April 2015 Thread 12: Where are the carseats and are the bags packed, the babies are threatening to make an entrance!

[TheBooMonster]

Welcome to the 12th April 2015 babies thread!

Here’s the stats as they currently stand:

Unknown/Surprise
Tannyloo, 42, unknown, EDD 3rd March
*Misty414, 30, #1 edd 25th March
Fingerscrossed, 33, #2 EDD 1st April
PenguinPoser, 27, #1 EDD 3rd April (ind ~37 weeks)
ChickenMe, 38, EDD 4th April
MoominMama, 28, #1 EDD 4th April
LadyStinky, 35, #1 EDD 5th April
solstice930, 30, EDD April 6th
Rustyzilla, 34, #1, EDD 7th April
*Floppypotato, #1, EDD 7th April
LittleGreyCatwithapinkcollar, #1, EDD 7th April
Nunkie, 39: #1 EDD 7th April
*BrixtonBunny, 26, #1 edd 8th April - Surprise (but more likely to be girl according to sonographer)
Nerdsgirl, EDD 9th April
Chiliplant, ?, #1, EDD 11th April
usernamefeefifoe, EDD April 11th
Heyitsholly #1 EDD 16th april.
Wineandchoccy, 33, #1, EDD 14th April
AnniaFausta, 32, #1, EDD 15th April
AbiBanbury, 38, #1 EDD 18th April (but ovulate early so likely to be more like 14th) -
BitchPeas #2 EDD 19th April
*Kismac, 29 #1, EDD 19th April
NinnynoodleNoo, 37, #6, EDD 19th April
*CherryLips1980, 34, #2, EDD 21st April
*Chococroc, 31, #1, EDD 22nd April, (but will likely be a couple of weeks earlier due to health condition) -
*Lauren82000, 30 #2 EDD 22nd April
*Ivegotacavetroll, 30 #1 EDD 23rd April
Cowbiscuits, 35 #2 EDD 24th April
FIRaffe 30, #1, EDD 24th April
*OneDay, 27, no DC, MMC June 2014, EDD 26th April
Squidge14,#1, EDD 27th April
*JaneyTea, 34, #1. EDD 29th April

One of Each!
Littlesupersparks, 32, #3&4, EDD 30th April

Boy
RiverRocks, 30, #1, EDD 26th March
*Cisforcat, 31 #2, EDD 1st April
houghtonk76, 38, #1, EDD 1st April
Lindalove, 38, EDD 2nd April
*Lila35, 35, #1, EDD 3rd April
*Cinnamongreyhound, 33, #3 edd 6th April
littleash789, April 6th
Obeliaboo, EDD April 7th
berberana, 34 #2 edd 11th April
Suzybean, 39, boy #2, due 12th April.
Hidingthefear, 25, #1 EDD 13Th April
daholster, 32, #2, EDD 14th April
*BonjourMinou, 32, #2, EDD 19th April
*BananaToast, 26, #1, EDD 20th April
RL20, 22, EDD 20th April
smogsville, 33, #2, EDD 22nd April, csection booked for 16th April
LadyNovember, 24, #1, EDD 23rd April
*Mswibble - 29, #1, EDD 23rd April
*StuntNun, 38, #4, EDD 27th April
*Mel0drama 36, dc #2, edd 29th April
Brummagem 39 #1 edd 28th April
*catsofa 35, #1, EDD 30th April

Girl
Roastpots 35, #2 EDD 1st April
*Babiecakes11, 23, 4th pregnancy, 2nd baby EDD April 1st (ind 36)
minipie, 34, #2, EDD 4th April
Skyra13, 26, #1 EDD 6th April
*londonlivvy, 39, DC#2, EDD 8 April
*EbwyIsUpDuffed, EDD 8th April - Girl?
*TinyTear, 41, DD2 EDD 11th April (ind 36 weeks)
*TheBooMonster, 25, DD2, EDD 11th April
*Mamabear0315, 24, #2, EDD 12th April
ToutDeLeFruit, #1, EDD 12th April
*SquattingNeville, 25, #2, EDD 20th April
blackwidow74, DD#2, EDD 22nd April
MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet, 36, #2 EDD 23rd April
FizzyBubbly, 32, #2, EDD 23rd April,
*HippoPottyMouth, 38, #3, EDD 25th April
LondonSuperTrooper, 41, DC# 2, EDD 26 April.
FreedomHuntress, 40, #2, EDD 27th April
*Siarie, 26, #1, EDD 27th April
Zahrah5, 38, EDD April 27th
*LucyandPoppy EDD 28th April

