April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

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ok, apologies for the overuse of explamation marks, but do not stop them, the HR dep should know they have to continue to contribute, even when you are on SMP

Someone in my work did all the research and told me they have to continue by law as they can't remove a benefit when you are on smp

No, my company doesn't as I haven't been here long enough :(

I spoke to my HR and I was told that this will be stopped as I got pregnant 2 weeks after starting my new job.

If I have been here for 12 months+ then I will be entitled to enhanced maternity package and a BONUS for returning back to work after the maternity leave. Plus they will continue paying for childcare vouchers.

My understanding was that the SMP is calculated between week 17-25 and consequently by continuing to pay the childcare vouchers I will receive less SMP. Is this not correct?

www.hmrc.gov.uk/employers/sml-salary-sacrifice.pdf

yes, the SMP is calculated on the salary after the salary sacrifice
but they will continue to pay your vouchers even when on SMP without deducting the SMP, so the only difference would be for the 6 weeks at 90%

(i also only get SMP in my work even though have been there 10 years)

Thanks Tiny I will check your link. But HR definitely said that the company will not pay SMP during my maternity leave.

Then you need to apply for maternity allowance... Maybe post on legal with dates to get the opinion of experts??

smiling PMSL at Narnia. I don't think you were far off on your strictly observations.

London you can continue them but be aware some HR think they don't have too. So make sure you know the correct legislation.
I agree post on legal I think this issue is quite common with HR thinking they don't have to continue with it.

consultant appointment, got thyroxine prescription and got a sneak peek of newbie and she had hb and was moving, but the portable scan machine had shite picture quality...

Tiny oh those portable one are absolutely crap. And can vary widely how good a Dr is with them. My old consultant was excellent with them but he was very much the expection.

i was just happy to see newbie moving along, so that was ok... wasn't expecting much more, she asked if i wanted internal, but i said i was ok

Yes always nice to see them wiggling around, certainly helps me realise I haven't imagined the pregnancy.

We have been thinking about having a private scan just to have some time to watch the baby, see it in 4D. We can also have the fluid levels checked. But I've now had 25 scans in total, 6 alone in this pregnancy with many more to come. So I'm not sure its a good idea?
Plus its a bit weird having a scan at a place that my consultant is technically an owner of, might be awkward if we bump into each other.

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Tiny good to know that your appointment went well. Do you have thyroid problems then?

Little If you can afford it, then I'd say go for the private scan.

I'm having my FMC scan next Saturday (15 Nov) and I simply cannot wait to see Bunny! DS & DH will be coming with me as well

Thank you both I think we will do it, its actually really cheap only £75!
We just have to work out when is best because I still have frequent scans maybe after my next NHS scan. So I'll be around 18 weeks.

I wouldn't worry about the scans little. In many other countries monthly scans are quite normal and at any problems they will get another scan.

Yes, I have an under active thyroid. Diagnosed 2 years ago when dd was 7 months old.

I'm on 150 MCG thyroxine daily

And just think, the blooming duchess is probably having weekly scans whenever she wants!!

Tiny, glad it went well. Congrats on getting a good peek.

I'm in 2 minds on scans now though. MW found heartbeat quite easily today so that was a relief and booked to see me again in 2 weeks so I don't have to wait 3 until my consultant/abnormality scan. And I do appreciate hearing/seeing it as basically no other indication yet that am really pg. But read elsewhere that someone had decided against a 3D/4D due to potential concerns at over-doing the scanning, & googling it now does brings up various references suggesting it might affect brain development - basically cause minor brain damage, including delaying speech, higher risk of dyslexia, learning difficulties, autism and epilepsy. (And neurotube defect being what I'm high-risk for anyway so keen to minimise any other risk factors). If there were more definitive evidence you'd hope it would be more widely known but it must be so hard to prove or disprove any causative effect in this situation; does make me worry some. The clincher against getting a home foetal heart Doppler.

I've seen 6 ultrasound scans so far plus another 2 heartbeat Dopplers, with one more of each in the diary. Now wondering if should think again, re the Doppler anyway. Then again Little, if it reassures us to see/hear it on a scan, maybe relaxing, dropping cortisol levels or blood pressure or whatever else results might be more beneficial than any possible small risk from the ultrasound scan, mightn't it?

Hope generally everyone is feeling ok today. Shetland was it you having a 16-week check for anomalies today (now Friday)? Fingers crossed for you.

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Thanks toucan it's this morning so at least I don't have toooo long to wait.

Good luck Shetland

Interesting about the ultrasound effects toucan. dd had 6 ultrasounds and was doppler ed most days and is fine. I haven't really used my doppler this time after my scare of not finding the heartbeat. (Although got 3.5 weeks till my next scan and no midwives appt so not sure how I will manage yet as movement are not consistent yet.)

17 weeks today.

My dd had more than 10 scans overall and is already writing her name and isnt even 3 yet. I wouldn't worry about the amount of scans

Toucanet trust me I'm very sceptical when it comes to being told everything is fine by medics/politicians I do a lot of my own research.
Hence why I decline things in pregnancy and confuse and shock the midwives.
Nothing I have ever read has ever convinced me that scans are dangerous (there is almost no evidence) a lot of it is based on bad science where evidence is cherry picked.
I will look into 3D/4D because I haven't read to much about it.
Totally antidotal but my mum has scans every week with me in the mid 80s. I'm perfect....well I'm the only one ever in my family to be left handed. but its been disproven to cause handed-ness.

I'm not actually bothered about the scan, I don't particularly like them its more for DH.

I won't do 3D/4D because I find them a bit freaky actually

I stick to the usual ones