April 2015 Thread 11: The finish line is in sight as we get closer to maternity leave and our babies!

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Old thread getting full xx

My DH could come to the appointments, he asked if I wanted him to but I said no. He has come to the scans and the antenatal classes, I don't need him to come with me to see the midwife.

He works for himself and honestly I think the appointments are pretty quick and unimportant. If there was ever a problem I could easily call and he would come meet me.

My back is hurting again today, seems to just appear so I think it must be position related. It will disappear as quickly.

Oh Lauren sorry to hear your news. She has done well though, I remember you were all dealing with the news of "weeks" back in December so she really did battle on. Men are like that. Usually they share a bit more a few days later - mine does anyway. But they are generally pretty pragmatic. I know you will be sad too though. Dd will be fine, its not selfish, go to the funeral. Dd will hardly remember but you might regret missing your chance to say goodbye. Look after yourself today

I also wanted to say that your cardigan is gorgeous, I'm so impressed for a first go!!! Not too effeminate at all if it's a boy, he'll be tiny and newborns basically just look cute!

Glad all scans went ok - and cinnamon that is such good news!

wine so glad you are feeling better. Sounds like it was a bug since you felt cold and horrid. Yuck.

Dh and I got a couple of hrs together making/eating pancakes and watching tv last night and plan to try to do our date night tonight. He stepped up a little making sure we tidied the kitchen before bed and he sorted the bedroom a bit before I got home. Feeling a bit happier, and hope he can get home on time tonight. With no work to do!!!

Feeling slightly frustrated because plans to meet a friend have fallen through because she is ill, and my plan to take dd swimming this am instead before the baby pool closes for the afternoon are being scuppered by having to wait in for a man to come and collect the courtesy car we have been using. Feeling all irritated now! Harumph!!!

Being in the house with dd is harder work than being out in many ways!

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Boo - I would have raged too. Not unreasonable at all.

Hiding I wouldn't worry about your DH not going to dad bonding groups. IME men are very good at making friends with - and getting on well with - the husbands of their wives' friends. That's how we roll since getting married and having DD anyway. In any case if they're working full time quite frankly they have less need of a big circle of reliable chums! Is that dreadfully sexist?!

Lauren sorry to hear your news and no I don't think you're being selfish. Funeral will be a chance for you to pay your respects to someone who was important to you. Your mum is clearly perfectly capable of taking good care of your DD, the fact that she doesn't provide running commentary is neither here nor there - mine doesn't either and she has DD two days a week.

Siarie I find with back pain getting up and about seems to help. Absolute worst is sitting at a desk for any length of time.

31 wks today.

Sorry to hear the news Lauren. As the other ladies have said, i'm sure your DD will be fine and it's better to have the chance to say goodbye.

Starting to feel the lack of sleep now and it can only go downhill. Sitting at a desk all day isn't helping as it just makes me want to nap! Ah well, off for our babymoon next Sunday - Wednesday, a few days in the New Forest which will hopefully mean a good rest for both of us.

Sorry to hear your news Lauren

Can anybody answer a question on nappies?
The weights mean nothing to me at this stage, how long roughly is baby in size 2 and 3 for?
Apologies if anybody is in Lancashire as there may me a nappy shortage because my Mum seems to have stockpiled nappies
Just wondering whether I swap for a different size or change every 10 minutes due to the amount I have!

Good news on the scans squatting and cinnamon.

Lauren, cardi is lovely and Im sorry to hear about your news. Go to the funeral. You'll be sad if you miss it.

Boo, too right! He needs to do his share of the chores.

Just had appointment and they've taken more blood cause of my breathlessness and they are going to scan my heart again. Back to 2 weekly appointment now. Balls! Should be going to work but Im so fed up that instead Im going to Burger King and then home for a nap.

Lauren so sorry to hear your bad news. Don't feel guilty at all about going to the funeral, sounds like your DD will be well looked after and your DH might appreciate the support more than he thinks he will.

Glad you got some better time with your DH daholster shame about your plans for the day though. It's a beautiful day here mild and sunny - wish I didn't have pelvis pain so I could go and enjoy a nice walk. Going to meet some friends for lunch soon though (half my friends are off with it being half term!) so at least will get me out a bit more.

