this wrap thing that was really, really spicy. This would usually be no problem for me, I love spicy. Woke up at 1:30 with terrible stomach pain and have diarrhea. Is this my body telling me to sick to beige and bland now pregnant? And I already can't sleep because my boobs are too sore for any position but on my back. 4+2 Awesome.

Ah oyster, don't worry about having to sleep on your back too much.... When baby is bigger you won't be able to do that either as their weight will cut off blood supply to your back. (Or summat like that.). :)

Mummy, will be thinking of you and your little tree today. Lots of love.

Mummy - just popping on to say how sorry I am for your loss. Xx

Something to look forward to Giddy
Thinking of you Mummy

Taking DS to holiday club then we are off to get an overpriced plant pot from a nice garden centre. Our garden is getting redone later this year so can't plant it yet. It's a Salix 'flamingo' and is lovely.

oyster the one and only time I was actually morning sick was the day after a curry! Yup its bland from here on in I'm afraid. My yoga teacher told me you can't lie on your back in the 3rd trimester as the baby squashes the vena cava and makes you black out! it's not heavy enough til then so make the most of it now lol

oyster welcome to the world of beige foods. Toast is about to become a staple of your diet. Enjoy!!! lol.

I've googled your flamingo mummy, it's beautiful. :) xx

They recommend not laying on your back after the first trimester because as well as the risk to you passing out, you reduce blood flow and oxygen to the baby. And sleeping on your back should be avoided from 12 weeks for this reason.

Thanks giddy I like it

mummy I'm so sorry for your loss
I remember you from when I was on the Jan & Feb TTC bus (just incase you're thinking who the fuck is this!)..
My DH dealt with our loss very differently to me & it was hard going for a while.. But you'll eventually get back on the same track. Your tree is a lovely choice btw xx

mummy I love the flamingo tree. So pretty!!! I don't want to upset you but have you taken/are you taking bean to the hospital? I did and found it therapeutic. They offered an analysis, which I accepted. The results told me there was nothing wrong - it was just one of those things. They also told me it was a girl, which I liked knowing. I was 8+5. Big hugs hun. Hope you manages to sleep last night xx

Hello all,

Oh Mummy I don't know what to say. I am so so sorry. I think the idea of a tree is lovely to always remember your bean

I get numb hands if I sleep on my back....I am lucky that I normally feel sicky in the evening and struggle through dinner sometimes but I can cope with it....so far!!

I took it yesterday. They didn't offer any testing and DP said he preferred not to know and I had no idea they could test to see what sex it was so we didn't ask. They kept calling it a product and 'waste tissue' I just wanted to get out. It did really help me though. Just got so fed up of her telling me how small the 'product' was and saying "better now than further down the line" which is obvious but heartless.

Oh Mummy, that must have been so hard and painful to hear. Why do these so called professionals have no empathy?!

Mummy I don't have the right words to give you what I want to give, which is comfort and solace, but you are in my thoughts. The tree is beautiful. Be kind to yourself and know you are loved.

Oh mummy... I hate that they call our beans 'the product of pregnancy'. Why do they have to be so clinical?! Try and relax today and take a lot of time for yourself. Know that we are all here for you. How are dp and ds doing?

DP is keeping busy and consoling me when I break down. DS is sad but ok, when we started ttc we asked if he wanted to know as soon as we found out or if he wanted to know when it was safe (we explained pregnancy risks) so now he has experienced the loss I asked if next time we get pregnant would he like to know straight away or avoid the heartache but he (very maturely) said it would have been worse if we hadn't explained the risks but because he understands he still wants to know again next time. So if I miscarry again he can know he was a big brother and love the baby for a little while and always remember them. DS is the most amazing little boy. So wise beyond his years.