Born
Dancestomyowntune, DD

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We’re in the home stretch ladies, we've had the first baby, how many more threads can we manage before the last baby is here?

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You lot are so kind and really rather awesome. RL wow that's hard! it will all work out somehow. The perspective is safe arrival of the baby, that's what counts. Says she!!!! My problems do pale into insignificance, they are not huge, not insurmountable and we will manage. It just feels like very hard work sometimes!

Thanks for all your messages

The need to rant....
Had a midwife appointment on friday gone - i'd not seen this midwife, my actual listed midwife who's been off ill pretty much most of my pregnancy, since around October i think.
Anyhow, ask's me if i intend to breastfeed, my response was 'if i can i will try, but i honestly dont know, i have bottles at home incase'. She told me to put them away and slapped a breastfeeding dvd on the table - i found it really fricking condescending and bullish, you know? I didnt say no! And what a rude reply, not 'Okay, thats an objective way to look at it', but just 'No, you will' attitude. And said dvd just reads like militant YOU WILL BREASTFEED propaganda, like the alternative is completely wrong. First time i've felt any form of pregnancy related hormonal surge when i told her that the dvd wouldn't be necessary and that if i can breastfeed i will, but should i encounter barriers or choose not to, or CAN'T, that i'm able enough to do my own research.
AND i'd like to point out, i haven't been hormonal at all, first pregnancy, pre-pregnancy i live with PMS syndrome so the baby has actually levelled my crazy out haha.
Has anyone else had this?
I just get the feeling she really doesn't like me and i can't think why. It felt like i was getting a silent grilling from a headmistress and the poor student midwife just sort of sat there silently bewildered looking.

Hi ladies, please may I join? I'm new to MN and my EDD is the 1st of April. This is my second baby, my daughter was an April 2013 baby :)

obelia I think they can forget to be sensitive or that they are dealing with individuals - she would've done better to ask you what your concerns were. And they also forget you are an adult but at the same time this is a new experience for you.
I don't know what part of the country you are in but my MW told me that where I am, the bf-ing rates are very low (Medway). So I kind of think they are under pressure to change that? But in your case she was going about it in totally the wrong way.

Welcome Mamayarra

I think it's just part of a script for the 34 week appointment. They say what they are supposed to. I dont remember it with ds1 but my notes say what they are going to talk about at each appointment. Don't take it personally but they probably hear your statement a lot and perhaps they are told mums need to be more committed? I was the most determined, stubborn, bloody minded pro bf mum there was an for sure without that id have stopped. But the benefits long term so outweight those tough few weeks. I agree it should be more support than pressure but I'm not sure a lot know how to. I personally didn't have bottles other than those that came with my breast pump and wouldn't have formula in the house and that worked for me.

Welcome Mamayarra you are joining the chatterboxes :)

obeliaboo I plan on Breastfeeding well trying it at least, will be my first so not sure how it will go, I hate DH even touching them so having a baby stuck to them not sure how ill be able to get used to it!

I also have bottles just in case but I think your midwife was a little rude it is just up to you what you want to do so ignore her I would.

To be honest I have not really bonded with my midwife or my consultant I always feel rushed in my appointments. does not help either that they both have different views on my pregnancy and 1 tells me to do something then the other tells me not to do it!! Starting to frustrate me.
Consultant want's me checked on a regular basis BP and things where my midwife says I don't need it.
She is band 7 midwife and runs the area and says that my consultant isn't a consultant and she is useless lol so I'm kinda stuck between the 2 of them!

