Santa's bringing us a baby! Due December 2014! First time mummies!

[EmilyPinkOrBlue]

Hi ladies here's our special December thread for our special Xmas bundles of joy for us first time mummy's!
This is where we can worry about symptoms, how our first child is going to change our lives, what are we going to do about work, how has our partners reacted to our pregnancy, how long have you been trying to concieve, is your car big enough and all other dilemmas!!
Look forward to sharing this special journey with you!
Emily Ttc no 1 cycle 2 edd 4th dec!!

Thanks all. I think I was just being hormonal yesterday!

He's lovely and helpful most of the time, it's just a balancing act with the both of us. He suffers from depression and the current weather isn't helping, plus a colleague who he relys on at work is in Australia at the moment, so he's under a lot of stress.

Thanks kate, I'll let you know how I get on :)

Been to the doctors. She was much better. She has reffered me for an early scan. Tomorrow! I am so excited, nervous and overwhelmed.
Had to ring my headteacher to arrange cover as it's at 3 pm. She was fine about it. Just need to decide what to tell the other staff.

So pleased it all went well!! And I hope the scan goes well tomorrow :) Will be great to have some reassurance everything is ok..

I know what you mean about running out of excuses too! One of my friends is back next week (she lives abroad) and wants to go for a girly dinner. I really want to go and see people, and there are a couple who are my closer friends I would probably tell, but I know if I don't drink wine or feel like eating a big meal everyone will start speculating, which I really don't want as it just starts putting too much pressure on everything! I feel like I have to miss it or it's just going to be too tricky...

Don't know how I'm going to manage for several weeks yet other than just avoiding everybody! xx

Thanks kate :) I'll let you know.

Hmm yeah, I know what you mean. I'm getting a bit fed up of the "I'm on antibiotics" or "I've got a water infection".

Good luck at the scan treacle

Thanks somerset :)

I agree it is hard to think of excuses. Sometimes I feel so bloated and puffy that I think; what am I going to look like in a few weeks time and will it be obvious? I don't live too near to family and it's always hard to get together with friends due to shift work so the avoiding option is a little easier for me.

I hope everyone is doing well. I still seem to be getting odd days of nausea, stomach upsets and dizziness but thankfully not every day.

I feel blue today. Ridiculously so, actually.

I’ve managed to convince myself that something is wrong and I’m going to end up having a missed m/c

Made the decision last night not to have an early scan as we both agreed the worst thing would be to see a heartbeat now, but not at the 12 week scan. I’m wondering if that’s why I’m now feeling blue?

No reason to think there is anything wrong, except I’m still getting cramps although they’re not as bad as they were at 4 weeks. I haven’t had any bleeding at all. No full on m/s yet but almost constant nausea. Constipation, bloating, sore boobs, exhaustion all still present and correct.

I think part of it is the fact I have to tell a friend on Saturday and I’m scared. I don’t want to tell her but I’d completely forgotten we’re all going to another friends house for drinks and I can’t miss it (the other friend has just been diagnosed with an inoperable heart condition). I need to tell her because she’s going to guess if I don’t drink. If she knows, she can at least play along with me not drinking. I need to ask her not to tell her partner though because he’s a bigmouth and I can just see 100s of people knowing within days. Also, I run the risk of ruining our friendship if I don’t tell her (she won’t understand why I’m not telling her)

It’s just all very scary. I got really stressed out this morning and now the cramps are sharper.

Hello ladies....can i join....due dec 30th or thereabouts.

Sorry to hear youre havin an off day chiliichicken. Im finding the whole telling people issue a tricky one. Due to my job I am having to tell various work colleagues as there are certain hazards im not allowed to be exposed to in pregnancy. Ive also been invited out on friday by two close work colleagues but if I dont drink theyll guess so I feel I have to tell them too. Then it feels wrong that all these folks are finding out and yet my best friends and inlaws are still in the dark. Feels like its gettin out of control!!

In other news.....my mum said to be last night "i cant see you with a baby but im sure oh will be very good". Shes a weird fish at the best of times but wtaf??!!

Im due 5th dec....first child agghhhhh

Hope your scan went well today treacle, thinking of you!

