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October 2014 // thread 15 // hooray, here come the babies!

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sazzlehopes · 28/09/2014 16:35

Going through these fast at the minute!

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pebble82 · 06/10/2014 14:31

Goats, I feel the same about pain management on my own. I think if I get my head round how it feels, albeit less intense than active labour, I'll be much calmer when DP gets involved. I'm thinking of it like injuries/illness pain, it always feels worse when you have someone to whinge to rather than just getting on with it.

ohthegoats · 06/10/2014 14:39

I get really bad period pain (the only contraception I can use is the copper coil, which makes things worse too), and I just like to get on with popping pills and rocking to myself rather than be around anyone else.

I have this theory about wanting to have a mobile/walking labour, but my limited experience of pain in the past has mostly involved being a hermit with it. Curled up somewhere like an animal or something!

Missus2ndwife · 06/10/2014 15:00

That's the thing re labour, I think I also want to get my head around it first before having two of us going through it. Obviously if it's more intense than I expect or there is a problem like bleeding I'll let him know ASAP but I'm of the view that why stress us both out?
My OH can be very OTT so I'd like to keep myself in the zone long enough before having him all anxious Wink

How much stuff is everyone taking to the hospital?
This us what I have on my list for me:
2 x lounge pants
2 x nursing vests
1 x tankini top
Cotton gown
Cotton night shirt
Arnica tablets
Maternity pads
Toiletries
Calm & clear herbal mist (like Bach rescue remedy)
Nipple cream & breast pads
Towel
Flip flops
Snacks and drinks

Am I missing anything?

ohthegoats · 06/10/2014 15:07

I've got about the same in my bag. Waterfall cardi instead of dressing gown.

ohthegoats · 06/10/2014 15:12

Oh, I've also got a really old spaghetti strap nightie thing that comes to mid thigh - I figure that it might be a good thing to do the hospital bit of labour in. Boobs fall out of it all the time, it's not very good at covering me, but a little bit of coverage might be a good thing.

Pregnantagain7 · 06/10/2014 16:00

goats I would usually curl up in pain but in labour I wanted to move. Standing rocking hips was good, ball was ok, leaning against a wall doing kind of press ups against it was good. It hurt much more when lay down or curled up I kept on the move all the time and it helped loads.

Grannyapple · 06/10/2014 16:02

pregnant I had 2 sweeps last time...2nd one & a but of dtd set things off!

1st one, bishops score was 7...2nd it was 9, I was 2cm dilated at the first, 3-4cm at the 2nd...a walk after it & dtd later that night, scrubbing cream carpet on all fours & cramping started at midday & contractions at 3pm.

Another lady who had her sweep
at 1st time ase also had 7 score & went into labour that same night...so who knows! Tho SIL who is a mw says 7 & above normally means things will kick off.

madamweasel · 06/10/2014 16:06

The only thing I'd say about being on your own and dealing with the pain in early labour is that most people expect labour to take ages but if you haven't done it before, you might be someone who labours quite quickly and not know that, iyswim.

With my first labour (first contraction 3am) I just assumed it would take ages so popped a couple of paracetamol, sent DH back to bed and waited a few more hours, dealing with the pain by myself in a focused but excited zen. Little did I know that my labour was progressing quite fast and it was at 7am when I said to DH, I think I need some paint relief. We got in the car, drove to hospital and I'm doing the deep breathing nonstop thinking, surely that's not a push? I can't be pushing already? Oh yes. In the car.

Got to hospital, still in my deep breathing, pain tolerating zen, midwives were totally cool, thought I had loads of time because I was so calm. First examination = fully dilated & pushing! Waters went immediately, and mw swung into gear. Time in labour by then: 5 hours.

Clearly, the pain only got really bad near transition and if I'd left it any longer then we might not have made it to hospital, which would have been bad because things didn't go perfectly from then, baby got stuck, distressed and needed forceps to come out ASAP.

This time, although I won't be rushing in at the first contraction, I'll also be more aware that things could progress at pace. I guess all I wanted to share was that first labours aren't always long, and I wouldn't want anyone to be caught out by themselves needing to help. I know that going in to get examined and being sent home again is a pita but I'd rather that than be that woman who gives birth in the car!

ohthegoats · 06/10/2014 16:09

No Kirsti today I notice...

Lulu298 · 06/10/2014 16:46

Thanks for sharing madamweasel. I hope I can be as zen as you with the pain!

Goats, where did you get your waterfall cardi from? Am struggling to find a lightweight long, ideally ankle length, cotton cardi for the hospital.

ohthegoats · 06/10/2014 16:53

It's not ankle length, but came from Primark. £5 I think.

Lulu298 · 06/10/2014 16:56

Cool, thanks.

fedupofrainydays · 06/10/2014 16:57

Yeah - I'm the same with period pain - just need to lie down and curl up. With labour I can't lie down - swinging hips the only way - whether sitting on a ball, standing, leaning over something or on all fours! Clever really as helps move the baby through the pelvis

pusscous · 06/10/2014 16:58

Congratulations bump. Continued thoughts/ well wishes to sazzle fx you get to cuddle your little boy soon.

