December 2014, Thread #3

[SassehMonsta]

Just starting a new thread so we have somewhere to go once thread 2 is full (I give it less than a day!!)

Welcome to the never-ending first trimester, and maybe some of us into the second trimester this thread?

Oh my goodness I feel and look huge! And horrible as well as work trousers too tight on belly and my next order that arrived yesterday with maternity stuff didn't seem to flatter and it's only going to get worse! As someone said earlier I feel helpless with regard to weight and what's going y

To happen to my body, it's like normally if I was unhappy with weight I knew that I could just cut back and lose a few lbs but dont have that luxury anymore plus the hunger can't be ignored! I eat fairly well veg and fruit wise but I think I need to make extra effort as I'm only 5 foot 1 so it takes very little for me to look huge!
Sorry I keep posting my messages before I'm done! Stupid phone!

I've still only told 5 people and am so scared to tell others and when and how etc. What have you done/planning? I don't think I can plan anything in my mind till my scan on Saturday as it all still doesn't feel real to me. I feel like when I tell people I'm pregnant they will laugh in my face and tell me how awful a mother I'm going to be!!

Emily, noone would be so crass surely! I am sure everyone will be thrilled for you! I am.waiting until scan to tell people. Won't be making FB announcement or anything though. Just texts to friends I think.

EmilyPinkOrBlue, I commute in to London from Hertfordshire. It's half an hour on the train, then HELL on the tube. Lots of people have to contend with far worse, and I'm berating myself for not being a little braver and pushing myself in to the office, but I'm really conscious that I don't want to exhaust myself. Perhaps too much so.

Haven't told anyone, apart from work (who needed to know due to time off sick), and it's feeling like a real challenge to keep a secret! Bought nothing (no bump yet!) and made very few plans. I think I'll kick into action once we've had the scan and it'll feel a bit more real.

I'm sure when you tell everyone they will be nothing but happy for you, and no one will query your ability to do it. But if they do, take a moment, to pause and reflect on your confidence and all the things you've achieved so far in your life. At least, that's what my fiance tells me every time I worry over the exact same thing! I'm terrified that I live so selfishly, and that I don't have the confidence or energy to give to a kid...

Emily - I am only 5ft 1 too and feeling pretty big already. I'm 12+2 and already wearing maternity trousers as everything else is too tight for sitting at a desk all day, especially with incessant eating too
I'm trying to cover it up with floaty tops at the moment as I haven't told work yet - I'm running out of clothes to hide it tho!!

Has anyone else heard of feeling baby movements as early as 12 weeks? I'm sure I'm just being crazy but I've had a twitching/fluttery sensation for the last couple of days - I googled it and saw it could be something to do with sensitive nerve endings left over from first pregnancy. I didn't feel anything with DD until about 16 weeks but this feels exactly like it!

No mood swings - just general grumpiness! Just want this day to be over already

Feeling rubbish today, constant nausea. Just slept for 3 hours as it's been v windy and showery outside but don't feel any better. Dreading the thought of flight back on Friday and our 4am pick up. :(

The food here is pretty poor considering the price we've paid for the holiday. Not helped by not being at all interested in food in the evenings here and just wanting chips! Just wish I was home now. :(

I also get fatter as the day goes on. 9w today so baby is the size of a grape - no way is thia a pregnancy bump! Going to struggle to conceal it when back at work.

whatsonemore I honestly feel like I'm losing the plot with the ridiculous ness of my mood swings! All for absolutely stupid reasons but at the time when I'm either crying or stropping I can't help it, even though I know I'm being stupid!

I've always had very strong emotions though

I am so pleased (in a sad way) to hear that treacle and that they wont do anything more intrusive. Time heals xx

I am so pleased to be able to eat. Yesterday I managed 3 meals and 3 snacks! Today I'm on 2 meals and a snack so far, including out for lunch with my mum. I can drive, I can walk the dog, I can actually get dressed! Feeling more positive than I have in a while. :)

Want to tell everyone already, but DH says no, not yet, wait for the 12 week scan. Fiiiiiine. Less than 3 weeks until that now, and I have a holiday away planned the weekend before (without DH teeheehee!).

Hope everyone's well? Last night of my course tonight and then I'm back home tomorrow :D got the weekend off which I'm MEGA looking forward to. Should be packing really (moving the weekend after this) but expect I'll spend most of it lazing! I can't wait to get moved in and settled.

been to see the midwife today and thats me booked in. huge number of questions to answer and my head hurts!!

i will get my scan between 11-13 weeks and there will be a very very detailed one at 20 weeks. my next midwifes appointment will be at 16 weeks. she was very nice and friendly which was really nice. gave me a tub of vitamin d to take and said they eill provide them for me until i give birth

went for coffee afterwards picked up some new rubber stamps and met a crafter so very excited to have a new card making friend.

