October 14. Thread 12. Still no babies? Let the raspberry leaf tea drinking commence

[YellowWellies]

New Fred

Not he same buy my nan died the year before I had Dd. Then my due date was in her birthday month and I so wanted them to share the same birthday. I felt grief that they would never meet and now that Dd is older she sometimes asks about her and it make me feel like Dd has been cheated too. I can't imagine how that feels when it's one of your parents :(

So I've been taking my iron tablets more regularly and feel much better physically but still keep falling asleep! I'm thinking maybe I go to bed too late...usually midnight...sleep is usually only disturbed by toilet trips. Today I have fallen asleep twice! Thank goodness for Netflix as Dd has been watching movies! Back to work and school next week - I have to find the strength somehow!

Happy birthday sazzle hope you were spoilt.

fedup what you're feeling is so common I'm sure most of us have felt like that esp in pregnancy, I have those fleeting thoughts sometimes and I trust my partner 100%. I would let your OH know how your feeling so he can reassure you.

badger an missus I can totally empathise with how you are feeling and echo yellows post, I lost my mum to lung cancer when I was 8 weeks pregnant and went through everything yellow described you are not alone and feel free to open up on here if and when you need to

Can't remember who mentioned leg pain now but I've had pain in my left leg all day and I'm starting to convince myself I have a dvt but I have no swelling warmth or discolouration just a full ache that does not get worse on walking it's worse when sitting. I'm sure it's nothing but obviously it's it gets worse or doesn't go away I will get it checked out.

I've just been asked by a pharmacist if I'm pregnant. I'm standing there with my massive gut sticking out over the counter right in her eye line. Haha. Good news is there is nothing that can be taken to help sleeping. But knew that already, just feeling optimistic.

Really sorry to hear of so many of you who have suffered loss. I can't imagine how you must be feeling as we get closer to the end. Know there is always someone here to listen.
I've just got home from my last shift at work, got a lovely card and flowers and managed to not cry- back to the hormonal stage for me Now to hopefully get my giant feet up for a relaxing weekend.

I'm so jealous of people finishing work now. I wish I hadn't pushed to go back for these few weeks, it's tough going. I really, REALLY want this baby out now so that I don't have to go back for the next two weeks.

Fedup those thoughts are definitely normal. I haven't said anything to boyfriend about them, but he's been out loads without me since we moved here. New city etc, I've only met friends with bumps or babies, he's been out clubbing etc. I 100% trust him, but still the odd sneaking 'I'm such a heffer' and 'I'm so bloody boring' thoughts. It's the 'I'm so boring' ones that are the worst, because I AM so boring right now!

Just had a bit of financial type news that means I need the baby to now stay in until 18th September. Two weeks - should be no problem right? And that would make it a nice 38+5 type gestation. Maybe I won't start eviction procedures properly until NEXT weekend instead of right now.

So I'm 36 weeks and everytime I see the midwife she has said she thinks baby is head down.But nearly all the movements I get are low down..does this mean baby is now breech? What have other people experienced? Have hardly had any kicks to ribs or anything,just all seems low.

I have a question about partners:

Has your partner/other half/whatever tried to keep his work simple from around now on? So he could easily be got hold of? So he could easily/quickly get home?

What's the normal thing to do?

Also, if you've already done this before, were they pretty good about getting home on time, or was the prospect of two weeks off a bit of a nightmare anyway?

Or, did they stop giving a toss about work the same as most of us have?

nearly all the movements I get are low down - I get loads low down too, but scan and two midwife appointments tell me it's head down. Apparently it's because they are bent over, so still some kick movements, but also their hands/arms/elbows are poking you about.

I've had some occasions where it's kicking under my right ribs - clearly feels like a leg stretching out - yet I'm also getting a feeling right low down left as if it's stretching an arm... then at the same time, in some sort of pincer movement, I get a squeezed bladder by something that is definitely pointy, not round like a head. Like I'm being pinched in the bladder. Nice.

