I saw my new HV this week too, v nice lady, v sensible about all the baby stuff and friendly etc, checked we knew about sleeping on back etc, however she did piss me off somewhat re DS1 - she kept suggesting I find a local autism support group or similar 
, he hasn't been diagnosed as autistic, FGS, he's just about to turn 3, there's no need to label him just yet!! She's going to get the nursery nurse lady to come to see if there's any advice that can help me deal with DS1's power struggles more challenging behaviour, so maybe that'll be helpful.
I haven't read back thru the thread I'm afraid, bit sleepy here!
DS2 is still absolutely lovely, 2wks old yesterday, but he's had real trouble feeding and hasn't yet regained his birthweight. He was v slowly losing weight, so the midwives were worried, even tho the total loss was less than 5%.
His tongue tie was snipped on day 5, but altho it improved the pain for me, his feeding actually got worse while he adjusted to his 'new' tongue. We've since been back to the lactation consultant and seen her with her cranial osteopath colleague who found he had a very short ligament in his jaw that was preventing him from sucking effectively. She 'loosened' it, and ever since he's fed much better. Had his third midwife weighing yesterday and has finally started gaining weight - woohoo! :)
4th weighing next Tues, fingers crossed he's back to birthweight so they can sign us off.
Will read the thread later if I can keep my eyes open, hope all are well and managing your last few weeks ok xx