December - yet another final thread!

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The last one was getting too long again. There's just no stopping us!

Thanks Loulou!!!! You will have me doing it now

Hugs to all, everyone sounds like they need them xxx

and hope those b'day girls, HAPPY BIRTHDAY AQ and Judemum are having a good day and being spoilt rotten!!

Am most unhappy with DHs work, they want him to go away, overnight in Feb, I know that we will be fine, but I dont want him to go away when the baby is so little and I am still trying to figure out how to cope and I if I do go overdue baby could still be 5/6 weeks....

Weirdbird, my DH is going away on 7th Dec, the day after my c-section

lol @ loulou

As with satinshoes - first-timers probably shouldn't read this!!!!

Eli, please don't grieve over this. I know that you feel that you are missing out on something, but let me tell you, after 30 hours of labor and then emergency section with ds, going into labor is absolutely the last thing I want to do.

My labor with ds was so traumatic that I developed severe PND and PN PTSD afterwards. I was suicidal for several months and getting through the hour at hand, much less the day was sometimes all I could do. I didn't really bond with ds until he was over a year old. I am still in therapy over it and may be for the rest of my life.

I have had only 2 flashbacks this pregnancy but both were awful and I am sitting here crying just writing this much. A lot of things went wrong that didn't have to with ds and that compounded my reactions. Still, a nice scheduled delivery with a team surrounding you who are on board with what's going on is my dream for this delivery.
Please don't feel that you are missing out on something special. Getting to hold your lo is the special part. How she gets here is just a minor detail.

hello! Been offline for ages now (house re-wired, lost power to sockets, phone line out, all of us sick etc) so nice to have breathless peak through the latest thread.

Eli - hugs to you. I know how you feel. I'm seeing consultant tomorrow. I have section booked for Dec 20 (when 42 + 2) in case I don't go into labour again (didn't labour at all with dd) but there is a possibility the baby is breach. They'll scan me at the hospital tomorrow and if the baby is breach I'll be booked in for a section next week !

DH is being really supportive and positive about it but I worry about being re-admitted because I've ruptured my scar looking after a toddler post cs. Just the other day I lifted dd into the shopping trolley at the supermarket and thought - well, I can't do that after a cs, what am I going to do?

Anyway, fingers crossed for you - at least we can all support each other on the other side with a 'woz due in Dec 06' postnatal thread .

Ah, Jabber, that sounds so hard...I'm sorry, and thanks for writing it all out in response to my hormonal worries; I can totally see why a planned section is a better option after that.

And thanks all of you for brainstorming/supporting/informing: dh was very relieved when I told him I was going to talk to my MN friends, and he was right to be

TBH, its more just having peace of mind that I've made a good decision that I need - rather than a vaginal delivery. I'm ok with having a section, I really am - just as long as I know I'm doing it for me and my baby, and not for any other reason. I suppose its being at peace with me, IYSWIM.

Anyway - I'm getting there. 90% feeling its the best option now, and the other 10% is satisfied with a plan to call the OB on Thursday if baby hasn't shifted from head down position between now and then, and ask what she thinks. If she does keep spinning around, I'll just go with the flow....

And on a totally different topic, I have STACKS of dvds lined up for dd! Long winter nights, endless bf-ing (assuming it goes ok, feeling more confident about that - and know I can talk to you lot about it too, which helps!) dh working evenings....the more dvds the better

Wah, Softy, next week? Exciting or shocking or both?!

"Weirdbird, my DH is going away on 7th Dec, the day after my c-section"

Really hope you will have some help then!!!!

I am just worrying as my PND was so bad at that point with my DD that I was barely coping to get through the day, DH used to walk in the door from work and I would walk out. Just need to be positive that it won't happen this time around...

for those who had PND and are worried about it again. I had it mildly 1st time around and it was picked up by my DH actually.

Share your worries with someone, anyone close, and ask them to look out for it. Give them 'permission' to bring it up with you as well as I was in total denial there was anything wrong before. If someone you trust says go to the Dr early on then it can make recovery quicker...

Well, just had a call from OB's office. Even though blood work looked good yesterday, since bp is high again today (and even higher than yesterday) they want me back in tomorrow for repeat bp and weight check, maybe more bloods and urine, and baby monitoring. She did say that they were just being cautious because of the long weekend coming up here (Thanksgiving) but it's still just a bit unnerving.

Eli, hope you're feeling better about the section now, it must be a v.hard decision (not so hard if bean hadn't decided to suddenly turn!). I too had emergency section after failed induction, and know how I wld feel if I had to have another section. If you trust your ob not to be over-interventionist, then sounds like the right decision all round for you and bean esp given the bp issue.

Thank you all for bday wishes & some extra ones to Judemum too! Hope you had a good one, I went shopping this morning & bought a few baby things, completely knackered after 1 shop, don't see how I'm going to finish christmas shopping now! Then picked ds up early & spent afternoon chilling with him. Had family here all weekend, went out for lovely dinner & ate half a cow (fillet steak) which was gorgeous mmmmm.
Calm, I've seen phil & ted's, bottom does goes flat for baby (very cute little carry sac thingy).
DS1 is getting a ukelele from DS2, we decided last night, we wanted him to get something really fab from his baby brother so he'd be impressed!

