October 14. Thread 12. Still no babies? Let the raspberry leaf tea drinking commence

[YellowWellies]

New Fred

I haven't put any weight on for 7 weeks anyone else the same? Bump has def grown and I did pile it on in 2nd trimester.

cj make sure you get seen today it's never the same care over the weekend.

Loulou I asked at my 34wk check as I'd stopped gaining weight as well for about 6 weeks, I'd already gained 2 stone tho in 2nd trimester, mw wasn't concerned, it's crept up a wee bit again this week though.

Wow pregnant that is a big bump but still think it looks "neat" deffo think thats a girl bump

Really feel for you all with GD, sounds like a right pain in the ass!

I was also in the wide awake club from 4.30/6.00 am .,, my ribs on the left are killing me as her head is constantly rubbing against them, heartburn gallore when she moves it into the middle of them ... Then she started kicking my sciatic nerve for about an hour .,, so painful ., very hard not to cry out pain and give dp a heart attack!! I also felt i could have ate a chocolate snack but decided adding to my heartburn would be so not worth it .., was lying thinking about all sorts of situations regarding birth, baby names, wether to paint chevron lines in my hallway ??? & Which box set im going to watch whilst doing night feeds

We must all be in sync with each other

Happy maternity leave to everyone finishing today ....Enjoy enjoy enjoy

Absolute apologies to everyone still working .... The end is nearer than you think... Your bank balance will thank you... Mines has been beaten up by internet shopping

Yeah I agree with stigz fair play to the peeps putting up with this as well as GD and all the dietary stress that comes with!
Crikey I also feel for all you you with less than considerate oh's. I am lucky that my dh has always been pretty thoughtful.

Today I have decided to venture out of the house as I need tissues, kitchen roll is slicing my poor snoz up with the amount of blowing! I think I will get the ingredients for my marathon cooking session this weekend too.

Wow - didn't realise how harsh a GD diet was. All the things that get me through the day are all the things I wouldn't be able to eat. And generally meat and veg and particularly fish make me feel sick so I would really struggle. Not too long to go now though ladies.

Really bad sore throat today. And feeling rough. What's new though!

I think this baby is smaller than ds so think I will be allowed vbac. I know there is still time to go but just think I was bigger with him. Time will tell.

I too have also spent a fortune since starting mat leave - it's dangerous!! Most of it is clothes for ds as I put on some jeans the other day (it's been so hot he's been in shorts since June) and it looked like he was wearing girls cropped skinnies!! So went a bit crazy in Zara, gap and tk max and he's a whole new wardrobe!
Plus I bought and oven and new tv for the extension.

Also a bad night here - combination of SPD and heartburn meaning I'm awake until about 3am. Thanks to all those who gave SPD advice, think I'll stick to original plan of rest days next week and finishing a week today, yay! Friend has lent me a support belt and it's really helping. For those with SPD or hip pain who haven't already invested I really recommend one - this one called the Serola can also be worn at night (though personally I found it uncomfortable for sleeping in).

Saw midwife this morning. Will definitely be a section this time - as baby is breech then even if I go into labour earlier I would be prioritised. Feeling relieved actually as last time I saw consultant she said to be prepared not to get it if labour started early.

Hope everyone working today gets a gentle day - not long until the weekend!

Aargh very sore veins anyone?? [sore]

Sorry

Just had my 34 weeks appointment (at 35 weeks) and all is good, baby's head is really low down but not engaged, blood pressure has risen slightly so hopefully I won't feel so dizzy any more. Next time I see mw I'll be full term .

Trying to catch up today, seems the main complaint is sleeping. I can fully sympathise with you, hoping after today's last day at work I'll be able to indulge in naps
36 week apt today and bump looking good, baby 3/5th palpable so heading in the right direction.
Seems to be quieter at night so maybe I've got one that'll sleep through?!?
Happy Friday everyone x

Happy a friend of mine who's carrying her third is really suffering with varicose veins in her thighs at 22 weeks. I think she's finding compression stockings a real help.

I'm wondering if this wee bugger has gone breech again - it definitely felt like there was a foot in my cervix again as I hobbled to toddler group this morning Gah no MW appointment for a fortnight until our scan on the 16th! I hate not knowing! Kicks seem low too but I know that's not necessarily indicative of breech at this stage.

Leg ache is painful & doing my nut in today. Not even fine anything & they hurt.

