April 2015 Thread 11: The finish line is in sight as we get closer to maternity leave and our babies!

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Squatting she could of turned in the night so she may well of been head down yesterday. Must be some room left so she may turn again. Fingers crossed

Ar that cardi is so sweet Lauren it is like a ballet cardigan (they have wraparound ones like that in ballet. I did ballet for years and I still go goey over anything delicate like that). I would never hav the patience to knit.
On my second pancake now. God I love lemon anyway but in pregnancy=huge appreciation for citrus

Lauren that cardi is lovely! You're very talented :-)

And yeah pancakes I guess are an institution, DH likes them better than me he had more of them. I just had one with some honey on but just felt like I had eaten dessert before my tea! Now have had a random concoction of things so my stomach doesn't know what's happening! I was also wanting something savoury.

I hope the breast feeding workshop is useful, and that they let me in! Haven't got a clue what to expect but it's more than I will already know so all good

berberana meant to add before that although it's good that you're finishing work it's a bit rubbish to have the uncertainty of job security hanging over you. I think when on maternity you're about as well protected as you can be from a legal point of view. And I totally sympathise with your pelvic and hip pains too.

Thanks for all the ideas of ways to keep DH involved. I was also a bit worried that if I'm breast feeding he might feel left out but will really try and ensure that isn't the case, I really want baby to bond with both of us.

Lauren unfortunately I can't view pictures on the mumsnet app (is it just me?) but I'm sure it's lovely! A friend of my grandad's (I think I remember him saying she's over 90 years old) knitted a gorgeous little blanket for baby a few weeks ago. I haven't even met the lady but I'm so grateful. I think it could be to do with the fact my grandad could of possibly mentioned to her that my nan passed away around 8 years ago, and my grandma from the other side of my family passed away about 5 years ago. And it's usually a womanly thing to knit something for a baby isn't it? Last week when my grandad came to visit he brought over 2 little cardigans with him which she had also knitted! I couldn't believe it, they are so perfect I can't believe that people can knit that well! I wish I could. I can't believe how thoughtful someone can be to basically a stranger. I must get round to getting her a thank you card.

Squatting glad to hear your scan went well. Like Lauren said she could still turn again yet!

I have my 31 week midwife app tomorrow morning, along with the whooping cough jab. Does anyone know if they still give you the jab if you have a cold? I've had a cough/cold/sore throat for just under a week now which is slowly clearing.
At my last appointment the midwife guessed that baby could possibly have been lying across sideways! So we'll see what she thinks tomorrow. When does the baby have less room to move around? As in, when do the midwives set a sort of 'final' as to which way the baby is laying?

rl I had a cold when I got my whooping cough and the nurse seemed pretty unconcerned. Make sure you get it in the arm you don't sleep on! also the app doesn't show any pictures.

Definitely agree with smogsville, a pint of water is essential with every breast feed!

Basically right kidney showed up large at 20 week scan, I was whisked to have more detailed scan at bigger hospital within few days and told baby was likely to be catheterised and operated on at 4-5 days old and kidneys were being damaged due to pressure the whole time it was pregnant, on 5th scan now and prognosis is getting better at each one RL20. Think it's usually at 36weeks apt they start to worry if baby is not cephalic, I had a scan to check with ds1 as midwife worried but all was fine.

Sorry dh is being an arse TheBooMonster

Love the cardie Lauren82000, I usually eat mine as I make for everyone else but we don't have kitchen diner so everyone else's leave the kitchen . We have them as pudding PenguinPoser.

Sorry to hear about baby being breech SquattingNeville

Baby is cephalic, which I was worried about and looking at my back so couldn't get any pics today. He's now 2089g which is slightly lower on centimes than last time but still growing well.

Lauren I can't see the cardi either on phone but I bet it's magnificent. I don't know one end of a needle from the other so am v impressed when people make things other than cake (which I will say I'm quite good at).

Berb - sounds like the redundancy could be a bit of a winner. I hope things go the way you'd like them to.

I've been trying to work out baby's position. He was breech at my 28 week appointment but has been doing a lot of wriggling since so not sure if that's changed. He had hiccups a moment ago and they were a few inches below my belly button so wondering if that might indicate him being head down, but from googling it looks like that's not necessarily the case. Interested to see what the GP thinks at my appointment next week - don't see a midwife again until 36 weeks.