Hi Mamayarra!

Welcome mamayarra! You're more than welcome to join. Were all constantly chatting about everything and anything so we might be hard to keep up with but I'm sure you'll be fine Check out the spreadsheet that Boo has just posted and you'll find out more about our due dates etc!

Obelia I agree with Chicken - she totally went about it the wrong way it seems. She could have offered you some leaflets with info on breastfeeding and left it at that really. It's such a personal individual decision like anything with parenting is. Well done you for standing up for yourself.

Daholster hope you're feeling a bit better. It might seem insignificant now but at that time you just need to vent!

Oh and regarding midwives - also don't feel that close with mine. So far I've had 4 different ones I think. I really liked the first one I seen but she was leaving to go and work at the hospital! Also seen a couple of different student midwives who sit alongside the midwife and do my blood pressure etc.
Don't get me wrong they're not bad but I'd like to bind with just the 1 midwife really, although I suppose it's a bit late for that now!

*bond haha

ChickenMe I'm in the North West - i'm glad that for the duration of my pregnancy i've not had to deal with her because she does speak down to me like i'm a silly little teenager who doesn't know what's going on, im 26! But no, her general attitude just stank from the moment i entered the room. Huffed when i didnt present a urine sample, well i hadn't been forwarned she would want one and pointed out that previous midwives i've seen have simply asked me on the spot if i could provide one/pee on the colourful stick for them.
Cinnamon I can't commit to breastfeeding when my boobs are acting like there is nothing going on haha and im not comitting to formula either, but i am more than willing to give it a good go - i have bottles because my mum thought they'd be handy, for a multitude of reasons and for the other half to make use of further along so he too can bond. I'd like him to be able to feed the baby once in a while so he can sort of, bond the way i hope to breastfeeding.
skyra13 That sounds irritating to say the least :(

RL20 precisely, a couple of leaflets would have done, not a snotty huff and dvd.
MIL is a receptionist at a doctors practice and im worried she'll kick off to her friend who is a midwife about it haha, i'll end up locking horns with mine if i see her again, all the others i've seen have been lovely!

If my midwife asks me if I'm breast feeding and is rude, I'll reply with no I'm bottle feeding because I want to.

The midwife I've seen most so far has been a guy and a lady student. The guy seems ok, plus I almost fainted at my last appointment and he seemed pretty quick to react.

I don't care who I have, I'm too stubborn to be bossed about while in labour.

My MW was a stand in last week. Normal one is boring. With this one we had a good chinwag and she said there's a widespread lack of confidence in breastfeeding and a lot of negative "spin". I can agree with that because I have already been told "you wont be able to do it/you won't have enough milk/you'll have to wean it at 4 months". I've got support from my mum, best mate, OH and my brothers wife breastfed too and I'm still nervous but keen.
My MW was v positive about it which gave me a boost. A missed opportunity for your midwife to tune into your concerns obelia.

Just won an isofix base on ebay for 99p never been used still wrapped kinda feel bad winning it for 99p lol

Obelia that is rubbish how they made you feel, I know the kind of spiel you will have had - I went to a feeding workshop (so did bring it upon myself!) and they started off saying "everyone is different and whatever works for you..." Etc then the next 2 hours was essentially "but you will breast feed". I do plan on it in a similar way to you - hoping that it works. But I did feel a bit upset about potentially failing before I've even begun and feeling like an awful mum! My boobs haven't shown an interest in anything so far either. I also have some bottles but hoping in couple of months to be able to express so DH can do the occasional feed.

Hello mamayarra

Daholster for you. My advice would be call in sick if you're not up to going to work. I know it's sometimes easier said than done but knowing how much I've struggled the last 2 weeks I think you would be well justified with all you have going on. Hope the week isn't too hard with DH being away.
Thanks to those that have pointed out we are growing little people to not useless! I have been feeling useless about not being able to do everything I want/need to at the moment - essentially all my cleaning! It's taking me ages.

