Due November 06 - the home waddle

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Have a good time MAMB!

I agree with Debs - is there a friend that would have him when you go to the hospital? MIL sounds like a nightmare!

NJ: Sounds like your MIL just wants to be involved in the exitement of a new baby, without being practically helpful. That's what she wants 'notice' for. I expect she'll show up the minute of the birth offering all kinds of advice and interference! Ooops, - sorry, - I don't even know her. Hope I haven't offended!

Debz our next door neighbours, who are the lovliest people you have ever met have offered and insisted that if anything were to happen and we couldn't get MIL here in time (MIL lives about 40 mins away) then we are to get them, even if it is in the middle of the night, which is really really kind of them, but, DS hardly knows them, I would feel better knowing he was with them than with MIL TBH, but he would feel better with MIL than with them IYSWIM?!

bethbe, from NJs rant i doubt very much you'll offend!

right, had a call from HV in new area for dd transfer meeting, she is gunna do dd 2 year check at same time, give me red book and go through how my post natal care will work (as having baby in old area and then transfering care after birth).

well hopefully with dh home for a few days i wont feel as bad as i do now, probably just exhaustion.....just worried in case i slip back dont want to go back to that place again!

Beth I don't think there is a single thing anyone could say about that woman that would offend me at the best of times, let alone after whats gone on today. And, believe it or not, she isn't actually interfering, she is completely the other way, she just isn't interested until it suits her - i.e. either when she is being paid, or when she is feeling poorly so she can moan on and on and on abaout it - god I have room to talk on that one!! LOL

Hi there, I am a student at Birkbeck College (Uni of London) studying an MSc Human Development, and part of my course requires me to take part in Infant Observations. While this sounds daunting (and maybe uninteresting for some...) it is not as clinical as you may think! It simply means that one hour a week, for about 18 months (probably no more), a warm and open mother will allow me into her home to 'observe' her (or her husbands/other family members) interaction with the new born. I will literally be a fly on the wall, I will not judge, speak or talk to the baby or the mother. I shall not be making notes (this is the clinical part I am afriad people will think), in fact you are not even suppose to notice me. The hour that you will allow me to visit will depend wholly upon the mother's wishes, though hopefully an hour when the baby isnt sleeping... As a mother with a new infant, I expect that some people will be thinking that this is the last thing they will want- an intruder/ and outsider. This is the last thing I would want to feel like too. I would like the mothers to know that this is completely confidential. Names will be changed etc. And if teh mother is interested- at the end of my course (June 2008) I have to submit a paper based on my observations, the motehrs are entirely entitled to read them too. As this is a requirement for my course, I have taken the necessary police/Crimincal Records Bureau Checks, and come from a background in child (and adult) related volunteer work as my CV will testify. If there are any expecting mothers who may be interested to hear more about this, but not necessarily make a commitment to allowing me their time, please contact me on [email protected]. My name is Neda, and I would also like to note that I think it would be in both of our interests if I could meet the mother during the end of her pregnancy to see if we are both comfortable with each other and ask any other questions beforehand. This will take the pressure off both of us!

I am looking for mothers who are expecting to give birth in November or December, or even January, preferably in Central London. I am based in Kensington.

Thank you so much and I really apppreciate your taking the time to read this!

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NJ: If your ds is happy with her maybe you just need to bite your tongue and let him have chocolate for breakfast and wear shorts in winter. It is only for a short period, and in an emergency! She might be completely incompetent but I doubt she'll really put him at risk.

Perhaps ask your DP to deal with her so you don't get wound up by it.

Once it is over, feel free to post a LONG essay on here, and we'll all sympathise and laugh with you! i.e. everytime she does something to annoy, instead of getting upset just think 'must remember to tell them MN lot that!'

Mygirl you are very lucky, what I would give to just speak to my mum on the phone right now! It is bloody stupid I am 23 years old, this is my second child (with DS my mum and I weren't even talking to each other so it isn't as though she was around then and apart from the upset you would expect that comes with rows in the family it didn't bother me one bit that she wasn't there then!) DH is wonderful and I wouldn't be with out him, but I just want my mum! Excuse me whilst I go and throw a few toys out of my pram!! LOL

When I was up North at the weekend I cracked a joke about not wanting to go into labour up there, with it not being familiar and not know MW etc etc. My MIL said oh I wish you would I have always wanted to see a baby being born !!!! WTF I dont even want my own mum there let alone HER perring up my crutch !!!! Grrrrrrrr why just assume I would want her there! Think all MIL's are the same LOL !

think bethbe could be right NJ

although i cant stand my MIL or the way she deals with dd (or doesnt, lets the kids do it) but in an emergency im more than happy to go to her than have dd with someone she doesnt really know.

