November 1014 - thread 5 - the rainbow collective romping (and limping) into 2nd trimester!

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hi folks - thought we should have a new thread!

I had a very real dream last night I was breastfeeding this new baby and the feelings were all the same as when I breastfed DS including the weird let down after the first 30 seconds.

Very strange, woke up and actually searched for the new baby until I realised baby isn't cooked yet!

Alita and brandsnob, it is still available online. Mojito ice lollies as well! Maybe in store it's just in the bigger sainsburys.

Sometimes I fancy a nice cold glass of beer or wine, but the feeling never lasts long. It's caused more by the fact that I can't have it than really missing it. I had hardly been drinking in the year up to this pregnancy anyway.

For sleeping arrangements, I am thinking about getting a bedside crib like the NCT hires out. Don't know what I would use for downstairs though. I don't like those moses baskets, they just seem too flimsy. Maybe a pram carrycot, but I don't know if they are suitable for longer periods of sleeping.

I used my pram carrycot for the first few months for all sleeping, it was fab DS loved it so I've ordered another one for this baby, hopefully they'll sleep in it too.

I love how much like alcoholics we sound!!!! haha!! xx

Ha, I know!
Is anyone having the odd glass of wine?

I read a study somewhere that said women who drank a glass or two if red wine had calmer and less anxious children when studied at age 5, but I can't find it..

I know it's alright occasionally, I just worry that if I get (even more) of a taste for it, it might actually be harder to just have one small glass than to just abstain completely.
I did get through rather a lot of wine pre-conception and I gave up alcohol and cigarettes cold-turkey 2 weeks before we conceived.
The early weeks were fine as I felt so excited/nervous/SICK but now I feel normal!
Suppose wine can be counted as a craving!

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2008/oct/31/women-pregnancy-alchohol-birth-defects

Thoughts?

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2008/oct/31/women-pregnancy-alchohol-birth-defects

I'm having one or two days a week when I have either half a pint of lager or one small glass red wine. I also overindulged regularly beforehand but think I can control myself! I did have a whinge at DH last night saying I just wanted to get drunk but I wouldn't do it. We have great motivation at the moment to do the right thing.

i havnt touched a drop but i wasn't much of a drinker anyway as Dh can't drink from medication so i feel guilty if i have one. we drink nonalcoholic beers and ciders i know we sound so much fun to top it off we're vegetarian! (through medical reasons not moral)

I drank Becks Blue with ds, it tastes exactly like normal becks to me, and we were the first of our friends to be pg so it gave me something to drink at parties to not feel like a child drinking juice. Most other non-alcoholic beers are pretty filthy though.
Also, g&t made with just tonic, ice and a wedge of lime actually tastes pretty similar. I did really miss wine by the end and had the odd half glass of champagne at weddings, but on the whole felt less guilty abstaining, even despite various studies..

I do not want to drink at all. I don't think alcohol has any benefit for me, I use other methods to relax. Also, even though it may do no harm I read that exposing the baby to alcohol means it will like the taste later on in life more, so I'd rather prevent that!

I'm having half a pint of Guinness once a week, my iron levels were really low with DS so I was prescribed iron tablets but they made me horribly constipated and didn't really do much.

I drank half a Guinness and my iron levels improved so that's what I'm doing this time. I don't particularly like it but it makes my tiredness go away and makes me feel better.

On another note does anyone feel like they're in no mans land between the 12 and 20 week scans, nothing is happening and I'm not feeling very 'pregnant'

My taste for alcohol is still gone - which is remarkable considering I merrily drank like a fish before. I assumed I'd miss it but suprisingly don't even like the smell at the mo. I don't think the odd light beer is a biggie later on, mind. But for me it'd suck to only have one! How depressing to be nursing one beer all night!

Today I am wearing the Primark jeans. Quite tight at ankle/calf but I expect they'll stretch with wear. But massively saggy at the waist! I don't know if its that I'm not big enough yet or if its the flatness of my arse, but I'm not filling them at all. But my regular jeans are too small so needs must. Thankfully they have belt loops so am using one of DH's belts to hold them up. On the plus side - CHEAP! And also extremely comfy I have to admit.

I am obsessed with finding a jacket as summer is never that warm where I am and my jackets are getting alarmingly tight. What do you all think of this jacket? A bit pricey for what it is, maybe? It looks very roomy though!

SFT Put a shot of blackcurrant through the Guinness. Its a classic combo for those that don't like the taste. My mum used it when pregnant also, on doctors orders, and thats what she had to do to tolerate it.

Study - I agree that this is a funny stage of pg but once bumps get bigger - we may well feel more like it is real.

I haven't touched any booze in pg and dont really miss it that much. Used to be a real partied but that was somewhat curtailed after DD born. At moment hate being out amongst pissed up people so not missing that aspect tbh!

Nice jacket anna. Only thing that would annoy me is that it doesn't close. But you can't expect to do that with a bump anyway I suppose!

