September 2014 reaching the final stretch!

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Some of us are in the last trimester and some nearly there!! Eeek not long left!

It's official I'm having a September baby (bar any pre-eclampsia, diabetic or any other disease they diagnose me with) section booked for the 2nd eek, doesn't look like I'll will be make the wedding we've got on the 6th- would I be mad to even consider it??

Hehe yes 'woo' pains. The kids in my class call girl bits a woo which I thought was funny so have taken to using it myself lol.

Been to the vets with my cat. Took ages to get him in the cat box - he may be poorly but by God did he put up a fight. He wanted to escape the room so even resorted to jumping up to hang on the door handles to try and exit. Quite clever really . Anyway he has been a bit unlucky in that its not just a surface scratch to his eye, the other cat's claw has poked an actual hole into his eye through the iris. Vet said it's very inflamed. Got to give him antibiotic cream in his eye twice a day plus liquid painkillers once a day. My poor fur baby!! :(

On a better note though me and DH ordered a Moses basket and crib today. Still haven't actually packed my hospital bag though, tsk!

I'm too hot too whiteblossom. I think if I have another baby I will try to avoid pregnancy in summer lol.

Had a dizzy spell while still in bed early this morning. I opened my eyes and the room was spinning, it was like I was on those spinning teacups ride at a theme park. Very weird! Will have to monitor that. Probably just blood sugar issues again. Must eat more cake haha. My bum/thighs look humongous though.

top Your poor kitty cat! I hope he feels better soon and it's not too tricky getting the medicine in him! I don't think I know any cat who would let you put cream in their eye without a fight!

boo 2nd September sounds like a nice date to me! I have to say that personally I would completely write that wedding off! Though, I don't really like weddings, so I would find it a perfect excuse lol.

I don't know about woo pains but occasionally I do feel like the baby is really low and I feel quite some pressure down below, sort of like really needing a wee but not quite...also last night had some periody type pain in my lower back. It's only a matter of weeks for us all now anyway, eeeek!

Ahh topmammy your poor cat. Hope he feels better soon. xxx

Went to the physio this PM about back pain. Given that I am unbearably hot most of the time at the moment the physio's advice to try a heat pad made me a bit Will give it a go though, along with the physio exercises.

Hello all, got a day off work tomorrow, yay!!

top omg your poor cat, that sounds so painful!

kitkat heat pads do work for my back pain and some simple pilates exercises!

I can't believe how close some of you are too having babies, scary stuff! It feels like ages away for me plus we have not made any attempt to sort the flat!

I'm toooooooo hot as well. I'm going to get an ice pack out of the freezer in a mo and sit with it lol.

Just thought i'd share a picture of my poor kitty. Totally off topic of course, but he is like a baby... a fur baby! Poor chap. I have just put some antibiotic cream in his eye. He was not best pleased.

top I can't see the pic on my phone but poor cat - they are buggers to each other sometimes aren't they. On the plus side, at least he can't lick his own eye, so you don't have the issue of him 'cleaning' the wound.

2 more days of school runs, I'm sure after a week and a half I'll be desperate for the start of September but looking forward to not having to get the kids ready and lunchboxes and book bags and goodness knows what else every morning.

Feeling fat today, bump is still pretty small, but you know those days when you just feel incredibly heavy all over. Ugh.

Morning,
Im also to hot all the time. Dh closes the windows every night cos off the noise and has been known the turn off the fan but I think he's too scared now. Last night was to sticky all evening I warned him I may need to punch him if closes a window
I have been cooling down in a local swimming lake which is fab. It's an old quarry so really deep and really cool- I could live in there!
Dd2 last day at primary school today. I cried at dd1s leavers assembly but this time it will be the end of our association with the school (we've moved so slightly out of catchment for this bubba). Add in the hormones and I'm going to be a blubbering mess!

top your cat is so cute!

I miss my cat!

Relaxing on my day off :)

Fairy our bedroom is very close and sticky in this heat.
we havr had the fan on for a few months now and both windows are permanently open!

Ds2 woke at 4am. Had just got into bed after cooking for dh for fast and hes not been back to sleep
didnt manage to sleep much before cooking as I knew I had to get up. Absolutely shattered!

I had an antenatal class yesterday with a health visitor. The HV asked when we were all due and glanced at our bumps. She got to me and blew out her cheeks while nodding and told me I was carrying big and to expect at least an 8lber...I said that I went two weeks over with my first and that he was only 7.12 then and she said 4 oz makes ALL the difference.

I felt she was trying to scare me. Im now in a panic and was up in the night worrying that this baby is going to be too big to push out and end up with forceps/c-sec, both of which I really really don't want.

Ive been so chilled about labour and birth and now Im really stressed and upset and worried.

The HV thought the baby was lying across me- because I bulge both sides! (I do!) I explain that was incorrect which made her pull more faces. Some lovely sole in the group piped up arnt you meant to be bigger with your second.. the HV shrugged and said not always..

I wanted to get up and leave to be honest. Ive got a mw apt next week do you think If I ask they will give me a growth scan?

I think that was quite unprofessional of the health visitor tbh white. I know HV's all have nursing or midwifery backgrounds but they should stick to their job role and leave diagnosis of big babies and how baby is lying to those who are paid to do it. I'd mention how you felt at the class to your MW and yes ask for a scan if only to show how worried the HV made you feel. Maybe something can be said to the HV about her conduct.

