July '15 - starting our 2nd trimester

[StoneBaby]

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Thanks jmojo. That's really interesting and helps understand how they reach the figures.

Joy - good luck catching the next train.

Day off today as DS's school is closed for teacher's training! Annoying

16 weeks today and two weeks after my scan so hoping to get my results today? I'm not the most patient person anyway so these two weeks have been a killer, but encouraging to have not received any phone calls!

Managed to get a late running early train this morning so that cuts half hour off my days commute and may try and leave early today

And hey, happy damn Friday!!

Hope everyone is ok x

Went to bed feeling sick, woke up with a headache and feeling sick, looked at scan picture and felt grateful!

Mcdonalds breakfast again, gosh i'm going to be the size of a house, but it really helps.

Twinkly good luck!
I've heard some midwives are against using dopplers as they say you are more likely to ignore something being wrong if you use one and think it sounds normal? I guess it's one of those things, I did consider getting one, but i've noticed they are harder to buy now.

So glad it's Friday, got 3 hours worth of meetings today, just whacked on the air con to give myself a bit of life!

Overtiredbackagain Midwife said to me results by phone in 3-4 days if a high risk, or 2 weeks by letter if low risk, so fingers crossed!

16 weeks already wow!!

Happy Friday!!

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Number I hadn't bloods done at hospital and they said the same - I'm just impatient!!

McD breakfast for me today too!

Ooh McDonald's. I had a thing for double cheeseburgers the other week. Maybe I'll grab one on the way back from dd's ballet later. Yummy.

I'm not a Doppler fan. I think there's too much room for worry and error. Personal choice though and everyone knows I'm a worrywart after my mc

number I was told the same and no phone call a week later so I'm assuming all is fine for me

Didn't eat any dinner last night. Had to cook chicken as DH had defrosted it but I have gone off meat in a big way and chicken is the worst! Felt so nauseous after cooking it. And then wake up starving hungry. I also think my cravings for oranges are starting to have adverse affects need to get some carbs in me! Haha

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WantToGoingTo Citrus stuff really sets off my sickness.

Isn't it funny, well not funny but you know, how pregnancy does this to us!

Hot chocolate is my thing at the moment. Had 2 already today, now thinking of a cup of tea.

yummm mcdonalds... Need to go to Jersey, UK or France to grab one

Overtired I now need a mcdonalds breakfast and am nowhere near a McDonalds! Damn you . I've settled for bran flakes and a cup of green tea instead.

Feeling crappy today, I was up 6 times in the night, 4 times for a wee and twice with DD. I have insomnia too so really struggle to get back to sleep and average 2-3 hours sleep a night. Then woke up with a giant coldsore which I always get when I'm run down. Glad it's nearly the weekend.

Gotto I feel your pain. I get insomnia as well, and I seem to have developed pregnancy insomnia again. Plus Dh has a chest infection so was coughing away until I went to get him extra pillows, and the dog wanted letting out at 2 am! At least DD slept through, small mercies.

I'm being quite good with my eating now. Carb cravings have eased so I can eat normally again although all this talk of McDonald's is making me want a cheeseburger and chicken nuggets.

My sensitive sense of smell is back through, and majorly sensitive gag reflex. We use cloth nappies and I literally gag the entire time I am putting them in the washing machine, and even just changing DD's nappy is a real struggle. If I sneeze I gag, I just generally gag all the time! Even the thought of something I don't find appealing makes me gag! It's quite annoying, but I should be thankful that at least I didn't have ms.

McD breakfast haven't had that in dinosaur years, at the moment anything to make one feel better is ok. Must be better than what I had for dinner - pancakes, bolognese sauce, broccoli and cauliflower

I arrived 10minutes late for class despite walking fast, now my groin area hurts. Instructor will not let me in silly! It's Pilates not some High intensity exercise, how much warm up do you need for a class that involves sitting down half the time!

I think my uterus is moving up, right at the top, still not sure baby moves or its gas, or some random pain.

Meanwhile I swear i must have heard baby's heartbeat last night, I was sitting with my legs straight on coffee table and both hands inbetween my legs for warmth.

Feeling a bit crappy after yesterday flu jab. Had sore arm within hours and then headache in evening. Arm still bit sore and still got headache. Well at least better than flu

Naty Flu jab game me a horrible achy arm for a couple of days.

I can feel baby moving, OH said he could feel it last night too, I think what he could actually feel was me breathing haha

naty1 my arm was sore for days after the flu jab :-(
Then I read in the news that it probably won't be that effective anyway. Still I have ticked that box, best for baby

I have told a friend today about my pregnancy, over the phone. She went through IVF to have her second child and I know it was stressful for her and she ended up depressed. She replied congrats etc and told me about some classes and groups in our area, plus she said she had some maternity bits she could give me. She sounded really pleased.
Anyway, she then text me 10 mins later to tell me she has deleted me from Facebook as "she cannot deal with anymore baby news" and she hopes I understand TBH I don't put much on Facebook, I comment more on others, I am really private on there (I won't be making a Facebook announcement).