Glad the scan was ok today Cinnamon

That cardigan is gorgeous lauren

I feel loads better than I did earlier on today, baby has been moving loads today my bump looked like it was doing a Mexican wave over and over again.

I'm not sure if it's a bit girly now I've knitted it, it didn't look too bad on the picture. I guess if it's a boy, DD can have it for her dolly (she will be rather happy at that)

RL my MiL is a hairdresser (to mainly old people) and one of her ladies knitted us a blanket and a cardigan they are really nice. When I was expecting DD she did me 3 different coloured ones. Blue, pink and cream. This new one is white. So I'm fully kitted out for blankets.

I learnt to knit as a child but basically had to relearn it all a few weeks ago and I've been plugging away at it every so often. I struggled with reading the pattern and had to google loads. It's not perfect as I went wrong in a few places and I'm convinced it's going to fall apart after 1 wash but I have a real sense of 'I made that for my baby' I'm excited to start my next one although DD has called dibs on that so need more wool and bigger needles. I've been a bit lost this evening with no knitting to do

I'll certainly be joining the knitting group at the local sure start centre and perhaps I might even advance to cable knit cardigans!

I too have the mw tomorrow morning. I'm hoping I can get a decent wee sample as I seem to struggle every time. She didn't tell me which way up the baby was last time and put in my notes undefinable so I'm hoping it's a little more obvious this time. I'll certainly be asking as she doesn't tell you anything unless you ask. Can be very annoying.

I've been doing midwife appts alone too. DH used his 'free' time off for 12 and 20 week scans. He took a day and a half holiday last week when I had hospital then scan/consultant appt. Feel bad that he is using up holiday but as he says he's getting 2 weeks paternity leave and we don't have much planned for later in the year so doesn't mind using some now. I want him with me for scans and consultant appointments, not fussed about the routine midwife ones.

Banana fingers crossed for baby being head down! I get loads of baby hiccups in lower left side of tummy, and I know from scan that head and back are down that side. Feet are up under the right side of my ribs - ouch! Fingers crossed for yours no longer being sideways too RL20 but still plenty of time to move around at this stage

Have just eaten rubbish tonight still wasn't satisfied with what I had so just had a hot cross bun - now that's more my kind of seasonal food if a bit early hehe.

Sorry squatting I missed you off glad your scan was ok as well. My baby is breech at the moment as well midwife said they don't worry until you are 36 weeks as there is still room to turn.
I have a ball to bounce on and squatting and rotating your hips is supposed to help turn baby. Midwife also said sit up straight and do not cross your legs as this squashes your bump.

The Spinning Babies website is good for determining what position your baby is in and recommending ways to encourage them to turn if needed.

Misty - apple turnovers! Didn't know they still existed! I used to beg my mum to buy those at supermarket when I was little (she always declined sadly).

Yes good work on your scan too Squatting. are you keen on giving birth or would you not mind baby staying breech and having a section?

RL Ive gone to every appt by myself! Haven't thought anything of it.
DH came with me to scans but couldn't come to first scan, so my mum travelled up to come with me..mainly because I didn't know how I would cope alone if it was bad news.

Had first antenatal class today and brought DH along to it, I didn't even suggest he came to them all but thought the first one would be good seeing as the topic was Labour! ( only a couple of other dads there) I'm due last out of the whole class... Only one other even in April and she's due the 1st and all the rest of them are about to pop!! ( one having her section next week) and mostly second babies so I don't think its going to be the lifeline Id hoped for.

I now feel bad I've possibly excluded DH from coming with me to stuff? I think mostly he wouldn't want to and I don't particularly need/want him there while they check my BP and pee. I don't think its any reflection on how keen he will be to be hands on dad though!

Lauren what cardi? Waaa I can't see anything. Don't like the way it doesn't even tell me I'm missing something...

You're all making me jealous of your pancake talk. Been at a meeting since 7.30 so had a quick rushed tea and no time for pancakes!

Moomin don't stress it. My DH came to the scans and that was it. It's imho a complete and utter waste of time him coming to the appts for bloods etc. He touches Little Bump every now and again but that's about it. He's going to be like my dad the hunter/gatherer/do what it takes to provide for family type and that's fine by me. If he's 1/2 as good as my old man I'll be a v lucky lady. My dad worked away before I was born and at some points when worked closer to home was on 100+ hr weeks. He even took on a pt job with Avon when money got tight. You can't teach a work or family ethic like that. Tbh I'd feel a bit suffocated if we did everything pregnancy related together. As I'll be the one on maternity leave I will do the main bulk of childcare he can pitch in if wants however when Bump goes to nursery at 4 mths and I return to work we will share as will have to. Probably v old fashioned but such is life.