Boo I would have been annoyed too, men just don't 'see' sometimes what needs doing in the house, and it really bothers me if washing up etc is sitting for ages. DH will do things but often doesn't realise that things need doing iyswim!

kismac hope you're feeling ok - sounds like you're being kept a close eye on. Not sure if you've had problems with your heart before but hope the scan is ok and enjoy your Burger King.

I was at the hospital for my bloods this morning - although they said unless they call me to just continue my medication and more bloods again next week before seeing consultant. So thankfully that didn't take too long. Then have just got in from breast feeding workshop. So pleased I went mainly because I've now registered with the children's centre at the end of my street and sounds like they have plenty of activities on and they said someone will come out to see me after having baby to see what would be useful for me to go to. The breast feeding workshop was very pro breast feeding (obviously!) went through positioning attachment etc which was useful for me. Would worry me though that if it doesn't work out for whatever reason then I will feel like I'm failing my baby, which logically I know is not the case at all but there just seems to be quite a lot of pressure! Sounds like there is plenty of support though so fingers crossed.

kismac I was saying on Facebook that I've been breathless, high resting pulse (100+) and palpitations. I'm ok today though but I'll mention it at my 31 week appointment Monday, are your current issues related to a previous health condition or?

Lauren sorry to hear your news, that's terrible. Don't feel guilty about leaving your little one, I'm sure it'll be absolutely fine!

Penguin - the workshop sounds great and sounds like a good support network! I'm looking forward to starting my antenatal classes in March. Although I've chosen not to breastfeed for the time being, I do understand where you're coming from. Don't put pressure on yourself though if for some reason it doesn't work out. I'm sure they'll tell you at the workshop that it's not for everybody, and at least then you have tried.

Firaffe I love the New Forest! It's one place were hoping on taking baby around September time possibly for a short break.

Wine I'm also a bit naive when it comes to nappies so it'll be interesting to hear any answers. We've stocked up on the "newborn size" (is that size 1?) in a couple of different brands. Reason being is incase one brand doesn't particularly suit and then at least there isn't loads and loads of them to use up, and we can move on to a different brand. I've stopped buying nappies now though as it's hard to say how quickly they are going to grow and need the next size up?!

Been to my midwife appointment this morning, last time the midwife thought he may have been laying sideways and now (different midwife) thinks that he is breech! I know a few of you have had this recently but I can't remember who. We'll see what happens at my next appointment in 3 weeks time as she said that there is still room and time for him to move position.

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I've got a heart murmur. Had it since birth, so think that's why they are a bit concerned. I think Im just carrying too high. But I'll be good and do as Im told. Im to go to maternity assessment unit if it gets worse. I feel a bit silly cause I was making jokes about it but they've taken it seriously. Oh well.

wine I think you get through about ten nappies a day with newborns but they do grow quickly so I wouldn't buy too many of newborn size.

Got the car back early after all so took dd swimming, I am knackered now and GUESS WHO WON'T NAP????!!! We went SWIMMING for goodness sake!!! Little monkey... So, Peppa on again while I splurge, oh dear...

lauren sorry to hear about your news. for what it's worth I think you should go to the funeral, DD won't suffer for spending time with your mum whilst you go.

penguin glad the breastfeeding session was worth it!

squatting so long as it's been in the fridge I'm sure it'll be fine to use today, though we used ours all up last night because we're gutsy :P

rl and squatting bump was breech at last scan, transverse at the hospital the other week and I now can't for the life of me work out what way she is, as I can't feel a head or bum anywhere, but guess I'll see at tomorrows scan hyperventilates

I started looking into c-sections in case she's still breech, so that I'm prepared for the conversation with the consultant and was surprised to find that my hospital offers to sterilise you as part of the procedure... It's got me thinking, and I'm wondering about asking if I can go for an elective section and get sterilised, as we're not planning on having any more children, and it would set MiL's mind at ease about us trying to sneak any more in, but perhaps it's a bit extreme... and there's a crazy part of my mind that's thinking 'what if my little sister needs my womb and eggs' maybe I'm over thinking...

