January 2015 #7: Glowing & growing? Rock on 2nd trimester!

[rumisyum]

Onwards into the 2nd trimester, where hopefully the bumps will overtake the poo factories!

Stats here.

Ooh mini that's awesome' I have heard good things on the babasling :)

I adore my ergo, find it is so comfy.

I have a mate who cannot conceive and needs ivf but she been so wonderful and gracious and literally I could well up at how lovely she is. Others find it hard to be so generous- which is totally understandable too. Vivi your friends just sound rather rude!

Where tho matter is concerned so basically just talk away and bore them! I would ;)

Were TTC matter is concerned*

Rum I have a similar situation. Enjoy it! It's your time and you won't get it back. So long as we are gracious and tactful in their presence, works for me !

Sara- this is your 'friend'!?!

Back from mw apt... no listening to baby (very sad but apparently not standard for Cheshire at 16 weeks). BP fine, blood tests all fine, urine fine... nothing to report really.
It was the same mw who is covering sickness leave that did my booking apt when I cried A LOT because of some bleeding. She referred me to EPU and was a star so was lovely to see her again!
Got the next list of appointments to make... GTT test at 28 weeks, mw at 25 weeks (I think) and between now and then I already have my 20 weeks scan and consultant apt booked. Lots of dates to remember!
Hoping to go pram shopping in a few weeks with mum (dh isn't showing much enthusiasm over prams at the moment)!

cheshire glad it was straigtforward!

Man, Sara some people really lose the plot don't they! Sounds like she has low self esteem, shame she has to bring you down.

Rum what a tricky situation. Sounds like you're managing to work towards sorting it out though.

I don't think I made it clear in my post, it's the friend who isn't remotely near TTC stage that is being off. The one who is TTC has been really very mature and gracious about it. (Apart from chit chat about babies when the disinterested one is clearly ready to gnaw her own ears off)

I know vivi- that's not very nice at all, but leave her to it :)

Yep keep you're right. Thankfully this is just one person in one group of friends, so not a huge deal

yeah shes always had low self esteem vivi and has a bit of PND i think, but I thought having a baby just after her would be lovely and that we would become closer but the opposite is happening. Nevermind, I'm happy and other friends are delighted for me so whatevs!

Glad all was well cheshire but sorry no listening for the hb this time. I think some trusts are cautious as its not always easy to find. At least its not long until scan time now.

Mine is 3 weeks tomorrow, the mentalling is already starting to creep in....

Any idea how to control it anyone??

So my weekend in London went amazingly awesome! Monty Python was astounding! Checked out the baby section in Harrods. Haha. OMG! Wishlist done! :)

16+5

Oh a completely different note I've spent all the day being sad. Felt like crying all day for no reason! Want to go to bed and sleep it off!

Vivi I have a very odd work colleague (I am loathe to use the word friend). She has a habit of constantly slagging off my life choices loudly and vehemently (for e.g: buying a house, getting engaged, studying for a masters, getting married, getting a dog ... and now having a child) and then 6 months later rock up doing the exact same thing. Basically she's very jealous and insecure and hates when people have things she doesn't and so massively overcompensates by hating on it! She's ttc. I know this, everyone knows this because she's been shoving it down our throats since she got married last year. She didn't know we were ttc though. And now I'm pregnant she's massively changed her tune lol. Suddenly she hates kids and they ruin your life and she never wants any and pregnancy sounds disgusting and she hates baby stuff on fb and blah blah fucking BLAH! And we're all supposed to conveniently forget all the stuff she said before ("well I won't be here next year cos I'll be on mat leave"). I suspect ttc has not come as easily as she expected and she is regretting her earlier loudmouthness!
I also have another delightful colleague who is also pg - about 2 weeks further on than me. It's her third and by God she has milked this pg to high heaven!! She told people immediately, so as not to miss out on attention I guess She uses it as an excuse to turn up late everyday, go home early everyday.. generally do crap all all day, refuse to do jobs she doesn't like for no other reason than because she's pregnant! I thought she might be shamed into giving it a rest when she found out I was also pg but apparently not. In fact she has recently got me kicked off my cushty desk job I had planned for the next 7 weeks so she can do it (because she's so pregnant and walking is hard... ) and so I have to do all her shit instead! So much for female solidarity eh.

