The shiny new Pregnant after MC due December 2014 thread #2

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Shiny new thread ready and waiting for the highs and lows of the second trimester.

Lovely 20 weeks scan Penguin also reduced me to tears! Look at mini penguins little fingers, so cute.

Aw happy birthday for tomorrow Franks. Hope you have a lovely day despite being struck down by the evil thrush. Hope it clears up quickly and isn't too sore.

Nice to see you Covent. I can sympathise though my night waking is not quite as bad not getting a good night's sleep is starting to get to me. If one more person says to me 'ooh it's your body preparing you for the lack of sleep when baby arrives' I may not be responsible for my actions!

Had a great day today as it was my charity's big fundraising event for the year. It was really heart-warming to meet some of our loyal supporters who do so much for us. We're not the biggest charity in the world (we're kind of niche) but it was a lovely reminder that what we do really can make a difference to people's lives. Shattered now though! Interviews for my mat cover tomorrow - hope there's someone good....but not TOO good!

Hope everyone's had a lovely weekend.

Thanks Penguin
Sorry to hear you aren't sleeping well either. I've been awake since 1:45am. Makes a change from 4:15! Have come downstairs before I smother "D"P, his snoring was driving me insane.
There is a huge difference between not sleeping well now and being awake at night with a baby. For a start once baby has arrived at least we have a reason to be awake during the night and secondly I always managed to go back to sleep easily with dd night feeds. Tell people to bugger off with their opinions!

On a happier note, I baked myself a birthday banana cake before going to bed and I'm tempted to eat the whole thing to myself right now!

Ooo I forgot to ask! Which charity do you work for penguin? Tell me to bugger off if it's none of my business!!

Happy birthday franks!!!! Yum, banana cake

penguin congrats on a successful day. ML cover... Good luck with that. Mine is getting on my nerves slightly, he's so disorganised, I'm worried he'll make a mess of everything.

11+3 to go and 39 working days to ML, count down has started.

Happy birthday Franks! Have a lovely day. May everyone be extra nice to you and may you have lots of cake.

Note to self : eating chocolate melting middle pudding too late in the evening results in crazy levels of baby wriggles when trying to sleep!! Was still delicious though I keep trying to catch my bump moving on video but am too slow/baby is already camera shy at the tender age of 30 weeks. 30 weeks!!!

H is on a diet after he pressed the heart specialist about it who said his optimum weight for good health would be a stone and a half lighter. He's being so virtuous that he had a just a third of an individual choc pudding and I had the rest. Am so proud of him though. He has stuck to it so well and has so far lost a stone! I think part of him being so motivated now is wanting to make sure he is around to see his kids grown up. Lip wobble.

I work for 'Saving Faces - The Facial Surgery Research Foundation' Franks (not to be confused with the film Saving Faces about girls who suffer acid attacks in India) We do research into the best surgical treatments for facial illnesses, disfiguring conditions and injuries.

Mmmmmmm banana bread. I have a severe weakness for the banana bread with chocolate chips in coco di mama. Enjoy your birthday sweet treat.

Happy birthday franks!! Shouldn't have read about cake and chocolate puddings because now I am starving! Hope you have a great birthday.

I am sitting in the hospital car park waiting to go in for my growth scan. First one since they discovered this notch. Fingers crossed the baby is growing to plan. It was moving around so much but seems to have this habit of pushing outwards with all it's might. Geez, unbelievable!

Manic work and kid week this week. In fact, I can't see a proper break for at least 6 weeks. And we need to get our house on the market. Help!

Good luck for the scan Regular. Hope all is well and you can enjoy seeing your baby again x

penguin my dh is also trying to lose weight atm after a diagnosis of type 2 diabetes in July. He's doing so well and counting calories, so I feel guilty when I bring crap into the house. have been taking packets of biscuits to work instead! He's lost about 4kg so far, so still a way to go.

Happy birthday Franks !

