Eye Spy DC due in July !

[MsRyanGosling]

Hi!

After approx 5 15 BFP's ranging from super faint IC's to super
BFPS with FRER - I am due DC4 1st July

Already have ds1-16y,ds2-12y, ds3-6y.

Ds3 will be 7yo before dc4. Didnt really think it was such a big gap as he still feels like young iyswim til I sat and thought about it!

I didn't actually have that much in the way of pain when I mc I just felt really really unwell. But I think that is pretty unusual and it was at 5 weeks so pretty early.

On a positive note the midwife finally called me and I can skip the doctor and have a booking in appointment on the 1st December, so it has all worked out for the best as I don't have to find an excuse to not be at work.

Purple that's good news!
I am dreading seeing my GP tomorrow.

Her attitude that 4 weeks pregnant isn't pregnant has upset me

Sorry to hear all your miscarriage stories :(

purple that is great news! I go straight to mw too, no GP appt. my booking in will be week beginning 8 December but no date yet. Still early though!

Can't wait to start seeing everyone's scan pics :)

I'm not surprised Number3 it was a ridiculous thing to say, of course you are pregnant. I found out at 3 1/2 weeks and have been petrified and desperate for it to work out ever since. Maybe not the doctor for you?

It's sad to hear how many of you have suffered miscarriages.... Fx for this time around. I've been very blessed to have had 3 uncomplicated pregnancies and labours and healthy children so I can't help feeling that maybe I've used up all my luck and that this time something could go wrong

It feels like time has slowed down on purpose.... I just want to be past the first trimester already!

Three - Ahh don't worry, the fact you have had 3 should be a good sign

Purple - I am surprised by my GP, she knows I have been having tests and wanting a baby, perhaps she is just trying to manage my expectations, but she defo needs some work on that!

I'm sorry but I don't agree with just knowing you are having a MC. I had no pain at all with mine. Not a single cramp, just bleeding.whereas my periods are normally quite painful and require paracetamol and a hot water bottle for the first two days. i was reassured online that because of this it was incredibly unlikely i was having a MC. I believed that and was then absolutely devastated to learn that actually it was a miscarriage all along.

Got to wait til 25th for Drs and 5th for the midwife. Seems like an age. Was annoyed with my dr saying that 5 weeks was too early to start the paperwork

Sarkymare so sorry to hear that

I guess the truth is our bodies all deal with things in different ways so there is no hard or fast rules.

We just have to keep our fingers crossed x

Clicked send too soon!!

numbers i would probably think about switching doctors if that is at all possible? Some GPs I've noticed seem to be completely oblivious about how worrying early pregnancy is to an expectant mother. I understand that they have to be somewhat blunt but there are ways to do it without being so completely insensitive.

I agree Sarky, I don't actually live close to my docs, so maybe time for a change!!

I was the same Sarky, I kept convincing myself that maybe it would be ok because of the lack of pain. It was not to be though.

Good luck for today sophie. Let us know how you get on.

I also had a mc (I was 12 weeks) and am very anxious because as it was - and still is - the most devastating and awful thing I've ever experienced. I would never want anyone to go through the utter despair.

However, those who've also had the heartache and those of you who are naturally worried because of us all talking about our experiences, please please please remember that miscarriages are random, normally happen due to a chromosomal defect (our little beans weren't prepared for life on this earth) and there is very rarely anything anyone could do to prevent it from happening. I know that this probably sounds mega patronising and I truly apologise if it's taken as offensive, I just want this journey to be positive for us all.

Well said Broody and absolutely true

Lets stay positive and keep talking about all the good stuff !

Agreed number

So has everyone figured out how they are going to tell friends and family? I have no idea how I'm going to do it yet. I quite like the Christmas cracker idea but then that only cover MIL, all my family will still need to be told... Any ideas?

Sarky is this your first child?

My OH said he told a woman at work yesterday. Apparently I was being a total bitch the day before and he told her, then felt the need to atone for my actions haha!
Sounds like she was on my side, she told him I need lots of reassurance i do and all my bitch like behaviour should be taken with a pinch of salt!

We have decided that all being well we will tell the families in January, although I cannot see that is going to work when I will clearly be avoiding alcohol which is highly unlike me over the Christmas period.

Going to tell our families at Christmas and friends afterwards.

Is it weird to be scared about telling people? I don't want to do it face to face. A lot of my friends (and some family members) joke about me being unmaternal (I have nieces and nephews who I love to bits but am glad to hand them back at the end of the day). The thing is, I know they will be shocked as they have me pegged as a career woman and mine and DH's current lifestyle is not baby friendly (lots of travel, meals out etc). But, I know I will react badly if their first reaction is along the lines of "you? Really?" And I know they will assume it's an accident.
My mother in particular will be like this.

Just got my booking in appt - 18 December! Seems ages away! Will be 8+6. Couldn't do early due to work commitments and midwife on annual leave. Hope everything works out until then...

Sorry to hear that sarky :(

Mine was definitely bit right for a week and I had no pain at all, just spotting and lack of pg symptoms. Then the pain started. But I guess everyone's different.

I think what I meant was if she's having cramps then the mc cramps definitely felt different to the pregnancy cramps, that's how I knew

And I agree, apart from saying occasionally that I'm terrified, let's keep positive!!!

We're going to be mummies in 2015 and I honestly can't wait!

I'm not a big fan of big announcements so I'm more likely to just tell various folk quietly :)

But I'm having to tell people now and then just now as I work with animals and also coz people know I like a drink and keep guessing!

Yes, the drinking thing is what is going "out" me too.

''On antibiotics'' is going to be my excuse at Xmas parties!

Hmm. You see the antibiotics line would immediately make me suspect.

Last night my DH suggested that I tell people that I have a problem with alcohol and am doing the 12 steps.

Fleurchamp my OH said I should tell people I have an alcohol problem and I should give it a rest this may be in part, true haha