November 2014- thread 4- 12 week scans and blooming in the second trimester!

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Hi everyone, we have run out of posts on our last thread so hopefully we'll all find this one easily enough.

Here is to more positive 12 week scans and enjoying our second trimesters, all feeling more human hopefully!

Linford she probably had an easy time and is of the opinion that she managed x so everyone else can too.

chives I also hate people not knowing, some people do, some don't yet and dp has told me I haven't exactly been subtle.... well he can try hiding all those symptoms. He'd then moan when I didn't want to see anyone!

Anyone with dopplers or getting one be wary sometimes they hide :p I could only find her today after lots of searching and pressing a bit hard, I could hear the placenta fine but she was right at the back so I had to press hard to hear it and I kept loosing it.

Went for my first scan today and entertained the sonographer with how full my bladder was. Way too full! Luckily she let me relieve myself. Anyway, the news was all positive. S/he is the right size, has a head, 2 arms, 2 legs and a healthy heartbeat. Phew! So relieved and excited. Now I can finally enjoy being pregnant and tell people.

Reading the stories here I wonder what my boss will be like when I tell her. I'm on a temporary contract and only jut found out that I'm replacing someone who is on maternity leave. Oops! And apparently I'm due to work on this big project starting November. Oops! So I'm quite nervous about telling her and will put it off for a while... I only started this week. Help!

Don't panic unless you need to! Most employers are good, or if not good at least understand employment law. The vast majority of people of know have had no problems at all, it's just a few old dinosaurs out there really..

Hi everyone, thank you so much for all the messages. I was having a bad moment last night. Thankfully the bleeding has stopped and I have spoken to the midwife who was very reassuring. She said unless it's red, heavy or has clots not to worry. I'm just going to have to try to calm down. Have considered buying a doppler for reassurance but worried that might panic me more if I can't find it, like you said Alita.

Congratulations to all those with good scan news

Chives - I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. I hope the sickness tablets work soon.

Lindford - what a nightmare your boss is. I'm sure her actions and comments are highly illegal!

Thanks again everyone

Fantastic news for all the scans!

Hopeful- sorry you've been having a difficult time, I know how horribly stressful it is having bleeding. I was a total wreck when i was bleeding, and not knowing what was going on with my baby. That is good your midwife has reassured you, I hope you have a scan not too far away to reassure you even further. It really is a rollercoaster isn't it.

Sorry for doing a disappearing act weeonion - I have been really tired this week and pretty much rolling into bed when I get home. My flat desperately needs a clean but I have so much work to do that is definitely being deprioritised just now!

I had my booking yesterday which went really well, and have my 12 week scan next week (I feel quite far behind everyone else here as I'll be due towards the end of November). It feels good to finally be booked in to the system after what seems like an endless first trimester! I said I would like to be referred to the home birth team, and after a bit of a kerfuffle trying to work out how to do the referral, it was all sorted out (in fact weeonion, they mentioned another referral they had made a few weeks ago, saying the HBT got in touch really quickly so I assume that was you!).

So good to see the scan pics!!! Big congrats

I'm so tired. I've had a busy day, don't know how you working girls do it?! was hard when I was working but I'm tireder now than I was before... If I was working now. . :p

I'm finding the unsympathetic attitude of others quite astounding. OK so this is a little extreme being in a wheelchair if I'm walking any further than one quick run into one small shop so early into it, but it's the way it is, it's not unheard of and I know a few 2nd, 3rd 4th timers this has happened to. I get the looks like I'm putting it on but frankly they can shove it and if I see them do it I'll oh so accidently run over their foot with my chair - oops. It's the school & mums who are the worst, I very rarely see them, actively avoid them and have gone so far as to really obviously cross the road when I've seen one coming, SO can't be arsed with that lot, but it's DD's birthday party next weekend and then various school events coming up this term and when I wheel in I'll send the rumour mill turning yet again. Ah let them talk. They always do anyway - all small minds & empty lives with nothing better to do, glad to add some interest to their petty little days. (Can you tell I really don't like DD's school???)

Just a bit! Is she friends with the children there or are they affected by the manner of the parents too? Will she be able to move elsewhere in a few years? It's something I have been wondering about with DS' school, although the decision is a way off - it's not just the quality of the school and teaching to think about but how DS would fit in with other children... Minefield!

Laughing at the wine estimate elliekins, more money to spend on baby :-)!

Lovely pic venus :-)

School this morning then training this afternoon, managed to run into Mothercare and buy two pairs of maternity work trousers. Hope there is something in there at the scan next week, I'm sure it can't all be crisps!
I had a hair bobble holding my trousers together yesterday with a bump band over the top, not a good look! My stomach muscles must just be weak after last time.
I have felt better the last two days, the busier I am the less sick I feel, it can't all be psychological surely?! It's just the first hour or two after I wake up where I feel sicky.