Yes, me too treacle, hope it was ok.

I went to the docs today and they've booked me in for an early scan on tues, just to be sure because of cramping and tender abdomen. She said she's sure it's fine, but just wants to rule out any problems... So we'll see... Glad they are taking precautions, but a little scary, though will hopefully be exciting all being well... Eek.

chilly - are you having a better day today? Sorry it was tough yesterday. Hope your happier today

Ps welcome LadesC and congrats! Mums can sometimes say such the wrong thing can't they..?!

I'm planning on telling mine tomorrow :-/

Think she'll be really excited, but want her to stay calm as too much expectation to provide the 1st grandchild is stressful!

Are you just having normal period pain type cramps Kate? I keep getting jabbing pain where my left ovary is, I had the same pain about 3 months ago but far more intense and constant for a few days rather than the occasional jab now and then. Not sure whether to mention at midwife appointment on Friday? I know it's not ectopic as I've had an early scan but might try and wangle another free one or is that really cheeky??

Thanks everyone :)
They did an abdominal scan. It couldn't show much. The sac is in the right place but they said its too early to see anything else. They've taken my blood and I have to go back Friday to have it done again to compare the hcg.
Not feeling positive as there was nothing else to be seen and I'm meant to be 6 weeks (I know I'm less than that from ovulating late).

Sorry to hear that you didn't see what you were hoping for but if you ovulated late then you probably wouldn't see anything this early anyway would you? Finger crossed for you!

Are you going back just to have your blood done treacle, or for another scan? I hope they're scanning you again to reassure you :)

I don't think you need to worry about there not being much to see if you think you might be less than 6 wks anyway. And it's gd the sac is in the right place. The docs said to me it wasn't worth doing a scan before 6 wks as you wouldn't see anything, so they're leaving it until next week - on Tuesday I should be 6+2. However, I sometimes have long cycles so my timings could be out, so I may well have the same situation as you treacle, and see v little. Who knows. Feels like a long way off, but I'm going abroad for the bank hol weekend so I hope I'll feel distracted....and I hope I feel well.

Somerset, the cramps I've had are stronger than normal period pains, but aren't constant - they come in waves, mainly in the afternoon. And when the doc felt my abdomen it was sore and made me wince. I've had no bleeding though, and the cramp is all over my lower abdomen though, not in one place, which she said it would most likely be if it was eptopic. Anyway, I'm glad they're checking it out - so hard to know what's normal, esp never having been through this before!!!

I 'd def mention any symptoms to your midwife - if she just tells you it's fine & not to worry there's no harm done & you might feel reassured!

They're just doing a blood test. Then I don't know where we go from there. Already wishing I wasn't at work today.

Hi ladies,

Have been very quiet as started my new job and it's been manic.

Had my first gp appiontment earlier this week which went fine. I am however finding it extremely difficult to stay awake during the day and have had some quite bad stomach pains this morning, hoping they don't persist.

Glad to read we all seem to be going through the same and I'm not going crazy.

Hope today at work isn't proving too painful treacle.... It's good they are keeping an eye on you anyway... if you're still worried after the blood test I'd ask for another scan to put your mind at rest. Im sure they'll do one anyway if they're worried for any reason. At least the appt is only tomorrow anyway, not long to wait.

Smudge hope the new job is going well, even if you are half asleep

Thanks kate, work wasn't too bad. I'm guessing ill have to wait til Tuesday for blood results. Just hope my hcg is rising well.

Hi Ladies, I am 6w+1 today, due December 25th; Merry Christmas indeed ! New to forums, but I don't know many ladies in London and looking forward to sharing the fun/scary/crazy ride. :-) I work with lots of neonatologists and OBGYNs in my job (medical research) and it helps with my nerves having people the ask, but they don't have the same excitement. Hope to get to know you all :-))

Congratulations Bobbi! :)

Hello ladies, I hope you don't mind me joining. I'm new to MN, and feeling quite terrified about all this (and a little bit excited!). I'm due 9 Dec and saw the midwife for the first time yesterday. I was really looking forward to it, but it was all a little underwhelming. No symptoms at all so far, so this doesn't feel very real. It still seems like an age until I can actually tell anybody!