Hope scan goes well regular

Ticking along here. very emotional and often finding things hard physically. yesterday I drove to supermarket by myself and felt so free without a toddler whining in the background I honestly just wanted to keep on driving. had a totally relaxed shop, then found myself chugging from a 2 litre bottle of milk in the car park. Definitely pregnant then?!

On a mission today to get more bras since I have one that fits me and 2 that kind of but don't really fit me. Desperate for something comfier!

S'up thread.

Sympathies to basgetti sorry you're still having a rough time of it, also sorry to hear that you are getting pelvic twinges Penguin - weirdly my SPD has improved loads (certainly not through anything I've done), hope the scan goes well regular.

So I was being very smug about how everything was going so smoothly despite my advanced age. Had growth scan, consultants, mw, gtt, anti-d injection all last week, talked about being allowed to go to 40 weeks as everything was going well, having an active birth, and both mw and consultant agreed that I do not have to be induced.

Then boom, got the call to tell me my rubbish GTT results. So gutted, I had one at 18 weeks that was fine and then went a bit of the rails diet wise with relief. Got to go and pick up my monitoring gear tomorrow. I'm gutted that it means I will almost certainly end up having an ELCS at 39 weeks (which, although it's far preferable to being induced and monitored throughout, more or less puts paid to my hope of going into labour naturally and having a vaginal birth). Also going to have to go hell for leather in getting fit with a small baby in tow, no pigging out on cake even if I'm shattered.

Also, I'm just a bit bored now, D-day is close, but not quite close enough to feel completely real yet.

Sorry to come back with a whinge, I've been keeping it all in! Realistically, it's still going pretty well, and I'm still really pleased I'm 29 weeks pregnant!

Happy birthday, Franks! Hope it's been a good 'un!

Tiny, that sucks, for everything to be going so smoothly for things to have to change. Sounds like you're managing to see the positives and the biggest thing is that baby monkey gets here safe and sound. Which you of course know, but doesn't hurt to reiterate it!

I'll join in with those of you not sleeping well. I'm exhausted most evenings, so manage to get to sleep ok, but wake somewhere between 3 and 4am and spend the rest of the night flipping from one side to the other due to my hips/pelvis aching. Miserable. And I'm keeping DH awake like I care! so I have to put up with his grumbles too! AND, I get up to walk off the aches, and baby cakes lands smack bang on my bladder, so I have to go to the toilet...vicious circle of sleepy-evilness!!

I'll join in with those getting emotional too. Work is insanely busy at the moment and I can't keep up at my usual pace, so I get home most evenings and want to curl up and have a grumble/cry/sleep and end up doing nothing all evening, then get upset and feel guilty for that! I bumped into a pregnant friend this morning, she's a couple of weeks ahead of me but started her maternity leave today. So jealous, I've got 6 weeks to go .

Oh I'm such a grouch at the moment! Must cheer up!

Oh and I hope the scan goes well, regular!

Hi everyone - glad to see you're all still here. I had 2 weeks off the interweb when I was on holiday at the end of August and liked it so much I extended my internet leave for a while! I was getting a bit obsessed with pregnancy-related sites and it wasn't doing me much good but I am in a better place now mentally I think. I guess it just gets to me a bit that even at this late stage nothing is guaranteed but I am determined to be positive.

I've had my Anti-d now (oww) and my whooping cough jab (double oww) and have flu jab to look forward to soon. With that and the blood tests (low iron here) - anyone else feel like a pin cushion?

I have had a good sort out and got rid off all my girl clothes from DD and have washed and ironed loads of boy clothes given to me by a friend. They had better have been bloody right at the 20 week scan when they said it was a boy or I am in big trouble! I have another scan at 36 weeks so will be asking them to double check!

Happy Birthday Franks - hope you have a great day. I will go now and read though everything I have missed and i will not wander off onto threads/sites I shouldn't look at

30+3 today

Sometimes I forget how far ahead of me some of you are. I still have 10 weeks left at work and am only 26 +1.