Goats kirstie posted on fb- are you on fb?

pusscous · 06/10/2014 17:03

Have a cold that came out Saturday night/ early Sunday morning that have been fighting since mid August. could really sleep in now, still early morning here, but the builders on the last plot of land are using two horrendous tools that sound like dentist instruments- a drill and that sucking device. Combined is a delight can hereloud and clear in my house and has created some wonderful dreams! I hate the dentist, wiuld prefer internal exam any day to a dentist visit, so far from ideal. Think will get up and do ironing!

mrsb87 · 06/10/2014 17:08

Well the sweep was a bit of a let down. No real progression to which I was really disappointed in and was so close to tears when she left to go and get my induction date sorted. I asked for another sweep if possible before the induction which she said was no problem.
She came back with a date for Thursday! Obviously no time for another sweep before then. I feel a lot more relieved to think if this baby hasn't arrived before Thursday then I won't have to go any longer. Phew!

Me23 · 06/10/2014 17:17

I've got a sore throat feeling coldy and horrible no not now! Very bad timing.

hospital bag I would recommend taking your own pillow, they are gold dust in maternity units as are fans I got some cheap had held ones from Robert dyas. I still haven't finished packing mine yet.

mum2kiss · 06/10/2014 18:02

Agree with madam about labouring alone. From what I recall I went downstairs and started timing contractions but my mum knew I was in labour (was still living at home then!) And she came and checked progress until my ex and my friend arrived. They were good though in that they followed my lead and didn't keep.asking me questions or anything!

This time if it happens in the night I will let dp know but won't expect him to get up right away...I'll come down and do my.deep breathing until things start to pick up.

The outlaws have announced that they are looking for local hotels for the weekend...poo...I'll really hope this doesn't mean they plan on pitching up every morning and staying all day!

hefner · 06/10/2014 18:21

It's exciting that you've got an end date MrsB. I'm seeing the midwife for a sweep tomorrow and I think she'll give me an induction date then. She mentioned 40+12 which would be Saturday but I guess it'll depend when they've got a slot free.

Hope your in-laws visit is not too bad mum2kiss. My mil is flying over on weds. It'll be nice to see her, but a bit stressful as the main reason for her visit was to meet the baby, and obviously I haven't had him yet! DH keeps telling me not to stress, and that it's her own fault for getting impatient and booking flights too early, but I can't help feeling a bit guilty that she might have to go home without meeting him if I can't get him out in time.

I hope all those with colds feel better soon. DD has got a rotten cold and I'm dreading catching it.

I went for a nice massage today and she focused on the acupressure induction points. I'm feeling quite crampy today but not holding out much hope as I've felt like this loads of times and it hasn' t come to anything.

ohthegoats · 06/10/2014 18:40

I think things are tentatively kicking off here. Definite quite 'different' feeling period pains to the last few weeks - much sharper, and on a 15/20 minute cycle roughly. Feel fine in between, then quite ouchy when they happen. Baby going quite nuts though, which I don't get. Not timed anything properly, but been going on for about 4 hours or so since I started noticing it properly. We're going to go out for a curry anyway...

... probably I'll be back to say NOPE! (which has been my Facebook status update every day for the last 4 days!) But it does feel different. Quite pointy pain rather than dull ache - not bad pain yet though.

hefner · 06/10/2014 19:30

Ooh good luck goats, hope things get going for you, pointy pain sounds good!

STIGZ · 06/10/2014 19:30

mrsb atleast you know you will deffo have progress on thursday and still a possibilty of progress before then

Hope your ordering a vindaloo goats? Got everything crossed for you (apart from my legs)Wink

pebbles your dream made me lol Smile

sazzle my thoughts are with you hunny, such a stressful time but you seem positive which puts out good vibrations !Thanks for you xx

Been getting braxton hicks & cramps all bloody day ... She just has to hang on until c/sec next thursday... I really hope she isnt impatient like her sister? ... The full moon tomorrow is freaking me out plus my grans 1 year anniversary is tomorrow also ... My gut feeling from day one is that i will go around this time give or take a couple of days - i really hope im wrong Confused

Pregnantagain7 · 06/10/2014 19:44

granny thanks for the heads up! I feel a bit crampy but have felt this way on lots of other nights too
goats everything crossed for you hope this is it

Feel a bit a crap tonight dp told me that if I get induced on the Thursday he will have to go back to work on the Tuesday! A bit gutted thought he would be at least having the week off. Not his fault it's his business and a couple of things have gone very badly wrong over the last few weeks. It's just really really bad timing for us. Just hope to god that things are straight forward and I'm really well enough to look after two babies and two children as well.

YellowWellies · 06/10/2014 19:53

Good luck goats go and enjoy your curry! xxx

gunwalloe · 06/10/2014 19:56

Congrats bump and sazzle

Good luck goats