December 2014 Thread #4

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Stats anyone?!

• you obviously! not toy!

Good luck Emily, hopefully you get the results you want.

Peace, I feel like that too. Feel like I haven't slept in about a week

Thinking of you Emily.

Am having a bad day. Is anyone getting really irrationally angry?

My whole morning was a write off. So close to calling in sick. My stomachs feels like a constant ache, I Wana say it's wind but it's getting in my nerves now. Hayfever has gone haywire. Stubbed my toe. Shouted at DH. Got shocked awake and just cried my eyes out. Late to work. Already appear to have had my brain melted over night.

Wanna ball up in a corner and cry!

Good luck today Emily, hope you get the results you want.

I had a bit of a shock yesterday, got a call from the midwife to say that my downs screening test had come back as high risk and that the risk is 1:60. Made for a very emotional day and trying to decide what to do, whether to go and have an amnio or whether the have a Harmony or Nifty test.

Am trying to work out what the difference is between Harmony and Nifty (have heard of Harmony previously but not Nifty) other than the price!

Have booked a scan for next Thursday to see whether there any are markers that will indicate whether there is a possibility of Downs, Edwards or Patau and think we will then take it from there.

I am trying to keep positive that it is only a less than 2% chance that there is anything wrong with our baby but whatever happens the baby will be loved and we will cope, just think it would be better to be forewarned so that we can prepare.

On top of that had a 5 hour commute home thanks to our trains being royally screwed and then over an hour late to work this morning because of signal failurue, not made for a good couple of days so far.

Sorry for moaning and for the long post but needed to get it all out.

emily huge amounts of best wishes from my way. My fingers are crossed for you xxxxxx

Good luck Emily.

LadyLel I don't think I have the judgement to say if I'm irrational or not but I've certainly been getting angry. Got a thread going in AIBU at the moment to try and vent a little on the latest thing.

Really trying to stay calm at ds too, who is being especially trying at the moment. I know the stress is bad for you but how do you manage it when it just keeps coming back lol?

Thank you for all of your thoughts. Still no results....this wait is unbearable after all the stress of the last 3 weeks.

Lisa do you commute in and out of Liverpool street station by any chance?!
I'm sorry to hear about the downs result. Was that from the nunchal translucency and your bloods? Did they tell you what the nunchal translucency was? At our 12 week scan we were told the baby had 5 mm of fluid on its neck which is a marker for downs and then a week later at another scan it went up to 7.7mm when the baby is only about 6-7cms at that point it's quite a lot of fluid! I had my amnio test 2 weeks ago it wasn't that bad and I am usually extremely bad with blood tests and very screamish etc we got the initial results of whether the baby had downs, Edwards or patau within 48 hours. My consultant was certain that my baby had Edwards and had talked about booking me in for a termination. My results came back clear! Am I glad that I had the test!! Otherwise I could have ended potentially a healthy child. It's been 15 days and I am still waiting for the results of the other 23 chromosones that they test for to see if there are any other abnormalities. It's a horrible wait but at least after them I will know how healthy my baby is/could be a lot more info then other pregnant ladies get. The docs, consultants, midwifes are always so negative about these things but I am proof that they can get things very wrong and that you owe it to your baby to do as much as you can to get all the possible information

Congrats whatsonemore! Lovely scan pic!

Lovely pic Whatsonemore! hope u dont mind me asking - why will it come in November? lisa you must have had a vey rough couple of days :( You definitely dont need to apologise tho, that's why we re all here together! Can the mw give you more information re the difference between the 2 tests?

I bought some über cute muslins/cloths/swaddle cloths/whatever today. It is hard finding nice bright things that are gender neutral though :/

Hi Emily

Yes I commute out of Liverpool Street and yesterday was an absolute nightmare journey, on top of finding out the high risk result, it was a shocking day.

The midwife didn't really offer any advice as to what the difference between the two tests were and basically told me to go and google it because its something we would have to pay for anyway. The more I think about it, the more I am tempted to just have the amnio, after the scan, and get the results that way. The two different tests, from what I have read, still only give you a high or low risk category and if you come back as high risk you end up having to have the amnio anyway.

Sorry to hear that you haven't yet had any more results back and that you are still waiting. Hope they hurry up for you.

Oh meant to say the results was from the Quadruple blood test, they couldn't do the Nuchal testing at the scan as my little bean was not being co-operative in the slightest and would not lay where it was supposed to. Just hoping that s/he plays ball a bit more next Thursday for the marker scan we have booked.

I work just behind lpool st! Luckily I was working from home yesterday so missed all the problems!
I would recommend speaking to ARC. It's a charity for people undergoing antenatal tests and help with decision making etc I spoke with them yesterday the ladies was absolutely lovely and let me get everything off my chest without any pressure etc and ask the questions I needed. Please google ARC as I think they will be able to help you make an informed decision about the various tests available

thanks Emily, I have sent the link to my husband for us to discuss tonight.

Do you commute out of liverpool st as well then? Where abouts are you based?

Good Luck Emily.

Training course in London today. My boss booked me on a slow long train leaving from Moore St, rather than one from New St which my train home goes into. meant I had to leave the house at half five and wont get back till gone half 8. I am knackered and sickness has made a comeback :(

On the plus side pregnant women get 20 percent off bagels at the bagel shops in stations in London. Not that I dare eat mine as I suspect it mighy come straight back up and the train is packed. chances of me making it to the loo in time are slim....

Whaaaaat! 20% off bagels?! How do you prove it?!

We are going out for dinner because a) I'm too tired to cook, b) I desperately want Chinese, and c) I'm too tired to wash up for takeaway. So had a shower to spruce up and the hot water ran out before I could rinse my hair. Now I want to cry.

Lisa I'm glad to help. It feels very lonely when you are told there might be something wrong with your baby while everyone around you seems to have perfectly healthy pregnancies. It's hard to get your head around but I am sure everything is 100% fine and it's just a bump in the road!

So peeved to not have got my results today!! Fingers crossed for tomorrow I guess!

I commute from Ashford kent on the high speed which takes me to Stratford and then I get from Stratford to Liverpool street on the overground line and back again of an evening.

16+1 and getting a bump but don't feel like I can 'feel' pregnant with such uncertain times ahead. I'm sorry I am doom and gloom today just really tired, emotionally tired.

Feeling crappy.

I'm worried. I've had bouts of depression and anxiety in the past, nothing major!

But now I can't decide whether I'm just regular hormonal emotional pregnant lady or more than that.

people just keep telling me "it's all totally normal, don't worry" but I just don't know. It's in my notes and got a voicemail the other day from a community midwife asking if I was ok. Haven't been able to call back due to work though. Maybe I should just mention something at 16week appointment next week.

just feel so very sad and unhappy for no good reason

15+3

crayola, I'd say best to have a chat with midwife and keep a close eye on it. It is very common to get antenatal depression as well as post natal so it is good to be aware and keep talking to your midwife so you can flag any issues early and get the support you need if necessary.

catface call thrm back even if you aren't depressed, there's absolutely no harm. They may give you the confidence to say I'm okay and not feeling sad. A bit if counselling doesn't hurt anyone and is sooooo beneficial. It will lift you up and just get rid of that grey cloud- hormone or not. Take care x

No shame Catface! I'm taking antidepressants during my pregnancy because I'd be even more of a mess without them give the midwife a call and have a chat.