Ooh I just phoned the doctors to see if there was an appointment for me with the midwife and it turns out I had to book it myself!! Thanks for letting me know, ugh! Everyone I spoke to at the surgery implied I just had to wait to hear! So I've got it booked for next week when I'll be 10 weeks :) what sort of questions do they ask?

Is it far far too early to buy a cot?? My friend is selling her daughters for £20 and I'm tempted!

(9+3)

Booking appointment in 2 days...not sure what to expect either

My midwife appt was quite relaxed. Qs about health, family medical history, how I was feelimg about pregnancy, husband, etc. Did get asked if we were related too and some other random but I guess necessary questions!

Then had to do a carbon monoxide breathing test and got weighed and that was it. When I go back next week at 10w I need to take a urine sample with me.

You get a big book which is your medical notes and theres lots of questions in there you have to go away and complete at some point too, but the book gives you useful week by week pregnancy guide. DH was fascinated!

Should say this is all NHS Scotland but assume it's the same everywhere.

Espa the carbon monoxide test is interesting! I haven't heard of that one before. I remember when I stopped smoking, I went to an NHS group where they measured your carbon monoxide every week, and mine kept going up, despite not having smoked for weeks at that point! So I'm not terribly trusting of those things :P

peace they asked me about:
any existing conditions for me, my partner and our parents, stuff like diabetes, high blood pressure, allergies, history of twins in family etc
If you have had any previous surgeries, transfusions etc
any mental health issues inc any medication
also usual stuff like smoking and alcohol / drug use
They will also ask if you want your blood tests to include testing for HIV, hepatitis etc (no extra needles needed!)
They will also ask if you want to have the nuchal translucency (down syndrome) screening at your 12 week scan and if you also want to have a blood test which accompanies it, you don't have to have either and even if you say yes now you can change your mind on the day of the scan.
Then asked for a urine sample, had a bit of blood taken and got weighed. She said she wouldn't continue to weight me unless i wanted to be weighed but just did the first one to check record BMI and for my own benefit if i wanted to keep track throughout.
She then asked which hospital I would like to use.
She then said she would refer me for the 12 week scan, I received a letter from the hospital within the week with my appointment date.

There were lots of health questions but most are quick straightforward yes / no answers.
Then you will be given your pregnancy health record book which includes a copy of everything she has written down. You may also be given some info on antenatal classes available in your area.

This was my experience anyway, Im sure it differs slightly from area to area but that the gist of it anyway!

Peace I was told if you drive through a congested area it could make it higher, and I had done in way to the appt so that was my excuse. Never smoked in my life!

My carbon monoxide test came back as 5 which is apparently 2 more than a non-smoker should be. I don't smoke and never have. So apparently the stop smoking team are going to call me and someone will come out to test all my gas home appliances in case there is a problem. It actually really worried me.

Mine was 4, so must have been okay as didn't get that mentioned poly. We have 3 detectors at home so hope they'd pick anything unusual up.

We only have a gas boiler no other appliances and we have a combi smoke/carbon monoxide detector. I think it must have been from the car journey in an inner city area.

In my booking in appointment I was asked where I'd like to give birth as well as questions about our health and family origins. The midwife looked after us in hospital last time and recognised my husband and I immediately so it was lovely to see a friendly face. She's also amazing at taking blood as her other role is drugs liaison midwife; this is good news for me as my veins are all knackered from multiple blood samples / IV cannulae.

I'm so sorry to hear of Treacle and Natasha's losses.

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow and I'm shitting myself. Can't get excited at all. I have an exam in two weeks and I'm less nervous about that. You wouldn't think I'd done all this before, but I can't remember being nervous at all last time!

It's not helping that I'm on my 3rd midwife already. First one had to cancel my booking in appointment twice, so sent a 2nd midwife to do it. Then I had a call from a 3rd midwife to arrange the scan and apparently I won't be seeing the other two again. It's a new service they're running so I think they are trying to be more like independent midwives rather than the NHS, so it's supposed to be better for the mothers, to give them more choice with their pregnancy and birth. At the moment I feel like I've been passed around and I'm not feeling the "one to one" care.

The one to one part is actually quite important to me at the moment too, as I feel slightly... on edge is maybe the best phrase. My mum died 18 months ago and I'm feeling the loss a lot at the moment (she should be here to support me right now!). I'm pretty sure the anxiety I'm feeling around the scan is probably linked to the grieving process and a return of the depression I felt after she died. I would like to explain this to my midwife, but at the moment I don't even see the point as the way things have been going I may not even see this one again.

Pourquoi hope your scan goes well - I feel exactly the same about mine on Friday! My dp is really excited and keeps saying how much he's looking forward to it, I'm dreading it and just wanting it to be done and everything to be ok!