If you've been diagnosed with GD don't read my post! .....

Does anyone have a recipe or link to a good bake from frozen cookie dough? Think they'll be useful when our entire church 'pop in' to see our new born .

allrecipes.co.uk/recipe/4807/best-big--fat--chewy-chocolate-chip-cookies.aspx

binky I use this recipe, I only use 1 egg and I don't usually bother with the bicarb Either. Also I don't use 4tbsp/cookie! 1 is enough. I've never frozen it before but I don't see why you couldn't?

Ok having an irrational paranoia moment. Not about my pregnancy but about my husband! He's not the type to cheat and I never worry normally - just he's away in Canada, probably surrounded by pretty single people that he never need see again and who aren't resembling a beached whale. That and we haven't had sex since June as I'm not up for it / worried about baby (silly I know but 2 mcs freaked me out). I know it's illogical worry but can't help it and making me feel depressed. Perhaps I will tell him I'm having this panic

Missus2ndWife I'm sorry you lost your dad. I lost my mum two months before I conceived (first timer like you) and grieving definitely has its impacts at times. Just wanted to let you know you're not on your own for those days when it's a bit tough.

Thanks mrsb that looks amazing, will have to do a batch to try

fed up if you can speak to DH about your feelings then do but make sure you can have a sensible conversation and not end up arguing over the phone or it'll make it worse. I bet the thought won't have even crossed his mind though!

Missus and Badger I lost my Mum 17 years before I had my first - I was stunned by how the grief came back after J arrived as I felt so robbed that they couldn't meet each other and I didn't have my Mum around for advice, support and just as someone to share it with and that he missed out on someone who would have been a cracking Grandma. Equally once you are looking after a little one 24-7 you realise how much they did for you and how I wished I could have thanked her. You'll also want to throttle friends who treat their Mums like cleaners, daycare or night nannies yet claim they have "no support".

fed up he is probably feeling gulity that he is there in the first place & he is probably worried sick about you incase you go into labour, so im sure you wont be far from his mind, i totally understand why u feel like that but it will mostly be hormones and lack the lack of self esteem about your body that seems to come with 3rd trimester wont help at all, but deffo get it off your chest if it will make feel better? Your husband will hopefully understand why you feel like this and put your mind at rest. Xxxx

Fed up I'd probably be feeling similarly insecure about being in your position but more just about being left a week from term in a building site while he goes off and parties! - I'd be very cross but I'm sure he won't stray.

So just had my leaving lunch at work (a week early) and the good news was that the managers had made a decision we could all go home afterwards. Apart from the fact that they told everyone apart from me who they forgot about so I was there with two meetings booked in for this afternoon! I sent really lame cancellation emails saying something about not feeling well due to pregnancy (which is true right, it's very rare you actually feel 'well' at 36 weeks?!) There was no way I was staying there on my tod!

Fed up totally reasonable to worry but sure you have nothing to worry about. We also haven't dtd since June. I haven't felt like it at all. I remember the first time around I didnt want to either but it didn't affect our relationship. Think talk about it, but try to stay calm!

Binky was it you with the chestnut fennel recipe? Sounds great, can you give me the link? We are veggie too...

And I just got the cookbook 'a modern way to eat' all recipes look amazing, easy to follow and healthy. It's a veggie book, so much inspiration.

Oh and this week I turned 36 in my 36th week of pregnancy!

Thanks Yellow & Badger.
It's been tough going and good to know I'm not alone. I've learnt that until you've been through a loss, no one really understands... I'm 'dreading' when my baby's born but only because I wish my father was still around.. He died 3 days after I told him I was pregnant and I am envious that all my sisters and their kids had time with him that we will never have. I am coming to terms with it, but my heart hurts. Hey ho

Anyway, thank you again lovelies and Badger - I'm here for you too if you want to chat. Xx

Thanks Missus and Yellow. It's vicious, isn't it? I miss my mum so much. Like you, Missus, I'm coming to terms with it and I'm building myself good defenses but every so often something I haven't anticipated will happen (my NCT friends talking about "dealing with" overexcited parents being the most recent - absolutely fair enough for them and no reason why they shouldn't but very, very hard for me) and it's like I'm back at square one again. Such is life, I guess. Like you say, it's hard to understand if you've not been through a loss like that yourself so let's keep an eye out for each other once the babies arrive. Take care xx