Dec 2014 Thread #5 - Battered and bruised we limp through the second trimester

[SassehMonsta]

Here we go again, the thrills & spills of leaky boobs, and feeling baby move for the first time - Lets go!

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I left work at 36 wks with DD1 and she was 3 days late so I had a glorious 4 weeks of nesting at home and popping out for tea & cake on many occasions!

I plan to finish at 36 wks again this time but am saving up leave so will take 2 weeks leave then mat leave will officially start 2 weeks before due date.

Not sure it'll be so relaxing this time round with a 3 yr old to look after

I have an unusual throbbing pain in my vagina! Is this normal??

Catface I've had the sharp pains back - is it like that, or dull?

Quite a dull ache. Sort of behind "the hairy bit" (for want of an actual medical term for it!)

Oh daddy the same thing happened to us at our scan yesterday, they couldn't get a good enough look at the heart or measure the spine so we are back for another scan in 2 weeks. I think it's great we get to have another look at the baby

I was planning on leaving at 38 weeks which will be 21 November but as my placenta is still low lying and blocking the way out it's looking like it may be a sunroof exit for our little bean and if it is an elcs it will be before due date so may have to have a rethink on when I leave. But I've kept 2 weeks holiday to take before mat leave kicks in as I want the most amount of time on full pay after baby arrives.

Haha it's your pubic bone! Hence the name pubic hair.
My money's on bloody round ligament pain, though Google says it could be "PPGP/SPD" though that sounds much more painful than a dull ache.
I know nothing, though, I've never done this before hope it eases for you.

Pubic bone...that's it! Eejit!

Had some paracetamol which seems to have eased it for now.

Keep an eye on it though Catface, I also have it and it's how my SPD kicked off last time although that was much later than 20 weeks. Let your mw know if it gets worse as she might want to refer you.

I got my MATB1 form from the doctor last week so I've officially put in for my maternity leave to start when I'm 36 weeks at the start of November. Can't wait. Getting the tube everyday is already getting tiring.

Oh man, I'm wide awake after a couple of bad nights' sleep and daytime napping.

bighairy ((hugs)) and I'm sure all will be well next week.

Ladylel you will no doubt enjoy the reassurance of the fortnightly scans Some extra protein in your diet might give your wee guy a boost?

I was planning to take my last two weeks' annual leave before my 'twins due date', which is about four weeks before my EDD of 7th Dec, so working up to about 34 weeks (very close to current home with a team who would accommodate my every need). Now everything is so up in the air I don't know at all - if I have surgery I could end up taking time off to rest up after it, recruitment and handover plan is a bit screwed up now, I could end up with long stints in hospital if there are dangerously early labour symptoms, blah blah blah. It's so weird because I still feel so healthy and it could all change overnight. Oh yeah, moving house too - that still has to happen when we find somewhere to go. I really can't afford to be off for very long as DH is just picking up scraps of temp work still and spending time on placement hoping for something real to come of it. Eek.

Catface thank you for the pubic bone LOL. I have so many of these 'lost word' moments since I got pregnant!

I must try and get some sleep...

miraculous great about today's scan. It must be hard to an anything. Are work Boeing ok about it all and supportive?

ladylel I know what you mean about when they give you all the information. Sometimes it feels like it is always the worst case scenario..when the chances are, that everything is ok. It's good you have another scan so soon.

catface sounds like SPD to me. You can normally self refer to physio who can give you exercises. I hate the word "pubic" but I don't know why!

bighairy hope you feel a little better today.

I am another one who works right up to the wire (appalling maternity pay) but with DC2 it was a mistake as I was exhausted when I went into labour and I felt exhausted for months after! I might see how busy work is this time and how well I am but i will probably work to 39 weeks. Yuk.

Anyone else loving the heat? I hate the cold and am as happy as a pig in the proverbial. Kids are hot and bothered so they sit inside with an ice cream whilst I sun my bump :)

Feeling rather overwhelmed today, so going to sit in this corner over here for a bit. Brain is running away with me regarding holiday, work, baby, everything.

Do have to make a cake by 11am though so can't sit for too long.

Everyone welcome to join me.

