Tiptoeing into the Second Trimester... Due April 2015

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Ooh just seen there is a June 2015 thread now. Makes us seem like old hands

So lovely to see all these scans! Mine is tomorrow morning and I am definitely #scanxious, really paranoid there's nothing in there after all

Also have a job interview on Friday so have to pretend not to be pregnant (despite having a bump) then let the agency know if they offer me the job!

If that happens the agency will be the first to know because we can't tell our parents until the weekend

Littleluna Ahh, the glow fairies. They forgot to visit me at all last pregnancy. They're ever so forgetful, you know.

Bonjour, if it's any consolation my waxing technician and osteopath knew before any of our parents... funny how these things end up working out!

I agree cinnamon family can be very strange and just because your the women doesn't mean you have to do all the family discussions.

Good luck in your interview BonjourMinou. Xx

My 18 month old is pushing things around in a little chair she has.

It's not got wheels. She has just been pushing around a ball, and when it kept falling out she carried it and still pushed the chair. She's now pushing around a little miss sunshine. I think now might be a good time to nurture her motherly/(sisterly?!) instinct and get her a little buggy and something to put in it. The poor deprived child doesn't own a dolly!!!

She's got a while to wait for a sibling...

13+1

Littleluna / Bonjour - same here - I didn't glow for a single second during my first pregnancy! I'm determined that I will this time, even if I have to fake it! Or pay people to tell me I am blooming!

Thanks Troll and Annia

daholster Lol my baby is getting a dolly and pram for her 1st birthday later this month. We are starting role play young in this house!

Well the scan went fine. It's actually real!!!!! I could barely talk through the whole thing I just had my mouth open in amazement. It's so weird seeing it!!!! Still finding it difficult to believe. Can't wait to tell everyone now. Had a lovely lunch after with my mam and went shopping for tent sized clothes. Found jeans in asda that claim to stretch with your figure as you expand. They're not maternity, they're called wonder fit. Sounded like a great buy so bought two pair. Hoping they work.

Glad your scan went well squattingneville. I've been pushed back a day so exactly 12 weeks. Due on 22nd April.

Checking in after my scan yesterday, baby was bum in the air and very relaxed apart from a little kick at the end :) Worried it's a whopper as I was measuring five days ahead of my dates and I am very sure of them (with two non-sleepers, we have very little sex ).

Sonographer said the fold looked fine, which was a relief as I'm knocking on.

Told my parents, who were actually fine - was worried they might react badly as it's our third. Can't wait to announce to the world but MIL has selfishly gone on holiday and DH wants to make sure she's heard before everyone else.

berberana I actually had a meeting with 121 in a professional capacity this morning :) I think the service sounds amazing and have definitely heard more good than bad. Even if you're not planning a home birth then I think having an advocate in hospital is invaluable. Tempted to switch to them myself except I really like my mw, who has already delivered DC2.

Ahh I've got the rage, not sure if it is hormones but I am staying away in a premier Inn tonight which work booked but very kindly forgot to bloody pay for and I've just done my expenses so will have to wait 6 weeks for my £98. And it's absolutely heaving in the brewers fayre that is attached with the worlds most annoying family behind me, the woman has just told her child to p**s off and he only looks about 9 or 10.

I'm not in a good mood, can you tell

Anyway lovely to see and hear about the good scan news

Ooh thanks Tea - I've heard nothing bad but then I can't find much info that's not on their own website so it's good to hear other opinions! There are in hindsight so many things I wish I had been pushier about or wish I had asked more about with my first labour so I'm looking forward to being able to talk it all through with a midwife who has the time!

Wouldn't it be nice if we didn't have to work (or lift a finger) for the next 6 months .....

Anyone getting lots of pelvic stabbing pains? Had them the whole time really but pretty uncomfortable today- looking at other threads and books seems to be normal- but it does momentarily take my breath away.

Glad all went well Minstrelle, LindaLove, Berberana, Sazzle82G, TheremustandShallBeTea, AnniaFausta!

Good luck BonjoirMinou!

Thanks Littleluna89, sorry to hear about your dd :( blimmin men!

That is the suggestion I think IvegotaCaveTroll.

[Ivegotacavetroll] My next door neighbour's daughter just had a baby. She works for an airline who grounded her as soon as she knew she was pregnant and they let her work from home on administration stuff. Then she gets a whole year maternity leave on full pay. I'm in the wrong job!

Wow that would be nice. Going off my last pregnancy I get no special treatment at all I had to fight for not doing the last 2 late shifts before I went on maternity leave. (Worked till 9pm alone) it was the lone working that freaked me out incase I went into labour and the mw kept telling I'd go early. (Was a full 2 weeks overdue and had to be induced!)