MiL took DD and I shopping, so I'm all chilled out post this morninghaving spent loads of money in the sainsburys clothes sale and DD has some pretty, spring happy clothes. I went into work to find my old department has had some huge changes though, Only one person left on the department that I know, even the manager has moved department and I've been barely gone a fortnight!!

I've done it! All booked in for the 'everything off' wax at the beginning of next month... now just got to hope that they don't want me in for a bloody scan that morning, as I made the huge mistake of booking it for a Thursday... Then I can go for another one the first week of April if baby isn't coming early. I feel all organised!

daholster my little monster napped in the car on the way home this morning! I tried everything to keeper awake, now she's full of beans and I just want to sleep >.< I'm impressed that you managed swimming, just the thought of taking DD to the pool is exhausting!

boo hooray to have an "everything off" buddy! I took dd swimming because her usual lesson we go to in the afternoons is not on today because it's half term... Not just cos I am a super selfless mummy! But I know she misses it when it isn't on - and I do too actually, I love seeing her happy little face!!!

Oh I so want to go to look at the TU clothes... Maybe tomorrow afternoon between shifts...

Yes pancake mix should be fine if it went in the fridge

Ps don't worry about breech. Dd was breech at 34 weeks and had turned by 36 weeks, they still move a lot up til 36 weeks I believe.

daholster there's some truly gorgeous stuff in there, and the 20% off sale doesn't hurt! thee's also a straw hat with ears!! it's far too big for DD but very cute! I've only ever my eyebrows waxed before, and the lady on the phone didn't ask about my waxing history, would it be weird to tell the lady on the day to carry on going if I start crying?

Not too worried about being breech, I'd be just as happy with a section as a vaginal birth, happier TBH, it's finding out if she's still growing properly that I'm panicking about, and DH's general impatient grumbling that I'll be subjected to the whole time we're there...

squatting nooo don't blame me! I'm sure it'll be fine though, does it smell alright?

Daholster yes the midwife did say around 36 weeks is when they sort of decide what to do regarding sending you for a scan etc. So I've still got just under 5 weeks for him to keep moving around!

I've just unpacked and tried out my Tommee Tippee Perfect Prep machine for the first time and I'm so impressed! The set up took a little while (around 20-25 mins) but you have to let it do the deep clean which is obviously necessary.
I also used my microwaveable steriliser too. I'm looking forward to actually doing feeds now!

Afterwards me and my mum got into a conversation as I suddenly thought, with all these electrical things (and that includes a kettle even if you don't use the perfect prep machine) .. How would you feed baby if there was a powercut during the night?! I always think about little things like this! (Hence me previously asking about how you feed baby when your out for x amount of hours! ). My hobs are also electric too.
We couldn't really resolve the question!

Interesting thought RL! I don't know the answer as they say the water should be boiling (or at least boiled) to mix the powder if you're ff don't they?

As you ladies are the font of all knowledge another one for you - anyone know if there is a correlation between when DH and I were born (ie 2 weeks early in his case) and when we might expect little one to arrive? Google failed me!

rl we have a little gas camp stove thing and some gas canisters for if we ever had a power cut, and if we end up bottle feeding we'll make sure to get some milton stuff in just i case.

fir my side of the family have only had one child in my generation born past their due date (that's 4 on dads side and almost 20 on mums), I'm the first to have children from my generation, but am expecting the chances of bump going over to be pretty low...

RL20 my mom was banging on about 16 hour sterilisation in water and milton and everything being super convenient now. If you're bottle feeding keep a few ready mades(70p a bloody bottle in Waitrose! O.o) in the cupboard and get the old 70s milton sterilisation on the go. It's the future. Bit like garlic bread.

How are you ladies today? Brought a gym ball lol to scared to sit on it yet though haha finished my nursery today what do you think? Not got my changer for top of cot yet though

RL20 My prep machine has been sat on the kitchen counter since Christmas, I can just tell it's going to be a life saver.

Brum is 70p a bottle good value? If it is I'll be sure to buy some as I live right next to a waitrose