Don't worry though, if you have a problem with a large baby or the position of baby the MW will tell you about it. How the HV could tell things like that by just looking when a MW actually physically feels your baby and takes measurements etc! Don't let a wannabe MW worry you :) Your bump pic from the other day looks very similiar to mine, maybe a tad smaller and i'm 35w today.

white that was a pretty shocking thing of her to do in a class! The midwife will feel and measure baby and have a much better idea of how big baby is, people all carry differently and you can't tell by looking. The problem with growth scans is that they are notoriously inaccurate, my consultant said they have a 35% margin of error both ways so having a growth scan could actually be more worrying! Do talk to your midwife though, I'm sure she will be able to reassure you.

I feel really sick today, hope it's just pregnancy and not a lurgie .

thanks topmammy Im going to mention it to the mw next week. Its just that so far Ive had a mw at the hospital gasp at how big I am, now the HV's comments, along with everyone this weekend saying how big I am. I need to be careful about naming her (though it will be obvious) as she will be one of the HV coming to my house after the birth, I don't want to add stress by worrying about that too.

My mum & nana have said not to take any notice. My mum said last night that she was huge when pg with me and I was only 5lbs. My mum is very straight talking and I think she would tell me if I need to have a chat with MW about size etc.

Ive noticed this weekend my rings and watch are tight, which could be the heat or could be that Ive gained a ton of weight or a bit of extra fluid, its something Ill mention next week also. Its just left me feeling really down and stressed. Why couldn't she have just kept her mouth shut? You would think a HV would understand how such comment can make you feel.

Hi tea yes I have heard that about growth scans too you have a point there! I found that the nausea has returned and is worst when Im really hungry and Ive not realised! I need to eat throughout the day.

Could you be hungry or perhaps baby pressing up against stomach? Im getting acid reflux. fx its not the lurgie x

Blossom thats disgusting she did and said that. I would ask to see another hv due to this bad experience.

Like others have said try not to worry too much about how big baby is. You could have a look at your charts in maternity notes and see where baby is plotting?
She sounds like a right bitch!

Who runs these ante-natal classes? It sounds incredibly unprofessional.
I really think you should consider complaining, especially if its NHS classes.

Ante-natal classes are supposed to help you and support you. Individually picking you out and telling you things like that is NOT helpful in the slightest, and as a HV she IS NOT QUALIFIED to make judgements like that. At most what she should have said are general comments about larger babies, rather than singling you out. What she has done is effectively 'diagnose' you as having a large baby. Just over 8lbs whilst over the UK average it is NOT even considered to be large medically. The NHS website says that 8lb 8 is considered to be the lower limit of macrosomia - and a lot of consultants consider it higher. 8lbs is just in the upper ranges of average.

And yes, your second baby is generally bigger. If you had a baby that was 7lb 12 previously then your body is designed and has proven ability to cope with a baby of that size. 4oz extra does NOT make all the difference. I would love to see the scientific evidence that says this, as everything I have read says entirely the fucking opposite - it suggests its pretty bloody normal. Anecdotal stuff I've read seems to suggest that slightly larger babies can almost be easier to give birth too, as well.

In terms of a growth scan, I would wonder what this is going to achieve for you? Are you measuring significantly beyond your weeks or is the baby's growth more than was predicted for you? Are you diabetic? Are you overweight? (Pretty sure you have said you are neither of the later two). Have you any other reason to worry or be concerned about the size of your baby based on anything other than the opinion of this woman?

If you have, then yes, maybe there is a reason for a scan. Otherwise, a growth scan could actually just fuel your fears - it is liable to say that the baby is health, just a bit bigger - as after all you are not getting any other symptoms or problems.

If they were just to come back and say it was going to be 8lb or slightly bigger, its just going to freak you out now. Unless it was significantly bigger than that, they won't even suggest early induction or a c-section. And would you want either of those anyway? Does this leave you in any better position than you currently are?

What you need is reassurance, that even if this baby is over 8lbs, that you can cope with it, and thats what I think you should ask the midwife rather than asking for a growth scan imho.

thanks ilove & redtooth. My charting is just above 50th centile from memory, belly measured bang on a few weeks ago (but then they are rather slap happy with tape measure!)

The HV was in her late 50's Id say and she used to be a MW. Red I also pointed out that 4oz wont make much difference but she disagreed and said "it can all the difference".

Im not overweight or a diabetic, Ill weigh myself tomorrow and see where Im up to with that. Your right I think a scan could backfire but I do need reassurance. Im really bloody pissed off now!

The other comment I get all the time and Ive no idea if this has any bearing on the large comments- is that my bump is very low- it is...

arrgghhhh Im soooo annoyed stupid cow making me feel like this.

She used to be a MW? But she's not now. Hmmm....

So she's not up to date with latest information then. A lot changes. They used to say that having very small feet was a size that you would have trouble giving birth for example. Its now regarded as utter bollocks.

Just because she used to do the job, doesn't mean she's up to it now. In fact she quite clearly isn't.

Red glad they dont go with that any more. Im a size 8 in shoes and have a bad time!

Dont let her get to you. Easier said than done I know but id mention it to your mw.

Starting to feel crampy again :(

Blossom.just looked at your bump pic and it doesnt seem too big to me.

I think your bump looks bang om dates imo.

Whiteblossom I agree the HV was very unprofessional. I would possibly say to her next time you see her that she's made you very worried so she can understand the impact she's had on you.

I keep getting loads of comments about how huge I am and people saying 'oh you must be nearly due to start your maternity leave', and when I say no I've got another 6 weeks yet and baby isn't due until mid-September they make a surprised face. Wish people would just bloody stop it now.

ilove, I'm a size 3!

I am tiny on the whole and don't think thats helping with all the comments about me being big.

White, you have same due date as me. You look about the same...