Hop aboard the good ship JS Grads for it's sweet 16th pregnancy party. Don your party hats, grab a bouncy ball and quaff copious amounts of raspberry leaf to celebrate our coming of age!

[Minion]

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 16th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 33rd outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates! It's a bit quiet at the moment, but with all these upduffed viroids hopefully it won't be for long!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

I had a lie in in my hotel pis but only an hour. And I had already been up and down all night so not sure it counts! Off for brekkie in a minute though - buffet!!

It was sad boo, I quite like the family but for her to have a grandchild on the way due about the same time must have been really hard too. She lost a baby before 12 week scan popz and then another at about 22 weeks I think they said. Number 17!

I'm ok wil, well mostly anyway. Just a rocky few days. I think at the moment I'm not looking at an early scan popz. That might change but don't feel driven to have one at the moment. Thought I would just discuss with midwife when I get there.

I'm here. Not particularly lieing in per se. More like shutting the world and all it's terrors out.
Why doesn't the word lieing look right??
Anywho, a world of shit is occurring ,can't go into it for fear of throwing my ipad out the window , screaming in disgusted rage and risk going into labour, but it's not a great scenario to be in.
I'm just glad my dad is away from it all cause if he knew how I was being treated he'd be furious.
Sorry again for downer.

Oh min, you sound so low. These things always bring out the worst in people and can tear families apart. Theres a lot of hurt at the beginning but people behave so badly towards people they are supposed to love. I saw it most recently with DH Grandma who died two Christmases ago now and there are still members of the family that won't even look at each other now and MIL really struggles to deal with what happened. Same in my family when grandparents died. I don't blame you for wanting to hide but don't be taken advantage of either. Avoid the stresses you can but fight the battles you have to. With the support of your family hopefully!

Oh min just know you have our live and support

Love not live, sorry!

Sadly, it's come from the one person we would never have thought it of. His sister.
It's like she is trying to erase his entire existence.
24 hours after he passed she demanded my sister and I go round and sort things out as she wants it done now! 7 hours after he'd gone all his clothes had been given to charity.
He was a very proud member of the armed forces for over 20 years and instead of cremations him in his number 1s uniform, which I know he would have wanted, they are putting him in a fucking england shirt!
He's not a fucking bnp for fucks sake.
She's not even considering postponing the funeral if I go into labour and can't be there... It's tough. She doesn't want him in the funeral home and longer than I do, but I'm his only biological child and I don't even count important enough to delay.
She's gone ahead and organised the funeral. No input from us, his children. I've tried to suggest music I know he wanted, nope, they're only having 2!
And that's before I even mention them throwing out stuff before he'd even passed. Whilst he was fighting for his last few days, she was downstairs throwing out things, without consulting us, or me, who lived in that house with him.
She's on dangerous ground. The will hasn't even gone to probate and there's items which have been removed from the estate.

I've never been so furious in my entire life. And if the MW comes this afternoon and my BP is through the roof, I'll be taken straight in hospital and will possibly miss his funeral.

I will never forgive her.

I should be mourning him, not rifling through his belongings to save things.

Min it's such a hard time for you I'm so sorry :(

She sounds very selfish and unfeeling. Is it possible to sit her down for a chat?

It may be her (entirely inappropriate!) way to deal with it, making herself feel useful and in charge so she fools herself that she's coping? My mum was a little bit the same when my dad died, in so much as sorting clothes etc really quickly. I had a word with her about how it upset me, and she then explained it upset her so much having it around as an everyday reminder. That said, she did let me have as much input as I could deal with in funeral arrangements etc.

I'm sorry you're so stressed and completely understand how awful it feels for you. Xxx

That is exactly why I thought she was doing it, to cope. That is until I have since found out that her other sister has had a word ( after the husband had a word with her daughter, who is in complete agreement with us ) that she has now stormed out and refusing to talk.
I'd never expected it.
Knocked me for 6 this has. She is in danger of losing her last links to my dad... Me and the baby.

It may well be her way of dealing with it. My mum and aunt were similar when my grandmother died. It is inappropriate though and clearly stressing you out at the worst possible time. Is she a close enough relation to be taking charge like this (I'd expect to deal with my parent's things - not my brother's though)? Can she be removed from the situation for now while you and your siblings take back control of what's happening?

Cross post. Ok so does that mean she has removed herself from it for now? That should give you room to breathe at least.

She's the executor of the will only. We are close, which is the most shocking part. Her job is to manage the estate before probate and to ensure all will stuff is adhered to. NOT to give away some kitchen stuff cause her friend is moving into a flat next week...
She's not allowed to touch anything in that house until the will is public. Yet it's almost empty.

