November 2014- thread 4- 12 week scans and blooming in the second trimester!

[barmybunting]

Hi everyone, we have run out of posts on our last thread so hopefully we'll all find this one easily enough.

Here is to more positive 12 week scans and enjoying our second trimesters, all feeling more human hopefully!

So, my cloud of euphoria over scan yesterday has crashed & burned today. Feel crappy, tired & emotional. Had a blazing row with DP at lunch time & cried so much I vomited again. So now not only have headache, but also fat swollen eyes, stomach ache & lurking nausea.

Why is it so bloody hard for him to at least try and empathise!

Aww twig, we all have days like this! Dp's don't always get it but im sure he didn't mean to make you so upset. Todays nearly over so hopefully tomorrow will be better. I had a teary day.yesterday after sickyNess came back. Stay positive and get an early night with a cuppa hot something if you can manage it. hugs x ps keep looking at your scan picture cheers me up

Twig let I totally empathise... dp only gets it when it has no negative impact on him at all, if it does he is moody at me or starts an argument! had one today because I'm too tired to pick up dsd ( I said I would after a tiring morning if I had a nap first as he was feeling low, changed my mind when my alarm made me wake up... but he got all moody... He didn't have to make me feel guilty...)

I just find it so frustrating! He's one of those 'You're not ill, you're pregnant' people, and he just can't seem to understand that pregnancy isn't an illness, but some of the resulting symptoms are. Case in point: He knows I have been very nauseous & that I am often sick at least once if not more times a day. He also knows that cooking smells make me feel ten times worse. Yet every night, he waits for me to cook dinner & if I say I'm not planning on cooking, he just won't eat, which makes me feel guilty because he does work really hard in order to provide for us & his diet is appalling if left to his own devices.

Thanks mismylin & alita, glad to know I'm not the only one who is feeling a little battered by life at the moment!

thewildones glad to here everything is ok with the scan. Bleeding can be scary and if you get concerned midwifes or in my case a n e. It does seem a postcode lottery ( sorry i don't like the term either) with midwives and the attention received. Plus we're all having lots of babies!!

-twig- my dp used to the same with dinner... If i didn't cook he didn't eat. But i got angry with him and stood there cooking with a bucket next to me and he soon learned how to cook tea for me and dd! Extreme but it worked!

Alita folic acid is taken because it significantly reduced the chances of problems with the baby's spine. After 12 weeks the spine is formed so you don't need folic acid anymore. You can stop after 14 weeks or so.

When you get omega 3 supplements, make sure it's not derived from cod liver or any fish liver. This contains too much vitamin a which is bad. You can get ones derived from the whole fish, except the liver. Or I think there are flax seed ones.

My dp is very understanding. He can be a little too concerned sometimes!

I got my scan date. Two weeks from now! Im so excited. I must be one if the last ones getting my 12 week scan on here.

Just had another look at the downs risk letter and I read it wrong it's 1 In 100000, so an extra o! even better :D

I have had a teary couple of days and blew my top at my dad today. I feel bad that it upset him and stressed him out when he's basically trying to help, and when he screws up it's because he's weak rather than malicious, but I don't feel bad about being angry about what happened or saying what I did. I don't think the hormones helped though. Certainly didn't help with the tears after and for the last few days. I thought they had calmed down and to be fair they have, it's not as bad as it was a few weeks ago. I think the main thing is being fed up in general. I don't mind being strapped up & in the wheelchair, but my pelvis hurts constantly and that is draining. I don't feel sick or tired anymore, but I just feel generally ugh. Very non specific, nothing I can put my finger on, just a general feeling of crapness as a whole. It is... draining. That gets me down. I would like to feel normal for a little while, I'm not even asking to feel great, just fine, would be nice. I keep saying it but this pg is so different to DD, I felt amazing all the time with her, I feel pretty shit constantly with this one. And I really want to know the sex!!! I feel guilty calling it an it or this one or the baby. I want to give it a name and call it he or she. 14 weeks tomorrow so could find out in a couple of weeks. I think I'll take DD to a private scan in a few weeks and she can find out first and tell me, I think she'd like that.