Can't remember who it was worrying about not gaining weight but I am 35 weeks on Monday and my pregnancy book said its normal for your weight to plateau now.

Yet another bad sleeper here too, REALLY looking forward to being pain free at night even if I have to get up a million times with the baby!

George, you could just be getting punches and head wiggles rather than kicks? You can always ask your midwife for another examination if your worried though

sazzle it was me with the recipe, it's not online but I'll pm you so it doesn't get lost on here.

I've been told she's definitely head down but gets lots of movement into my hips which I am presuming is her arms as I also get heels, toes or knees higher up.

Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not being totally mad. I feel boring too goats. Mostly because I go to bed at 9 pm and we hardly have a conversation unless it's about something to do with the house as he gets home so late from work. I told him I was worried and he said I was being silly. I do think he feels bad leaving me with a crazed toddler and an un finished house so I'm hoping we are on his mind!

Um, my Husband starts new job on Tuesday when back from Canada so he's definitely not winding down! Plus he announced he hadn't had a leaving do yet so that will be when he gets back

And I'm already accepting I will pretty much be a single mum in the week as doubt he will get back in time for bath (6.30). It's bed time I'm most worried about - stories for ds etc. I've asked him to really try at least at the beginning... But let's see. He goes at 6 am so not an unreasonable ask is it?!

My DH stopped all travel in August and is paranoid I'll go early again / was worrying about cord prolapse / is now worrying about me having a hypo so is working from home a couple of days a week to help out with J and around the house. My waters went at 6am last time so he was right with me from the start. Labour beginning at night is pretty common due to high levels of oxytocin at that time. I worried last time as mobile reception on the island was shit but it worked out fine. I went out with the girls last Friday and that was definitely my last solo night out until after D Day and he's off for a last fishing trip on Sunday morning - he's getting very wary about leaving me now. He's v excited about paternity leave but shitting himself about dealing with a newborn again! He found j so tiny he was terrified he'd break him when dressing or winding him. I can't wait to see him holding our newborn after birth again looking utterly smitten

DH has refused to travel from now until Christmas and I have every number I might need to contact him! He's based a few streets away from the mlu so if he can't make it home he should be at the mlu before me. He's also refused to go hill walking in Aviemore at the end of this month and changed it to nearer home where there's better phone signal. He is terrified of missing the birth (or maybe of my reaction if he does!)

Getting so much movement down there. But I was told at my 36 week appointment that he is 4/5ths engaged, so pretty much ready to go.
In fact today I had to spend quietly on the sofa as I am getting agonising sharp pains all round where my cs scar is. And when the little one wriggles or kicks down there it takes my breath away. Hoping with rest it'll pass, I still have so much DIY I want to get done. Anyone else experience this sharp pain? I didnt have it first time round...

binky that'd be ace! thanks so much.

goats my oh works in London. A good hour and a half commute away. Often it's hard to get hold of him if he's in a meeting or with a patient. He's certainly on phone checking duty more than normal, but no more than that. I'm more worried this time as I have a 3.5 yr old to work out what to do with... Last time I was due over Xmas and so the thought of oh being at work didn't really cross my mind. This time though I think I'll be ringing my mum or close friend as well as oh in case he doesn't get back in time!!

My husband says he won't travel after 2nd week Oct and will stop the nightly vino so that he can drive me to the hospital. I'm due end Oct. he's planning on taking two weeks paternity although his boss has other ideas (it's not like hubby won't be on email or conf calls/ avail to clients & staff at this time, he's just not going to work).
Then my mommy is coming to take over for a few weeks. Yay!!

Saying all this, step son asked earlier what is going to happen should I go into labour and he (step son) is not around. Erm you'll be back at uni so I will ring your dad and then the neighbours!

sazzle I think I've pm'd you!

Evening all! Must stop checking the thread once a week, it's taken me all blimming day to catch up and now I can't remember who said what.