I just feel so ashamed my dad is being thought of, or not, like this.
Because she has offered to pay for funeral she has taken it as carte Blanche she decides alone what he is to have.
We've offered to pay but she is having none of it.

Oh my goodness, Min what a horrible thing to be happening around you . I wonder if she can't bear to have things around her reminding her...I do hope she doesn't come to regret her actions. Not acceptable to take over the funeral arrangements though, these things should be done as a family.

Hope you're OK this morning Dulcet. I've only in the last week recovered my normal coloured CM. Still a bit paranoid though.

La - second boob growth spurt? It's a good un. This was about when I had to dig out the bigger bras

Less than a week to scanday!

Oh minion, really sorry this is happening. I hope you can find some calm moments but can imagine that is incredibly hard. Much love to you

No lie ins here, I'm having a difficult day with new mindee. Need to ring a few professionals when I get a minute of quiet I think as he needs more than I can give him

Wil are you a nanny?

Min I'm so sorry this is happening to you! It sounds awful! Can a few of your family members not gang up and put a stop to it?

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this minion

Everyone does deal with things differently but she should take your feelings into account.

Usually funeral expenses are paid out of the deceased's estate (the will usually says this) and some banks will make payment if you have an invoice from the funeral home. So, in all likelihood your aunt will be reimbursed anyway.

How shitty of her Min Hope all goes ok at the midwife xx

Hi all!

Catching up after moving house on Monday (stressful, a but overwhelming, still in middle of mayhem)...at least it took my mind off the waiting, and now we seem to have fast-forwarded to 9+5 with scan on Saturday!

La - I'm so delighted that your scan went well - are you feeling calmer about the whole thing now?

Min - my hear really goes out to you, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad, and about his sister being a nob. Unfortunately, situations like this bring out the worst in people. My dad's sister was a massive attention seeking drama queen when he died even though they hadn't spoken for over 10 years and she'd been asked not to attend the funeral. I found it helpful to think about all the years of happiness and good memories I had with him and how nothing could change that. I do hope things get easier soon.

Tee - your MiL is being a twat, end of...sounds like this is the most interesting/exciting thing that's happened 'to her' in a long time and she's trying to take full advantage of it.

Dulcet - I feel your MS pain...any type of travel gets me going as does the smell of other people on the train (how is it that I can smell people's actual breath from about 3 metres away?).

In other news - Mr B is reading a book called 'Pregnancy for men' by Mark Woods, and highly recommends it. It's funny and informative and equates the size of the baby to chocolate bars rather than fruit! (fun sized mars bar growing to full sized version in 2 weeks)...he's started telling me things that I already know and that I've told him several times already (no shit is my sense of smell heightened - did you not see me scrubbing and retching over our new loo for half an hour on Monday?)! Still, if that's what it takes for the info to go in, and for him to be more involved and more sympathetic I'm not complaining apart from here coz I know I can!

xxx

DH's copy of commando dad raw recruit has come through, it would have been fab if it had been our first child, but I'm not sure it's in depth enough for our second child :S I was kind of hoping it would illustrate to him that even though he has bitched and complained through one labour there's still loads of stuff he doesn't know so he needs to be doing some reading up to get informed instead of playing computer games. May just have to book the NHS antenatal classes and hope that will teach him some stuff in a way that isn't me nagging him...

DD has got a cold that she has kindly passed onto me and is seriously clingy today. I would be more sympathetic if this didn't involve continuously digging her elbows into my bump and boobs and if I wasn't forced to sit on the sofa watching cbeebies because she won't let me leave the sofa but won't let me change the channel either grumbles on the bright side I have a raspberry pavlova defrosting on the side, hopefully the sugar overload will encourage her to nap... it works that way right?

min I'm sorry she is being so awful :S It's most definitely not what you need whilst your in mourning let alone when you're also in imminent danger of going into labour. perhaps everyone needs to approach her together as a united front, she'll be furious that she's being 'ganged up on' but it might make her see sense in a way that individual approaches haven't...

yikes bother beware the 5 month progress report in that book says you'll likely be feeling frisky! puts it on my list of books to avoid buying DH not great for those of us who never want sex ever again! last time i gave in to the lament of the blue balls I had cramps all day :S

We had Pregnancy for Men too - it's actually really funny, much better than books for women - Bother it seems you're catching me up!

I actually dtd first time since bfp last night and today's the first day I haven't had such bad cramps!

I'm starting to wonder if I'm the only one getting some on a regular basis here....

Lol pis it's looking that way!

Lol pis me and DP haven't stopped dtd. In fact my drive is higher than normal and he's taken to sleeping on his stomach to stop the night time molestation