Jabber, sorry to hear that....do you mind me asking what 'high bp' is, for you? It seems to vary from person to person, OB to OB. I'd forgotten it was Thanksgiving coming up, any plans? Apart from resting, I hope!

AQ, thanks...I am starting to feel better, posted on the childbirth section too and am feeling so much more 'processed' and supported than I did earlier. Still a bit confused, but better.
And glad you had a good b'day!!

Having a bit of a nightmare packing my bag . Hospital gave me a list which says "one of each size babygrow" which raises 2 questions: 1: what's a babygrow? Does it have feet? Is it the same as a sleep suit? (apologies cos I know someone else asked this ages ago)? and 2: "one of each size"??? Surely I need more than 1!

Babygrow is a sleepsuit. I am taking an 2 early baby ones and 3 newborn but thats only coz its an early c section and I have small babies.

I'd take a spare one in each size anyway, in case one gets wet/dirty or something. But then, I tend to overpack

Gloria - not sure what babygro's are either. I think we call them differnt things over here.

Eli - I think her concern is more over how much higher it went than my normal and how quickly. I had been doing really great this time at around 120/70 (or even less; then yesterday it was 138/92 and this morning 142/93. I'm also not feeling particularly great right now. One of those things where you can't put your finger on it, but you just plain don't feel good, IYKWIM. Oh, and the swelling really kicked in this past week too. So, I'm going to finally get that bag packed. I figure if things get really crazy I can get someone to bring it to us.I do think we will carry the cord blood kit with us tomorrow just to err on the side of paranoia!

Thanks!

Sorry for panicking over something like that - some of you have much more important things to think about

Jabber, hopefully its just a spike - but yes, it is quite a jump and two days running, I'd pack that bag. I know what you mean about not feeling so good...mine is more gradual, and not much swelling, but I feel the sort of exhausted that I felt at the very end of my pregnancy with dd, just before my bp went out of control. Not fun. Take care of yourself, eh

Gloria, sleepsuits/babygros/bodies/vests etc are totally important issues - I agonized over how many to take to hospital first time AND this time! Still want to unpack and repack bag...

Um, I haven't even started packing my bag yet. I'm due in just over 2 weeks. I can't bring myself to do it so far in advance. I figure worst case scenario I'll have time to throw it all together, right?

Sorry for those of you having difficult decisions to make regarding ceasarians etc. I feel fortunate to have had a fairly straightforward pregnancy save 16 weeks of morning sickness from hell.

Evening all of you.

Happy Birthday JM and AQ!

Sorry to hear all the woes, and I wish you all, and me a restful nights sleep!

Just wanted to ask - you know how I was convinced bump is a boy? Well I watched a baby programme where they mentioned an old wives tale about hair on your legs growing more slowly if it;s a girl - and TBH I had not even thought about this until then. But I normally have to have a go every other day or i can use my legs to sand the side of a barn (TMI -sorry However, have not managed it and you would not know since Saturday - Anyone else out there who know's they're having a girl found anything similar going on?

Me. I'm having a girl, and have shaved my legs maybe twice since that first BFP....not very hairy, but usually would shave once a week. And I had the same experience first time, also a girl

I don't know what we're having so no help there. Think my leg hair growth is the same so, again, no help!

Dare I ask how old everyone is? Every now and then I get comments from my mw about how old I am to be having my first! To be honest, I think I'm probably average aged these days to be having a first child - I'm 35.

Slept soundly from about 1030 last night right until 530 which is the first time in months that has happened. I woke up panicing that dh had overslept!

Hey Beaker, I'm 33, so an "old" first timer too!
After Vanilla's comments re hairy legs i had the clearest dream that my bump is a girl! (although I did leave her in hospital to go back to work, so perhaps it's not an accurate prediction!)

Beaker, tell your m/w she's a cheeky cow!! When I had my 1st I found it hilarious that they wrote "geriatric mother" on my notes!!! When I was having my 4th m/c last year I asked if it was b/cos of my age. The adorable m/w said "darling, most women round here don't start thinking about having children until they are your age (ahem, cough, wrong side of 35) and you already have two". I live in a supposedly quite affluent part of SW London/Surrey and am pleased to notice many of the school playground mums have more wrinkles than me I certainly don't feel old round here, in fact I know very few mums in their 20s with DCs my age.

Eli, pleased to hear you are feeling happier about things. I do think you have quite strong medical reasons with the bp & spinning tranny. It is hard, slightest chance of a poss VBAC and I get all excited. Though that idea has now died a death.

Jabber, I am sorry you had to suffer like that. I am sure you will have a really positive birth this time. There do seem to be a few PND sufferers amongst us don't there? At least having been through it once (or twice), we can hopefully nip it in the bud quick like satinshoes says. I've already spoken to my (lovely ) h/v about mine last time so feel more comfortable. It's nothing to be ashamed of.