October 14. thread 11?! Will be see any babies in this thread?

[mrsb87]

Plonk your bums down ladies!

God that last part sounded so clichéd, sorry but you know what I meant ;)

Thanks yellow. I'm going to miss my evening chocolate bar, I don't think I'll be as excited over peas or chicken!

I think recovery from C section varies just like the recovery after vaginal births. Some women bounce back super quick and others it takes longer. There are many factors that can influence it.

My sil has had 2, 1 emcs 1 elcs. She recovered from both pretty well as my brother was going through chemo both times. I guess a certain amount of it is attitude and mind over matter.
I'm staying pretty relaxed about the whole labour/birth thing. What will be will be

Pinkfizz you can have a couple of squares of chocolate. If you can moderate yourself! I can't

I just know that (and I'm honestly not trying to get at Goats cos anyone could've said it) I'm not going to post horrific birth stories on this thread and then say 'ugh well I'm not doing that', because any one of us might have to do it!

There are pros and cons to every delivery method and you don't necessarily get a lot of choice about it in the end.

My biggest issue with my EMCS was worrying about the stitches and I hadn't worried about it this time around until it was just mentioned above :(. Thing is though, last time I panicked about it but they were actually totally fine. But because I wasn't mentally prepared to have a c-section I found it hard to get past. This time I've 'sort of' had a choice, but in the end the consultant agreed that ELCS was the safest option for me and the baby.

So here's hoping my stitches behave :-/

Hamster at least you won't be weeing, bleeding and shitting on CS stitches! I was terrified my epi stitches would get infected - thankfully they didn't. Don't worry.

Birth is looming large for all of us, few of us will get the birth we imagined, some of us might birth without intervention, lots of us may need help, be it painkillers, or even surgical help, but for the vast vast vast majority - however it happens it will be an amazingly positive experience. It's easy to say now what we will and won't agree to but what we say now may, from personal experience, bear very little reflection to what we think at the time

I visited a family member today who just had a emcs last week, after a failed forceps attempt I might add. She looked amazing and is healing really well! In many ways she seems better than I remember being after my vaginal birth...

Try it to worry hopeful. You can plan an elcs much better than a vaginal delivery... All complications are relatively rare!

As for what I will or won't share on here, I feel pretty strongly that I can share all my fears and that everyone else should too. That might mean I read something that freaks me out, piles for example as I suffered so badly after my first birth, but that's OK because someone may need to share that for support and reassurance.

Hope that doesn't come across as to irritating!

I think in the run up to giving birth any negetive stories tend to stick in your mind & freak you out a bit .. Espcially new mums birth stories as its recent & fresh in their minds , My c-sec was very positive even though it was a bit of an emergency... I recovered well & was able to do light housework etc a couple days after... Obviously just taking it easy and a bit paranoid about stitches bursting etc but no problems whats so ever ... I am actually surprised at how small the scar was & how quickly it healed.. I think you need to be extremly lucky to not have any stitches when giving birth which ever way the baby ends up coming out.

Not sure I have the willpower either yellow to stop at a few squares! Have just had cashew nuts as my evening treat, not quite the same as galaxy!!

I agree stigz any birth is always fresh in the mind of new Mums. I think the enormity of what you go through and the build up to it is huge. I remember going through mine for months after (only in my head) and mine was a positive experience. I also think for every bad/negative story there are 2 or more positive stories but its often the negative experiences that get shared more. We don't hear about the good ones so much and ultimately dwell on the horror stories. As we get nearer our due dates we inevitably get more anxious. Its only natural.

There's definitely some scary stories out there but I agree, if we can't share our fears here with people going through the same, where can we? In the early days hearing other people's experiences, bad or nit, helped me understand that what was happening was normal.

As was just said, we all hear more negatives than positives but that's always the way!

In other news, at my appointment today, with a cervical check. the nurse asked if I'd ever had sex...

overload of emoticons there, sorry. trying to figure out the mobile site!

Stigz very true 80% of vaginal births involve some kind of tear or stitches (mostly obviously very minor). Until the wee buggers can teleport out there's no way of doing it where you can be certain of no stitches! I have to say in the maelstrom of the first week post birth (when I certainly felt like I'd been dumped on the surface of Mars - it bore so little resemblance to my former life!) my stitches don't really feature as memorable

Porcito I hope you said "Sex, how very dare you!" and looked suitably offended

Just caught up with this evenings chat and really pleased to see some positive C section comments. I must admit the earlier post freaked me out hugely as I'm faced with a cs due to minor placenta previa which has upset me a bit. I know it will be for the best if my placenta hasn't moved enough (only 9mm abutting the cervical os at the mo) but still rules out a natural delivery. Hormones all over the shop this evening

I'm also due a c-section and hadn't ever considered stitches bursting or not taking! Sound rare though - my sister had three and she didn't have any problems.

