November 2014- thread 4- 12 week scans and blooming in the second trimester!

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Hi everyone, we have run out of posts on our last thread so hopefully we'll all find this one easily enough.

Here is to more positive 12 week scans and enjoying our second trimesters, all feeling more human hopefully!

Muslins are overpriced squares of super absorbant cotton and are invaluable. You can use them as a bib, or to wipe up spills and puke, you can use them as a modesty cover when feeding in public, a favourite comforter for the baby, an emergency nappy for the nightmare day you get caught out and about with no nappies or shops nearby and they just loaded the last one, to throw over your shoulder when your boob just leaked in public and you have no change of clothes with you or as I once discovered a mini baby sarong for the summer day she managed a fountain poo all over her dress.

Wow, thanks for all of that information Random!

I think I'll leave the inevitable question about exactly what a fountain poo is for another day!!!

Muslins also dry super quickly which is a huge help as you need them in constant supply! Bibs are thicker and take far longer. I use DD's old muslins as cleaning cloths around the house now.

Lol! Poo will become a major topic of conversation for the first 6 months. They come in a range of colours from bottle green to creme caramel beige to brown, I saw my neice do a pure white one once - not sure how she managed that, and a range of consistencies from half melted jelly to porrige to solid. A fountain poo happened fairly frequently at around 5-8 weeks with DD and was usually kind of angel delight consistency but when she was sitting in her car seat or bouncer or carrier and was wearing looser clothing it would shoot straight up the back and be like a fountain, or a glorious peacock tail, a particular joy when she was in a carrier facing outwards with her back against my chest - that was a good day.

Muslins are fab! We had 5 plain white muslins for DD, and now at 2.2 she insists on taking a couple of them to bed every night. She never had a dummy or any other comforter, but loves muslins. Might have to get the funky multi-coloured ones in for DC2, as DD will not want to share!

I agree with random - you can read loads and still not be prepared. You have to learn by doing and find your own way. I read Gina ford while pg (recommnded by SIL) and just wept as I couldn't imagine living a life like that. Dont get too bogged down by having to know everything and most importantly be kind and hood to yourself. Its all a sharp learning curve and still is tbh with DD now at 7. No-one person knows what's best and it all feel very confusing. Trends change in terms of what is thought to be best and you have to find what suits you, your family and your baby best.

Whilst this is DC2, I am fully prepared to be unprepared. We all can learn so much from each other and for me - its kindness, support and understanding that matter most. Some of us may have very strong views and be quite strident but we all should do what we think is best tbh and not be judged for those decisions. Its a bloody tough job being a mum and we will all make mistakes. I can only cringe when I look back. I remember ringing my mum crying on the 1st night we got home from,hospital asking "what am I allowed to do?". One of the best days ever was when my mum said to me that she thought I was a good mum and doing so well. That mattered alot in moments of darkness and doubt.

That's the kind of voice we should be for each other...

Ha! Fountain poo! I remember it well. I also used to remember being convinced that the yellow poo actually smelt quite pleasant

miss laugh a lot that sounds awful!!!! I will impolitely tell any reps to fuck off, what right do they have to muscle on your birth and take pics of your baby!!!! I can add baby to dsds child benefit claim or get my own form if I want to thank you very much!

And just remember, whatever books have been written, they were about another baby. Nobody has ever written a book about your baby, you will do that as you go along. I'm sure this baby will be different to DD and I'll be asking for advice too!

Definitely Misslaughsalot! DD was such a placid, easy baby so we're all convinced this one willbe the devilincarnate! I'm quite nervous if it's a boy - I have no idea how to change a boy nappy or wash a winkie!!

"A glorious peacock tail"

HAHAHAHA!!!

Ladies I am so upset. I have started spotting brown blood again. I had thought that this was all done after having bleeding from weeks 6-8. It had all stopped and then my scan last week was ok, and my Nuchal test was ok, and I had finally started to plan and get excited and tell people and now this. Before the scan I hadn't got excited or told people or planned anything because of the bleeding and had been preparing for the worst news at the 12 week scan but after the scan I have let myself believe that it's real. Rationally I know it's more likely all ok than not but I can't stop crying. Should I call my midwife tomorrow? Or EPU again? Or GP?