Morning all. Awake because my partner has left for work but will try to get in another hours sleep after this post!

Boo - That's reassuring but yes I've heard it gives you a cold also, so I'll double check as now mine has 80% cleared I really don't want it to go back to square one! As it was quite horrendous Especially as I only have a week and a half left at work until I go on maternity, with no holiday hours left and I can't afford to take sick days

Cinnamon - Thanks for letting me catch up, I'm glad everything seems to be getting better at each scan!

Misty - Banoffee pancakes sound yum. I love banoffee flavoured anything! We didn't have pancakes yesterday as I missed them off the shopping list by accident! Although we had pancakes last week anyway (the ones from Asda's bakery) which I warmed up and we had them with ice cream and sauce so I don't feel like I've missed out too much.

Wine - Glad your feeling better!

Lauren - Hope your midwife app goes ok this morning too
I managed to make a stripy patchwork blanket which I completed in dribs and drabs over about 6 weeks. Although it ended up too big to use as a blanket and as I lined it, probably far too warm aswell so going to keep it as something he can lie on when he's here! I also made a teddy bear out of an old fur coat. It's not the neatest and it's little legs look like he's just got off from riding a horse! I cut the leg base a bit too wide and couldn't correct it! But yes you do get that "I made it for my baby" feeling

Brummagem - Your partner sounds similar to how mine is going to be, and I'm absolutely fine with that too. (I'm saying that now, I might be saying different once I actually have a newborn to look after!). We'll see.

Now to try and get back to sleep!

RL I did a sock monkey for DD last summer and it looked a bit wonky too with its 'John Wayne' legs. I was pretty proud of it as I had to make it super fast as DD was getting impatient sewed it together in about 25mins, it was like krypton factor.

Love the idea of a Krypton factor monkey Lauren82000!!

No the best nights sleep, with being bunged up and ds2 waking us and Dh is back to work today after being off since Thursday for half term. Luckily he gets 2 weeks full pay for paternity leave or we wouldn't be able to afford for him to be off. It seems a bit stingy to not pay full pay when how many weeks in total would it be for a mans working life really? Two weeks zooms so fast anyway!

Argh!! After my bitch last night about DH and the dishes he didn't even empty the dishwasher and cleaned the sum total of 1 frying pan, he had the cheek to say to me "leave it, it will get done" oh really by who?! His mum's over later and we have friends over this evening, so I can't leave it till he's home tomorrow! Went into full on rage and told him he couldn't leave the house to go to work until the kitchen was clean. Perhaps a little incredibly unreasonable, but as he'd kept me up half the night with his snoring again I was already having a bad morning!

not caught up much but that cardigan is soo lovely lauren!
I really must get my Nan to teach me to knit! I'm feeling inspired

RL i've gone to all my midwife appointments alone too, me and DH work together and he's busier than I am so it's easier to go alone. And they're not interesting for the bloke, it's just bloods and measurements and stuff.

I didn't have pancakes last night for the first time ever : ( was at antenatel so we just went to Burger King on the way home instead.

Love the Daddy bonding ideas, they gave us a hand out at antenatel last night about things Dad can do to bond once born. Like bath time, after feed cuddles, dad groups (although my DH will be working so won't get to go to any of them)

Feeling a bit sad today. Got the dreaded phone call from DHs dad this morning. His step mum died this morning. Such a shame but she hung on for ages considering they told her she had days/weeks just before Christmas. He's one of these men that don't do emotions so despite giving him a big hug he's all I'm fine. Says he's more bothered about what were going to do with DD as it's going to be a 2 day trip minimum. I know she will be fine between my mum and his for a few days and if it's nursery days it's not too bad. I really want to go to the funereal as I really liked her and we got on really well but now he's made me feel guilty about leaving DD. Am I being selfish? He just goes on about the fact my mum doesn't text me when DD stays over and lets me know how she's doing. My mum doesn't have her phone with her every second of the day and he's one to talk as his mum never answers the phone!