I'm going to be doing 32 hour shifts until I stop work (Often u get to sleep the night but not always) this is in the midst of a normal work week. Going to use annual leave to stop at 35 weeks. Can't wait for then I'm so bloody tired.
Yay 12 weeks today (husband won't let me announce on fb)

wow, i am having lots of work but mostly office based, some business trips but not too much. last time went to Sweden at 20 weeks and that was the latest one.

This time actually going to Portugal for Christmas at 24ish weeks but won't be for work and will have DH (and DD goodness help us) so won't be alone

13+5

I don't do very much work, just a little admin a couple of hours for my husband. So luckily I don't have that guilty off work feeling to content with. Certainly if I were still working full time I would be off sick right now.

I don't know how you ladies do it, I'm not being sick often but once a day usually. But I have no get up and go, no energy to clean or cook. So DH is doing all of that at the moment.

Contend* even

I have taken today and tomorrow off and am going back to the doctors. I'm a reluctant paracetamol user when pregnant but even I took it all night and I still woke at 4am in pain from my ear, I could have cried with it (still could!). Feel v hot too and my jaw aches, pains into my head from ny ear... I think I might have to accept the antibiotics he suggested last time . I really didn't want to.

I'm currently on the worry sofa, not sure why, can't shake it. Seeing the consultant this afternoon so we'll see what she says about everything and whether I have to stab myself with heparin for the next 9 months... I don't think she'll make any suggestions about how/when to deliver yet because I am guessing it will depend on how comfortably the pregnancy progresses and whether I get the dreaded blocked ileostomy from the growing bump... So it will be interesting to see what she says.

And she's nice, so always a pleasure to see, lucky me .

Hi Folks! Congrats on all the lovely scans! :0) And good luck tomorrow Bonjour and Banana - and anyone else i've missed with a Thursday/Friday scan!
( am with you on the FB thread thing btw Bonjour - enjoying the anon.. anonymity (..? Spelling fail!) of MN for now.

Cinnamon luna is right - you shouldn't be fielding crap from your sis-in-law when it was DPs job to sort it anyway. You've enough on your plate!

Janey, just wanted to say, don't feel alone in feeling rubbish, and don't hesitate to share those feelings on here, and with whoever will listen.
It was a relief to me to hear from someone in the same boat really - I just haven't been feeling myself for weeks now and felt really down in the dumps the last week or so, to the point that I even postponed breaking the happy news to DPs and mine's Mums/Stepdads - the bit I'd been really looking forward to. So I'm now 14+1 and they still don't know (tho hopefully I will get my act together this weekend)!

I don't think these feelings are helped by hormones, work-stress and just feeling physically exhausted, which naturally makes you worry about how you'll cope with a baby (if you don't already have one!). I don't know if anyone else here feels that they are just.. missing their old self, and wondering if that person will ever return....?

So, yeah, Janey, just keep talking to people. I felt like I shouldn't feel down when I have lots to be grateful for and there are so many folk desperate for kids out there and still trying, etc.

But in the end I put this guilt to one side and chatted to DP at length who has had his own battles with the blues in the past and was fantastic. I find gentle exercise helps a bit too. Feel a lot better the last couple of days. So just... find a friendly ear wherever you can, and don't feel bad for feeling blue. Like I say, it was certainly a relief to me to hear someone else on here say they felt less than great.

londonlivvy Must admit, had a mixture of jaw-drop and giggles at your Mum's response! So far, we've had 'was it planned?', and DPs dad being more concerned that he's old enough to be a grandad than about the actual baby - but that one takes some beating! :0D (She has warmed up since, I hope? :) )

Hi nunkie < waves > Nice to hear from you! Sorry you have been feeling low. I worried a lot with my first but later on when I suddenly started mourning the loss of the independent couple life we enjoyed, and had disappeared earlier than I imagined because I wasn't able to do everything we used to even at 28 weeks or something.

Dh and I talked about it and found out we felt the same as each other - but talking through it and the massive positives got us very excited and we were on track. I don't think we were blue like you are describing but a sense of loss is normal and totally reasonable. Don't beat yourselves up about it.

I just wanted to second that you should share share share if you feel blue, with whoever you feel comfortable with. Or GP or midwife if you prefer. And we are all here!

Hope everyone feeling low feels better soon.

Congratulations everyone who has had their scans, it's really lovely seeing all the little pics

Daholster can I ask why you are trying to avoid the anti biotics? I know as a rule it's not good to have them willy nilly but I think in the UK they are not that free and easy with them. If you have a bad infection then I wouldn't hesitate. I hope they work v quickly for you.

Nunkie what you have just said about being down is lovely, I totally agree. I haven't been too bad but was pretty miserable last weekend for no obvious reason. People certainly shouldn't worry about bringing the thread down or anything like that. We're in this together!

Likewise I don't know about others but sometimes I feel a bit reluctant to post happy stuff when people have bad news or worries but I guess we just have to accept that there will be ups and downs.