Hop aboard the good ship JS Grads for it's sweet 16th pregnancy party. Don your party hats, grab a bouncy ball and quaff copious amounts of raspberry leaf to celebrate our coming of age!

[Minion]

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 16th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 33rd outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates! It's a bit quiet at the moment, but with all these upduffed viroids hopefully it won't be for long!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

Oh dear Boo - if he thinks that's happening he's sadly mistaken...although to be fair, neither of us has been up for it since BFP - I suspect he's enjoying the rest following the TTC regime!

Chat - I think I'm about a week or 10 days behind you...we booked an early scan at 10 weeks as our NHS one isn't until December 23rd. Also getting NIFTY tests on Sat so should have results back from that before Christmas, so should feel confident telling people after 2 scans plus tests!

Currently building up to big skiving sick day lie for next Thursday's work Christmas party...starts at midday and Im usually one of the biggest boozers, so am going to feign tonsillitis (I get it every winter anyway, so hopefully won't be a big surprise)...will also then take the Friday off as that's the day of my booking in appt. anyway and you can't just take one day off sick, can you?

Sounds like a good plan bothersome

Am the only one telling people? I find it so hard not to as I am cheap at lying and also because of the mc I get lots of people asking after me and I don't feel fair not saying. My close friends all know and my family but we are not telling dhs family until Christmas. Some work people know as I look like crap and I've got an obvious bulge.

We've told some people La - my family and a couple of close friends. We'll be telling lots more people after this Saturday's scan, but are holding off on wok until the New Year.

We ended up telling people early la because Mr tee couldn't keep his proud gob shut at the fact his dick worked

My parents, Brother and Mil + SiL were told just after we found out. I told my two closest friends. Who also shared with their husbands. OH told about 6 of his friends in the pub in one go. I ended up telling work at 6 weeks because I was sick into my desk bin.

I have a hot date with a Lush Bath bomb tonight and I can't wait!!!

In terms of DTD - for some reason we only seem to do it at the weekends at the moment, I am too exhausted from work/commute for the weekdays. And it's usually a morning thing too. (In fact an early morning shag is how I ended up with Tiny tee...)

pressed end too quickly! we waited until 12 weeks before it went on any kind of social media, and asked everyone we told to respect that (They did). Although to be fair anyone following me on twitter would have guessed by the food diary I was keeping!!

I told my Parents and a few very close friends early, DP told everyone he could get to listen. Luckily his friends and family live in a different town! I wanted to keep it a little bit quiet though because of the knock on effect of work...I told lots of people after my 8 week scan because of the reduced risks and because I can't keep secrets ever!

We haven't told anyone yet. TBH I am struggling to convince myself. I am a pretty private person and I know what our families will be like.

We kept our engagement quiet for a while too as we wanted to enjoy just us knowing.

I don't really like the attention/ fuss.

We told a couple of close friends after the scan at 8+w, and both families at 6w. Won't be saying anything on FB until after the 12w scan. May take a while, I'll need an inventive non naff way of getting DD involved.

I love a good Lush Bath, Tee :)

I know what you mean fleur - Although the people in my department at work know, I work in quite a big office and I feel a bit weird about just blurting it out, to the point I actually cover up my Baby on board badge with my scarf when I come in/go home. I really don't like the attention either! ot be fair I won't be able to hide it for much longer with the black forest hot chocolate baby bump I seem to have sprung, but I don't want to make a fuss!

I told a couple of close friends straight away, and one guessed quite early. Told our parents at 8 weeks. Didn't go properly public or fb public til after the scan though. I definitely enjoyed it being mine and DHs secret for a while It's personal preference though I guess. I have had friends announce it as soon as the piss dried on the stick!! Not for me.

Me and MrP dtd on Monday night for first time in a couple of weeks.... Definitely getting too massive for it now but it was SO worth it!!

I am dreading work knowing. How/ when did you tell them?

I am hoping to be able to get to end of January (I'll be roughly 15 weeks, hopefully) as that's our year end and when we get a pay rise and bonus. I have also been there long enough to get a discretionary extra 5 days' holiday. I know they will try to avoid giving me any of the above if I tell them I will be going on maternity leave.

Until then I am keeping schtum even though I have a couple of colleagues that I consider friends, I cannot risk it getting out.

Oh god no I wouldn't put it on Facebook now - I've just told close friends, my family and a few folk at work because no one knows my family or friends. I'll probably put it on Facebook at 20 weeks when I know its more likely to be ok.

minion I'm so sorry you're going through this. Big hugs

We didn't tell a soul until after the 12-week scan, at which point we told family and a few friends. I've had to let my clients know unfortunately, but we won't be going properly public (ie facebook, wider family etc) until after the 20-week scan. However, if anyone happens to see me face-to-face it's pretty impossible to hide the bump these days! So we tend to just tell people if we happen to see them.

