October baby bus #2

[MrsEvansAlmost]

Hello new thread to chat on as we filled up the first!!

Thought I better pop in, I read every night before bed but rarely post. I'm reaoly suffering with nausea and being sick and complete and utter hit with a ton of bricks exhaustion! I've sworn many times I will NEVER do this again but I said that last time too, hoping again I will forget! Luckily my dad is retired and has come to stay for the week, my 23 month DS adores him and he's helpful around the house and after DS decided to start coughing last night, he was awake 9pm to midnight in our bed then promptly threw up everywhere, I was very grateful to hand him over this morning! Anyone else beyond tired yet can't sleep, I'm waking ecery hour at least then often awake for a couple of hours day dreaming of being asleep in bed, so why can't I bloody sleep! Plus I'm in the can't stop eating camp, it's the only thing that helps me not feel sick but only lasts a couple of hours then need to eat...again! I've already put on 9lbs and normally a size 10 so feel enormous! Hello everyone new

we won't be buying anything until 15-20 weeks I have a few friends having babies so if things don't fit I will either exchange it or give it to them! I haven't bought anything tiny as I don't believe bean will be small. I gave a horrible feeling it will be as big as I was 9lb 13!! my poor mum! dp was early so was small but still 8lb something that's not tiny! everything goes back to normal after bean pops out right?!

Falling, have you spoken to DH/DP about how anxious you're feeling and about not feeling able to make the appointment? Maybe he could book it and attend with you to help make sure they listen to you and really address your worries. Sometimes, if you're feeling really down, it's easy to feel like it's too hard to explain it to a doctor or midwife. They will have seen other people who feel like this too and should have some idea of how to help, whether that's a scan to reassure you or referring you to someone who can discuss your worries and help you find out why you're feeling so different this time.

Sorry you're feeling rough, Essex. Sounds like it must have been a nightmare with DS throwing up in your bed. Hope he's better tonight and that you can get a good night's sleep.

Cineraria you sound like me. I've lost weight since finding out even though my boobs have gone up two cup sizes and I feel really bloated. No idea what is going on - I haven't been sick at all so can't blame it on that.

Not had a lot of symptoms this week - I get nausea from around 11am-1pm then in the afternoons I feel like I'm about to fall asleep at my desk but nothing too bad. Was absolutely shattered when I got in tonight though!

falling try not to worry. i think it will be a good positive step if u make an appointment. u say u dont have any symptoms but how ur feeling could be a symptom in itself.

i worry i dont have any either but i do, i think just when u start reading people being sick etc you wonder why you arent then automatically think oh no i dont have any symptoms.

i had an mmc before christmas, i had symptoms. i went for a scan convinced everything was fine and it wasnt.

if you darent make an appointment how about speaking to your community mifwives? if they hear how worried and stressed you are the may arrange an early scan. hope u r feeling a little better today.

Thank you Pug and Cineraria. x
You are both right. I will book an appointment today. I have tried talking to DH but he just says " don't be silly, everything will be fine, it was last time". How helpful! I think part of my low feeling is sheer exhaustion. Dd has never been a great sleeper but has been I'll since Sunday and is cutting a molar so she has been miserable and waking up 5/6 times a night. I have clearly forgotten how to survive on 2hr sleep chunks since she was a newborn!
So sorry that so many people are feeling so rough. Sending you all hugs and non-nauseous thoughts.

Crossed posts Gingerbread. Thankyou for your kind words. I am so sorry about your loss last year. You sound like you are being amazingly calm and level- headed in these early weeks. Thankyou again for your reassurance. What a lovely bus you all are. x

falling so sorry you're feeling as you do. Pregnancy is meant to be a time of joy but when you get there all you do is worry! It's totally and utterly understandable.
I've never understood why we have to wait until 12 weeks these days for a scan. We should be offered a reassurance scan at 8 weeks, but that's just my opinion.
I would DEFINITLY talk to someone in RL though as you never know, you may be sent for an early scan (assuming you're uk based).
It's hard, but just try not to think about it too much.

I was absolutely petrified yesterday before my scan that there was nothing going to be there, I had to run to the loo several times, but there was little Choccy bean with their heart beating away. Why does pregnancy have to be so sodding stressful!! It doesn't get much better when they're born either!

MrsE does what go back to normal? Your belly or your fanjo?
Your belly will never be the same again. Yes it'll go back to flat, but you'll always have some cellulite looking appearance. Your fanjo, yes you'll be fine :) Ds was 8/13, 2 stitches and I managed to jump on dh when ds was 12 days old (sorry tmi! But a woman still has needs too )

Just to give MrsE a fair picture, yes it all pretty much goes back to normal. Your belly will go flat again if you can be arsed to do any exercise (I never bothered after DS ).