I'm feeling quite sad and not entirely sure I do understand. She has two beautiful children and as I understood it (maybe I'm wrong) she was not planning to have more than 2 anyway.

I am feeling a bit low today my other friend still has not replied to my whatsapp message but has since joined in with our chats, so I know she is ignoring me too

Just makes me think that these people think I will be a rubbish mother and do not deserve to be pregnant

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I could sort of understand it if she had failed IVF attempts, then it would be painful to hear / see about someone else's baby, but if she has 2 children already and is not planning more I don't understand!

What's the situation with the other friend? Maybe Whatsapp her again and ask if something is up.

I wouldn't take it as a sign of being anything wrong at all or them thinking you will be a bad Mum, maybe it's just hitting a raw nerve somewhere for some reason you don't know about?

If they won't tell you and continue to blank you then they are not friends x

Ok so I have a little situation, although I am not sure if I am blowing it out of proportion.

I have a sister who is older than me, she is lovely etc, but is quite competitive in terms of our kids. She has a daughter who is in the middle of my two chidren's ages.

She talks over my children a lot and asks her daughter questions about school when my kids are talking.

It seems that my sister is kind of jealous about the baby too? Like she doesn't like my parents asking about it, doesn't get involved with conversations etc. I think maybe she thinks her daughter is getting pushed out?

I can't ask her as she is the sort of person who will then cry and call my Mum telling tales on me - that always happens.
I am always looked upon as being the bully (even though I am 7 years younger) as I am the one who will stand up for myself.

She hasn't asked me hardly anything about the baby, and yesterday didn't text or email me to say good luck for the scan.

Today she has emailed me asking how it went, but I know she has only done this as my Mum has probably prompted her.

I feel like ignoring her!! Am I being a hormonal cow??

Sorry for the long ranting post!

Fleur I'm not sure I understand either. I guess we never fully know what is going on with other people though. Maybe she did want 3 kids but the problems involved with conceiving the second have put an end to it. It is her problem though not yours and is in no way a reflection on you, you can only give people support if you know what they are facing. I've been the person wanting a baby but it taking a very long time, while people around were having babies. At no point was I not happy for them (although I will admit I was jealous and it did hurt) but it was my issue not theirs, and they would never have known how I felt.

I don't think you should take any of it as a sign that your friends think you will be a bad mother. Nobody knows what sort of mother they/friends will be. My sister thought I would be quite stressed I think as she commented the other day about how relaxed I am about things and how surprised she was (even the lack of sleeping through the night until recently), so I wouldn't worry. You will do the best for your child, and you will choose the way to parent based on your thoughts and feelings, and it isn't anyone else's business. They should just be there to support you through what will be a life changing (but amazing) experience.

Ooo number that is a really tricky situation. Are you close generally and it's just over the children she shows this jealousy? I would probably just reply that it all went well and baby looked good, and just rise above it. Was she interested in your other pregnancy's? Some people just aren't interested until the baby comes so she may become more interested further down the line. Not sure what to suggest about the talking over your kids though.

Nature She was interested in my previous pregnancies.

She is quite unhappy in her relationship, before we used to always talk about how shit our relationships were (when I was with my ex) and we had real common ground there. Since I have been with OH she has seemed less interested and pretty self absorbed if I am honest.

When I saw her at the weekend it looked like her and her partner had had a bit of a row, she had a face on her when we arrived. She doesn't want more children so it's not that, I just think she feels her daughter will be pushed out (which she won't and isn't now)
Infact her child always had more time with my parents because I used to live 30 miles away and she lives just up the road from them.

Nature I'm glad your DD slept through. DD has only slept through the night 9 times (and yes I am counting ) since birth, hoping to crack it before DC2 comes along! It's so irritating listening to other people cough but you can't say anything as it's obviously worse for them, I empathise!

Hi all can I join please. I'm due 21st july :) with dc 3. Very excited. Fingers crossed just starting to feel less ill xx

fleur remind me, is it your first DC? Re your friend who defriended on fb, I would leave it. You have contacted her over the phone and while she may be upset that you're pg and that she will never have a DC2, she should be greatful to have one DC already (I'm thinking of Pip on this one).

Re your 2nd friend, 2 options - a) she didn't she your message b) she's ignoring you and in this case she's not worth you getting upset about her.

Sorry if I sound harsh

number re your sister talking over your kids. How do they feel about it? Do they noticed it and comment on it to you? If yes, tell them that next time it happens they should tell her (something like 'Oi aunty X, I was talking to you and you cut me off' spring to my mind!) especially infront of witnesses.
Re her email, ignore her for a few days the time to calm down and to decide cold headed how you want to handle it, if she chase you, claim your mailbox is playing up (blame your operating system)

Can you see that I'm home and DS busy? Long post time

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