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October 2014 // thread 15 // hooray, here come the babies!

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sazzlehopes · 28/09/2014 16:35

Going through these fast at the minute!

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YellowWellies · 01/10/2014 10:02

Munday my best pal's cat (who's an utter misanthrope and normally shuns human contact) sat on her lap the day of each of her labours kicking off! You never know....

Kittylou1 · 01/10/2014 10:07

Hello been lurking for ages but thought id pop back on now i actually have the time to follow the threads. I am currently 38 +3 and feeling more and more nervous. Next mw appointment is Tuesday 14th when I'll be 2 days overdue. Congratulations everyone who had had their baby and good to luck to those in the process! Please can someone add me to the list. EDD 12th oct DC1 team yellow x

mrsb87 · 01/10/2014 10:16

I just sent this to my dh, he is working within walking distance from home today. He might oblige who knows! lol
I'm getting bored of waiting now....will you please come and shag this baby out of me. Promise I only need you for 20 minutes....half hour tops ;-) hehe xxx

mum2kiss · 01/10/2014 10:21

Lol Mrsb. My dp would have me sectioned if I sent him that text. He already thinks I'm crazy!

goats 3 miles?! I'd be lucky to get 3 metres! I have a single crutch on loan from my mum...as soon as I started walking with it I realised I probably need 2 but the other one if broken :(

porcito · 01/10/2014 10:27

A bit late, but congrats bump .
Sorry for those of you waiting with BH and babies in no rush.

Thought I'd share my story for those that are worried about a c section. sorry for the length: it's the first time I've described it in English so I'm using alll my words!

I'd gone to the doctor on Tuesday due to reduced movements, fully expecting to be sent back home like the other 40 times I've gone to check. On the scan, her amniotic fluid levels were low and her heart at the low end so got sent away for a juice and to come back for the heart monitoring. For half an hour it was slow, then sped up when I turned on the left. In the meantime, the Ob had reviewed my file and seen a cone biopsy I'd had 5 years ago. she decided all things considered that she didn't want to risk waiting for things to start naturally: I'd been having contractions for almost 2 weeks but everything was still closed, which was a risk of the biopsy. This was at 8 and surgery was scheduled for 9am the next day. Arrived at the hospital where MIL was waiting (great). A nurse prepped me, shaved me, attached the canula and drugs etc. Then I was wheeled off to the OR. The anaesthetic gave me the spinal block, which was more uncomfortable than painful as you have to draw your knees up quite high. With a giant belly, not easy... As someone else said, it's a strange feeling when the lower half goes numb as you can still feel the presence of things. It took a while to get used to not being able to move my legs but was fine. I felt dizzy, so the anaesthetist added some other drug to the mix and it went straight away. They added a catheter which I didn't feel at all. Everyone was happy, chatting, very relaxed. They asked if they could put music on, which made it even more relaxed.

Then DP arrived, and the only reason I knew they'd started the procedure was his face! the doctor told me there'd be a pushing feeling on my abdonen, and then suddenly a big cry! It was much faster than I thought- the baby was out within 15 minutes. They held her up straight away and put her on my chest. I cried more than her. After taking her away for her apgar test, they brought her back to me. My hands were strapped down and was convinced she was going to roll off my chest so they unstrapped me. Baby was taken away to the incubators, hand was left roaming , at which I accidentally rested it on my stomach like the 8 month habit I had-oops. The next part for me was the worst as just wanted to see the baby and it took longer to close up than to take her out.

Back in recovery, MIL was waiting (excellent Grin . It took about 2 hours to get feeling in my legs back, then about 10 hour later, they took out the catheter and made me walk a tiny way. It was painful but not unbearable. The next day was a shower, which I hated. and then home that afternoon. Now, a week later, I'm walking around. (slowly) and it only hurts in certain positions or if I do something stupid like pick things off the floor. The scar is fine, is a strange sensation because you it's numb to touch but still bruised. Stitches out on Saturday!