I too have a cat problem, one can do no wrong however the other can do no right! She mews at all hours, especially when I've just got DD off to sleep, tries to trip me up on the stairs, sneaks into the nursery and hides under the cot, makes a beeline for my black trousers with her white side and has been on the receiving end of a lot of shouting recently, poor girl. I'm being an awful mummy to her. She's rather highly strung and just wants attention, luckily DH has been picking up the slack with the snuggles.

Today's tip! Already hot? Don't add curry sauce to your meal and wash it down with a can of ginger beer. I'm flowing like the Ganges! Rennies are on standby.

Am sitting on a delicious secret, a good friend got her BFP recently, feel bad for her as MS is just kicking in but we'll get a good 6 months or so of mat leave together so lots of FaceTime and outings on the horizon!

My little one is head down and has been the entire time, I get a foot pushing my belly button out constantly and kicks around belly button. I feel flutters low down which I assume are her hands but I don't feel anything in ribs unless she is stretching and I am lying down on sofa.

Midwife was useless again today, I'm really sick of getting asked the same questions at every appointment because each midwife and consultant is different "why are you high risk" and "do you have anymore appts booked" and "what medication are you on" why the hell are they not reading all of this in my notes, it's all there for that reason I thought?

My DH is off booze in case and he answers his phone very quickly now bless him. He can get home within half an hour so I am not too worried as I call him as soon as it starts and then I'm sure it will be hours before anything progresses. Two weeks off is not ideal for him as it will be unpaid plus his colleague who does same job has a gf who is due any day now so we could clash would be nightmare as he works for a small business.

I'm worried too fedup. DH has been out a lot lately. I'm boring and fat and constantly tired or sick we've bickered a lot over the last 3/4 weeks. He also has a fair few visits where he has to stay away with work. Worried that I won't get hold of him and he will be in Devon! (I'm in nottingham)

Sorry to hear of people's losses :( my friend lost both parents in two years and so painful for her and to see. They met the older child but not the younger one, can't imagine how she coped being pregnant and losing them. Both were unexpected and sudden too.
Not sure how I would cope if it happened to me. for you ladies

loulou it's horrible isn't it. We have bickered too. I'm just so hormonal and he hates me moaning about the house situation. I just feel so unattractive and so boring / annoying to have around.
Just tried to FaceTime him as ds went mental at bed time asking for daddy. Didn't answer. Prob getting drunk with a load of beauties somewhere. Although he did text me having breakfast this morning with our friends and their one year old.

fedup I totally know where you're coming from we have only dtd the deed once during this pregnancy and like you due to rm I wasn't up for it at the start then he wasn't once I was further along. It makes me insecure and I struggle with my body image during the last trimester I always put on a lot of weight and usually I'm a size ten so it's a huge jump and I feel massively different combined with the hormones it's not a good combination!

Dp went away with three friends this morning to of all places sodding Marbella! He's back Sunday but I'm not exactly jumping for joy,not that I've let him know that. So I know how you are feeling.

The only thing that I focus on is that I know it's rubbish towards the end of my pregnancies and we bicker a lot but after the baby comes things are good really good.

I know I've moaned about him on here before but he's a good one really, he adores me and treats me like a princess when I'm not snapping and snarling like a Rottweiler

So sorry for people who have lost parents having a baby really brings it home to you I lost my dad in my early twenties so he never got to meet any of his grandchildren.

Just wanted to say I'm being a dreadful lurker but reading this thread really helps me feel normal!

I've also got a toddler, a DH who is working away some nights in the week, I'm not sleeping well at night, heartburn, PGP, and in the middle of massive stress about my house! So reading that a variety of you are in the same boat is a relief. Had a horrible day being grumpy, shouting at DS for doing normal toddler things and generally getting in a panic about impending baby arriving (although not for a few weeks I hope).

Sending you all for sharing and distracting me from dwelling on the everyday stresses