Had my 2nd b12 injection today. Can't say I'm feeling particularly perkier from it. mrsftn my bum is going to be remarkably punctured!

Welcome back MrsFtn! Yes to the pincushion feeling, I got jabbed 6x in two days last week. Still got to sort out my flu and whooping cough jabs as well.

Sympathies on the crap sleep Cakes, I was in hip pain at night for a long time, but it seems to have abated a bit along with my SPD, although I'm still sleeping with a unwieldy pillow between my knees and am getting up anywhere between 3-6x a night to wee, which is annoying and keeping MrMonkey awake as well (I am similarly 'sympathetic' to his tiredness!)

regular hope all was well at your scan yesterday.
tiny sorry to hear about your news, can you control/reverse it?
cakes welcome to the sleepless club... Zzz... Good night
I had a bad experience with (hospital) mw yesterday, she didn't listen to anything I said and was only trying to get rid of me ASAP, fine as I don't have major concerns, but mmm. We did the GCT but no whooping cough or flu jabs, so have to go to GP tonight. It made me realise how lovely the community mw is and how lucky I am to have her
Advice please: staying guests after birth? I agreed to SIL visiting 4 weeks after EDD, is that ok or am I underestimating recovery and all? I'm still agonising over my parents wanting to come again before Xmas (I'm due 11 Dec). Dilemma dilemma.

Well, better news from the diabetes mw today. My gtt was very borderline, so although I have to monitor my blood sugar levels now, I will hopefully be able to keep it all under control with diet alone. Phew.

Shame about the hospital mw Covent, at least the community one is better.

Re: recovery time, I suppose a lots of it will depend on if you go much over your edd, but also how the birth goes. Also, will your SIL be a helpful guest and pitch in and do some cooking etc, or will she expect you to host whilst she coos over the baby? If you are having issues establishing feeding it might be a bit stressful having guests, when all you want to really do is lots of skin to skin. Basically, you won't know until you get there.

Fortunately we don't have the space for staying guests, so I will be lounging around with my nips and stitches out to promote healing, and the entire house will look like a bombsite. I am slightly relieved, but would like my mum to be able to stay occasionally once dp goes back to work as I think it'll reassure me.

Tiny glad you got some good news on the GD front. Does that mean you might still be able to have a vaginal birth?

Covent sorry to hear you didn't have a great experience with the hospital mw. Glad your normal one is lovely though. Really staying guests I think this is one time when you're allowed to put yourself and your new tiny, squishy brand new baby first. If you feel that your SIL will expect to be hosted you may end up feeling like it's not the best idea. I am not holding myself to anything in the weeks after birth as I won't known how I'll be feeling at the time. Good friends and family should understand.

I think mini penguin is psychically connected to the other thread babies. 4.30am.....perfect time to have a big wriggle of course. Ugh. Still on the bright side it gave me a chance to listen to my hypnobirthing relaxation which I've been neglecting and is much needed with all the stress at work! It's a bit 'woo' (the lady intones about your 'incredible birthing body' rather a lot) but it is really relaxing and helping me to genuinely look forward to giving birth all those who have gone through it already feel free to guffaw loudly and remind me of saying this after mini p has arrived

Cakes sorry you're sleepless too. My H was really grumpy last night thanks to lack of sleep the previous one. We're usually pretty good at making each other laugh out of a grump but it's harder when both of us are irritable! I think I might try out the spare bedroom tonight just to not feel guilty at keeping both of us awake even though saying goodnight to each other is one of my favourite parts of the day.

tiny great news about you just being borderline, and with the monitor you'll be able to keep a close eye on things. Also you're so right that I won't know until the time is there, unfortunately European travels need sorting in advance, especially around Xmas / NY. SIL wants to help of course but also make a connection with her (only) niece. Pb is I have my way of doing things and not sure I'll be able to let other take over, I can be a real pain You scared me "with baby might be late", it didn't occur to me and surely with German blood she'll be on time if not early

penguin hypnotherapy, whatever works for you I'm in denial about the birth, my plan has always been: quick and easy, don't think about it.

