March Mummies 2015 - to second tri and beyond we go, bumps appearing and sickness (hopefully) disappearing

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New thread for the March Mums :)

And I really hope you feel better soon kitten

Thank you :) I should say that I'm so thankful that baby seems to be doing just grand and that's the most important thing, and I cannot wait to start feeling her/him moving about, I think I'll feel even mpre connected then. Until then though, hiding in bed with a bottle of water and Harry Potter.

kitten that sounds awful and so frustrating. Hopefully yiu'll get better soon. Thinking if you xx

Just checking in. On day 6 of official sick leave due to 'acute stress'. I'm starting to feel better but suspect it is because I am not due back at work until 3rd November. Still not sleeping very well but last night I managed 5 straight hours. Sleepless nights was/is probably the root cause of all my issues with work along with the demands the Head is putting on us all. I am anxious that after a few weeks it will all start again IF I don't sort out my insomnia. I am going to be a shattered wreck by the time this baby arrives! At least the tears have stopped!! Also worried about my Head's changing attitude towards me. She doesn't show an ounce of sympathy towards anyone and although she seemingly tries, I can't help wondering if it is all a show because she is incapable of empathy. The woman is a mother of two herself!!! Although VERY career orientated and reminds me a bit of someone with an 'apprentice style managerial personality' if that makes sense. Apparently the atmosphere at work is dire. I have had some colleagues contact me telling me that everyone is unhappy, wanting to move on or quit etc and it is all the 'old staff' those that were at the school prior to the Head's arrival four years ago. Everyone knows she is wanting to get rid of the old and employ her own staff. After all she said in a conversation about OFSTED that 'head's want to employ their own staff when recruited to a school' and that 'the only ones who shine are her new staff' a comment said to me after she had emotionally beaten me to the floor when I was sobbing my heart out. Also said last week that 'who knows who else will be pregnant' a comment in response to a question about coaching trios next autumn. The tone of voice told me straight away that she was finding pregnancy a nuisance. I can understand but not very professional to say that to a very down, emotional pregnant woman who already feels that 'her' attitude towards me has changed immediately on finding out about the pregnancy. Midwife and GP have told me to contact my Union as they feel it is discrimination against pregnancy. I am not convinced. The woman is stressed herself over OFSTED and has already told staff again and again that she is waiting for the call any minute! Sorry for the long rant. I think I am anxious about going back and being targeted by senior management for being 'weak' and a 'burden'.

Glad you're beginning to feel a bit better junkfoodaddict. Try and stop thinking about what is going on at work right now though, that seems to be what is making you so stressed out, so it wont help your colleagues calling you and giving you gossip from work

junkfoodaddict your school situation sounds very similar to what has happened at my sons school. I know many brilliant teachers who have left the profession due to stress caused by OFSTED & obnoxious career-hungry heads! It's as if getting 'outstanding' is the only thing in the world that matters, when in fact if the teaching staff are happy, the children are happy = the school is a happy place with a good atmosphere. I know which one i prefer! My son's head teacher has actually said that OFSTED is the 'be all & end all', an attitude I struggle to agree with. The school is currently graded 'good' throughout but nothing, it seems, will stop him making it outstanding. My son is in reception & not the most gifted academically shall we say and I personally think the school expect way too much from 4 year olds. Yes, there are some that can do everything that is asked but certainly not all. And as parents we are made to feel like we've done something wrong if our child can't write their name or doesn't like drawing. I was patronised by the TA this morning, who asked me to encourage my son to dress himself as he cried after PE yesterday & said he couldn't. He can & does, he just obviously was tired or not in the mood, & there hasn't been a problem before now.
Anyway, that's my little school-rant over! But honestly junk I hope you continue to feel better, if you are struggling with sleep at night are daytime naps an option? Try and shut yourself off from school-related matters altogether if you can.

I'm thinking about my son coming with us to 20 wk scan...is this a good or bad idea? He's 4, & it would mean picking him up from school a bit earlier (so knowing the school that will probably mean some kind of unauthorised absence lol!) but I know it can be a lengthy process. It's just that he came to the 12 wk & he got really excited seeing the baby on the screen, we'd like to include him if we can. Any advice on this ladies?...

I'm taking my ds to 20week scan think it's still a bit unreal to him so I'll take him outta school early and let him come along

guntons we did think of taking our DS to the 20w scan, but am now glad we didn't as it is much longer and more detailed that the 12w one. Though he is a bit younger than your DS so perhaps if he doesn't get too upset with having to be quiet for up to an hour it's a good job. It will be lovely for him to be involved :-)

For those of you not on fb, I had my 20w scan yesterday. No anomalies found but they are concerned about baby's size - currently sitting just under 3rd centile! didn't expect that.