So my pregnancy app tells me I should be feeling much more comfortable now I'm at 21wks and able to enjoy the second trimester!! Whereas I actually feel massive and uber uncomfortable and sometimes just moving is a chore!!

Don't remember this from first time around!

I keep reading that I'm meant to enjoy the 2nd trimester as it's the best one. Not feeling that!

People also keep saying "ooh, you look really well". "At least I look better than I feel" is my typical response!

Getting confused looking at prams. I want (i think) a 3 in 1 pram/pushchair/car seat jobby. Want one that can be forward or backward facing. Debating this isofix base thingy. Would love it to be brightly coloured. But it HAS to be cheap!

Posted a crazy brightly coloured (too pricey!) Cosatto one on Facebook, and a "friend" has just been all negative about how I'd be much better off with a traditional/practical/BORING colour! It has really irritated me! She's met me, she knows me...surely she knows that nothing else in my world is practically coloured! I don't want to be boring like her.

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Her reasoning was "it'll only get food/baby sick on it" and "plus you'll be out in the rain with it"

I wear bright colours in the rain and haven't melted yet!

I'm mega dizzy :( had to give a sort of presentation to my team at work this morning, and I was so nervous, I think that's probably why. Want to go home :(

CatFace, I think the cosatto prams look great, was it the 'pixelate' pattern? I loved it but DH preferred the uppababy vista so we've gone for that in bright red

It was the pixelated one! So awesome! I love it. Pricey though. (and a few dodgy reviews on Amazon!)
I'm thinking cheaper one that I could jazz up and customise. I'd like a purple, red or green pram.

I love looking at prams.

I'm getting the baby jogger city mini double in red

I plan to get a second hand/bargain pram but my parents want to go looking at prams tomorrow. Must not let them spend crazy money on a new pram! (think they might be getting excited about their first grandchild!)

My parents buy all their grand kids' prams, but my sis is giving me a Baby Jogger City Select tandem so the parents will probably just pick up the tab for a few other things instead. It's the only time they ever splash out on us - when we deliver exactly what they want! Ok M&D you asked for it, here's number 11 and 12!

Oohdaddy I get full support and understanding at work but we are a charity so conditions are fair but not flash

Catface I think a customised spray paint job is the way to go.

Same here Miraculous. Charity so lots of support but really shite maternity pay. :(

Well, supportive so far. I have just gone to the Dr regarding my inability to stop crying and they have signed me off for two weeks with antinatal depression and put me on Citalopram, plus now under the care of the Mental Health team. I thought I was doing so well too. I think all the pressure of work, doing a masters, pregnancy, sleeplessness etc has gotten to me. Feel like an enormous fat failure.

Wow lots of us work for charities :)

BigHairy you are absolutely 100% not a failure of any sort. Take care of yourself, you silly sausage.

Peace I'm with you on this one. Logically and financially I need to work as long as I can. In reality this may not be possible anyway but until I know if I need to be booked in or induced I don't know what to do. but id like to take leave from the 1st week of October (as recommended by mW) but it's all dependant on how big/Comfortable I am. Plus I want to spend as much of my maternity leave with my babies as I can. Oh decisions! X

I haven't been on for a while. I'm trying to catch up but you all talk tooooooo much! Yes, I'm hairy (just had to shave my big toes!) , yes, I'm tired, yes I'm a blubbering mess! I'm very stressed out and I don't even have work etc to worry about like most of you
Lovely hearing about all the scans and the blues and pinks!

I had my checkup with the consultant yesterday and all was well but I didn't realise till I got home and read my notes that I haven't put on any weight in the past month. I'm within the optimum BMI range (18-25) so I think you are supposed to put on 1lb per week in the second tri. I've put on 0.4lb in 4 weeks. This can't be good can it?

To add to my stress I've got my anomaly scan and fetal ECG on Monday and I'm terrified and crying about it all the time. I can't sleep at night for worrying. DH keeps telling me not to worry but it's not helping, I just feel like I'm worrying on my own. I'm so scared that as my health is going so well this time that the baby's won't be (opposite of last time). And if something is wrong what the hell am I supposed to do?!

Sorry for the moan. I just don't know what to do anymore. I just want to go to bed and sleep until it's all over!