June 2015 - thread 5 - second trimester fast approaching

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Bump wise - I'm HUGE.suddenly appeared. I have a theory that the twins were like ' it's okay she knows we're here now- we can stop trying to hide and spread out'

Anyone else pissed off with farage- I bet your average member of the public would rather look at my boobies than farages face. Also it is not easy to feed 'discretly' he should try feeding a distracted baby who comes off to look at something letting a little jet of milk hit the wall behind them!

Mummymog I love that your twins are ganging up on you already!

And yes. Effing Farage. I've never seen anyone not be discreet. Women don't sit around topless feeding (not in public at least). It makes me so cross! For anyone hoping to bf for the first time, I've only ever had positive comments when feeding in public, but the vast majority of people smile at your baby, and look away politely as you start to unclip your bra. Nothing to be scared of, I promise. Just takes a bit of getting used to.

Yes, I am mummymog. I felt so unconfident feeding in public and it's due to attitudes like this. I tried a feeding cover and found it so awkward; I was more discreet the with vest down/ top up method. It's ridiculous that you have to worry about what other people think - you're feeding a baby ffs. People have more on show in low cut tops and on nights out.

Yes, I must add that I never came across any negativity while bf in public, but all the negative media stories affect my confidence.

Wait till I'm trying to feed twins in public - I'll just strip to the waist, can't think of any more sensible way. Then send farrage a picture

The only way I managed to get DD latched on while using a feeding cover was to put the damned thing over my head so I could use both hands for positioning. Hardly discreet!

Definitely top up and top down. Really wearable and easy.

Hi All. I'm new to this board. I'll be 15 weeks on Monday (8th) with my third child, due 1st June. I'm Mum to two boys, Alex who is 10 and Theo who is 4. Just wondering if anyone else has been experiencing upper tummy pain. It feels really uncomfortable and I'm guessing it might be because everything inside is growing and pushing upwards?! Also, I have been constipated (sorry if tmi), so it could be trapped wind?!

I started making myself placket t-shirts, since I found trying to balance a t-shirt ontop of dds head too hard, unbuttoning a Henley worked best for me

mummy

bubbly welcome and congrats, it sounds like it's trapped wind hopefully it will ease off soon!!

Not sure bingo, think I used it last time but google it to make sure. It really helps when nothing else will.

I bf everywhere, literally it became like sport! I even had a little map with pins showing where I'd bf .
I never used a feeding sheet as it only drew attention to what I was discreetly doing anyway. There was totally 100% smiles when people (rarely) spotted what I was up to, never anything negative at all.
Apart from when my older toddler unexpectedly whipped both my norks out of my vest at same time, in front of a poor man who was as mortified as I was ....

I'd heard about these 'farage' comments via FB... I can't stand the man or any of his misguided views and this is just another example of the mans idiotic mind!!!

For those who are first timers and wanting to BFeed.. I have never experienced any discrimination or anyone enforcing their views onto me. I bottle fed ds as he wouldnt latch due to tongue tie.. I expressed for 8 weeks and then was formula..dd was b/feed... I fed when she wanted it where ever we were... Sunbed on hols, bench in the trafford centre, at the table at a wedding!!
I found that if you are confident ppl do not comment and half of that is finding the right clothing to help u out... I'm sure that we can have lots of b/feeding/feeding tips/clothes chats closer to edd's.

Welcome back bubbly, glad u found the new thread having joined the previous at the last few posts

I breastfed with both my boys, up until 8 months; I plan to do the same with my third. I did breastfeed in public but often used a cloth or special nursing top to make it a little more discreet. I don't see the need to get the entire breast out. Speaking from the others view, my hubby says he found it embarrassing when we visited our friends and she sat on her sofa (yes fair enough in her own home) but got her whole boob out in front of him to feed the baby and he said he just didn't know where to look - lol! I think it was more embarrassing because it didn't seem right that he could see his best mate's wife's breast! My view is breastfeed and sod what people think, if they want to look or make a comment, let them. It's natural and best for baby!

Breastfeeding clothes was the one thing I totally didn't consider last time.

I'd bought the bra, and the breast pads. Thought I was sorted.