But she still makes it to netball practise and works 15 hour double paid night shifts with no trouble....

Just had a whatsapp message from DH telling me he's feeling really frustrated and missing sex. And if there is anything he can do to help me so that I feel more like it to let him know....
FFS!!!! I thought I was doing well with my bi-weekly 'manual' jobs, it's obviously not enough. Last time we dtd I bled all over the place which really put me off. Men are so bloody annoying sometimes!!!!
Arghhhhhhh!!!!!!!!

Haha I'd have a few choice words to say to my DH if he sent me a message like that :)

Tell him to sit on his arm for 40 minutes, and then enjoy himself.

RPopz Good grief they sounds like colleagues from hell. Bet you're gagging for your maternity leave to start!

Sex is literally the only thing we ever disagree on. I'm not really that bothered (never have been, wish I was!) so occasionally it does crop up. Thought maybe is get away with it for a few months...
Id better do my bit like an old fashioned wife, lay back and think of England tonight...

I've told him I'm not feeling exactly sexy at the moment and that I'm concerned about the bleeding but I do feel for him too.
We'll see....

lulu I'd say just that, you don't feel like it but you do feel bad for not tending to his 'needs'. Maybe try and come to a compromise somehow, I hope he's understanding.

My friend and I were talking the other day and saying how it takes a little while for men to get their heads around everything. Women feel differently a soon as you find out you're pregnant whereas they don't have the physical reminders that life is changing so are a bit slow on the uptake! I think my DH is slowly getting there now, but only because he can see the physical toll this pregnancy has had on me (and he's heard lots of puking!).

I agree that DHs take longer to work out the whole pg lark.
When we were out over the weekend we went for a nice long walk to a headland in the sunshine. I was fine but needed to go a bit slower than I used to and stop for breaks (heat didn't help) and DH was getting frustrated with me. I reminded him that I'm pg and he went a bit sheepish and admitted later he hadn't realised how much being pg affects women, even in these mid stages, and that he was sorry for being pushy. I got extra cuddles that evening and he's been very attentive since... not sure how long that will last!
When we go away in a few weeks for our camping holiday (10 days in Cornwall, woohoo!) we are taking our bikes so hopefully he'll remember 20 week pg wife isn't as fast on the bike as she used to be!

I had my 16 week appointment today. It was a bit like yours cheshire, not much to say! My BP was a bit low but still normal, everything else was fine. DH's blood results came back so now it's official we're both RhD negative so I don't have to have the anti-d injections. A few less needles for me, yay! My 20 week scan is already booked for the 15th of August and that will be the last appointment I have before we move.

I've been obsessed with Born website today. I has almost everything I want on there and they have a shop in Bristol! They have some good deals on Stokke sets, the Pop-in nappies, Snuzpod and they have the Ergo carriers! DH is not going to be impressed when I show him what I want

Is anyone else going to the baby show in London in October? I thought maybe I should wait to buy some items to see if they have any good discounts on the day (if I can convinced DH to take me). It's really my idea of hell though, so many people (and kids) in an enclosed space. I'd probably want to leave straight away!

Also, talking about sex.. my DH and I had a huge argument about it a few weeks ago. I really wasn't feeling up to it and he accused me of not finding him attractive any more I tried to tell him being exhausted and feeling sick were the main reasons but it took a lot of convincing. Not sure he really understood to be honest. We're getting back on track a bit, but he always wants it more than I do!

Yeah, I think it is a lot harder for the menfolk to get their heads round it. Especially at this stage when we might not look very pregnant yet. (At least, I don't.) My DH has been pretty good for the most part, but I sometimes think he thinks I'm putting it on a bit when I'm feeling ill, or hormonal. I don't think it will feel as real for him until there's a wee person whose kicks he can feel and so on. I hope you can talk something through with your DH lulu.

Blimey at your colleagues Rpopz. They sound pretty special!

Sorry you've been a bit sad today Kate. I have days like that sometimes. Hope you're feeling a bit cheerier now.

Got my pram today! It's mahoosive compared to a tiny baby, but it's so stylish, I love it! I'm totally shallow that way. Loved the lady I bought it off as well - she had the loveliest home & cutest baby. I wanted to sit & beg her for all her top mum tips.