Need to get up super early again tomorrow to go for my liver ultrasound scan. Not sure they will be able to see it - it's where the baby feet currently live up in that area!

skyra message me your email that's associated with fb and I can add you that way.

I can't stand these headmistress type health care professionals obelia. "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar"

obelia it's rough that she was so militant about it, as apposed to offering you some decent balanced advice, however I'm totally jealous that she gave you a dvd!! Mine said more as an afterthought are you planning on breast feeding? i said yes, and she said ok, and that was it I think I preferred my old midwife! I'm not-so-secretly hoping that my HV who's coming to see me for my antenatal appointment on Tuesday is a raving breastfeeding nazi I really want someone in my life that's going to push me to do it instead of asking me if we should get formula just in case...

Boo why no coats in car seats?! Whoops, poor DD has been subjected to this many times, oh dear...

Cinnamon no YANBU! And as the others say, keep running as long as you feel comfortable. Completely agree that some days I think it would be better to remain preg rather than have an actual out of body newborn to minister to.

Catsofa sorry about all the house uncertainty. Feel free to moan away.

Babiecakes I had a section first time and will be again this time. For me ignorance of the intricacies of the procedure is bliss! Recovery was fine and infinitely preferable to one dear friend's after a vaginal birth.

FiRaffe if you don't want to watch HV's DVD just tell her you don't know how to work the remote.

Wine - am planning to start a bit of batch cooking this week, getting going in earnest when mat leave starts and I have more time. I did loads last time and loved having delish and nourishing food with no effort required.

Annia I love your strategy meetings with DH! He is a wise man not to laugh at a preggo. Don't give up hope of your in laws yet, my mum was reluctant to commit to anything before DD arrived and then fell in love with her and has been looking after her two days a week since I went back to work PT after a year's mat leave.

Yes daholster FiRaffe is right. KBO - keep buggering on as Winston Churchill used to say.

RL - as you're renting surely there is a responsibility somehow for someone to rehouse you on semi perm basis? Esp as it doesn't look like it's going to be a quick fix?

Obelia - I fully plan to EBF again, largely as too lazy to fanny about with bottles, but that sort of attitude from a mw is almost enough to make my fly into a rage and change my mind and do bottles just to annoy her!

Welcome mamayarra

On the lansinoh free tube thing - I only ever bought one tube last time, after a few weeks you stop needing it. So it's not like you're getting through tube after tube - I never finished my first and only tube.

Right, beddingtons. Goodnight all.

32+4

smog www.consumerreports.org/cro/news/2012/12/winter-coats-and-car-seats-keeping-your-child-safe-and-warm/index.htm the harness isn't tight enough if they're in a bulky coat in the car seat.

Anyone else feel like there just isn't enough room inside???? OMG! I feel like I am being stretched in all directions and prised open at the ribs at the back!

penguin will take it day by day at work... Don't want to finish early off sick though, was forced into that last time, no goodbyes or feeling of a big finish, quite looking forward to the relief of finishing properly this time! But will take a day off if I need it.

We have made a car decision... We will pay for repairs (£1000) but no service this year and get rid in spring next year, with a plan to get a new car on order in the autumn so when it arrives we will part exchange or scrap the old one. No point in paying for servicing for one more year when it's had an overhaul now and it will be going to the scrap yard in the sky!

So feel a little better about the fact we've made a decision but annoyed that we can't get a spacious new car in time for toddler dd and newborn ds. It would have made life sooooo much easier... But it's not possible with new car lead times and it's easier on the pocket while I'm on maternity leave and when I am job hunting early next year. We've done lots and lots of maths and surprisingly worked out that over the 10 year average life span of our cars, buying it new is actually best value for money. Who'd have thought it? And you can get exactly what you want, which is an exciting bonus! It's just a shame it takes so long... But perhaps is financially for the best.

Thanks for your help today. I'll be posting if I'm up all night trying not to explode!!! Night night.