July 2014 - Here comes the 3rd trimester, hold on to your knickers! Thread 6

[ZingWatermelon]

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Oh zing that's a super rubbish day!! Hope DS1 and DS3 get well quickly (and that doc rang back!). I'm sure DS5 will cope without playgroup for a while-sometimes necessary to put you first in terms of energy/capacity etc. You do so well already being pregnant with all the DC to sort out- I struggle just having DS so no idea how you cope! Can anyone come and help while DH away? Do you have a moving date set? So much going on in house-of-zing no wonder you're exhausted!!

I have no idea how you manage zing, I can't begin to imagine the logistics of your life!

Blue, thinking of you, your mum and GM.

Just about managed to make it through day in office, my team are getting used to my strange stretching and contorting. Another day of interviewing tomorrow which means sitting on a normal chair like a normal person behaving normally and not hanging off my chair sideways with one arm over my head

oh blue praying for you and that your mum makes it on time.
Grief in pregnancy is really bizarre so take it easy and take time if you need it. I've lost two grandparents in the course of this pregnancy but somehow it has been a shining light for the rest of the family, somehow thinking about the new generation seemed to help. Didn't stop me feeling really sad though especially as they won't meet baby
Also I am kind of "wow!" at 98 years!!! That's incredible, what a blessing! I don't think I've known anyone live to such an age!!

Only popping in quickly to say thinking of you Blue and Zing I have no idea how you manage it all, plus a house move coming up too, amazing.

hope your grandmother recovers blue
and hope the DC get better zing

Soooo tired again today. 8 weeks to go before mat leave. I'm planning to work till the 30th of June. Is that crazy?

hope interviews go OK tomorrow plate. I had forgotten I was interviewing on Friday and turned up at work in my frumpiest mat dress!!! Felt really self conscious.

I felt rotten on the whooping cough vaccine. Spent a couple of days in bed with flu like symptoms but it did pass.

Does anyone want to help me join the FB group?

I would also like to join the Facebook group! Hope you are well doing well ladies :)

Blue and Zing thinking of you.

dizzy sorry I don't know how to join the fb group! I've not joined.

Me and DH went out for dinner last night, just the two of us, for the first time since August. Typically for a nice French restaurant there were only four starters that can be summarised as
Foie gras
Raw duck
Raw salmon (not even smoked)
Goats cheese salad
Not one was pregnancy friendly! They did me a salad I could eat It was such a treat to have a beautiful dinner! I suspect it is going to be a year before we get to go out again like that.

4 more weeks left at work

One day left..... :)

1 day!!!! sooo jealous fifi !!!

some and hannah, can you send a private message to MrsB with your e-mail? She sorted all our FB invites.

Cheers coco have sent a PM to MrsB2013.

Coco when are you due? I'm down to work until 1st July, 20 days before my EDD. I think I might take a couple of long weekends before that to ease the transition a bit. Really hope the baby doesn't arrive early!

Nice NCT class tonight and you know what, I actually felt excited about having a baby for the first time!

DH has a new diet obsession which means he is weighing everything he eats and generally driving me mad. I'm sure this is baby related in some way

fifi im so jealous!!

Thanks for good wishes.
I'm really not feeling well.
I don't know what's wrong, I feel really weak, teary, yet unable to sleep.

I worry about how I will cope tomorrow.

Blue

any news?

Oh no zing hoping your snoring away by now. Sometimes writing down thoughts can help to release any worries that keep you awake. Rubbish to be feeling so rotten though

blue hope you are ok, been thinking of you and your mum.

fifi lady at my nct is finishing 2nd June and now come on here and you've made me even more jealous! And also doubt why I'm working so late! Then again I now know who is doing my maternity cover and it is going to require a lot of handover!!! Trying really hard not to worry about it. ..

Nct last night was good a few hospital bag items I hadn't thought if - antibac wipes incase on ward toilets aren't clean, jam/honey to put on toast for energy boost, baby shampoo for first shower to minimise stinging!

This one isn't hospital bag but a waterproof sheet/mat and towels to go under sheet for my bed after 36 weeks in case waters go- apparently insurance will pay for new mattress before 36 weeks but not after!

We also did some breathing techniques and after she asked how long it had been- I honestly thought 2/3mins but apparently 6! I need time to pass that quickly when in labour so going to get practising. Next week back rub from dh! Yes please!!!

