July '15 - starting our 2nd trimester

[StoneBaby]

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It's one of those things that I do think you get what you pay for. You can pick up an asda car seat for hardly anything but I'd be worried about the safety of it at a low price. We paid crazy money for our Cybex but we are safety freaks when it comes to dd and, after extended rear facing (another hot topic!), we reckon it's the safest type of seat we could afford. Personally speaking, I'd skimp on buying tons of clothes and expensive toys and instead put the budget towards car seat, buggy and a decent carrier.

Slightly I think I remember you from the mc boards. Congratulations!!!

broody and gotto my friend is a gf parent and we are much more ap so you can imagine how much their advice conflicted with our opinions.

We have the maxi cosi pebble and family fix base but I think we paid £150 for both together. Dd is still in the pebble at 1 year and still plenty of room in height and weight limit before needing the next seat.

Maxi cosi have just changed their seats though so there are now two families of car seat. They have 2 pearl seats now (second car seat), one erf and one forward facing but they need different bases so worth considering that now as it will be much cheaper to buy one base that will do the two than have to buy another at a later date.

Oh and the pebble can be fitted with both isofix (using the base) or seat belt. We needed one that could fit with both as our inlaws car didn't have isofix (even though it's only a 10 plate). Don't know if that is the same for the cabriofix.

It is confusing Lucky. Ours is the easy fix base

Yes the easy fix base only fits with the first car seat whereas you can get seats that fit on the family fix base that go up to 4 years.

Please can someone add me to stats - due 14/7, DC1, 30 years. Thanks in advance

Number can my edd be changed to July 21st please :)

Exact same here nature! I just hate that woman. Not even had kids, how can she preach?!

I did use CIO and it worked really well/quickly. I went from a baby that slept 40min naps on me at 11m to 2hr naps in cot. And 12-13hrs in a go at night. But then its what the nursery would have done when DD went at 13m. Each child is so different and respond to different things.

I think we had an easybase given to us and used a cabriofix. Actually its not too much hassle when i had to use seatbelt.
I think as pp said easybase may be seatbelt fixed so could be used in any car.

Now we will have to consider fitting a maxi cosi stage 2 car seat and the cabriofix in the back of a peugeot 307

Please could you add me to the stats? EDD 24 July. This will be DC1, I'm 33. Thanks!

I do think it's each to their own in parenting styles and naty is right that each child is different. I knew gf wasn't for us when we were perusing her book and it said that you have to be careful about cuddles as it should fulfil the babies needs and not your own (or something along those lines). But her methods seem to work for my friend who is very proud her baby sleeps through since 3 months. My friend and I acknowledge we have very different styles and leave it at that.

Ha! That was where I got to in her book before giving it back to my well meaning friend! She was horrified that we didn't read much and that instead of putting baby on a bloody schedule/timetable, we fed on demand and - heaven forbid! - got her into bed with us. She was always off with me since then, never spoke much about anything unless she had to... such a shame that personal choice about raising children could ruin what I considered to be quite a lovely friendship.

What a shame Broody, people's views on this stuff should not affect their friendships. I have avoided that book completely but my sister has looked at it and followed the odd thing when she happens to agree with it.

So true purple, 2 of my NCT friends are avid GF followers but haven't (to my face anyway!) judged the way I do things. In the same way that their method isn't for me but I won't judge them for doing it if it's right for them. Such a shame that they're letting it affect your friendship broody! I generally find it best to be fairly non committal when discussing parenting methods anyway , then they have nothing to judge me for!

I know purple, such a shame. Thing is, I'm not at all confrontational so it wasn't as if I handed it back saying "that's shit, I'm not doing any of that!", I was really polite, thanked her for the loan and gave it her back. When she quizzed me, I said it was interesting to see another perspective. Only under intense questioning did I finally say it wasn't for us. I wasn't rude about her choice, everyone has a choice and it's up to them to decide how to raise their child, I just said that it wasn't our kinda thing! Then I was given the old "rod for your own back/dd will never learn/spoiling her too much" stuff - which I just took with polite smiles. Hey ho. Upsetting at the time for sure.

Naty we have a 2 door Peugeot 206 and will have to try and contend with a stage 2 and newborn car seat . I've told DH that a new car is next on our priority list!

Catching up on today's posts, must log the car seat recommendations. I am due to get a new car first so gotta sort that and then we can get into the car seat minefield!

Naturegirl what does ap stand for?! In that gf (Gina Ford) parents and you said you were much more ap parents? I don't have a clue and just wondered.

Think we'll be ordering nursery furniture tomorrow, so that's exciting! Knew what set I liked before we even got pregnant, or had even decorated nursery!

Hope everyone has a fab weekend x

I would say the intense questioning was pretty out of order to start with. It's your business how you go about doing this whole parenting lark and she should have minded her beeswax and not put you in that position. None of my friends (the majority of which had kids long before me) ever did anything like that.

MrsF AP stands for attachment parenting.

We are definitely on the attachment/gentle parenting side of things when they are babies. I am just too soppy to do anything else. Horses for courses, I reckon.

We were ready to do cc with DS when he was 8 months as the only reason he was still waking up at night was because he had lost his dummy and needed it back. So I took a long weekend off, stocked up on coffee and got ready for sleepless nights. On the 1st night, he woke up twice but early evening and then slept throught. I was shocked. I just hope this one will be as easy (despites DS been a terrible napper)

Oh, forgot to say, he did not sleep with a dummy since that 1st night

Sorry went for dinner. MrsT ap is attachment parenting. I wouldn't say that we have followed any particular method just gone with the flow, but we breastfed on demand (well I did anyway ha!), used slings, coslept when necessary although I'm not massively keen on it myself as it worries me but it did get us some sleep, did baby led weaning etc.

Everyone just needs to find their own way but to judge other people on their method is wrong in my opinion. That's a shame you lost a friend over different parenting methods broody. People can get very defensive.

Sorry that should have been TTCMrsF!

GotTo me too - little corsa! Not sure how to get a car seat in and out of the back... by no new car just yet!