Hi there, I am a student at Birkbeck College (Uni of London) studying an MSc Human Development, and part of my course requires me to take part in Infant Observations. While this sounds daunting (and maybe uninteresting for some...) it is not as clinical as you may think! It simply means that one hour a week, for about 18 months (probably no more), a warm and open mother will allow me into her home to 'observe' her (or her husbands/other family members) interaction with the new born. I will literally be a fly on the wall, I will not judge, speak or talk to the baby or the mother. I shall not be making notes (this is the clinical part I am afriad people will think), in fact you are not even suppose to notice me. The hour that you will allow me to visit will depend wholly upon the mother's wishes, though hopefully an hour when the baby isnt sleeping... As a mother with a new infant, I expect that some people will be thinking that this is the last thing they will want- an intruder/ and outsider. This is the last thing I would want to feel like too. I would like the mothers to know that this is completely confidential. Names will be changed etc. And if teh mother is interested- at the end of my course (June 2008) I have to submit a paper based on my observations, the motehrs are entirely entitled to read them too. As this is a requirement for my course, I have taken the necessary police/Crimincal Records Bureau Checks, and come from a background in child (and adult) related volunteer work as my CV will testify. If there are any expecting mothers who may be interested to hear more about this, but not necessarily make a commitment to allowing me their time, please contact me on [email protected]. My name is Neda, and I would also like to note that I think it would be in both of our interests if I could meet the mother during the end of her pregnancy to see if we are both comfortable with each other and ask any other questions beforehand. This will take the pressure off both of us!

I am looking for mothers who are expecting to give birth in November or December, or even January, preferably in Central London. I am based in Kensington.

Thank you so much and I really apppreciate your taking the time to read this!

Beth, I don't have a choice she won't come bcause her cats couldn't last a night with out her.

Now we have no choice, if something does happen tonight, no matter what time of night it is, DS is just going to have to come to the hospital with us, that is the black and white of it.

And she isn't just incompetant, she did once try to have DS at her house for the night (this is while she had the car we bought her!) we took him over there, stayed until he was asleep, came home sat down on our own for the first time since he was born, got half way through a film and she rang saying he had woken up and was crying his eyes out and wouldn't go back to sleep so she was bringing him home, which was fine, we had sort of expected it TBH, but when she turned up over two hours laters (bearing in mind it takes about 40 minutes at most normally) she turned up with him, it was pitch black outside, he was in nothing but a pair of pyjama bottoms because he had split his coke ( ) down his top, and she had left his bag at her house, and then told us when she had left her house, her fuel light was on, she had forgotten to bring her purse and mobile with her, and she was very worried she wasn't going to make it all the way to our house..... She had him in the car, in winter, with only a pair of pyjama bottoms on, with hardly enough fuel to get to the end of her street, with no money and no phone, can you see why I have many different nasty horrible names for her?!!

I am sure you are all really fed up of my moaning on, but I feel so much better for having a good old moan!!! LOL

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i htought i was the only one who wanted my mum nearby! im al ittle younger at 19 but feel i should be ab 'adult' as i have nearly 2 kids and my own flat! yet when my mum turned down an offer to work 5 days a week instead of her usual 2 i was delighted, as if i needed her she owuldnt be there if shed taken that job. didnt help she'd have started just before baby is due, i was so scared. especially as iv never dealt with a newborn on my own as with dd we were living with mum, so im a bit nervous!

NJ, where exactly are you?

hi everyone, new to this as normally at work but got told i must take a couple of days off or go in to hospital due to BP so am now tired, worried and bored.

what's everyone up to?

I remember when I was pregnant last time, I spent hours and hours reading up on pregnancy and birth, and I remember all the books said that most women really feel close to their mums in pregnncy, and I always used to think nah, can't be true, now I know exactly what the books were going on about!

Stacey I am in Accrington, near Blackburn

Tired, I am with you on that one! My BP fine but everything else is up in the air! Pull up a chair and get down to some serious moaning, it is honestly the best therapy going!!

i really thought this was going to be easy but i've had 6 months of all day sickness, 3 weeks of pneumonia and i've now got gestational diabetes and what they say is high BP as it's 140/100 but what do i know of BP's!!

typical though all my sisters breezed through pregnancy so i suppose one of us had to have problems.

husbands been an absolute star though