Sneaky look at my phone whilst on tea break at work - 26 hours work in two days - want to curl up and die! Feet are burning so bad, must've walked 20 km since Wed! Only 2 more hrs to go then WEEKEND!!!

But now am all worried cos have only bothered with folic acid but nothing else! I was feeling smug as have been taking it since Sept, but now feel a bit ashamed I haven't had anything else!

Don't worry Anna, think of the milennia of babies who have been fine. The folic acid which is key you took, and you can always start a pg multivit now, to give it a boost? I have pretty much been keeping pregnacare in business since a month before ds was conceived in 2012, but I do wonder if it's entire necessary...

Also hugs to random, it's crap feeling ill week on week. My dh found out that ginger oil (a few tiny drops in base oil) really can help if you rub into the soles of your feet? Only short term mind you, but I'll take anything right now!

Also feeling for those with dps being lame - they don't know man, they're not THERE!! (And that sort of behaviour would seriously annoy me from a partner who is getting off scot-free...)

Exactly utopian, I try not to panic anymore. The way I see it French mothers still eat soft cheeses, Japanese women still eat raw fish and shellfish, babies were born for centuries without any folic acid, my mother was fed liver and onion twice a week by my gran, my gran wore a bone corset till she was full term to hide the pg, my dad's mum smoked and drank throughout her 6 kids, there are tribes women in the jungle birthing healthy babies and in third world countries where they kive on a bowl of rice a day... we're all doing fine.

Some good common sense there!

Oh I'm just in a flap -am totally overworked & the week after next they have me down as working 48 hours in the span of only 4 days. So now I have to ring my Mgr and have a fight that i shouldn't have to fight!

Grr desperate to tell the kids but dp feels ill and wants to wait til later/ tomorrow so he can enjoy it properly! I've been waiting so long I feel like I have a sweet dangles in my face then pulled away :p

Scan was good! We have a very wriggly one, it didn't want to stay still. Nuchal measurements 1.6 and due date spot on. Will try to get a picture up later.

Minor moan of the day though: the vampire squad at Queen Charlottes really aren't that bothered about the person they're sticking needles in. That's twice now they've left me with a gigantic bruise and today the nurse was way more interested in her conversation about what they were having on their toast than in looking what she was doing!

Oh, for those who are still nauseous, here is what I wished I'd bought when I was - I'm still a bit but it's going now so not worth buying any: www.queasybeads.com

I'm off to share it on the newest threads!

Great news posy!!!
Ouch to the bloods, I was lucky with mine, still hate it though, especially the "sharp scratch now"

Annarose, I've only been taking folic acid and vit D because anything else made me throw up so was pointless. Midwife said if I could only take folic acid, to do that and manage what I can with vit d later on. Don't worry, better we are taking something than nothing! My MIL took nothing when pregnant with my DH and his brother, has a really restricted diet due to severe allergies and didn't see a doc or midwife until she was 6 months pregnant with both boys. Both were born perfectly healthy and are fit, active men of 6"3 now. Only one of many stories you will here. Anything extra you take will only help baby, don't let it stress you. There is enough stress in pregnancy as it is!

I am so glad it's Friday at long last. 12 weeks on Sunday, but I'm still throwing up everyday and have picked up a stupid cold again (3rd during this pregnancy!) from one of my class at school and I'm just miserable and moany. Life will seem brighter tomorrow I hope, thank god for sleep!

barmy do you teach? (I know there was a who's a teacher discussion in an earlier thread but losing track of who's who!)

My SIL is round this evening & showed us what she's expected to do in terms of marking for her year 3 class. It's more feedback than I got when I was doing my A levels! Totally stunned and my admiration for those who are preggers AND teaching has escalated further.

Oh, and her year 3s are meant to use terms like "learning objective" and "deconstruct." I went to a pushy academic school and I'm pretty sure by comparison I was still at the playing-with-plasticine stage!

Posy, yes, I teach Year 4. It's hard to keep track of who is who on here some days . I have an absolutely fabulous class this year, I love them. However, I seriously miss teaching in Scotland at the moment because the marking/paperwork required there is so much less than England because of the different curriculum. I understand what you're saying regarding your SIL's feedback being different to what we got at school, it's overload for the poor kids I think!