Virtually no dtd action in the minimooo household. I just don't fancy it at all and on the odd occasion we've done it I've found it quite painful

Ooo enjoy your Lush bath tee! I'm jealous!

I told my mum, dad, sister and a couple work colleagues who knew me and dh were going through shit times. Straight away as I needed the support.

I told my brother and his now wife a couple weeks later as they were away!

And then dribs and drabs after that. Most people got told after 12 weeks. Dh's parents were told after the 20 week scan as the first pregnancy (mmc) his mother and step dad were very dismissive and his dad and step mum were lovely but I didn't want them to know. Either did dh!

His mum did a huge turn around and loves getting up dates which is great. His dad also adores him and is very happy.

I told my boss at 7 weeks because I was having an appraisal anyway and didn't see the point of making targets for next year!! I work for the nhs though, so it's pretty difficult for them to avoid paying what they should! You don't technically have to tell them until quite late on Fleur ... Think it might be the 15th week before EDD.

With DD I called my boss from the hospital I'd been admitted to (which is where I was working) and apologised that I couldn't do the night shifts that I was meant to be on that weekend. And then told her why :)

Thanks popz surely it's not possible to hide it until 25 weeks?

Ideally I would wait until 20 weeks but I thought that would be pushing it.

I think I am going to have a tough time with my work. I am one of the youngest there (I'm 34 so no spring chicken) and as it's a family run business most of the other staff are related and close ranks when it suits them.

chat I assume that was before you'd gone into labour?!

We still haven't announced as such on Facebook, but I've not exactly been subtle about it, though last time I went on and on about watching auctions of reusable nappies and there were people who didn't but an eyelid and then actually asked if the baby in my xmas day post was mine... I might make some slightly obvious posts from the hospital at the 28 week scan...

Most of the people I see face to face knew straight away because I drink like a fish at every opportunity normally and was suddenly turning down alcohol :P

With work I told them pretty much as soon as I knew, I'd had to lift a number of heavy mirrors and the ladders and I sort of had a breakdown in the middle of an aisle at my department manager who then flipped her nut and demanded that I put down the mirror I was currently balancing on a shelf edge... She had me marched down to the Health and Safety officer for a risk assessment within 2 hours because she got so fed up of telling me not to do stuff. Communication in my place is pretty crap though so it took a further fortnight for the store manager to find out (I mentioned it to him in conversation like it was old news) and admin were very confused to be phoning me at 18 weeks to talk about MatB1 forms despite me having had at least one weekend off for morning sickness... There are still people embarking on the awkward "I've noticed you're filling out your shirt..." conversations!

Don't think Juni told work til 20 weekish. A couple of girls in my antenatal club didn't either. Is it your first? You might be surprised how long it takes for you to start showing... Esp with a clever wardrobe

I seem to remember Juni didn't tell her employers until about 22 weeks. Big jumpers and ponchos FTW.

I told a couple of people before the 12 week scan - DS and DM whose help I needed not to give the game away to others! And a friend who is a couple of months ahead of me (due in two weeks). DP didn't tell a soul until the scan then went crazy afterwards . Work were fine. I had a new boss which made me feel awkward but he's from a big Irish family and replied to my news with 'Great! I love it when people have babies' which was unexpected! I'll be making it all official with HR on Friday when I have my MatB1 but they all know. One of them commented today that my bump was 'lush' which made me smile.

DDs biological nana has just done her once yearly visit to see DD and bring her birthday and Christmas present...DD has never met her actual father and calls DP dad (his choice not to see her- I tried lots!)

I swear it gets more awkward each year! She only lives 15 minutes away by car but makes herself unavailable throughout the year so I've given up pushing visits on her. I'm expecting them to fizzle out completely once the baby comes to be honest.

I told work at about 4 weeks as the pg was causing lots of low blood sugars with my diabetes and also cos I work with prisoners and they need to know stuff Asap for risk assessments etc. if I worked somewhere else I would have waited.

lauren that sounds difficult!

Oh Lauren that's really awkward. I don't get how people don't want to see their children . Yes I am to answer your last question and also used to be a teacher.

I told two friends at about 8 weeks as we had a night out planned and there was no excuse they would have believed for my not drinking. Told family and anyone else who we happened to see after first scan. Didn't do a fb announcement although have mentioned it in relevant conversations on fb. Told work at about 16 weeks I think.

Min, there just is no excuse for your aunt's behaviour, that must be so upsetting for you. It really isn't her place. Hope it goes ok

Oh wil very similar then! Do you miss teaching? I keep having moments where I think about work long term, but then think ill be Childminding for the next 5 years now anyway at least so that's quite long term!