Your fanjo, well, I think that depends on your delivery. Won't scare you but I certainly wasn't prepared to have DH anywhere near me for a long time!

Just wanted to give a balance picture

i dont know falling i spoke to gp when i first found out this time and they told me to make positive steps forward instead of worrying about what if. it was good advice.

at 7+2 or more as i suspect i am i have relaxed a bit more now and dont have any signs of anything being wrong so will just keep assuming everything is fine.

booking in today which is a big milestone as i never got to my last one so im a bit excited for this and then hopefully will receive a scan appointment do all little steps.

try and speak to someone i think you will benefit from it and you will feel better sharing your fears with a professional. btw exhaustion is a massive symptom, i know ur dd is still not well but still lol! hope she is feeling better soon.

Aww falling sorry to hear how you are feeling, I am feeling very similar and it is horrible. Although it is not making me avoid appts etc - I'm quite the opposite in that I'm very keen to have them for reassurance. I had a scan at 5+5 and everything looked fine but my next scan is on Saturday where I will be 9+1 and I honestly feel like I will be totally shocked if everything is OK. I just don't feel pregnant at all and think I should. Even though everyone tells me no symptoms is fine and I'm just lucky - but it's just making me worry so much. I cannot wait until Saturday to find out but I'm just nervous for the appointment and not excited. The few people who know about the pregnancy keep saying I'm being silly and I need to stop being so pessimistic and get excited instead but I can't change how I feel so I suppose I just have to keep it to myself. Or at least just moan to you poor buggers haha.

Well done for taking steps towards getting an appointment, I am sure that everything will be perfect with your little bean and I hope you feel better soon.

thanks looks and choccy I've always been little and pretty active so I'm not worried about losing the baby weight and am pretty determined I will still be the thinnest sister! more concerned about the state my grumble will be in after pushing out a human! best do pelvic floor s at every opportunity!

I too am worried about the state of my chuff and also bleeding during delivery (working in blip trans

Blood transfusion that should be - my phone is being idiotic!

I'm swaying towards the thought of an elective section...

I don't want a bucket biff :(

I had an episiotomy and forceps delivery (sorry to any one prudish or squeamish but we're all in this together and labour isn't glamorous) and everything went back to normal, eventually.

Loving all the names for your delicate flowers

I'm a tiny person who pushed out a massive baby very quickly. She tore her way out and i was stitched front to back. After a couple of months I can promise you my fanjo was back to normal.

So after being told off by dh that I need to eat (I do not feel like it today), I have had a mahoosive burger in wetherspoons. It made me feel better for about 10 mins and now I feel rough again.
I would rather be bloody sick and get it over with!!
However, my mum said she was the same with me and the thing that got her through was sipping lucozade. OMG she is right!! Lucozade has become my new BF!! Only sipping though as packed with sugar and has caffeine too.
Might be worth a try for those of you feeling rough too. 2l for £2 in Sainsburys :)

I'd definitely second the Lucozade, Choccy (and also second not having too much!). It works really quickly and even seems to help the indigestion a bit too. The pink lemonade one seems best to me as tangy tasting stuff helps me most and the others are too sweet for me.

Good tip on Lucozade. I'll try that as nothing else is hitting the spot. Is anyone else lightheaded as well as nauseous? I keep feeling like I'm going to keel over. Feel like a fraud for complaining as I've not actually even been sick yet!

Re your fanjo. I had an episiotomy last time and was terrified of how mine would be afterwards. It seems ok! Although I didn't go near poor DH for months afterwards...

That wasn't aimed particularly at your fanjo by the way cineraria......

Probably should have proof read before posting.

That's good to hear, Ginzillas; aiming things at it is what caused all this trouble!

Ha! Exactly....

Gin I get a bit lightheaded occasionally, if I get up and walk off somewhere too quickly. Not all the time but more so than normal.
Also just feel a bit weird sometimes, but can't quite explain how. Had a bit of a nauseous morning today.

All this fanjo talk... ?????? I'm scared now!

Is anyone else finding keeping the secret just so hard? I have a great group of colleagues and more than a few of them are in various stages of pregnancy- there have been so many baby and pregnancy related conversations that I've really had to keep my mouth shut for fear of blurting it out. One of them asked me today if i wanted a baby any time soon.. I couldn't stop myself from grinning and nodding furiously until she worked it out, then frantically shushing her not to make it obvious to others that were in the room! I don't want it to be public news until I've had my 12 week scan but I love getting excited about it with friends and I'm just praying all is developing as it should in there. 8+2 today and no problems so far. Still, I think if the worst happens and I find a mmc at the scan I hope I will be glad I have shared the joy with a few people and will be grateful of their support.

Oh it's such an emotional rollercoaster, now I'm feeling like I shouldn't be telling people... Sigh.

Sorry just realised that post was epic.