LondonJen · 01/10/2014 10:33

Congrats Taking! Glad to hear your recovery is going well.

binkybunny · 01/10/2014 10:37

Just had a bit of a snooze, a pint of water and an ice lolly and feeling lots better. I was up at 5.30am this morning cleaning and baking a cake and flapjack think I just knackered myself out, but I've left a voicemail for my mw to call me back. Yellow my thoughts were pre-eclampsia which is why I was quite worried but my bp has been mainly fine. I'll see what the mw says and at least my parents will be here soon.

mrsb love the text message, my dh would also think I'd totally lost the plot sending something like that!

mrsb87 · 01/10/2014 10:51

great stuff porcito! I know you were really worried about it all before being in Mexico but it all sounds very similar to here really? Glad to hear you're healing well too Smile

Hehe he said I was being rude! I don't think he realised I was being serious. I told him it's either that or he gets me a birthing ball. I'm scared to leave the house on my own at the moment, I don't fancy my waters going in the middle of Argos on my own or my contractions getting stronger while I'm driving.

ohthegoats · 01/10/2014 11:02

I shouted I NEED YOUR JIZZ at my boyfriend last week. Then followed it with some waffle about making sure he was hydrated.

He actively avoided being anywhere near me for the rest of the week. Haha. Not that the jizz has worked so far anyway :(

Missus2ndwife · 01/10/2014 11:14

Congrats Taking!

Porcito - glad you had a smooth birth experience. How are you getting on with MIL now?

MrsB you crack me up!! I'd be the same as you and will be demanding sex very shortly Grin

Clearly had a better night's sleep last night. Hubbie said I only woke him once. I also had to use pillows around my bump last night to make life more comfortable.

Oh and re animals, my cats have definitely changed since I fell preggers. One insists on lying on my lap listening to the baby, one has got even needier than ever and the other one now follows me around when she couldn't give a shit before. Let's see what happens when I go into labour

MundayCakes85 · 01/10/2014 11:16

My bloke keeps "falling asleep" on the sofa when I suggest we need to DTD vigorously
Getting lots of texts, calls, FB messages asking for updates. Because I'm actually hiding the fact we've had the baby already?!?

Me23 · 01/10/2014 11:22

Another one who didn't sleep well last night. Though lack of sleep wa due to Ds waking up in night then I couldn't grt back to sleep properly. I'm finding the school run very trying now with bump/back ache and the fanny daggers! This afternoon is first time I'll be picking Ds and dd up from different schools so will take even longer luckily Ds nursery was fine with me picking him up a bit early to get to dd in time.

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-health/11130796/Midwives-strike-the-plight-of-Britains-struggling-maternity-workers.html some info and background on strike action if anyone is curious.

granny I agree it annoys me that mil can't see what needs doing and just do it or offer! I'm not the type to order someone to do housework for me, so I can just see it not gettig done and me raging inwardly. Also she said to OH that our place isn't that messy hahaha! I am not house proud at all and even I can see the house is a sty right now.

ohthegoats · 01/10/2014 11:26

Has anyone heard from excitedcj? Is she on FB or the post-natal thread? Not a peep in ages, I hope all is well with her.

mrsb87 · 01/10/2014 11:28

No idea what's wrong with these men, they get all upset when we have a "head ache", now we're practically gagging for it they run off like scaredy cats!

My little Jug, Yoda, has been very needy for about a week now. He has even started sitting on the loo seat while I'm in the bath to keep an eye on me. He has started following me everywhere!

binkybunny · 01/10/2014 11:50

Gosh, just fell back asleep for another hour, guess that was why I felt so rubbish this morning!

Our house rabbit is either following me around, even sitting outside the bathroom when I go to the loo, or being a little terror. She's put holes in all the sofa cushions, which she hasn't done since she was a baby! Think she knows somethings happening.

YellowWellies · 01/10/2014 11:57

Mrs wait until baby arrives - our border terrier has turned into Nanna from Peter Pan - the minute Lilly squeaks she's over to the crib looking at us anxiously to pick up the baby.

Goats good point about CJ are you there chick?

Binky sorry I didn't mean to scare you but just in case best get checked xx

Yawn right time to get up - little miss is feeding every 1-2 hours at night at the mo so I'm a zombie! DH has had her this am.

sazzlehopes · 01/10/2014 12:48

So sorry I meant to say earlier massive congrats taking, such a lovely name too.

