April 2015 Thread 11: The finish line is in sight as we get closer to maternity leave and our babies!

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Old thread getting full xx

I haven't posted for sooo long!!

We have been discussing visitors, I'm not telling anyone I have gone into labour, they can all wait till he's here. It's more about them not having a running commentary and worrying if they don't hear from us. I have also said no hospital visitors unless we are in for days after and if DP has his way we won't have anyone visit for a couple of weeks, I am thinking let the parents, Grandparents and my siblings in, he's an only child. We can sort out friends at a later date, they all understand. Thankfully everyone is local and I plan on telling them to stay an hour to start with and then give us some space, esp if we are trying to bf. Its a minefield but I think you have to set your stall out early, Hopefully mine will all behave!!

I am so over not sleeping well, not being comfortable, it hurts to stand for to long, hurts to sit almost anywhere and I'm ready to see him now, last week a work for me and then hopefully I can get the baby's room organised, as its just a dumping ground for baby stuff right now.

This little man is back to back at the mo, so hoping he turns around, I am 34+4 now so theres plenty of time.

Sorry for those of you not sleeping, how you are managing with toddlers amazes me!!

Mswibble you sound a lot like myself. I'm all for the solitude too, and my mum is exactly the same. Even at times when me and my partner went/go to his relatives house and they were all engaged in conversation, and I'd make the effort to add my say, I feel like it always got ignored anyway as they tend to just talk all over each other! So then if quietly go back to reading a magazine and wishing I wasn't there.
I feel so strongly that I don't want my baby to be brought up constantly around them bickering and talking about nothingness. If it can turn me crazy (and I'm a calm person) then it can turn anyone crazy!

I can't seem to wake up properly today. I woke up at 8am and ended up going back to sleep for an hour later on. I'm still in bed and have only been getting up for a wee/food/drinks
I'm so annoyed at myself as I have work later on and really need to get some washing and housework done

Sorry for those of you not sleeping, how you are managing with toddlers amazes me!!

the toddler is WHY I'm not sleeping! LOL he's currently refusing his nap and playing with a very loud toy...

ebwy I'm going to have to dig out my Labriynth soundtrack now, that will definitely cheer me up!

You must be my twin RL! Whenever I go over there I get a headache within an hour and I just bury myself in whatever newspaper I can find. I've found it doesn't matter whether i speak or not as his family do not talk to you, they talk at you, they don't even wait for a response most of the time. Its like they're scared of silence and believe its better to just have non stop chatting. Whereas my family are very much the original Royle Family. We can happily sit for hours in the same room without saying a word, its not awkward as we're all merrily doing whatever it is we're doing. Silence is golden!

In happier news, I had my first actual shower since January 13th this morning! It was glorious. (I have had baths and washes since then - I'm not a total stinkpot) and I used my new bath lily covered in Dr Bronners Peppermint. Squeaky clean and tingly - marvellous. We only have the bathroom flooring to do, and then we can put in the new radiator and we are done! Probably the longest and most stressful bathroom renovation in the history of home improvements but the end is definitely in sight. I'm most jealous of Brixtons speedy progress with the house, what a difference having competent, non fuckwit trademen must make! I think you've managed to do most of your work in the time its taken us to redo all the bodged jobs done by the first guy!

Lila - in a few years perhaps you'll be preg with no 2 and it'll be your turn!

You will look back at this maternity leave and wonder why you didn't take every opportunity to lie down...

wibble you shouldn't have to share the weeks, I suppose what I'm saying is don't let it bother you. Just talk to her and tell her what you want, but don't let the whole situation stress you out.

I was slowly getting more and more frustrated (and no one had even said they were coming) but I knew they probably would. It's really easy to think when we're pregnant that everything is about pregnancy and easy for us to take offence to things that a simple conversation would put right.

When i first announced my pregnancy my MIL and my own mother both kept telling me how to do things and I found it really annoying, both stopped randomly I had no idea why. But then at Christmas my MIL said "you know I realised I was going on and on about how to do this and that. Then I remembered how annoying I found that from my own mother".

Sometimes I think people forget

Mswibble - love the reference to the Royle Family! When I'm over at my mums house, we could sit together for hours on end and realise we haven't spoke much but it hadn't been awkward. And when we do speak it's intelligent conversation or something worth talking about, or just having a laugh!
I can't seem to hear myself think when I'm round partners relatives, I think that's what drives me insane!

Well I've managed to put half of the washing away, and now I've sat back down

Hi ladies, phew just caught up!! Whilst we are talking about visitors I have been thinking about this too, I have a small family, whereas OH has a huge family (13 brothers and sisters on his dads side and 8 on his mums!) although he isn't close to all of them (some of his family he's never met!) the baby will coincide with moving into our new house so imagine we will get some busybodies who just want to be nosey!

I would like to pick and choose who visits us in the hospital I think parents and siblings are fine and one of OH's aunts who I am very close to, it's only fair I was in the room with her when she was in labour and took her older boys up to the hospital once baby was here! But unless I have to stay in for a longer period of time other people can wait until we are back home. I need to speak to my OH about this as I know he will be so excited to show off our baby he won't understand the need to put the brakes on visiting!

