It's all balls, bicycles, and babies for the PESH!

[maamalady]

Antenatal fred for BESH graduates

CRESH

Faith - pinky faithlet arrived 14th April 2013
Pinkr - suitably pinky one arrived 25th August 2013
Jethro - blue one arrived 23rd September 2013
Noks - pink one arrived 12th January 2014
Frankel - large pink one arrived 10th March 2014
Merks - pink one landed safe and sound 21st March 2014
Sinky - Stubborn blue one arrived 26th March 2014
Driz - blue one arrived 12th June 2014
Kat - pink one arrived 21st June 2014

PESH

Draf - Expecting a late pink one EDD 19th June
Winks - EDD 26th June
Ginger - Miniginger due 13th August
Dor - A very special pink one expected 18th August
Euro - eager Centime expected to arrive a lot sooner than 28th August
Buggerlugs - Buglet due 20th October
Fankle - ESHlet expected 4th January
Cunty - Minichops expected 7th February

So the June cluster is halfway through laying, and then we're on to the July/August batch! Are we even going to have time for Wimbledon and Le Tour and the World Cup in all this excitement?!

Do your inlaws have form for being total tossers sinks? You can definitely stay upstairs but get GHJ to bring your dinner up. Fucking ceebeebees for an infant that can't even sit up by himself yet.

Not tossers really. Just massively doting. And seem to view breastfeeding akin to self flagellation.

I don't have the car seat to worry about draf - just getting myself in and out, so I think it will be fine.

bugs that does sound a bit vulgar. I'm glad I convinced my American colleague not to throw one for me. I found being the centre of attention at my wedding hard enough and my feelings around pregnancy were a bit too mixed up to welcome people celebrating it.

winks that sounds awful. I hope you are ok now.

sinks that sounds insufferable. How long are you stuck there for?

I've had a bit of an emotional afternoon too. We went back to the hospital this afternoon to find the IV had been moved yet again after this morning's blood bath. And then they wanted a blood sample. The first one was rejected for some reason so they had to do another. By this point, she was screaming and I was trying to comfort her but ended up crying myself. She's been through so much in her 9 day life. It just breaks my heart. I wish my body could have done a better job so she didn't have to go through any of this.

Oh Euro. It's heartbreaking isn't it? When R was admitted with a virus thing he left little crescent cuts on his palms from gripping so tightly when they cannulated him. Centime won't remember a thing. But it is so hard. GHJ left the room, but I had to stay to protect my little boy. Hopefully tomorrow will be better. Please don't blame yourself. It's so easy (I could list all the ways I have done it/still do it) but it serves no purpose except to make ourself feel crap.

I've thought about the in laws. Deviant. They seem to thing bf-ing is deviant. That's the best way I can put it.

Leaving tomorrow. Expect tomorrow morning will be met with mil waking us to have "a shot" with R.

FIL has poured me wine though. I've not gone downstairs yet...

Oh euro :( poor you, and poor centime - but sinky is right, she won't remember any of it. I feel similar, not saying its the same at all, but similar when I see my baby's forceps mark on her beautiful face, being dragged out of me by metal clamped round her little head because I couldn't birth her properly. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

Ffs. Me and GHJ are both hiding in the bedroom now. Once R wakes were off. Phew.

Oh dear Sinks Hope you manage a quick getaway and soon.

:( Hope you've escaped

sinks hiding in the bedroom sounds like the best plan!

bugs I don't think the scan nervousness ever goes for folk in our shoes.

The post-partum hormone crash has definitely hit me. I just feel really weepy. C is back under the jaundice lights today, which means minimal interaction is possible, when I really need to be holding her. Hopefully we can get her out for another go at bfing later and they will have to prise her off me afterwards .

Oh euro the hormone crash is not nice, I spent an awful lot of time crying for the first few weeks. Just be kind to yourself and spend as much time close to Centime as you can. Hopefully the breastfeeding will have come on a little this afternoon.

I've just had an email from HWHNN's uncle to say that HWHNN's grandfather had a fall in the night and has broken his hip. He's being operated in tomorrow, but he's 95 and not in great health so it's all a bit touch and go

I've sent him a message but don't know when he'll get it - he's off base from earlier today until Wednesday for a visit, but I don't know where he is. It all depends if he can get any WiFi while he's away. If the worst happens I have an emergency "compassionate" phone number to call. They will then make arrangements for HWHNN to come back for a few days.

I'm just back from our second visit and that was a bit more encouraging and I was less of a weepy mess . She is only 30g off her birth weight now and they have been upping her milk and reducing the IV food every day to the point where they are going to take her off the IV when the current bag finishes and just try her on milk. As well as being more "normal" it means that they should be able to remove the giant canula from her teeny tiny hand. It looks so uncomfortable for her and makes it difficult to cuddle her as each time it gets knocked out it has to be resited, which must hurt her. I think it has been in both hands, both feet and both elbows now. :(

frank that sounds really hard. I hope you can get a message to him.

bugs I'm almost at that point now (10 days post-birth) and there is no way I would want to do that. As my earlier post shows, I have reached the peak of weepiness (so far) today and would really just like to hibernate with the baby and not interact with anyone. I have to be apart from C because I can't be at the hospital 24 hrs a day, but it hurts like hell.

Escaped. Fucking hell. Journey from hell home - traffic fine, but bored/hungry baby screams. What should have been 3.5 hrs took almost 6. Sigh.

And yet again in in law bad books because we didn't take R, mid meltdown, to meet their friends in the gym. They've been told never to speak to is again about feeding/dummies/baby fucking cereal. (None of these bad, just fed up of the unsolicited advice)

Bugs, GHJ had a week of nights followed by a week of long days at 3/4 weeks respectively. I pretty moved home to my parents. My mum did take R out so I could sleep, and also made sure I ate well, got outside, had company. It would have been hard on my own. But. My mad in laws? Someone would have died.

You will want/appreciate help. Only you can judge if your family are the right people for the job...

Frank, sorry to hear about HWHNNs grandpa. Fingers crossed the message gets through and op goes well.

Euro, C is gaining weight brilliantly! Hopefully a matter of time before the jaundice settles. Will it just be left to get her feeding established before you can go home?

I managed to speak to HWHNN so he's in the loop. Fingers crossed tomorrow goes well.

Sinks glad you got away ok but boo to the tough journey and mad in laws. The longest journey I've done with are so far was the 45 minutes home from the hospital, so I think you've done really well.

euro great news that centime is gaining weight and fingers crossed the switch to milk goes well. The canulas are horrid, E had one while we stayed in hospital and it just looked so huge and alien on her.

bugs like the others have said, you won't know how you'll feel about being apart from Buglet until he/she is here. I think you'll find the instinct to be together is too strong for the first weeks months, so don't be afraid to tell people t hat you don't want them taking the baby out.

Bugs, rest is good, help is good, but I really get the jitters if the calf is out of sight (she'll be four weeks on Tuesday). My parents came to help out when HOTB went back to work - being able to have someone else hold her while I showered etc was helpful, and they made lunch/tea, and took me out and about - first time breastfeeding while out was good with my parents for backup! Anyone other than totally reliable, safe family would have been useless, but my mum and dad were priceless.

So, staying with family - great, but overbearing people - not so helpful.

Yay. I'm signed off to drive. Vroom!

Hurrah for an end to 25 quid a day to the local mini cab firms.

Hurrah for driving again euro

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