Yeah, apart from the fact that NONE of my clothes were suitable to breastfeed in! I wore a lot of dresses. Never ever wore jeans or trousers, so no tshirt to lift up etc.

I actually do wear jeans now, as I am slimmer. So this time I shall be more prepared. I do still wear dresses, but my summer dresses should be okay, as they are lower cut.

Regular dresses are impossible to breastfeed in. :(

I actually bought a shirt type top a few weeks ago which has buttons down to the cleavage, which I thought 'oooh that will be useful for breastfeeding' . Only down side is, it was from Primark. So it might have fallen to pieces by next autumn!

Also given how hot I get, and I think this baby will arrive in July, I'm not planning to do the two tops thing. I'll die! I'm just going to brave it!

I bought a few nursing tops but still found the vest down/ top up method more discreet. I didn't find the heat a problem - DD was a June baby and it was a hot summer. I bought a nursing top from Mothercare and it shows so much, I could never feed in it outside of the house! H&M ones were ok though.

I also breastfed at a wedding, during the meal and speeches! I had a normal dress on but I managed to pull it down on one side under my boob - needed a cover for that though!

Regarding covers, I don't mind the fact that they draw attention to the fact you're breastfeeding as I don't think people should feel ashamed for breastfeeding. I think they're good if people want to make sure they don't flash before they get the hang of other methods. But I found them awkward personally.

Oh and I breastfed in church for most of the wedding service - shocking! Was in the same dress so used a cover though!

I find the best tops the ones that have a 'fake' cardi attached.. So a tshirt with extra material at the side.. I would pull the tshirt bit up and wrap baby in the cardi bit so it just looked like a blanket but she would be feeding.

I find the heat in the summer intolerable cuphat I spend most of my time at home undressed .

Am dreading being heavily pregnant this summer, and am very envious of those who will have their babies by May! Mine is definitely going to come in July, and I'll be dying and drowning in sweat :(

Nothing shocking about bf in church! I'm fairly sure the mother of our Lord didn't have SMA available

I bf whilst standing up talking to the Princess Royal.

Detective my dd is a july birthday and it was particularly hot june/july 12... I spent my days sat in a paddling pool in the garden. My ds is october and had to make it through the whole summer. I think this one will arrive in June rather than May.

I used to bf mine whenever wherever they needed it. Due to having quite big norks I could rest the baby on my lap and feed. People didn't even realise I was feeding, thought the baby was snuggled in for a snooze.

Initially with dc2 it was tricky due to said child refusing to latch straight away and fussing, pulling off, grabbing the nursing cover etc soon got the hang of it but to start with was nowhere as easy as dc1 who seemed to pick up quite quickly what to do. DC2 not so quick.

First time mums my advice would be that both you and the baby have to learn how to bf and it takes time so don't be disappointed or disheartened if it doesn't happen instantly. Find out before your JuneBug is born where your nearest bf clinic is and when. The NCT helpline is very very helpful. KellyMom and LeLecheLeague are fabulous resources too.

I bought this today (well ordered it yesterday!) and this will be babies first baby grow to wear!

Was a bargain, reduced to £4.50. If anyone likes it, it's from Next. Doesn't say it's reduced on their website, but is when you put it in your basket :)

Very cute Detective!

Good advice, Bingo. Also, in some areas there are breastfeeding counsellors who will do home visits; my midwife arranged for one to come and visit me to give me advice and show me different feeding positions after my c-section which was very useful.

Hi all,
I've been popping in an out! Scan has been moved forward to Tuesday - I'm technically 11 weeks tomorrow but I'm actually convinced I'm further along, lmp is a bit of a dodgy subject as had only been off the pill a month and hadn't really settled into any sort of regular cycle! Plus - I'm pretty huge!! I'm sure it's bloating, but it's already pretty tricky to hide! Not carrying extra weight anywhere else (yet!!) but my pot belly is on display for the world to see! Mum and dh have made quite enough jokes about twins, I don't quite know what i would do if I found out next week there were 2!!
Either way, this is my first and I'm really, really hoping to bf! So it's really interesting and reassuring to hear some of your experiences! Hadn't really put much consideration into suitable clothing... How naive of me!!! So so much to think about!