Ok so sweep done, sort of. She said cervix closed so it was more of a half sweep than anything because of that. Not dilated, but soft. Cervix also short, so who knows when baby will appear. My mum is kindly having my ds for another night so I can just chill out today. And perhaps attempt more sex tonight too. May read some of my book, the goldfinch, I know yellow you were enjoying that one too.

If nothing by Friday I go to hospital to discuss my options....

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mrsb87 · 01/10/2014 12:49

Hehe that's cute yellow, I'm pretty sure that's what this one will be like. The staffyx on the other hand I know won't talk to us for a month. He didn't talk to us for a week when we got the other 2a

sazzlehopes · 01/10/2014 13:04

I'm loving all the desperate pleas for sex with their OH...when I pitched it to mine last night I thought he was going to back out of it, but he was surprisingly up for it. Let's see if the experience hasn't put him off and he's willing again tonight Grin

I'm about to get out my breast pump too....a midwife friend of mine suggested that might help bring on labour. Anyone actually had success with this? It's worth it really just to check the thing still works after 3 years!

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ohthegoats · 01/10/2014 13:06

Oh my GOD... I've just spent half an hour looking at nursery options/prices. I want to go back to work 4 days a week... £890 a month, with no term time only options at the two nurseries nearest to us/most convenient for boyfriend to drop off and me to pick up. That's the price of a mortgage - how on earth do people afford to have two or more kids?

We thought we'd been dead clever - I have to be at work at 8am, half an hour drive away. So thought it would be ace if I got up earlier and went to work at 7.30, boyfriend could do the morning baby shift and drop off at 8.50 on his way to work (he's a 10 minute cycle away). Then because I go in early mornings, I'd be able to leave 'on time' from school - ie, 4pm, and then could pick up at 4.30. Makes it a shorter day for the kid in nursery than me doing a drop off at 7.45 somewhere nearer work, and realistically not picking up until 5.30 or 6.

Makes me wonder if we're better off me going back fewer days a week. Or maybe trying to wangle some free parental options.

To make my day even more half scream half cry type amusing, the plumber just left, leaving a dripping shower valve and an incredibly wonky towel rail. Looks like I've done the job myself. No, I'd have done a better job.

mrsb87 · 01/10/2014 13:07

Well done sazzle, must have cross posted! I guess at least you have an idea now of where you stand with it all even if the swept isn't successful.

Grannyapple · 01/10/2014 13:20

Yup goats nursery prices are ridiculous! I went back 3 days/wk after my first then upped it to 4 days just before I found out I was pg with DD...but only way it was financially beneficial then was because DH did one day/wk from home.

I was exact same when DS started nursery...I had no idea all thus time that we could've afforded 2 properties!!!

With 2 in nursery, our bill is £1700...but off of that we get Nate's early years funding (once he turned 3)...works out around £200/month. Then both DH & I are in our companies childcare vouchers scheme which also helps. Tho I pretty much go back to work just to have some spending money for me.

Going back after no 3 is going to be the financially toughest yet although DS will have started school by then. But I keep thinking it'll be worth the financial pain for a year to keep my foot in the four so to speak.

Timing is the key I guess in terms of age gaps...

sazzlehopes · 01/10/2014 13:25

Thanks mrsb yes it gives me a better idea I guess. I'm not quite as 'near' as I perhaps thought so relaxing now and enjoying it...

goats childcare is crazy money. We will luckily have a big enough gap that we will only be paying for one at a time before the other goes to school...just. We also have parent help so a 'free' day. Without that I couldn't have justified going back to work. I know people who break even financially with childcare but do it because they like their work and want to keep their job safe for when the kid is at school. It is most unfair though....

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ohthegoats · 01/10/2014 13:28

I'm now thinking that boyfriend's negotiations for his new job contract should include a 5 days hours in 4 deal - then he can have a day at home, I can have a day at home, and the kid only has 3 days childcare.

Good grief... another ££££ stress.

ohthegoats · 01/10/2014 13:35

Or I should just start a nursery.

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