Hopeful I'd give your MW a call, just to get checked out.

I think if it was ok before it probably is now hopeful :) but I understand how it knocks your confidence! I'd get some advice from your midwife.

I had some bleeding with DD later on, like after the 12 week mark, and I remember pushing myself too hard and feeling something 'give' and later on I had spotting. She was fine though. The riskof mc at this stage is really, really low. Personally I would give the hospital a call and go down to the EPU just to get it checked but I would imagine it's nothing to worry about. Things are stretching and changing at such a rate that it's bound to cause a bit of damage sometimes.

Aw Hopeful. That is tough. Can you rest up and give the MW a call for info and reasssurance. Is there a EPU you can call / ask to attend?

Have you anything planned for tomorrow? Cancel it and have an easy day?

Thanks everyone. I have wondered if it's related to sex as we have not had sex for about 2 weeks but did on Tuesday night (sorry if tmi). I think I'll definitely give the midwife and/or EPU a call tomorrow. I'm teaching all day so it's hard to make calls but I should be able to at lunch. Thanks for the support. DH is being useless so I've ended up locking myself in the bathroom to cry and then throwing up because I got so upset. I'm so grateful for this thread to offload so thank you all

Hopeful - is there no way you could get a sick off tomorrow? I know you are teaching all day but maybe a day of rest would help and also allow you to make calls for reassurance. Can you get off to bed early and try to get some sleep?

Hahaa Random your fountain poo post had me laughing so hard I was crying Genius!

Aw hopeful this pregnancy thing is so fraught with worry it's not fair... If your baby is fine it should be obvious, if not then it should be clear... nature is mean!

Random I bloody love your comments they make me laugh so much!

So glad I have joined this, Had no idea about muslin cloths or fountain poos or how much breast feeding is going to kill or anything! All new to me! So Venus and bunny we shall have to work it out from these expert mummies!

Hopeful I would still ring up, when I went to EPU with spotting they said if ANYTHING happens that I was worreid about just give them a call, better safe....!!

I second amy's post - my mw said if anything at all happens no matter how minor I'm to go straight to the hospital or call the EPU. She said any falls, car accidents, bleeding, fainting, or anything at all worrying and not to worry that I'm being silly or making a fuss.

Hopeful I agree with Random, it's worth giving EPU or MW a call. I'm sure it'll be fine but for your own peace of mind. Let us know how you get on.

Random I'm also under consultant care, because I've had 2 c sections, I'll be going for a 3rd. I got a letter today to say my appointment with said consultant is October 6th I guess it's to set date etc but I'd have liked to have seen them before. My first was nearly 3 weeks early and with my EDD being 16th November, I'm not liking the time scales... Will ask the MW at 16 weeks.

Scan is a week away, like the last 2 times I'm convinced there won't be anything there, although I either have gas or I'm feeling some flutters. Seems far too early, DH keeps saying it must be twins

Good luck to all with scans and appointments. I'd be up for a fb group, with secret settings. I'm on one from my 2nd and it's fantastic. We even have the odd meet up and such a supportive group when things are great and when things are tough.

Had my 12-week scan today and all is well - yay! . So glad that first hurdle is over now and we can look ahead positively.

They did say that the baby is now measuring 13 weeks 1 day so that would put my due date at November 5th, I think? Glad it's earlier but also strange as I thought I got pregnant later than that. It's all early days though so I'm sure the due date will shift around quite a bit still. Good to think I'm a little ahead of where I thought though, if it's accurate!

Aaaaand.... we decided to get the information on gender. The sonographer said that based on her best guess we are probably having a girl . So happy! We have DS already so that a little girl would be lovely.

Congrats to all of us who had good scans. Isn't it such a relief to have that hurdle out of the way?

Yes, I agree with PPs Hopeful. You should give your midwife a call anyway. It's probably nothing to worry about as you're past the high-risk stage but it's always good to have reassurance!

I had bad stomach cramps a week ago and was insanely worried about it so I called my doctor. It was all fine in the end, just a stomach bug, and obviously today's scan was all clear but it was just good to talk to someone at the time.