Arhh wide awake at 3am and was shattered yesterday let alone today...

mixi I read some threads about the whooping cough vaccine and quite few people said they felt rough for a few days after. Sorry cant link to the threads here, don't have techno know how. Can you have a couple of days with your feet up ?

zing and blue hope you are both ok.

fifi I'm well jealous of your 1 day!

To everyone else feeling sick or generally rubbish this week I hope you feel better soon. I sympathise with those worried about getting work wrapped up on time

Had a tough day yesterday and noticed some slight swelling in my ankles and fingers last night. Thinking I just over did it as they look ok today and my bp etc was checked on wednesday again.

I'm having issues with one of my friends lately. I don't know if she knows she is doing it but she is being really really negative about me having a baby. She has kids herself but she had her first unplanned and quite young and was by herself at the time (useless father etc) so I appreciate maybe her experience was not as positive as it could've been but she keeps naysaying everything I say atm. For example I said I had ordered a sling and she was like oh no no no you'll not want to carry it around attached to you then it'll constantly want to be attached dont see a problem with that when they are tiny to be honest and when I suggested we may be booking a holiday for next year - oh no no no I'd never go on holiday abroad with a baby - too much stuff to take to be bothered.

Apparently I'm never going to sleep, be able to go out, have any friends, do anything again and am naive and don't know what I'm in for (ok so I admit partially true) because I suggested I may get bored on maternity leave if I don't go find activitys etc to do (most people I know will be at work during the day) but when I asked her what need baby has that takes every min of every day to fulfil and is so awful to have to provide - especially when they get a bit bigger- she couldn't tell me. I'm just getting a bit fed up with it all now to be honest. I feel like saying I waited until I felt I was in a position where adding a child to our life would enrich it so I don't feel like I'm having to give much up but I don't want to be rude about her situation iyswim? In other respects she's a good friend but I really feel like avoiding her for the next few weeks

All those wanting to join the Facebook group, send your facebook email address you use to login to MrsB2013 and she will email the invite which you then accept.

Interesting discussion today about giving birth during the world cup and a newspaper (D Fail) article about how men think their team relegation is worse than childbirth.

Anyone planning on coinciding their labour with an England match?? Just to be mean I would if DH liked sport but he doesn't.

oh dear ipsum it sounds to me like your friend is feeling a bit rubbish about how her kids changed her own life and made her make changes and choices she now regrets/resents (not in anyway suggesting she doesn't love her kids) so she may not understand that, as you say, now.is a good.time for you and the changes that you'll have to.make my not have the same impact as they did for her.
I'm not sure there's easy way to address the issue with her sensitively. Other than maybe explaining that you'd like to hear about what she loves about being a mum etc. to try and get her to focus more positively?

I think you are probably right patch! I know she loves her kids very much and is a fantastic mum but I think she really struggled with the adjustments to her life that sadly she just wasn't ready for at the time (based on how I remember her being). That's a good idea about trying to get her to discuss the positives - I will definitely give it a go and see if it helps

ipsum

just avoid her a bit if you feel that's easier
or tell her exactly what you posted here - that she sounds a bit negative and it brings you down and ruins your excitement and joy.
it's not supportive, helpful or kind and she needs to stop.
and don't tell her your plans anymore!

(I always make that mistake with MIL & DM - couple of partypoopers! )

yes, having a baby is a massive shock to the system and your life will change immensely - but it's not all gloom and doom ffs!
you'll have a sweet, soft bundle of gorgeousness to kiss and hug and snuggle with.
you might find it hard to fall asleep, no matter how tired because you won't be able to take your eyes off her/him, wanting to study their face, soak in their smell & caressing their skin.
and those first smiles - they will melt your heart, I promise you.

it will be brilliant.

zing the baby evangelist you've got me signed up for 7 now too...

and just you wait till they say things like "I love you Mummy, you are my sweetheart!"

Will catch up on here later!! Been crazy busy with sorting the house out and making room for a baby!! 32w+3 today, where have the weeks gone?!!

If anyone wants to join the FB group just pm me your email address, the group is totally private so wont show up on your profile!

blue thinking of you

mixi did you get any joy in the end after being passed back and forth?

zing hope you have a better day... and stop making us all want lots of babies

Well it looks like I'm going to have a problem with my hands too :( swollen stiff and achy again this morning - so if anyone has any ideas please let me know