Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

[TinyTear]

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

Welcome

TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

Good luck Shetland.

Good luck shetland

Tiny Thanks for the advice regarding the Harmony scan.

LIG I hope you feel better today.

Shetland best of luck with your scan. How many weeks are you now?

Well, so far so good :) Measured at 8+3 with a nice strong heartbeat. I'm 8+0 by my dates but I guess it's a bit early for dating anyway.
I did have to walk past my office (day off today) to get to the EPU and I think I may have been rumbled! I just kept my head down and kept walking though - I'm just not ready for them or anyone else to know.

Had such a horrible dream last night about my scan on Sunday. Dreamt that when they scanned me they said that I was only 3 weeks instead of 8 which we insisted couldn't be possible. I was hysterical, demanding that they scanned again. Woke up really hot, sweaty and teary and struggled to sleep since.

I'm absolutely dreading Sunday now and can't shake this negative feeling. Blah!

Cross posts! Well done shetland I'm so happy for you!

Lovely news shetland

oneday I dread every scan, ive got my 12 week one next week and ive been having awful dreams, last night was that they couldnt see a baby at all.

im fed up with work but im not sure if im being unreasonable or if they are...... first we had the whole walking to school thing which they still seem to be expecting me to do and ive just got a text message asking me to tidy and hoover the playroom, ive spent the morning tidying both kids rooms, done a wash load and tidied the playroom already so its not like I havent done anything and its part of my job anyway but the hoover is kept in the cellar and the playroom is in the loft so I will have to carry the hoover up 4 flights of stairs.

ive sat down for 5 mins to havea rest and a drink to mn but would it be unreasonable of me to refuse to hoover the playroom unless they carry the hoover up for me.

Oh and im not sure why they have started asking me to do things like the playroom because I do it every week like I have for the past 6 years, no matter how rough ive felt the last few weeks they have come home to happy children who have done homework and been fed and washed and a clean, tidy house its not like ive been slacking.

Great news Shetland

Smiling I think employers have to make allowaces for pregnancy, so you can ask them to bring the hoover up for you.

Or bring it up one floor each day so hoover in a week

Ive just taken it up to the first floor which is where the kids rooms are and hoovered their rooms but ive now got cramps and feel sick so no way am I doing it again.

hoovering isnt even my job, my contract states childcare only no housework or nursery duties, I started doing the kids rooms and playroom when the youngest started school as I thought it was silly that I had 6 hours where I wasnt doing anything so I could actually refuse to do any jobs and just sit and read but I dont want too I just don't want to have to keep refusing to do things if that makes sense.

I feel like they keep putting me in situations where I have to be difficult and refuse and I really dont need any extra stress right now

Smiling - i think legally your employer should do a risk assessment when they know you're pregnant. is there anyone nearby you could shout on to give you a hand? or ask them would they get you a lightweight hoover to keep in the playroom? i would text back - i think they're cheeky asking you to do something you intended to do anyway. something like "thanks for your message, i fully intended to do the playroom today, but I'm struggling with the vacuum cleaner - its not recommended that you lift more than ? kg when pregnant, perhaps we could talk about an additional lightweight one for the loft when you're free to have a chat and do my pregnancy risk assessment? " that should get them googling :-)

i'm going to find out what the weight is - someone told me no more tgan the weight of a bag of potatoes. dunno if thats true - have a Google :-)

Hooray Shetland, sounds like a really positive scan. Pleased for you.

Oneday I had horrible dreams last night too, I lost the baby and there was blood everywhere. I woke up all sweaty and panicked.

Smiling maybe sending a text along the lines of what jbee suggests would help? You don't want to be making yourself ill.

My morning sickness is now at a copeable level now that I've got some meds from my GP.

I've got a letter through for my scan and a meeting with the consultant which has panicked me a bit

Good news Shetland and always good to gain a couple of days so it gets you closer to the magical 12 week point not that it stops me worrying.

Smiling it sounds like your bosses are purposely trying to push you. I would also ask for the risk assessment and make sure they are ensuring you can still do your job. Do they want you to go off sick?

Carebear glad the med are helping. What are you on? I am on metoclopramide and it does help but I keep waking up at 5am feeling yuk and by the time I feel better to go back to sleep it is time to get up. But it does help me get through the working day evenings on the other hand are horrible.

oneday those dreams are horrible - I have them fairly often. That said I am also very petrified of something happening to dd and often have terrible dreams about that too. Not sure if it is mum thing? Never had it before ttc.

www.gov.uk/working-when-pregnant-your-rights

LIG I'm on the same as you and really struggle in the evenings too. But it's stopped the vomiting (although not the nausea) so it'll do for now.

They should do a risk assessment - but weights aren't clear - 25kg? 20-25lbs? omg there are pregnant body builders! !

i got myself a lightweight hoover because when i was pregnant last time, i vacuumed with a heavy one then started to bleed. i asked DH to hoover after that and

1. he took a CHUNK out of the bedroom wall and
2. dropped the nilfisk down the stairs!!

talk about doing a bad job so you don't get asked again!! (have you considered launching it down the flight of stairs you've already carried it up, Smiling? oooops!!)

Thanks everyone. I feel reassured, especially after my sick bug, but still a long way to go. I'm going to book a private scan for 10 weeks as the 12 week one seems a loooong way away.

Glad the meds are helping care
I had cyclizine in my first pregnancy which helped with vomiting but made me feel absolutely exhausted all the time.
This time it's not been too bad so far but I was actually sick for the first time last night so it may be ramping up a bit.

Thanks everyone, ive just got home and thats me finished for the week thankfully.

im going to ask for a chat on monday about the walking to school, im going to offer a compromise that ill drive halfway which gets me passed the hills and walk the rest, that way the children are still walking 15/20 mins to school but theres no hills which are what I have a problem with. Im also going to refuse to hoover unless they carry it up the stairs although am of course happy to carry on cleaning and tidying the bedrooms and playrooms.

hopefully they will agree but if they dont I will ask my gp to write a letter stating that I cant do it, the consultant yesterday said either him or the gp would write about the walking if need be but id rather avoid going down that route if possible as I think it would make work awkward.

The crazy thing is that both my bosses are doctors and had a miscarriage before my eldest charge was born!

smiling that's really not on of your bosses. Especially being medics. Definitely don't let this lie, yours and your little beans health is most important.

LIG it's horrid isn't! especially when they're so vivid and you wake up and for a split second it feels so real.

Feeling utterly bleurgh today. Had my first day of feeling horrid all day. Lots of retching over the toilet bowl and bringing up stomach acid but no actual vomit (sorry, far TMI) The poor dog has spent half the day outside the downstairs loo, head butting open the door to see what's the cause of the strange sounds!

Thinking of you today bristolian (if you're still reading this) xx

I second that.x

Hello everyone, I hadn't been on in a while as I was keeping away from the internet. I had my scan yesterday and no heartbeat. I should have been 9+5 but my little bean only measured 8+5. I'm trying not to be uspet as I already have 2 DCs and there are plenty of people who will never have children. But I feel robbed.

bristolian I hope things go ok today.
Best of luck to everyone else. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Morning all,

Bristol - hope today goes well.

Ifits - sorry it wasn't good news.

Had to put on maternity jeans today this small blob is taking up a lot of space and I am huge! I am 9 weeks today and having a scan tomorrow. Been feeling quite well last night and today so feeling quite anxious about tomorrow. Trying to enjoy not feeling quite so sick and remember I did feel better early on with dd but still feeling quite anxious.

So sorry ifits xx