Thanks for the birthday wishes, I had a lovely day and ate far too much cake/trifle!

Visitors after birth is a tough one. My dm came to stay and help after I had dd and to be fair it worked well as she did actually help. I had a c/sec though so really did need help and ex partner was a useless fart!

I learnt a valuble lesson today, when feeling fat don't I repeat DON'T measure your waistline with a tape measure

No Franks, what were you thinking getting a tape measure out?! Bad idea! It's all baby though so it's ok

Exactly my thoughts, Penguin. I was ready to head to the spare room out of guilt but I hate the thought of not sleeping next to H. Soppy sod! I've been doing lots of stretches before bed the last couple of nights and any time I wake up with aches and pains too and it has helped me get more sleep I think. Work is so manic at the moment though that that added stress doesn't help.

Covent, my theory on birth is similar to yours...let's not think about it!! Going with the flow is what I do best!! I'm also intending to keep my plans after the birth open too and so far, our relatives have been understanding that we won't be making our plans for Christmas until the last minute I secretly just want to stay at home, just me and DH and the new bub, M&S dinner and crap Christmas tv. Never had a chilled Christmas like that before we shall see!

I have no idea why I did it cakes! Clearly I was having a pregnant brain moment . I may have to try stretching before bed tonight, I am so totally fed up with waking up and not being able to get back to sleep.

I have been waking up since the beginning of the pregnancy, but now I'm getting cramps every night and have to move constantly or I get stuck, especially my legs, knees and calves. So painful. I'll try stretching cakes

Which hypnobirthing cd is it penguin?
covent I understand what you mean as I'm like you and like to things MY way, but there may be something positive about having someone round to help you. I guess as long the stay is short then you don't feel too overwhelmed??

Hi ladies, going to have a read up now but just wanted to let you know quickly that I am growing a gigantic baby.. I was scanned today and his estimated weight at 29 weeks is

..

4lbs!!!!

I'm never going to have normal bits ever again! That's if I'm able to get him out that way.. Argh!!!

Checking in quickly again!
Scan was fine but wasn't able to see the screen at all which was frustrating. Baby now measuring on 95th centile and have high levels of amniotic fluid - so much for this notch causing growth retardation! Anyway, that has now tipped me in to the need for the GTT so I am sitting in the blood test unit now having had bloods 1 and that revolting drink. 90 mins to go...
Had horrible morning on scan day - maternity unit a nightmare, ended up there 4.5 hours (!) because of scan and waiting for urine and blood pressure. Nightmare trying to book next scan and gtt. Ended up crying in the car park.
Anyway, work is manic, kids are manic, life is exhausting but the baby is currently having a sugar high kick about and that feels fantastic!
Hope all ok

Shanels I have been loaned a couple but my favourite is the Judith Flood it's called something like 'calm birth hypnobirthing'. I know you can never be fully prepared for birth but reading a lot and listening to the tracks helps me feel calmer about it.

Sorry you had such a stressy appointment Regular. Glad growth is good despite the notch. How annoying you couldn't see the screen though. It should surely be a perk to offset the inconvenience/worry of more scans that you get to see your baby more too. What were the results of your GTT?

On the positive side it is great that your baby is growing big and strong Strawbs I can totally understand you freaking out a bit especially given that you're so petite but I'm sure you will be just fine. I was 10 lbs 4 and my mum never seemed particularly traumatised by having me

It's our first antenatal class tonight ahead of a full day on Sat. I'm excited but also a bit nervous. I'm quite shy/socially awkward as well as being an introvert so meeting new people can be quite draining for me. Wish me luck!