Evening all! Glad all scans went well, can add the news that ours was also all good, four limbs, head, heartbeat all present & correct. EDD was bang on too, so still on track for 17th November. So relieved!

I am gradually starting to feel less sick. Though the thought of a fountain poo made me laugh so hard I gagged a bit .

utopian DD loves it (unfortunately) and is quite popular, and I never ever discriminate against the other kids, if DD wants them to come to play or wants to go to them to play then absolutely I allow it, even with the kids I don't particularly like, never mind how I feel about the parents. At her birthday next week I've invited everyone she has wanted, and 2 of the mothers I wish a slow painful lonely death on if I'm honest, but I'm not going to upset DD or affect her friendships and birthday regardless of how I feel about the mothers. But they are the most two faced, nastiest, most judgemental, cowardly, vile lot I've ever known, and I went to an all girl school and worked in the fashion industry, trust me, I've met a few bitches and I know a bitch when I see one! This little one will not be going to the same school, no way. I have blatantly said to a few of them when they have tried to talk to me not to, that I will only communicate with them in writing and only to do with DD and playdates or parties. (Very long story short but the school accused me of something I didn't do and these mothers KNEW I didn't do it, the police were involved, courts, my ex husband, social services, all sorts, and these mothers were with me, they were strong eye witnesses and they refused to stand up for me, wouldn't defend me or say what they saw and what happened, they were too scared that the school or my ex or police or ss would start on them if they looked to be on my side. I'll never forgive them and they can all rot in hell after that. The stress of it put me in hospital at one point and saw my weight plummet from 10.5 stone to less than 7 and seriously affected DD. They're an evil bunch they really are and always seem confused when they say hello & I respond with don't tlak to me.)

Any good ideas for announcing pregnancy to wider friends (via Facebook and email) all close friends and family know. Once DSD has seen the scan pic we're telling the world so to speak.

I changed my cover photo to this (my year of birth, DD's and this one's) and left it to see how long it would take everyone to guess. Not long was the answer!

Has anyone who was taking only Folic acid supplements stopped dead on 12 weeks or carried on until the dates were confirmed by the scan? Am 12 weeks (by my calculations tomorrow)

random what awful people! I hope you do wheel over their feet!

The parent's at dsds school are very cliquey and never talk to me excspt a reluctant hi if i say it first even if dsd is talking to their child. maybe it's because I'm young... One of them was very keen to talk when she first came to us, and I thought she was very welcoming but she hasn't bothered since asking questions about what happened so clearly she's just a gossip!

I'm dreading telling extended family, it's going to put a massive downer on it for me if they react badly which my grandparents will (still doing my nursing course and my mmc was a teen pregnancy so me being pregnant is a sore subject), I've also got 7 sets of aunts and uncle's to tell.

Happy scan news here and due date five days earlier than I thought! Will change it on the other thread!

evening all.

great to hear about the latest scans and so glad all is well hopeful. sweet to see the pics as well.

Stripeytoes - yeah!! forgot it was your booking and scan is next week. Glad it went well. I did watch out for you yesterday but forgot to wear my spotty satchel and had my hair in a ponytail so you may not have recognised me. I was leaving at 2.30 so you may have been in reception or round in base 2 or 3 by then?

it made me smile that they may have mentionned me to you whilst realising we chat on this thread and others! As they make so few referrals to the HBT - it was indeed probably me!

I am dreading telling work. There are only 2 of us in the whole organisation - a v small v specialist team so me on mat leave is going to be catastrphic for my colleague. We also dont have reserves to pay for my mat leave and someone to do my job whilst i am off - we are contracted by Govt who obviously dont fund such luxuries as someone else to do my job whilst i am on sick leave or mat leave. I know my colleague will be happy for me but also know that the reality will make it v v v tough for her.

Petal - the mw told me it was ok to continue taking folic acid after 12 weeks.

petal with DD I carried on taking supplements till I finished breastfeeding and am planning to do it with this one too. I'm 13+5 and have no intention of stopping any time soon, in fact I noticed today I'm getting low and need to order some more soon. I take Pregnacare Max and they're 19 in Tescos, 15 in Sainsbury's or 11 on Amazon!!!

glad scans are good news :)

random or anyone else, do you have any more tips on natural products for pregnancy and after birth/ baby.

also has anyone heard of this: today a friend told me that some companies with convert your placenta into a powder and make it into pills, as apparently it's natural for mammals to eat their placenta as it contains hormones etc which prevents pnd and other things.

Bum. WAS 11 on Amazon, now 14.

alita - i know my doula offers that service. will ask her and get back to you!

we were given folic aicd and vit d supplements in our booking in pack at hospital - they really recommend pg women, bf mothers and kids up to 5 take extra vit d in scotland. Its our ricketdy bones

Oh -meant to say if anyone is on a budget for mat clothes - primark now has a mat range and their jeans are currently reduced to 5.