I have been asked back for another scan in two weeks to make sure baby is still growing (could be just that baby is small, or my dates are a few days out). Bit worried, but trying not to think of bad outcomes. am pleased to be getting another little peek plus a second chance at finding out the sex as wasn't possible to tell yesterday due to position.

junk hope you continue to feel better

2nd cold in two weeks for me, feeling rotten and very dribbly and snotty at work. how lovely.

Anyone else unreasonably emotional. My 2 dc's are bring hard work and the littlest thing sets me off this week.
Didn't put the kid on my steam cleaner oroperly this morning so got a face full of hot water and a ceiling covered in limescale. Triffic! Wouldn't normally bother me but had a good cry.
Stupid hormones.

3isthe - Lol I've been crying more or less constantly for 3 days! Everything is setting me off, had a stressful few days do been stressed, emotional and insecure lol oh the joys!!

Do your hospitals allow children at 20 week scans? Mine very specifically says not, as it is long and complicated and the sonographers need to concentrate.

I can see why you might want to, but I personally wouldn't. Just in case something is wrong, would you want to deal with having your child there, as well as your own emotions?

But obviously it's a very personal decision.

I'm feeling very un-pregnant! No bump, no definite movement to speak of, I don't feel ill, not noticeably more tired, etc! Just feel normal. Can't wait for my 20week scan to see that I'm not imagining it all, but that's 3 weeks away! I'm 17+3 today.

Oh no, have people seen whohasnickedmyvodka's post on chat?

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Very sad

Our hospital prefer no children unless you can guarantee they will sit quietly for a scan that could last at least 20 mins if not longer

Oh god, just read, so so sorry whohas - sending you so much love xxx

Absolutely heartbreaking. Poor whohas and poor Eve :-( xxx

So heartbreaking to hear oh whohas :( my thoughts are with her! Xx

whohas - hey there, regular under a nn change here. Just wanted to say that I am so sorry about little Eve. We are thinking of you and sending all our love x

Oh no, sending lots of love whohas xx

Sorry to read whohas, thoughts with you & your family. Sending love xxx

my thought are with you whohas cant even put into words how sorry i am to hear that

So sorry whohas, sending you lots of love and prayers. Little Eve is very lucky to have a mammy like you, even if it was only for a short while. Will be thinking of you both on Saturday x

Oh Wohas my heart goes out to you.

Trying to catch up, but I think I've basically just need to start again from here and pay more attention from now on!

We went away for a holiday a week ago and it's been rather hectic getting back into the swing of things. My bump seems to have finally popped a little bit I'm 18+1. Seems late to me and I think I'm smaller than I was for the last 2 pregnancies - could this be because I'm fitter and have stronger abs? Not a boast - I was just totally unfit for the last 2!

I think my surfing days are over for the foreseeable future - devastating!! I'm starting to feel uncomfortable and I just can't stand up fast enough any more (even off the sofa).

Baby brain has also kicked in with a vengeance. I always suffer from severe idiocy during pregnancy. Last week I put milk in the cupboard and took my boys to swimming lessons on the wrong day and to the wrong swim school. (Mainly because I didn't know what day it was)

I've bought a new swim suit to get me though Summer (Topshop one) but haven't really bought any proper maternity wear yet. Anyone found some good stuff that's not too frumpy and, well, mumsy?

Feeling very grateful that I've still had no sign of depression after suffering horribly with antenatal depression in my last pregnancy. People are not avoiding me or looking scared as I approach - all good!

notaqueef do you have a picture? I love a scan picture and mine isn't for another two weeks... Try not to worry about the size and like you say, think of it as another chance to see the LO.

I feel like time has stood still and it's taking ages to bake our baby!!

surfs I'm 17+6 and have only just popped. I'm not huge and in fact my work colleagues mock my 'bump' saying there is nothing there but I know that I have definitely changed shape and I definitely feel different. Also, I started wearing smocks rather than fitted dresses to work right away so I think I'm hiding under them whereas at nights and weeks I'm wearing bump hugging outfits. :-) I also thought I felt kicks with my hand last night in bed but didn't waken DH in case they went away as soon as I woke him up.

I'd also love to hear about any non mumsy maternity wear if anyone finds some! I'd like to avoid wrap dresses and too much jersey fabric where at all possible!