I'm now 31+1 and am very excited to be in single figures for the weekly countdown! It's scary to think that from Sunday I can say our baby is due next month!!

Had a rubbish nights sleep last night, I was in a board meeting for 4.5 hours yesterday afternoon with very few breaks and my back was agony by the end and I couldn't ease it all night! Think I will work from home the rest of the week!

I'm wondering if I can get DH to put his foot down and say no visitors whilst bump and I are recovering from labour, my parents friend recently had a baby and they had no guests for two whole weeks!

squidge if we're not in for more than 24 hours then I'm going to say no visitors at all at the hospital, and I'll refuse them if they try and come. If we're in a few days then Pil and my parents can come but that's it, last time my grandparents trapsed all he way to the hospital for a half an hour visit which was entirely unnecessary.

blimey squidge saying next month does make it seem very imminent!

Boo I know I can't believe it! And I'm the 27th so right at the end, some of you are due end of March early April so it's even closer for you!!

I also noticed there is now a November thread Our babies will be 7 months by then!!

I havent got GD! Woohoo! It must have been the chocolate buttons from the night before which tainted my urine sample at the midwife appt!

A November babies thread? Wow! Thats madness!

squidge I did see the November thread whilst I was looking for our stats thread I'm bowled over backwards, where the heck has all the time gone?!

yay mswibble! bet that's a relief!

46 days to go till my due date O.o I remember the excitement when it hit double figures, before we know it it'll be in single figures! How's everyone's bumps looking?

Boo that's such a cute picture

Wow I have made a mental note to discuss visitors with DH later on! I think we need some rules/visiting hours as well as much as I don't want to get lonely I will have DH off work for 2 weeks and just want to spend time bonding as a family. Realise it is inevitable we will have visitors but I need to make sure they are planned and not all landing at once, can't be doing with entertaining all the time!

Wow a November thread!! I also can't believe how far time has flew by so far.
My last week of work this week. Was due to be Thursday but they have asked me if I could help out for a few extra hours on Saturday and Sunday so if I feel ok after my whooping cough vaccine on Thursday then I will do.

Mswibble glad to hear you haven't got GD!

Boo with regards to bumps, mine is looking and feeling ok so far! Still no stretch marks on actual bump but have got them elsewhere.
I still get the odd "Ooh you're still not very big are you!" from people who I haven't seen for a while. Which makes me feel a bit but he's measuring normal I'm sure everything will hopefully be fine.

Also good news mswibble about the GTT!
And my snuzpod has been delivered only need the travel system now. Can't wait to see it when I get home later.

RL people are funny, some random woman in a shop yesterday said I looked ready to pop, but am quite small for 31 weeks!

Ooh looking forward to being able to say baby is due next month...not too long to go!

Glad you said something mrs w. It was a sore point with me because my MIL kept saying she was going to be at the hospital as well as saying its "her" baby. After much ranting at OH he confirmed with her what our wishes were-which is basically "we will let you know". She was fine-just got carried away. All being well we will have visitors at the Hosp. The main thing u need is your OH on side. Make sure he gets it about bf-ing. I have briefed my OH about it lol. Ie baby will be on the boob hourly. Boobs will be hanging out.
Pregnancy has defo made me more assertive. I dont give a flying rat's arse about offending people because I think it is reasonable to be a bit UNreasonable if you've just given birth!

Aww cute pic Boo!

58 days to go for me. I think he may have shifted position as my bump doesnt seem as big as it had. Not sure whether I'm getting used it but I can nearer the kitchen sink so I'm not suffering with back ache as much when washing up. And I'm not accidentally bumping bump into stuff! He's happily kicking and wriggling so i'm not concerned.

V pleased about the negative result, but its been a wake up call and I will definitely be cutting down on chocolate and naughty stuff, I dont want to develop it even later on and lead to further complications. (I should be thinking like that all the time anyway, given my family history) I'm really happy to be classed as low risk and allowed to use the MLU so I want to keep it that way!

Ladies with GD what are your symptoms? and did it show up on a urine test?

I'm anti-social too Siarie and RL and whoever else said it. I'm grateful for offers of help. But I find it quite hard because I'm very independent. So I have to be grateful but vague so as not to burn bridges.

Also it's like, I'm an adult and - I know people are being caring - I can't bear being infantilised just because I'm preggers. I don't know if anyone else has had this?

I'm bloody grumpy !!

Oh my Christ 51 days! Argh. Much still to do.

nope, urine is always normal... i think i am fairly asymptomatic, but i do get a very dry mouth overnight - but that could be related to having a blocked nose and breathing through the mouth...

Chicken - Yes very much independent too. I think my partners family aren't independent at all. They all rely on their mum and dad (his grandparents) for everything - things I don't even rely on my parents for now at the age of 22. And yes these are all fully grown adults all over the the age of 35! It's very cringe-worthy. But this is why I think his family feel that it's ok to step in and try and take over. I think they're hopefully coming to realise that I'm one person that doesn't need them at all. Here's hoping!