Its £60 which is a lot. But then I could wear it afterwards as its not maternity. Might be a creaser though, will have to paw it in real life!

Just marking my place as I seem to have been dropped off the thread again!

I haven't had a drink since finding out I was pregnant but I am missing it more now. I think it's a combination of feeling well again rather than sick, so I could tolerate it, and warm weather and BBQs, during which a cold glass of white would go down well.

Personally I don't think the occasional small glass would be a problem but DH is against it so I won't have one. I am at a wedding next weekend and may allow myself a few sips of champagne.

I agree about this being a strange phase, I am 16+5 now and can't wait for the 20 week scan. Keep wondering if it's really in there (although I do have a small bump now). We have been to John Lewis today browsing the prams etc which is very exciting. I really like the Bugaboo Chameleon but it's very expensive!

I am also hoping to breastfeed although reading about what it is like has somewhat put me off. I think I'll give it a go for at least a few months if possible, but will also be introducing a bottle, even if of expressed milk, as early as possible.

Could I ask any mummies with toddlers in beds to check out my thread on the sleep topic. I need some help.

It's called transitioning into a bed

Thanks x

I've just ordered Expecting Better and some hand fabric dye in bright violet to experiment with. Pretty sure I can't be bothered to do the whole rainbow collective thing but it has inspired me. Mum and I used to dye stuff all the time when I was little. It's a great cheap way to revitalise murky whites or just change something you've got bored of. Going to try it on a dress I got bought that is nice but not really my colour.

I love the jacket Anna, in fact I'm quite sure I need it but it definitely looks like a creaser.
I have visions delusions of being a chic and glamorous mother but in reality I seem to always be slightly disheveled now so there is no hope for the future.
I'm seriously sulking, after staying in alone last night with the cat and chocolate bloody Nesquik I really wanted to go out in the glorious evening sun for a nice stroll, maybe even for a little weak half a shandy in the pub beer garden in the sunshine but bloody DP has a stinking hangover after yesterday's all-day football-watching pub session and is still a mess.
He hasn't (literally - except for a snacks and a wee) moved from the sofa, all day.
I went out from 1-6pm and he had only been to the kitchen for crisps.
I do (hazily) remember hangovers but it's just really bloody shit and bloody boring that him having too much 'fun' means my bank holiday weekend has been so dull.
He's really pissed me off saying that if I wanted to do something tonight I should have made plans with my friends but all my friends are out in Clapham drinking cocktails or Brixton seeing a band and that wasn't really an option, plus I live miles away from them.
Everyone on Facebook is off out having a nice time.
We are now watching telly in separate rooms, I expect he's feeling very pleased as now he can watch whatever rubbish he wants without conferring with grumpy old me.
I won't mind staying in when I have had baby, I object to him having so much fun without me and then being lazy and grumpy ALL DAY and watching telly in silence with someone who is too hungover to peel the foil lid off a bottle of ketchup.
Hence why I'm watching telly in a different room.

I'm just very grumpy.

That sucks elliekins. I have barely moved from sofa all day but that's fine if it's what you want but bloody annoying if you want to do stuff. There's always tomorrow to do stuff together though.
On the booze front, we went to FIL's 60th birthday party last night. Nothing formal, just loads of family having curry at their house. Everyone got so drunk though, especially the women I noticed. It really is horrendous when you're sober. MIL groped my Boobs as soon as I was in the door. Just checking on pregnancy progress apparently! Now the bump fondling is one thing but Boobs? Really? To be fair she asked first but didn't give me time to respond before she went for it!

Jeez, boob-grabbing MIL?!
That really is a bit much, I'd be tempted to reciprocate and say "I'm just seeing what mine might be like in 30-odd years"!

I know, I think I'm just feeling like I'm missing out which is utterly ridiculous as I wanted desperately to be pregnant and am so so happy to be.
I'm just bored of not doing much and desperately trying to save money.
I think it's partly because old Grumpy Bollocks (him not me!) has been hungover quite a few weekends recently and he really is useless for a full 24 hours afterwards.
It's so frustrating because getting him to do anything at all with a hangover is utterly impossible and he is so snappy.
I know he's just getting it out of his system before he has to be sensible and busy with baby all day long and he's making the most of being able to get pissed and then do nothing all day, but I'm a do-er and he is definitely not, it's always annoyed me but now it really f*cks me off.
He's now staggered off to bed and left out all manner of crap on the coffee table; a coke can, 4 (!) empty glasses, crisp packets, a congealed plate, salt and pepper, ketchup bottle, an empty beer bottle from last night, several beer tops, scrunched dirty kitchen roll, plus other general detritus from his pockets.
AND HIS SOCKS!
It makes me feel utterly murderous.

Hi all. Any more takers for the rainbow collective? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2072479-November-2014-Rainbow-Collective

Have posted on the other thread