I also have to admit I am finishing in July because I don't think I'd cope with setting up a new class/the long commute in the new school year, mat leave starts mid September for me when the schools go back. I am counting down to that just now!

Sorry, silly thing didn't let me finish. I was trying to say I think it's what you know, isn't it, in terms of what seems doable. I keep wondering how the heck people on here with other kids, or who are on their feet all day, care for others, study or do lots of other things manage as well as they do when pregnant. Managing to open our eyes and get out of bed is good going at this stage I think, never mind everything else that you are all managing to do!

evening folks... bank holiday weekend starts here but doesnt quite mean the same without partying and gin! Nice though to get an extra day with DD.

I got my nuchal letter letter today 1:1000 which whilst not the highest is still far below what i would be happy with. Harmony bloods in the morning and 2 weeks for those results. I have an amnio booked for the 8th May and still unsure if I am going to go or not. It all feels very far along for any potentially tough decisions to be made and actionned and as for telling anyone - still a few weeks yet!

Another positive story about vitamins - with my younger siblings - my mum didnt find out she was pg until she was 5 months gone found out month 6 it was twins and they were born at month 7. They will be 29 in a few months time and 2 fabby healthy kids and adults. She had no vitamins at all , only had 2 antenatal appts and little care before they arrived.

I reckon we are all doing fine and as best we can with baking these bumps.

These posts today have made me realise that no mw has ever metioned Vit D to me either with DD or with this one. They both said folic acid not that either of them needed to as 5 years ttc for DD I pretty much knew absolutely every single possible thing by then!! With DD and this one as soon as I got the BFP within 24 hours I've stopped smoking, gone to the supermarket and stocked up on healthy organic fresh ingredients for all home cooked meals & no takeaways (sob) & daily ginger smoothies and been to Boots to get my seabands, antisickness natural remedies, Pregnacare and Bio Oil! But I have been talking a lot to my baby cousin (!!!! She's 25 but still a baby to me!!) who is about to drop any day (4 days late so far!) and she knows nothing! I've been asking have you got this, have you packed that in your bag, do you have this for after the birth, have you been taking that, and she just looks blank. She's veeeeeeeery chilled out in general, a real peace and love hippy floating along with flowers in her long toussled hair trusting in the universe and so the total opposite of control freak incredibly highly strung feisty must know everything me!! She makes me despair with this pregnancy malarky but she's been told very little and just been left to look it up & learn it on her own, and she doesn't do these forums and downloading apps and researching articles etc. I do worry how much they just either expect us to know or leave us to find out on our own. I wouldn't know anything without forums but not everyone uses them. It's not on really. This time my mw has hardly said a thing to me about foods to avoid or what I can & can't do, what to expect etc, I think she thins it's my second time so I should know already but what if I didn't?

I really want to start progressing this and getting to the properly pregnant phase! I want to know the sex, have a huge fat tummy and feel kicks and hiccups, and I want the sun to come out so I can get out in it & dry up these hormonal spots!!!! Roll on June!

Random- with my dd and little bump the mw realed off everything.... And sounded like a broken record doing it too. And as i remember about 99% from dd i half wasn't listening anyway unill she said i can't eat Mr whippy ice cream!!! What why!! Apparently some mixes they use are pasturised so its best to avoid all machine ice cream inc mc flurry which was something i craved with dd. Damn! However normal out of a tub ice cream is ok thank god.
Not only that i had to sign some paper work to say I've been told and understand what i was told. Guess it works differently around me but the mw made sure i knew everything getting closer to the birth.

I knew about ice cream but no midwife ever told me. Same with fish oil and caffeine and rare steaks... I haven't had any information this time. I looked all through the big A4 folder of notes which is all she gave me and apart from numbers for drug and alcohol counsellors (Really?? There's that many druggy mothers that they need to put that in the pack more than prenatal vitamins and diet advice??) she didn't give me anything! Also when she's written in the book it's been minimal leaving out things I think are relevant. I've added my own notes.