There are problems associated with any kind of birth I suppose; we just have to cross our fingers and hope for the best!

Its 3 years to the day that my twin sister had her DD at 27 +3. She's a fabulous tot with real attitude today - some 60+ paed outpatient appointments, 3 months in the NICU, two brain bleeds, a week on a ventilator, nearly a month on CPAP, over a year on multiple meds and several lumbar punctures later. She was teeny for a long time, a bit late walking and talking but has caught up now. I'll post a pic of her back then on FB. It is amazing what modern medicine can do. Because I followed her journey I'm perhaps too blasé and confident about being 30+4. But really we've all done SO well to carry so far - if they came tomorrow our babies would stand a really very good chance

Eeek leaky boobs in the bath tonight

Ugh. Cs story made me feel so sick! I'm badly squeamish tho. I too freaked out about the stitches in my bum opening up after ds but they didn't.
Just think how many c sections happen and i don't know any issues anyone has had.... Perhaps taken a while to recover but nothing gory like that so I think that's nowt for section ladies to worry about. And... If it does take you a while to recover... It's only a couple of extra weeks of your life. Which is nothing in the grand scheme of things.. And having an amazing baby as a result makes all this pregnancy and birth lark so very very worth it.

Eeeek my due date is 10 oct too!!

Oh I figured it was reasonable to post 'aaagh' type stuff here - pretty much everything else has been all along. Just because we're closer to the potential for that happening to any of us (me included, mine is breech again), doesn't mean it's not something to talk about. In fact, if you can't post 'aaaagh' and TMI type stuff here there's no point to posting here at all really.

I was just very surprised at her response to it compared to other stories I'd heard (and experiences I've witnessed before) - that was more the point than the actual C-section need itself. The individual's response concerned me a bit. I obviously also know that people are all different and respond differently, we all know that about vaginal birth too. I can't believe anyone here hasn't heard a 'horror story' along with the 'great birth' stories, yet we're all pregnant through choice despite that risk. All anyone can do is hope for the best outcome for both parents and babies.

I actually like to hear all types of story...I feel like then if any of it happens to me I can think "oh yeah read about that on MN" and remember that it may or may not have sounded pleasant but it all worked out ok in the end. My dp disagrees and it's one of the reasons he hates watching one born...but i like to be informed by real life experiences

Aye very true but saying OMG I'm definitely not having x type of birth when there are some folks who already know they have no choice but to have x delivery method is a bit . And I'm not saying that as someone who knows I'm having a CS. I got told yesterday that footling breech, anterior placenta and diabetes won't mean automatic ELCS. They'll just try to manually turn baby. I told them no ta. Really not sure I fancy it - anyone had it done?

PinkFizz I've had glucose in my urine twice but no GD here & not suspected, I had recently had an orange juice & a lucozade before the test. 3rd test was clear, just no sugary drink right before.

I had a controlled EMCS, as in, I had 2hrs from going in to CS but still classified as EMCS due to preeclampsia. My recovery was amazing, driving less than 2 weeks after & up and about lifting baby & out for a walk within the week.
My SIL had a natural birth & has had 2 fanjo ops since as baby came out that fast it was all a bit messy down there!
As many have said already, each & every person & experience is different & lots of it is to do with mindset. The thing that matters is that you are both around to tell the tale. You really can't do much to direct the course of your experience at this point, apart from remaining healthy & trying to relax. So, whatever is your experience try & let it be unclouded by others. :)

I think it's important everyone feels able to express an opinion too though. just by saying a certain type of procedure or drug etc isn't wanted I don't think should be taken to mean that others should feel scared or negative about their own paths. The reason this group has been so helpful is that nothing is off bounds and hasn't been from the start - I for one feel so much more prepared knowing eeevetything. Especially living here where the things they teach you are on the 'don't feed a newborn coffee' kind of level!

Hope those who've felt crappy today feel better tomorrow. i'm finding myself slowing down at work, think a zombie might be more use!

Well here I am on my last day of work! Wahoo!